Due May 07 - Thread for w/c 16/10/06

[twelveyeargap]

The other thread was rather unwieldy!

Im glad im not the only one worrying about this pregnancy, havent voiced my fears to anyone though in case they think im being daft. I had two very straightforward pregnancies with my ds's (except having sciatica with ds2) and the labours were fairly easy too although ds1 took 22 before he finally made an appearance but i cant help thinking this one just has to be different, more difficult/painful/complicated. The other day i spent the whole time in a panic (totally unfounded)but i was too scared to even think of this baby. Thankfully i have calmed down a bit since then and have even started looking at baby things although i wont tempt fate by buying anything until im about 20wks, that was the stage i miscarried before ds1 so that is the point i really start to relax.

All this talk of MacD's is making my mouth water, i could really fancy one now but dh has just gone to work and i cant go out yet in case the builders come back. They delivered my kitchen units just now so hopefully in a couple of days i will have my kitchen back. We had to have microwave bangers and mash today, MIL cooked the sausages for us, we bought ready made mash from Asda, etc, it was suprisingly nice, not as nice as MacD's though.

I wouldnt worry about being the last on here Creena. Ds2 was 8days late so i expect this one will be too plus MIL has ordered this baby not to come until 5th June just so it can have the birthdate 05/06/07. So i expect i will still be here long after everyone else has popped.

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scootermum, i say tell your sil when you feel comfortable. it is really common to wait until the end of the first trimester to tell people anyway, so you could just tell her then. we haven't told everyone yet. just waiting for the magical 12 week mark. only two more days to go!
i am alos super scared about this pregnancy. i have worked myself up about a mc but i guess the chances of that happening are smaller and smaller each day. just have to struggle through this second wave of ms and hopefully start to blossom and glow. the second trimester is the fun one, right? i can hardly remember last time.
did anyone else have a c-section last time? if so, are you going to try to have a vbac this time? i don't know what i am going to do. after two days of contractions and loads of chemicals i never dilated past 4cm so they ended up having to do an emergency section. my doctor thinks i should just schedule a section and be done with it but i would love to try to do it myself. what are you going to do?
i am feeling much, much better today. i could still cry at any moment, but it isn't the sobbing, silly crying i was doing yesterday. i just really like having my husband around. he is amazing and my house seems so empty without him. ok, enough. i am making myself sad again!
hope you are all feeling good today. i also hope that all of you are indulging in some mcdonalds if that's what you fancy. the baby needs it.

I'm not sure about the Nuchal scan. I think it's standard here at 12 weeks. I think I had it with DD along with a blood test at 12 weeks. Is it the one to determin the risk for DS etc? I say i think because my French is not brill so most of my last pgcy i did with out really knowing what was going on. Couldn't understand much paperwork either. We get 3 scans 12,22 and 34 weeks. I know, your all gonna say lucky you, you only get 1 or maybe 2 if Lucky in the UK. I only had a 20 week one with DS. We also have to do monthly bloods, mthly Internals too, which are not pleasant but you kind of get used too. Obviously I'm all for monitoring but some times it does seem a little ott here.

Can't believe you're having to pay for a scan, is it free for older mums?

What about the USA?

Pebblemum - has your mil gone so far as to say the baby has to come at 4 mins past 3am so it will be born 03.04 05/06/07?

When i was expecting ds2 i was still having to walk ds1 to school and every morning it would take ages because of people stopping to ask why i was still hanging on then the one day i didnt take him because i was in labour not one person asked him where i was (my dad took him). Typical!

OMG, I would have wanted to kill people for asking all the time.

scootermum, I agree with jesswina you have to tell her when you are ready. If it were me I'd probably tell her whilst things were good for her. Maybe harder IF things don't go smoothly for her. IYKWIM. She will probably be pleased that you maybe able to do this together.

I haven't told anyone yet!! only you guys, oh and my mum & dad cause they live with us. I will wait til after my 12 week scan. Just hope I don't get recognised from all this talk about being in France now, just my luck if one of my family or friends is a MN addict too. lol

twelveyear- so far my MIl hasnt thought of that and im not going to mention it either. Ds1 was born at 1:45am and ds2 was born at 8:55am so im hoping for a nice mid-morning birth with this one.

