June 2015 - thread 7 - finding out our teams!! Pink/Blue/Yellow which are you?

[jazzyjenbo]

For ladies expecting very late Maybees or Junebugs 2015

We'd been together for 14 years when we had DD. We'd told most people we were trying (luckily didn't take long) but still had one person ask if it was planned due of length of time we'd had without kids. There will be just under two years between ours when baby is born. I was ready a few months before but the hospital had advised me I wait a year before trying after my c-section, they said preferably two years. I was half expecting a telling off but nothing was said. I didn't want to wait any longer for various reasons. DH wasn't ready before then anyway.

DH and I have always been pretty blunt about the whys and wherefores of TTC. I was very clear I wanted to be married and get my professional exams done before starting a family, which I did. I didn't want a small gap, nor too big a gap. I tried for a year to get this one with two miscarriages on the way. If people ask, they get the story - they're broadly surprised about the details, but if you're going to ask...!

Tori I hope today is a better day, them babies are trouble sometimes.

Morning all
Sorry to hear about your nan Chook, such a worry for you. Hope she gets better soon.

Oh Tori sorry for you too! What's up with him do you think? Is he stressed about baby do you think?

Yes Sun they will def tell you on the day. Everything they need to see is on the screen/scan which is why it takes so long.

It's fiddly as they have to measure all the bones and stuff so don't panic if they seem to be looking for ages at something. Can your DH go with you?

Me and DH got married 7.5 years ago and tried for a baby soon after.

We were extremely lucky to fall pg with DS within 3/4 months. Only being in my earlyish 20's I found it quite lonely however as none of my friends had children. It took me a while to feel 'me' again and I was previously very career driven.

When DS was 2 I went back to work in what was meant to be a few hours a week freelance in a start up company with just me and someone I had previously worked with. However between us the company really took off and the job became an almost full time thing but I was able to work some days from home when DS wasn't at nursery.

Doing this and not having another dc within 2 years was unacceptable to a lot of people. I never wanted to have 2 close in age. It's a personal choice. I don't get the whole 'but you have to change nappies again' which is what people say to me no shit!

I'm really excited about this pregnancy like I was with DS and it feels like I'm doing it for the first time again. I feel much more confident. I have a nice group of friends who have DCs and having left that busy job last year I now have a career that allows me to work freelance from home on my laptop.

Every family situation is different and people should learn to butt out because it's what works best for you.

Happy Sunday morning people.

Crikey - I cannot believe people ask such questions. I've only been asked how long I was trying for which I always equate to "how long have you been having unprotected sex?" Which always seems such an odd question to ask someone. As someone sais, the correct response is congratulations.

I can only scroll back so far on my kindle so apologies if I get names wrong.

Tori - I've had days like that, come home to find nothing done and they wonder why you're STILL not friends with them. Hope it sorts out.

Chook - hope your nan is ok.

Everyone else - hope you're doing okay and bumps are growing.

I went to my hen do yesterday. Was a good time. Successfully made a fascinator and for anyone who knows me, other thank baking I'm NOT creative in the slightest. Lead bridesmaid is pregnant too so I had a fellow soft drink buddy. By 1200 I was shattered though and came home. I left them about to play singstar after copious amounts of whatever fizzy cocktail they had made.

I know ill be posting a pic of my scan in the fb group when i get it but why does everyone seem to think that it should go on my fb as soon as ive had it? I always thought id be one of those people that did post pics etc but havent put anything up about being pregnant so why does the internet need to know im pregnant? Yes i know its a happy time but its private too

tracey I'm similar.. I didn't post my scan pic up immediately, it was almost 2 weeks after my scan I posted up but that was just because I'd lost track of who I'd announced my pregnancy to and I was getting fed up of other people telling my good news for me, hehe!

pregnant my family and friends that i want to know know and thats good enough for me. What did people do in the prehistoric times of no facebook?

tracey hehe, yeah I only really care what my friends and family think. There was a girl at work however that kept telling everyone my news (before I even wanted it out and she knew she was sworn to secrecy, grr) and people kept coming up to me going "I hear you are pregnant?". Annoyed me because I want to tell people the good news. Have noted never to tell her anything in confidence again :p

Oh chookford, I hope your nan will be ok, Nan's are so precious, I miss mine so much. Think we're going to have her name as one of the Middle names for the baby.

