Due May 07 - Thread for w/c 16/10/06

[twelveyeargap]

The other thread was rather unwieldy!

We have our names, and you are the only ones who we are telling for now.

If it's a boy-- Sebastian Diego Garcia (ssh don't tell anyone my last name) Sebastian because I think it is sweet and not very common, and Diego after my favorite painter Diego Rivera

If it's a girl-- Xochitl Emilia Garcia
Xochitl (pronounced So-Cheel) is the Aztec Goddes of flowers, and is also the Aztec word for flower) We want all of our children's names to reflect their Mexican heritage. (My husband is Mexican, and I'm a European mut) We chose Emilia because my husband likes it and I don't so I figure use it as a middle name so baby number 3 won't get stuck with it.

SKYTV-good luck tomorrow-will be thinking of you..will try to get on at the library to see how you go on..
With re names-I had my boys name picked out since I was 12.My SIL has just had a boy and even though she knew Id bagsied it ages ago she nicked it!Unbelievable!Its true I may never have a boy but if I do im still having it.It can be known as Noah the first or something!

Anyway really am going now, cheery pip!

Best of luck, SKYTV. I'm sure everything will be fine.

I really like those names MKG. It's nice to have names that suit your heritage (even if people can't spell or pronounce them as happens with dd!).

Actually, I'm pretty sure that we're going to find out the sex in January, so we'll think about names then.

MKG - how exotic. Like Sebastian. Think So-cheel sounds lovely but she'll have fun spelling that out to everyone!

No ideas on names. Won't really believe it's going to happen until I get past the 12wk scan.

As for the pain thing. Very mixed. Have very low pain threshold so believe that epidural will probably be what I opt for, however don't like the risks (as mentioned), but on the other hand don't want to just be a mathyr just so I can say "I did it alone". Think that's abit naff.

Think I will go with the "I don't have a plan" option...

SkyTV - good luck for scan tomorrow.

you all are so funny! by the time i wake up in the morning you have given me enough content to keep me busy until lunch. as for the birth thing, not that one is any easier than the other but there must be a difference between going into labor, having the baby two hours labor and going into labor and having the baby two days later. seems like two very different situations to me with many different ways to deal with it. there is no way to know ahead of time what will happen so i think having a birthplan is a big waste of time. my birthplan was the exact opposite of what actually happened. i wanted minimal intervention and monitoring, but in the end i had a tube in every hole, a strap around every limb and holes poked all over the place. no fun, but look what i got in the end. in fact, he is banging on the keyboard as i type this.
my poor teeth have not been taken care of in weeks. they are lucky to be brushed once a day. i know it is really nasty, but i figure it is better to not brush than to brush and then vomit. it has happened. not fun. i can usually brush in the morning without any gagging, but if i try to brush when i have any food in my tummy i will gag and vom. teeth don't like stomach acid, i am pretty sure.
moomimin, so happy for you and dh. listening to the heartbeat is my favorite. if i had a doppler at home it is all i would do.
scootermum, i have been sick for a few weeks. pregnancy def increases the fluids. lots of sinus pressure and snot. hope you feel better soon.

What's this doppler thing? I'm intrigued!

Morning Jess! Yes, I think you could be right. Teeth do not like stomach acid. I guess if you can take it, a rinse out with mouthwash a couple of times a day should keep the baddies at bay from your mouth. Hopefully not much longer of this stuff.

Oh and Jess; don't forget that when you move to Perth that you'll be the one up before us!

oh, you're right tyg. that's exciting!

Great, when Jess moves I'll be here by myself behind everyone.

Doppler - hand held fetal monitor. Same as the midwife uses after 12 weeks to listen to the heartbeat.

I just loved the sound of the heartbeat and always wanted the midwife to let me listen for longer. So I got on e-bay in the end and bought my own. It cost me about £65 but it has had soooooo much use it has been worth every penny.

Word of warning though, there have been a few times when I've not been able to find a heartbeat for various reasons. You have to try not to go in to panik and try again a bit later.