In hampshire the Nuchal scan is free although I wasnt given one with ds2 but then again ive changed hospital with this one so maybe each hospital do it differently.

Moomimim,

Here in the US it depends on your insurance. Since our insurance is private each company has its own policy regarding payment, coverage, referrals. It can be very frustrating. With ds the insurance company only covered two ultrasounds 12 and 20 weeks, unless it was ordered for another reason. I had to be induced at 38 weeks so the day they sent me in they did a scan just to make sure he looked o.k. in there. It all depends on what your insurance covers though. My new practitioner had me get one at 8 weeks even though she hasn't seen me yet. I guess it's easier to send for a scan then have me waster their time in the office. That's o.k. though I got to see my little bean sooner.

Creena don't worry about what the receptionist says. She probably deals with people getting bad news a lot and is emotionally detached. It was really insensitive of her to say that to you though.

What about 12.34 5/6/7?

Scooter, your sil is being a bit of a princess. If you don't want to say anything, just say that you didn't want to steal her thunder. From what I hear IVF can be emotionally grueling. Just say that you wanted to let her enjoy her moment.

Thats better twelveyear, i could live with that time.

Ive just been browsing through the rest of the site and on the birth announcements someone has just had an 11lb baby, makes me wince just thinking about it.

Heloooo ladies. Good lord i go to bed at 830 and the next thing i know there is a new thread!

I have to pay for my 12 week scan too if i want one and im in Portsmouth in Hampshire. We only get 1 scan at 16 weeks, its shocking.

I have had a real craving for waldorf salad today, woke up thinking about it and dashed to asda this morn to stock up. Just had time to eat some with some yummy fresh bread, sooo delicious.

I too feel im tempting fate with this prg, the twins were born at 29weeks but are fine apart from that the rest have been mostly ok. Ds 4 tried to come early at 32 weeks but he stayed put in the end and was 14 bloody days late! I will still be here at the end of may i have no doubt about it.

WaspElly - live in Southampton, ds (15 months)EDD 1st May
Skytvaddict-Live in Lincolnshire-DD1 (10), DD2 (6), mc April 06 - EDD 2 May
Jessinwa - live in seattle, wa, usa - ds 1 year - edd 2nd may
Aprilmeadow - live Hampshire, DS 18mths. EDD 3rd
May
largeginandtonic-live in Portsmouth, dts 8, dd 6, ds 4, ds 19mts EDD 3rd May
Tyakit - Live in essex, DD 3yrs 10mths, 3 previous MCs. EDD 6th May
ShowOfHands -Live in Norfolk- first baby- m/c in July 06 - EDD 17th May
12yeargap - Irish, live in N London, 2nd baby, DD 11, EDD 19th May, Scan 1st
Moomimin _ Originally from Bournemouth UK, now Live in SW France, ds 3+10mths dd 14mths EDD May 21st.
Megglevache -Live in KENT ds 2 5 yrs mc last April- EDD 22nd May
Pebblemum - Portsmouth, ds1(9), ds2(3), EDD 23rd May
Gingerbear - South Yorks DD (4yrs) EDD23 May
Scootermum- Hertfordshire, dd (9.5 mnths) EDD 24th May
JonahB ? lives in Manchester, DD (16 months). EDD 25th May
MKG - EDD May 26, with 14 mo. ds, lives in USA
Creena - live in South Staffs, DD (15yrs) and DS (10yrs). EDD 27th May
Glitterkitty
Redbull- lives in birmingham with dp and ds who is 5 and ASD, EDD 18th may
Charleymouse
Mummymelling
Juicylucy

LG&T I know you are going to have a homebirth but what options where you given as to where to have your anti-natal care. I only had two options, St Mary's (1scan) or St Richards (2 scans, which i chose) I know you are actually in Gosport and i dont know much about hospitals available there but it seems stupid that some offer free scans and some dont. You would think that at least one in your area would offer it for free. Especially when it is quite an important one.

I agree. It doesn't make sense at all that the amount of scans you can have depends on where you live (and the rules of the PCT controlling the purse-strings in that area) rather than having some kind of national standard.

I live in Staffs and will receive NHS scans at 12 and 20 weeks. I won't be offered a Nuchal Fold scan on the NHS, despite being an older mum and so we'll be having this done privately at a cost of £180.

