Home stretch for Februray babies! Thread 7

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Hi All

Here's what may or may not be our final thread!!

Some people have a body suit on too, I didn't bother as DS was a hot baby. I think I remember correctly, if their chest inside their clothes feels the same as your hand temperature (ie at normal blood temp) then they are wearing enough. If too hot or cold you will feel the difference and can adjust accordingly.

You'll know your own baby and what to do for the best :)

Yes don't panic littlemiss! It will be far more obvious once you've got a baby in your arms, trust your instincts and just do what seems like a good idea at the time. That's it, the whole of my personal parenting philosophy...

Rubbish night again here, kids still all blocked up and struggling to sleep so I end up sleeping next to them. It's what seems like a good idea at 3am.

I've really got my fingers crossed that all these instincts kick in as I haven't got a clue 'littlemiss'. I figure the human race has managed to keep itself going this long so it must actually be quite difficult to get it THAT wrong!

I feel I should be up and cleaning the house as remembered late last night the community midwife is coming lunchtime-ish to talk BF. But whilst it's still dark I'm under my duvet reading the paper MIL would be horrified as she's one of that generation whos self worth is based on how much housework you can do, bonus if 3 loads of laundry on the line by 9 am etc.. Yeesh. My rebellious side kicks in big style when I just think about it

Little miss just think of vest like it is underwear, thrn babygrow and blanket/swaddle/grobag. They say baby should have one extra layer on that you as they don't regulate tdmp as well so even in summer if you are in shorts and vest you would still have a thin cardi or blanket on baby.
Vener feel a babies hands and think of oh they are cold to test temp just slip your hand down onto tummy if their torso is cool add a layer, if its warn take a layer off

It will all come naturally once baby is here, I had never changed a nappy before I had ds and by the end of week one you change up to 7-10 a day youare a pro

Now see this is where it gets confusing with bedding. When pregnant with DS I was told by midwives in 2out of 3areas (the 3rd not mentioning either way), that a baby should never be swaddled at night due to risk of overheating. Apparently its because it interferes with their self regulation - if a baby gets too hot they will spread themselves out like a star to try and cool down and if they get cold they will pull arms and legs right in. They said swaddling was fine for daytime naps where you were in the same room and could frequently check temperature.

Originally I used cellular blankets for march born DS, along with the standard sleepsuit and vest - I think this is a good option for them when very little. Then we were in summer and you couldn't get our house below 24°C (modern house - they've took insulation too far), so I didn't use any kind of blanket had a sleepsuits on him and depending on where in the 20's the temperature was sometimes with a vest underneath. Once autumn came we used sleeping bags because he was now big enough and it was cool enough in our house to use them.

Oh and littlemiss vests/bodysuits are same thing and basically babies underwear. Sleepsuits/onsies are their all in one outer layer like we'd have trousers/T-shirt.

Don't worry about not really knowing about these things, you figure it out quickly once baby is actually here - before DS I'd never had any experience of babies and by a week or 2 in everything just feels normal and all these things you worried about not knowing in pregnancy just seem to make sense.

Cellular blankets are suppost to be good all year round (or any holey blanket) as they let the air circulate keeping banies cooler in summer and warmer in winter.

WhyO I swaddled with arms in in the day and arms out at night and put mitts on when tiny to stop them clawing, so true what you said about everything you worry sbout within a week or 2 you will do second nature......im on ds 2 this time and I am still having first time worries as I seem to have forgotten everything from the first time.....my only saving grace is I know this time it comes to you very quickly

So windy here mum has taken ds to school...lcould get used to this

What a rubbish night I've just had. In total I had 2 hours sleep in 4 lots, 3 of which were on the sofa. DH decided to tell me just as we turned the lights out that he wasn't sure about asking his crap boss about having a day off so he could accompany me to my Aunt's funeral. We don't even have a date yet, but will be next week at the earliest so I will be 35+ weeks. I have no problem with him not coming, but I do have an issue with me driving and managing by myself when I'm that far along and having issues walking. Cue me immediately stressing about it and being totally wide awake. What on earth possessed him to tell me just then! Plus he still has a bad cough (going to the GP tonight) so that wasn't helping. I'm having real problems sleeping in our bed atm as I'm starting to get a complex about having to sleep because I'm still working and I want to disturb DH as little as possible, but really I want to sleep from about 3am through to 9am which just won't work until I go on ML in 3 weeks time. I want to cry (and did last night) I'm so tired today.

I think baby has also moved down lower. Best mate said she thought I had dropped and it has been so much more painful and difficult to walk and do anything involving my hips since Friday. I hope the MW will tell me tomorrow that he/she has also turned and is no longer breech.

Sorry for long post, but frazzled by build up of lack of sleep and I am soo glad to have you ladies to rant to. I wish I could tell DH how fed up I am about his concern over his bosses feelings when for once he should be bloddy well supporting me and his first born.

Hello
I feel like a Johnny come lately and a bit sad I've missed out on all this support.
Reading how other people are doing often makes me feel really inaddicuate so I've been hiding a bit.
My EDD is 18/02 but I'm being induced way before that. I have a growth scan today at the hospital ( I'm type 1 diabetic) where they'll tell when I'm being induced. Last appointment they were talking about 36 weeks.
I know I've no right to come I here so late and expect support but I'm really scared.
Baby is already huge ( at 32w 5 d last scan his tummy was measuring 40 w and he was already 3 kg), I missed the first NCT class where they covered the labour because I was admitted to hospital , we have no nursery, no changing table, I'm ordering the cot today. I realised I have no blankets and sheets and generally just feel like I've failed before I've begun.
Is it normal to feel so overwhelmed and scared by everything?
My house is an absolute tip too, I feel awful reading about fresh painting and carpets. I haven't even cleaned my kitchen floor for weeks.