Don't go anywhere though MKG. I quite like the fact that there is normally some messages on from you in the morning when I log on.

we'll still answer you

I know, but it's weird when at the end of my day you are all sleeping. The good thing is that when you have your midafternoon comments I can read them while I eat breakfast.

how many hours behind are you?

Hello ladies, it has taken me ages to catch up on all the threads and i was only away from MN for a day.

I love the discussion on pain relief. With both of mine i didnt use any but it wasnt because i was brave/strong etc. Im just scared of needles so didnt want epidural and the gas and air made me want to throw up after the first puff and i hate being sick so kept away from that. With ds1 the midwife (she was a witch) threatened to give me a drip to speed things up and i very politely (not) told her where to go. My biggest fear of labour is having a c-section, i watched one on tv last noght and nearly threw up, if they wanted me to have one they would have to knock me out totally or i would be in a right state. Im quite a chicken really so why am i having baby#3

Im getting fed up with my kitchen, not only have they drilled a hole straight through into my lounge, i have now just flooded everywhere. I was told the sink was ok to use so emptied the washing up water down the drain and it flooded the floor, the pipes arent attached properly. I also have no plug socket for my washing machine so one of the cupboards is going to have to be taken back out so they can put one in, the rest of the sockets need covers put on before the decorators can come in, the floor still needs levelling. Why did i agree to have it done. The council are a bunch of cowboys, no one seems to know what they are doing. (sorry rant over) On a happier note though my new cooker came today!!!

Im still waiting for a date for my scan to come through. I cant wait. Is it the 18-20wk scan that they can determine the sex? I definately want to know this time, i kept the ds's as a surprise but i want to know in advance whether its worth keeping some of ds2's baby clothes (we still have a few in the cupboard) or if i need to buy pink (fingers xed) DS2 pointed to my belly yesterday and said 'theres a little girl in there' Be spooky if he was right

Ive been thinking of getting a doppler but know i would spend all day listening to it and by the time i gavce birth everyone would have got bored with having to listen to it too. It fascinates me when i hear it at the ante-natal appointments also i think when your other children hear it, it makes it all the more real for them too.

Hi Ladies

Had my scan this afternoon - just the one baby in there!! Very cute, it waved at us. Was lying upside down and i got told to bang my hips against the bad to make it move, and sure enough it did Got 3 lovely pictures and my dates are spot on for a 3rd May due date. Booked my 20wk scan for 22nd December!

Had a slight scare yesterday as i had a car crash! Some stupid girl pulled out infront of me and i hit her passenger wheel. Luckily i am ok and the damage to my car is cosmetic. Got taken to hospital as a precaution to check all was ok, but coz i had my scan already booked for today all they did was take my blood pressure.

I am sure that i have felt beanie move and the sonographer said that it was more than likely, so feeling quite exited.

Jess, your little man is SOOOOOOO cute!

When i had ds i didnt have any drugs, not out of choice. I didnt put a birth plan together as i wanted to just go with the flow. I got to about 6cm and requested an epidural as i didnt feel i could cope and the g&a make me retch when i tried it. They got as far as putting the cathetar in and then told me the nice man with the drugs had been caught up in theatre and he eventually turned up as i started pushing! Feel very nervous about the birth of George/Ella this time as i know that i can do it but feel that i am under pressure from myself.. think i will go with same plan as before - dont rule anything out!

Glad the scan went ok Aprilmeadow. Cant wait for mine, whenever that is. Feels like ive been pg for ages but not actually got anywhere IYKWIM. Oh well im sure when im the size of a house and desperate to give birth i'll look back at this time and think i should have made the most of being able to see my feet

Im going to sit down tonight and plan all my christmas shopping. MIL gave me her Studio catalogue today so i expect i'll buy lots off there. I love getting the boys pyjamas/towels with their names on, as well as other things. Last year i bought ds1 some lovely personalised pencils for school then two weeks after christmas we had his surname changed by deed poll to match the rest of us (he still had his dads name on official docs) so the pencils had the wrong name on-ooops. Luckily ds1 didnt mind, he thinks its good that hes had 3 names (his dads, my maiden (unofficially) and now dh's)This year there are no name changes planned so i should be safe

I cant believe Christmas is just round the corner, ive been so wrapped up in other things that i have forgot all about it. I did start buying a few things in the summer and was doing really well but then it came to a stop. I have def got to start again i have 24 people to buy for not including dh and the boys and im refusing to buy smellies this year so if anyone has any original ideas for prezzies then i would love to hear from them

aprilmeadow--Glad to hear your scan went well.

moom--I think I'm five hours behind. HOld on.

