May 2015 - thread 5 - yellow, pink or blue, which team are you?

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A new thread ladies as the old one was getting full.

That looks like the way to go, apple! Hope you feel much better soon I have the curvy s shape pregnancy pillow and a little pillow to put under bump when on my side (to stop it sinking) but things still just ache Am still doing Pilates twice a week to help but looks like pregnancy and gravity are starting to fight back Could DH give you some back rubs plinky or have a warm bath more regularly? Going to give those a try...

Turquoise Very good news re Baby okay but still annoying about the cervical erosion, you poor thing.

xmumx - I would find it hard if my Dad channelled his disapprovment/worry by not talking to me so just sending a big hug to say you are very strong to cope with it. (((hug)))

Just as an aside.....FUCK OFF THRUSH!!!!!

26 weeks

Thanks bradders, chook and apple. Still stressed about it all today! And we're going to have to change the order quickly before they despatch as we've noticed a problem with the seat combination (you can't use the second seat as a single in future which we didn't realise - JL didn't tell us this despite knowing our plans but I discovered it during night-time googling!).

Also, I know some people are interested in the peach so they can convert for future babies, but as a warning, you can't order the normal length carrycot for the first baby as you won't be able to use it for the second baby with a seat. There's a special carrycot to use as a double with a seat so unless you want to pay another £160 on top of £195 for the larger one then just order the second one to start off with. It's quite a lot smaller though but there's no way around it.

I'm going to try and bf again. As i said, I had a nightmare first few months but persevered and bf till 17 months. I didn't particularly enjoy it, I purely did it for DD. I felt no pressure from anyone else, only myself. I aimed for 6 months as that's the magic time they go on about but then realised they can't drink cows milk till 12 months anyway so I carried on rather than have to buy and deal with formula. And DD loved bf, I never thought she'd stop! I think she only stopped because I was pregnant and the milk changed. I did express very occasionally for the first couple of months before I was confident bf in public but I don't think I'm going to bother this time. I know someone who expressed every feed - I really admire them for that, there's no way I could do it!

Love the pillows apple! I haven't started using mine yet.

apple I feel your pain with the cough. Currently knackered from it keeping me awake and grumpy at oh for complaining about it. Chemist gave me simple cough syrup that's safe to take but it doesn't really help. I am also sleeping (or not) on a pile of pillows.

What a pain cuphat. That does sound an awfully expensive setup.

What a faff cuphat Well done for all your research! Makes me very grateful to my sister for giving me her pram system to use. Keep us updated with Pramgate

Pregnancy during the winter months certainly has it's drawbacks longest - hope you get some respite soon!

Hello Maysters!

Been lurking rather than chatting lately. Sorry to hear about all the health/body problems people are having, but glad I am not alone with the aches and pains. I've also had a terrible cough/chest infection for the last week which I cant shake. apple I feel your pain, I've been constantly ill since Xmas too.

Also glad to see that people are being very practical on the breastfeeding front. Likewise I do want to give it my best shot, but am also aware that it can be hard and not for everyone. I wasn't breastfed at all due to being extremely premie and it hasn't done me any harm twitch... twitch

Just booked onto our local NCT course, which I am looking forward to, but also a bit skeptical about. DH and I both have extensive scientific backgrounds, so am a bit worried about containing my rage if the instructor starts to spout hokey advice.

Happy Sunday ladies, hope you have a relaxing and physical issue free day!

Hi Twinkle!! Same as you-I was never breastfed either, as an adopted baby, so I know that if I switch to formula or mix feed with formula, I'm not doing anything terrible to DD I love writing DD! despite what the NCT/health visitors/others-with-an-opinion say

Sorry to hear so many of you suffering aches, pains and bugs. Hope you get some relief soon! Turquoise that's great to hear that baby is ok.
The Snuzpod is on sale through NCT £180 including mattress. This is the best price we've found but it's out of stock until March so going to order soon!

It's nice to have a group with a sensible, laidback attitude to BF. I really want to but you just have to wait and see what happens, don't you? I'm trying to be relaxed about things but it's quite hard. My mum delights in telling me how she was completely unable to BF at all despite her best efforts, which isn't that helpful.