Does anyone else's 20 week scan letter mention being able to also have an internal scan at the same time for pre term delivery. I'll pass I think as they're not supposed to accurate anyway.

Thanks all

My nan is in surgery now so will find out soon how she is.

tranquility yes mine does, I had it with my dd so prob will again just as another reassurance thing for me... I know it's no guarantee but at least it's something to not overly obsess about!

Thinking if you chookford

Ive already had two internal scans so far, so just a bit wary of irritating anything I guess. X

chookford all the best to your nan xx

Sending best wishes chook
DH came home from work with a present for me yesterday, a lovely vibrating foot massager with roller balls on as I have been whinging about achy feet (also, he plays football and always whinged about his feet so I'm pretty sure there was a hidden agenda for him here!!) i mentioned this to a pregnant friend who said that foot massagers and foot spas are totally off limits when pregnant, but wasn't sure why! Lots of conflicting advice from Dr. Google this morning! Anybody know any reason I couldn't use it? And out of curiosity, why?

Yes sunbathing - I love Lush bath bombs and products too but have been given a list of essential oils to avoid during pregnancy. The lady in the lush shop i spoke to recently actually advised that all of their products are safe during pregnancy as the amount of essential oils used in their bath products is extremely small - just warned me to be aware of thrush!!

sunbathing I think that we are far too overly cautious these days in pregnancy, everything seems to be dangerous. But back before the internet existed, people were less aware of these risks and did all sorts like spas, drinking lots of caffeine etc and you'll speak to lots of mothers who are in their 50s and say "my baby was fine and I did XYZ". I think a lot of the time it is just hype to avoid every possible potential risk. But I'm sure a one-off occasion of using a foot spa is not going to harm the baby.

I say this as someone who started off her pregnancy as being anxious about EVERYTHING. And now I just figure, as long as I'm not overdoing potentially, minimally risky things, the baby is likely to be fine. Although I will avoid things altogether that are beyond a minimal risk, which goes without saying.

I agree.

Of course the obvious things I won't do but I got barked at by my mil for having a tiny bite of pate at a meal.

I don't really drink anyway so it's not like I have been doing lots of that or anything else I shouldn't.

We're going center parcs in less than a week and have booked the big game lodge for the family which includes a sauna - my favourite part.

I've already looked and I'm safe to go in it within reason - just can't overdo it. I'm already going to be sat by the pool on my own whilst the family are on the cyclone ride and rapids at the pool.

I will be taking extra books this time I think.

The only reason I can think why a foot spa wouldn't be ok is something to do with reflexology and certain pressure points on your feet doing certain things perhaps? But that's all I can think of!

Massages are fine too. Just get a pregnancy massage so they use the right oils and steer clear of abdomen. Plus they have the great table with the hole in for your bump! I'm going to go as much as possible this pregnancy!!

I'd be careful with a foot spa, especially if it's powerful as it can stimulate reflexology points on the foot. Keep away from any massage type pressire on the ankles too. Obviously don't use essentials oils in a foot spa either. You'd be better to just soak your feet in warm water.

catching up - I feel like I have missed a lot! thanks everyone for your comments on our photo -we went out and bought some ridiculously cute clothes yesterday in Jan sales, it was so exciting! John Lewis basics for the rest I think :) Congratulations to everyone who had scans later last week!

chook I hope your nan pulls up after it, it is tough seeing elderly relatives go through these things. Tori that sounds miserable, I can perfectly see why you are a bit frustrated! Hopefully he gets over it!

Does anyone know if mothercare is going bankrupt or not? People still seem to be shopping there, I am a bit confused. I have heard it recommended as a place to shop. I may have used up my cute clothes budget but we still need lots of non clothes things...

No they're not going bankrupt, just struggling at the minute since the City Link problem. They're behind on orders and people are up in arms over outstanding deliveries. Mine too over two weeks to arrive.

I didn't realise there was an issue with essential oils.. I'm sure I used a bubble bath with essential oils in it recently :/