June 2015 - thread 7 - finding out our teams!! Pink/Blue/Yellow which are you?

[jazzyjenbo]

For ladies expecting very late Maybees or Junebugs 2015

DD was 13 months when we started telling people about this pregnancy. Lots of people asked if it was planned. I find it really rude and patronising.

The correct response is "Congratulations". Nothing else is required!

Yeah lots of them do convert, so definitely look into it! DS will be almost 2.5 when baby arrives but we are still going to need one. Toddlers don't walk fast/or in the direction you need them to! :-D

So true - DH and I were really fortunate at the start of the year that his parents helped us put down a deposit on an apartment, so within the year we've become first time homeowners in April, got married in August and found out we were expecting in October... It's amazing now many people have said well done for 'doing it in the right order' etc. I can assure we certainly didn't make any decisions based on tradition, we've just been fortunate that things have plopped into place for us in 2014. Lots of comments about it being a bit too quick after the wedding too- we should have enjoyed being a married couple first, enjoyed time together without children, enjoyed our new home together first, spent our money on a few exotic holidays first.... Why do people feel the need to judge others' decisions?! We couldn't be happier, and that's all that matters to us!

jackiebrambles my family tend to do 18month gaps. We ve picked a Silver Cross surf pram this time but if we are lucky to get pregnant as planned then would look at double ones (altho twins are in family so we would have to check that there was only one).
The bugaboo double pram looks quite good tho.

Afternoon ladies - I'm 20 weeks today The baby is 10 inches long and either the size of an endive or banana. Either way getting to half way feels like a huge milestone and I'm really looking forward to the scan on Tues, feeling mildly scanxious, but at the moment okay!

Reading the thread it seems that collectively we know a lot of people who open their mouths and then engage their brains! People can be so needlessly judgemental... Or blatant about it in a way that is a quite shocking!

jackie my DD will be 2 almost exactly when this next one comes along and he is a very late walker, only just started at 19 months!!! consequently i am right in the middle of obsessing over a double buggy. The one I'm really interested comes out at the end of the month so i havent seen it yet but its the new 2015 uppababy vista which they've modified to be able to take 2 seats of various combinations i.e, car seat, bassinet, toddler seat, 2 toddler seats and then back to a single buggy when the oldest really is done with buggy... looks really good to me!

whoops DS! that was meant to say!

My cousins just had a go at me saying theres something wrong since im 20wks next week and havent felt movement yet. She says she felt movement at 17wks and i should of been the same. Grrr

That sounds nice Tracey, because all pregnancies are exactly alike

tracey

That is not a helpful thing to say at all! Gosh!

My friend asked me if "everything was alright" with the baby because I have a very small bump at 18 (19 tomorrow ) weeks. Didn't appreciate that much either!

People are so thoughtless sometimes!

Frankie we have a Vista (not the 2015 model) and love it! We're going to expand it to a double with the existing configuration. Would totally recommend it.

Tracey

She's a dick. That is not helpful. Everybody is completely different. I didn't feel them until 21 weeks with my first but have had them since week 16 with this one.

Do not worry. Next time she says something similar say 'I didn't realise having children caused you to lose all your brain cells'.

I cant stand her at the best of times. She is one of those people that think they are better than everyone. Ahhh she gives me the rage lol

Evening all,
Tracey... Dont worry about not feeling baby, there could be all sorts of reasons u havnt yet... It will be so special when you do.

Re prams: as sum know i own 5 prams... 2 singles, 2 doubles and a triple aswell as 2 buggy boards. My favourite is my jane powertwin pro... It takes 2 car seats or 2 normal seats (both forward facing) or a seat and carseat. I could just about get my carrycot on with a normal seat but usually used the carseat if ds needed to be in the pram with baby for longer, otherwise he would stand on the buggy board on my single jane slalom reverse with the carrycot. (21mths).. This double is great if u walk lots, its tandem so easier for shops, and has handbreak aswell as footbreak.

21 weeks tomorrow... Time is flying, can't wait for everyones scans this week and i have a MW appointment on tuesday.

How unhelpful Tracey!! As though you can do anything about it anyway!

I was asked I few times if my dd was "an accident". I'd been in a new job 7 weeks when I found out I was pg (and was already 6 weeks when I found out...). I found my response of "Very much wanted and waited for but not at all expected" confused people so much they shut up! We'd been trying for ages and couldn't seem to get a dose of clomid that affected my hormones at all... Until that cycle, as it turned out.

Everyone certainly has an opinion!

It's obviously a day for thoughtless people. Back from a visit to my uncle and aunt (he was my mums best friend from when they were 21, they were close as anything, his wife on otherhand is a witch, constantly doing digs etc).
We went in the kitchen to make some tea and she turns to me and says"nice the baby has grandparents down the road now". I was shocked, she meant them. I said but my daughter will have Grandparents on my side, they may not be alive, but they are still grandparents, her response "well we can be them now".
I did lose my temper and OH had to give me a pep talk to get through rest of meal. Why are people so thoughtless ?

elizabeth some people really are dicks, just ignore comments like that!

tracey your cousin is one of those said dicks! What a twat .

phryn hurrah for 20 wks!

Hope everyone is having a good Saturday, I have spent most of mine in the hospital.. My nan fell over yesterday and broke her hip but they can't do the op yet as they have also found she has an irregular heart rythum so the need to get that under control before they can insert a metal plate and pin... She is almost 89 so it's a lot to put her through

chook oh no, how does she feel in herself aside from the obvious. When my Grandpa did similar it was probably the shock more than anything that unsettled him for a few days. Hope that they can manage to get her heart under control, has she always had it or is it fall related ?

We had quite a few comments after we got married about how 'surely we would want one of our own now to make us a proper family'. We wanted another child, as it happens, but it won't make us any more of a family than we already are, and it doesn't sit well with me because, I don't know, that just doesn't sound fair to my kids from a previous marriage that we raise together.

One day I had had enough. We had a temp in, I had not long since lost my second since we had started trying and she made a similar comment which I kind of sidestepped, she pushed the issue again so I smiled politely at her, this woman I barely knew, and explained that sure, we would love another, but unfortunately they kept passing away, thanks for asking. I was mortified afterwards that i had snapped and said it and it wasn't really fair but sometimes people need to think about things before they open their mouths.

Thanks ladies.

elizabeth she is ok a bit shocked and as she is having morphine she is a little in and out of it. The Dr said her heart condition has been there prob for a few years but she hasn't noticed it which apparently is quite common in older folk, so just hoping that she can fully recover from this.

sun yes you will be informed of any problems then and there, well that's how my hospital do it I think it's the same everywhere.

sun yes they will say (as a first timer I asked the private scan lady if she would tell us if she had found any problems, she also reassured me that they would tell us at NHS 20 weeks scan too).

chookford I hope she does too, there's nothing worse than a relative being in hospital and you being unable to do anything but trust in medical staff.

impatience similar to OH and I , he has a 5 DD from a previous relationship who I adore and class as my own anyway, so when we have the baby in June they will be raised as Sisters together. it's sad that people always try to label or comment on other people's family set ups, there's all different types of family and it's what ever works best for that family.

Sun - they usually say sumthing like... So today we are doing an anomaly scan which will take approx 1/2 hr... During which i will take measurements and look at a number of babies organs and if any issues are found you will be informed so further tests can be carried out....

Did u get a 'what to expect at 20 week scan' letter from your hospital? If not i can take pics of mine tomorrow and put on FB.