TBH, I'm feeling a bit anxious just now generally. I keep worrying about random things: BFing, what nappies to buy, should I be doing more yoga or reading up more about labour or everything really. Rationally I know I'm trying to exert some control over something I have no control over but it's hard to accept. It's why my husband's redecorating the whole house, I'm sure!

Thanks kitty, me n dad are close so itis hard, but in that sense i dont see him loads because he works 6 days a week, so guess that makes it abit easier... I just know thats his way of coming to terms with it all, he really didnt expect it. He will be ok soon.

26 weeks wow seems ages in front of me haha

A lot of you are past your viability milestone though. We are getting closer! For me it's not so achingly slow as first trimester and seems quick compared to 18 months ttc. I have a feeling I am about to hit the uncomfortable stage though!

Confession- I bought a cute pink babygro in the joules kids sale. Really don't need it as there are loads in the loft but hey ho I figured I deserved to treat myself. Hope I can resist buying too much more though!

Wow 26 weeks kitty sems ages away for me, am 23 weeks on wednesday. Oh god thrush is horrendous, been a few years since I have had it. If its allowed the internal cream is by far the best, way better than pessaries and is cooling

Sorry to everyone else that is also feeling crappy with colds and chest infections, hope they all f off soon

re BF, am definitely going to give it a shot, in an ideal world I would like to combination feed but will just have to see how things go

kitty yay for 26wks but boooo to the thrush!! Thrush sucks arse!

Hope everyone is having a nice lazy Sunday morning... I'm still in bed kids are Playing in their room and dh is making me brunch!! This is the life

Yep, nice relaxing Sunday for me too Chookford Just about to head off for a nice pub Sunday Lunch. Mmmmmm!

26 weeks does have a nice ring to it, doesn't it?!?! The thrush has been around for a few weeks now and am using the cream but just want it to go! Pregnancy is ever so glamorous

kittiker I hear you about worries. Still putting things to the back of my mind and not facing true reality yet!

Kittiker I get where your coming from. I'm so happy about the baby but feeling quite anxious about what reality is going to be like. I feel like I know nothing about caring for a baby, out of step with lots of my friends as most are nowhere near babies, worrying about his health (with no real reason to) and just a bit overwhelmed. I thinking it's just hormonal because I really don't want to sound ungrateful, this is a much loved and wanted baby!

turquouse glad you have an answer and baby is ok. I think it's still not really hit me that I'm going to have a baby! I'm a first timer so in the dark. We were watching broadchurch the other night and she gave birth and was holding this baby and we were both like 'I still can't imagine that happening to us!' Probably hit me all at once and I'll be a wreck!

kitty. Head office left a message saying we should contact the store to complain

Hope you're better soon apple. I've been ill more than I've been well so far. I had a cough for weeks and nothing that you're allowed to try worked.

I knew nothing about babies before I had DD. I'd never changed a nappy. Don't worry, honestly, you pick it up very quickly (though I'll be honest, nothing can prepare you for the reality when they arrive! Or maybe that was just us!).

Thanks for all the messages girls.

Scottishgal and blondie it will all just come to you instinctively. You'll know how to hold your baby, bathe them and all the other things you need to do even if you've never cared for a baby before. It's amazing but you just know. And you tune into YOUR baby so no one knows them like you do. It's so nice.

Kitty try some nice natural yogurt from the fridge for your thrush. It always soothes it.

I've been to softplay today, out for a lovely pub lunch then cooked a meal for my SIL and her kids so I am shattered.

I think the reality was less scary than the anticipation. It's quite straightforward in many ways. It's really all about nappies cuddles and milk. I remember looking back and thinking that it is so easy compared to having a toddler!! We have friends who adopted a seven month old. Can you imagine?! We get all the time to think and plan and prepare and they are just handed a baby one morning! Some others are adopting a three year old and again I just can't imagine!

You will all be fine. I think it helps to remind yourself that the baby stage is very short and although exhausting and relentless it does pass!