Scootermum - I think that it's commendable that you are being sensitive to your s-i-l's situation but ultimately, it is up to you when you announce your pregnancy. As Jessinwa said, lots of people wait until the second trimester before they say anything and you are perfectly entitled to say that that is what you wanted to do. Sorry if this sounds harsh (I really don't mean for it to be) but it sounds as though whatever you do, there's a good chance that your s-i-l will get upset. So do what is right for you.

I had the choice of when to announce this pg taken out of my hands as once ds1 was told he rushed out and broadcast it to all the nieghbours. I felt really bad (and still do) as one of them has been TTC for over a year now with no luck. She already has 2 children by a previous relationship but wants one with her new dh. I know how desperate she is and felt a bit guilty that it took me less than a month to conceive and yet she is having trouble. She has congratulated me but i can tell she is upset by my news. I still feel bad about itbut at the same time i didnt do it to upset her on purpose and just because she is having problems doesnt mean everyone should stop reproducing. It may sound harsh but just because things dont always work out as planned doesnt mean then world has to stop. I think you should tell your SIL when the time is right for you whether that is tomorrow or next month. She may be upset but it doesnt mean that you need to feel bad, you are entitled to live your life as you see fit.

It is so difficult though. My SIL, whom I?m really fond of has been trying for ages. When I had DS, I lent her my ?What to Expect? book. Bearing in mind my DS is 16 months, that?s how long she?s been trying. I certainly haven?t got the heart to ask for it back. I?m sure she?ll be delighted for me, but it does break my heart for her with month after month of expensive treatment and no results.
The only people I?ve told in the RW are my 2 closest couple friends and my brother. I?m not ready to tell anyone else yet.
Oh and I was driven insane last pgy after my due date. I had my mum on the phone EVERY SINGLE DAY to ask ?Any news?? Like I?d give birth and just forget to call her for 2 weeks. Most people were fantastic and just didn?t call me at all. Probably for the best, I had a face like a smacked a*se for the last 2 weeks .

wow you ladies can certainly talk or should that be type? it has taken me ages to catch up with all the news!

Had a very busy day off (as all mondays are). Took ds to his swimming lesson, which was great. He even did some 'proper' swimming. As proper as an 18mth old can do.

I was definately worng to say that the ms was packing its bags, as ithas decided to stay on for a few more weeks!!

We get 2 scans at Frimley Park Hospital. 12 & 20 weeks. They're on the NHS.

I feel huge!!!! I know that my friend who was on the Due December 2005 Thread did a 'toilet paper tuesday' thingy whereby you get a length of toilet paper and wrap it round you from belly button to belly button and see how many squares you measure. And as the 'game' suggest you do it every tuesday and keep track of how you grow.... what do you ladies think about giving it ago??

I am in Essex and we also have to pay for NT scans. I have booked mine privately in London for £180 incl the combined blood test.

Jessinwa - I also had emergency CS last time and am undecided about elective CS or VBAC. I progressed through first stage v quickly and was 9cms dilated on admission but then it went wrong and I had failed ventouse then failed forceps attempts at delivery followed by the panic of the CS. I am waiting for the midwife who runs the Birth Afterthoughts service at our Mat unit to call me so I can make an appt to met her and go through my birth experience and notes in detail. Once I know exactly why things went wrong last time I will make a decision. Not keen on the CS recovery but don't want to have another failed delivery either.

That souds great fun aprilmeadow, I'm certainly up fo a giggle like that. Trouble is I'm probably already on about 40 sheets and thats not baby yet. lol

Im up for a laugh. Just measured myself and im 9squares so far and im also 9weeks, got to be a coincidence. It looks massive when you make it into a cirle without a body in it, OMG im huge

(i know its called Toilet Paper Tuesday but i may not get on here tomorrow and wanting to join in the fun)
Can you tell i lead a boring life , i need to get out more lol

About the toilet paper, ladies do we really need to be reminded of how big we are getting? Personally I can do without the weekly update. Getting on the scale is plenty enough.

To tyakit and Jessinwa about the second time C-section. My sister and sil have both had multiple C-sections. They say that recovery is better the second and third time around (maybe it's because they know what to expect, or have a better attitude going in). my sister had her second and was so happy to plan her manicure and pedicure for the day before so she looked good for surgery. My sister in law had her third and the day she got home she made dinner and took care of her other two.