Poor you grinning, the lack of sleep is so crap. Hopefully once you're on ML you can catch up a bit. I also hope your OH realises that you need him more than his bosses do at the moment. And we're all here to listen/sympathise, bad days happen but we're on the home stretch. Almost hard to believe we'll have at least one more baby by the end of the week!

Welcome mild

We are very much the more the merrier, so don't worry about joining late. We are going to have a postnatal thread too for once the babies are here so there will hopefully be a long running group.

I am also being induced early, and I know there are a whole load of mixed emotions about that. And as for being ready-I def don't feel it, but I get the impression that you never quite do! So try not to worry and just do what u can. Everything will come together when it needs to.

Mild the baby doesn't care how clean your house is. Honestly. And you don't need all the stuff or special baby blankets, a few items of clothing, nappies, any old blanket and some space beside you on a bed uncovered and minus pillows etc is it. Please don't panic! And as for the birth you just never know. Nobody gets quite what they expect so be prepared to go with the flow.

This is the right place to unload anxieties.

And I am told a big baby doesn't necessarily mean a harder or more painful labour either...I had been hoping as having ours early and a bit smaller might make it easier but apparently not!

Welcome mild. And don't panic! FTM myself but others on here are more experienced and happy to share - including mistakes!
I haven't got the nursery decorated yet and we're having last minute 'oops haven't got that yet' moments. Bedding we were doing last night on ebay though cheapest flat cot sheets are currently Argos (7.99 for 2).
I really need to move my ass and tidy up before MW arrives. Joy.

Welcome Mild. Sorry you've had so much stress to contend with on top of normal pg worries. Don't feel at all like you've failed - there's still plenty of time to get the few bits & pieces you need for when baby's here; can your partner or mum nip to mothercare to buy blankets and anything else essential?

Babies don't need that much to start with - with my 1st baby we weren't prepared well at all (hadn't even packed hospital bag properly!) so my husband just made several trips out to get things in his first 1/2 weeks. Nursery also not really needed until they're a few months old as s/he'll be in with you initially. As for cleaning, that can wait! Our house is a mess at the mo too!

Good luck at your scan; at least you're being closely monitored by the docs so they'll do what's best for you & baby.

Thanks everyone. I swear I'm normally a competent grown up at work but this pregnancy just brings out all my insecurities .
I've decided to hire an NCT Bednest today. As a diabetic I've got an over 50% chance of a Caesarian so I want to make it easier if I do. Was trying to but one on eBay but they go for crazy money.
Sounds like everyone is at the lack of sleep feeling uncomfortable stage too. I was up every 2 hours last night with wee needs and hypos. Plus I now snore like a bear which wakes me up.
Anyone else feel like they've got constant phlegm at the back of their throat?
Jen, you're being induced soon aren't you?

welcome mild go to asda with a list your cot is ordered their sheets are a fab quality and good value get any basic baby grows etc you need and nappies they dont need their own room for a long time and a messy house isnt a problem until they are on the move. asda actually have a baby event on from 19th if baby stays put till then.

geeky have you seen asda sheets i prefered them to mamas and papas last time

Friday mild

And currently OH is painting spare room! Keeping him busy

Eek! That's soon. How exciting/ terrifying! I'll find out today when I'm going in, hoping to have a least another week minimum.
I'm wondering when Husband should start paternity leave. I know I'll need steroid injections but as a diabetic that'll mean being attached to an insulin drip for 48 hours before induction. Then induction will be the 2 pessaries 24 hours about then the drip so really I could be in hospital for 5 days before anything comes! Does paternity leave start at established labour?

Welcome, mild! I'm a first timer and at the moment contending with dramatic feelings of being overwhelmed - so I think it's normal.

A TMI warning this morn... I'm thoroughly bunged up. No amount of Fybogel, Lactulose or Bran Flakes seems to be getting things moving. Oy.. uncomfortable.

mild paternity leave starts as soon as they go off so if he comes in on day one with you it starts then so you need to think if you may ve in 5 days before things start when you want him with you. my plan is if they induce to go alone and make dh's work keep him in a 100 mile radius of hospital in incase it starts quicker than expected.
I have even packed ipod, book and nintendo ds in hope of getting some peace

frenetic prune juice and sit on loo with feet on a step may help. the just sittjng with feet elevated helps me when I rarely am bunged up

Grinning- feeling totally in the same boat- i was kneeling on the front room floor with my head on the sofa at 3am as that was the only comfy position I could find, and now, knackered at work wondering whether i should admit defeat and ask for earlier mat leave. Hugs for you- the lack of sleep is really rubbish!

Welcome Mild- don't worry about what you have and haven't done- so many people have told me that as long as the baby has somewhere to sleep, something to eat and clean clothes, it's not going to care how clean the kitchen floor is

And my wonderings for today:
-Is it weird to start feeling sick now (35weeks)- I didn't get any morning sickness, but am feeling super nauseous this morning- Anyone else?

-Hiccups- how much is too much? The baby is hiccupping away again- he did it four times yesterday, and I've stupidly googled about it, and now am panicking that his cord's constricted or something

frentic inopportune moment to read your post just as I was eating my mid morning chilli corn beef pasty lol

memphis just read about having steriliser on aide and tbh it never occurred to me that id need to sterilise all bottles - don't know what I was thinking - finding room on kitchen countertop is now on the list of items to do

I was hoping to finish work a week before due date but my to do lust is getting longer and also getting motivated to get out of bed on a morning is taking longer too and I'm not having massive sleep issues

Thanks for the tip re Asia memphis, I shall look into that. Only ordered 2 of stuff so far and just know that won't be enough, especially as we don't have a tumble dryer.
And yes to phlegm at back of throat here too. I sound like a 40 a day smoker hacking in the morning