Hello ladies! Can't believe how time is moving on, and how our discussions are moving on accordingly!

kittiker - I have similar anxieties about how to prepare, so nice to hear all the reassurances that it comes naturally.

We went to our local carvery yesterday and it was full of pregnant women and new babies. I couldn't stop watching in fascination, thinking that we're going to have one of our own soon. Also spent an awful lot of time checking out the pram/buggy/car seat makes, funny how you can start to instantly recognise brands. Felt really nice to be somewhere so laid back and know we will have somewhere to go when little one is born. So pleased we decided to move to such a family focused area.

I have a question about counting the kicks/movements. I have felt baby moving from fairly early on (prob around 15wks) and movements can be strong and hard. However, I am really struggling to pin down a pattern and baby really doesn't seem to like to 'respond' to touch or stimulation by others. As such, while DH has felt kicks, only my dad has had the pleasure of feeling one tiny movement. Despite both DM/Mil waiting for ages, nothing seems to happen. Equally when I try to use a kicks counter, I generally sit and watch the timer ticking by whilst nothing happens (after a flurry of movement causes me to try and measure). Ocassionally a cold drink or food will get a response, although not reliably. I feel like everything is fine so don't want to get worked up, but with all the emphasis on 'count the kicks' and know your own baby's patterns, it makes me feel a bit frustrated. As I said baby does make its presence felt by really on only his/her terms (not surprising knowing me and my DH).

Just wondered what it's like for everyone else?

Struggling to keep up with this thread!

I'm concerned at how much weight I have put on. 23+2 and I have gained 15lbs! A friend of mine is 25 weeks and has only gained 8lbs eek.

I had a bmi of 24 before and looking at my ovia pregnancy app I'm at the top of the ideal.

Is 15lbs ok? Dreading getting it all off afterwards

Hell yeah, I'm up 10kg which is entirely depressing. I've got to hide the scales really, to stop winding myself up. Gained 20kg last time and lost all bar 4kg relatively easily. You just kind of deflate afterwards and then BF helps with the excess fat! I just can't stop eating right now. I don't even want to. I just feel weak and horrible if I don't !!

Hi ellstor / Bean - I am now 26+6 (eek - how did that happen?!) and have so far put on 7.1kg / 15lbs.

Don't feel like I'm eating much more than normal, in fact can't finish a lot of my meals, but weight keeps creeping on regardless.

Just trying to be sensible and keep walking (I do occasionally notice I lose some before gaining more) can't find much motivation for exercise though.

Been busy here over the weekend!

I'm adopting a laidback attitude to bf this time, well trying to. Mixed fed DD from about 4mos and completely gave up bfing DS when he was around 9 weeks. I just had a bit of a meltdown and quit. Really struggled with expressing both times which didn't help.
Bit more worried this time as I'll be back at uni only two weeks after delivery and really want to to bf but like I say trying to maintain a "take it how it comes" attitude.
Been very emotional the past few days, crying at daft things, then getting angry about crying at said daft things. Think exam stress has arrived too. 4 weeks today and I've not done anywhere near enough work. I suffer from anxiety at the best of times so trying really hard to stay calm but envisaging the next few weeks being tumultuous to say the least!

Wow about the price of that pram, really hope it all gets sorted for you! I don't think I've spent £1200 in total! Gumtree has been my friend :) DH and I are both poor students so don't have the budget to stretch. Think we've spent about £300 on the big things (cosatto giggle, cotbed with new mattress, Moses basket, new combi car seat and a swing) then maybe another £50-100 or so on sleep suits, vests, socks etc, bedding, and stocking up on different sized nappies, wipes and toiletries. Not knowing the sex has probably helped keep costs down so far :P

Really wanted to try washable nappies this time but am so overwhelmed with the choice and don't have time to properly read up right now.

Try not to worry about the weight gain ellstor most of it does go fairly soon, and fairly easily after birth.
I haven't been keeping an eye on the scales this time but I went from about 9stone to almost 12 with DD. My thighs were huge!!! She only weighed 7lbs3!
With DS I got back to my pre-pregnancy weight without any effort at all.
Appetite is rubbish this time but I still feel big for 23 weeks. Joys of being 5'2" :P