Yep, five hours. My computer has the time here, and when I post it's the time there.

Morning Ladies and Bumps, I am so down to day ,the Old Chapel [DH PROPERTY] went on auction last night and didnt sell despite having a really low reserve,so we are stuck in my housing ass place in a really grotty area for thr foreseeable future,as we have had the chapel on the market for over a year,and dropped the price down from 250,000 and would take 180,000 for it just to get rid of it so we can buy a family home together... Sorry to rant xx

Oh shame mel. That's so disheartening. It happened to us when I moved into my DH's place when we got engaged. There were three of us living in an open plan apartment for almost a year while we tried to sell. DD ended up sleeping on a camp bed in the ulility room of all places becuase it was the only room which had a door (apart from the bathroom). It was the only way anyone got any privacy.

I completely feel your pain. The thing is, the right buyer is out there, it's just that with converted places, it's a niche market. You know this of course... I'm not helping at all here. Somebody will love it as much as your DH did to buy it. They just haven't found it yet. Keep your chin up and don't go accepting offensively low offers just to get it off your hands. A buyer WILL find you.

Thanks for that TYG, trouble is the mortgage has to be paid and now ive given up work all the bills here as well and one wage dosent cover them both, plus now weve got solicitors bills etc to try and find.... still sh*te happens ,were all healthy ,in love with a baby to look foward too ,it could be an awful lot worse xx

Eeek, yes I didn't think of that. I don't suppose you can let it out, even short term or for holidays or something, just to get some extra money in?

Sorry you are having problems Mel, i hope it all gets sorted out soon.

I am so tired today. I have spent the whole morning curled up on sofa with the boys watching Corpse Bride (ds1 has broken up fro half term) but i feel as though i have been rushing around, i have no energy

Hi all - I've enjoye catching up!

Jess - your little Munch is just scrumptious! I love his hair! Glad to hear that you're staying with us here on the May thread.

I totally agree with the 'see how it goes' approach to apin relief. With my first, I was all "yeah, I'll give that natural childbirth a go - they make it sound easy" but when it came to it, I ended up having entinox, pethidine and finally an epidural! With my second, I asked for an epidural to be on 'stand-by', ready and waiting for me when I needed it. I ended up using entinox and, when I finally asked for the eipidural, the midwife told me that the baby would be here faster than they could give me the epidural! She was great, though - although I only had entinox to go with, she really helped me through it. God knows what will happen with this one.

I've been able to book my Nuchal Fold scan. We're having to arrange and pay for it ourselves as it's not available on the NHS in our area (not even for older mums like me). It's happening on 17th November, which seems like ages and ages away. I've yet to hear anything from the hospital with regard to my 12 week scan (typical). 12 weeks seems like a lifetime away to me at the moment, anyway.

Had a bad day yesterday. Morning Sickness is still here with a vengeance. Really fed up with it now. Also started bleeding, so I went to see my GP, more for reassurance than anything. I asked him if the bleeding was nothing to worry about and he replied "Actually, no. It's not ok." He then gave me an internal examination and took a swab. I was in a kind of shock at this point and went along with it all mutely. Before I knew it, he was ushering me out of the room, saying "Just get as much rest as you can and phone us for your results in the middle of next week." No explanation of what he thought might be wrong or anything. I went home and cried down the phone to my husband who, being a lovely man, came home right away. Feeling a bit better about it today though, as the bleeding seems to have stopped and I've still got morning sickness (that has to be a good thing for once, right?!) Also on the plus side, I've been signed off work until Monday 30th, so at least I'll be at home with the children during the half term holidays.

April - so sorry to hear about your car accident. Are you ok? Must have been a bit of a shock at the time.