September 2015 Ante-Natal thread.

[DastardlyDachshund]

Hello ladies. I got my BFP (bloody faint positive in my case) on Monday and am due on 3rd September. I couldn't see any other threads for next September so thought I would go ahead and create a little home for us over the coming months. Merry Christmas to all of you finding out about your extra Christmas Present over the next few days .

Thanks for the welcome everyone!!

Envious - thanks a mil for the EDD help! I knew it would be a bit challenging given I ov'd so late, so thank you. When I put 8 Sept into my apps I just downloaded it says I'm three weeks, which can't be right if I'm only 12DPO today? Gah very confusing but probably bigger things to think about!!

Gin, I just told my best friend yesterday as I was meeting her for lunch and was so spaced out by the news!! We don't live in the UK at the moment and I knew I wouldn't see her for ages so felt right. Not telling anyone else though.

We fly long-haul back to Thailand today, which is slightly worrying...! Nothing I've found online suggests there's too much to worry about - will get some anti-DVT socks at Heathrow. Will go to see a Thai doc when I land, I guess (doesn't fill me with confidence after all the failed interventions I had in the last months tho, I have to say..!). We were moving back to the UK permanently on 20 June anyway, although now I think I might have to fly back a bit earlier, as I won't be allowed on the plane after 6 months! Yikes!

Can I join? We got a bfp after 1st round ivf. I'm hatching DP's egg(s?). Early scan booked 6 Jan to find out how many beans have stuck. Trying not to be terrified about twins. I keep freaking out about stuff -brown sludge, didn't feel sick today etc. Didn't think I would be this anxious . DP being very patient.

Stats: 1st preg, 39 yo, EDD 1 Sep

Welcome all the new ladies

Fullyfunctional, it's so nerve wrecking isn't it? I keep checking for symptoms to make sure I'm still having them it's going to be a long 9months! After previous mc o can't help but be anxious! I did buy a little pair of booties in town to make it feel a bit more real ??

Hello almost and kitty elly and chandlers
Congratulations!
Almost - how far along are you? Its so easy to freak out isn't it?
I already think I've maimed the baby because of an accidental hot bath, falling over in the rain and drinking my own body weight in wine before i realised i was actually pregnant. I think as time passes we will feel less anxious (hopefully!) I've found it so helpful to talk about any fears on here though, everyone is so supportive and reassuring...

As for qu about DH/DP's reaction, mine is being good if a tinsy bit freaked out...it took a bit of persuasion (understatement) to try again as DS has been such a hard baby. No sleep for first two and a half years. Determined to do things differently this time though.

Unfortunately i cannot tell anybody about the pregnancy as closest person in my family has just been told that their baby has no heartbeat..telling them or anyone in the family would not be well received now and everyone is devastated . Terrible timing on my part. Feel terrible guilty. Got to hide it as long as possible. This is going to be hard, as for some reason, despite being tall, i show immediately (even now it seems obvious to me).

Oh Maude. That is so sad.

I know what you mean about showing early. The lower part of my tummy has popped out already and even though I've lost a couple of pounds over the past few days (from not drinking...) my jeans are bloody uncomfortable. I don't want to buy new 'normal' jeans but also don't want to buy maternity stuff yet. Gave all my old stuff away.

working out how far along I am is like trying to work out dog years! I think it's 6 weeks in preggo weeks - 4 weeks in real time!
New worry is that we were supposed to go to sister's for nye but they are full of chicken pox. We don't get to see them much because they're up in Scotland. I've had cp but I know loads of people who had it twice. on the other hand, I feel like I'm being enough of a drama queen already.

I really feel for you, Maude. That sucks

Thanks envious, sadly I'm in southeast! I do have our local midwife's mobile number from previous occasions, may make use if that!
I think one day at a time is a good way to go, tho I know week 8-9 will be hell as my previous mmcs have all stopped growing at that point.

How far do peeps go with telling friends about pregnancy? I've done telling everyone then lost and had to explain lots, and then not told anyone and lost and that is hard too. Thinking I need to tell at least a few people this time

Thanks Gin.

...and glad its not just me that already needs an elasticated waistband!

Well good news Almost that you are half way through your first trimester already. Maybe it would be good to check with your doctor about risks of CP so that you don't have to feel anxious? If they say there is a risk I am sure your family would understand if you don't go....you won't want to spend the whole time with them feeling in a panic.

Oops typo further up ....terribly

Thanks almost

Kitty - thats a tricky one. I suppose telling the people who will be there for you (and a good support) if things go wrong might be a plan...but its hard to tell some people and not others isn't it....

just a quick question, I keep reading everywhere that everyone's boobs are agony and to be honest mine are only a little sore defiantly nothing like most people experience! Has me worrying like crazy that something is wrong :/ anyone any ideas :(

Nataliebee don't worry about unsore boobs, everyone is different and now in my 5th pregnancy every pregnancy is different!
Ginface I think I'm going to have to tell my sister/mum today, I got a LOT of strange looks every time I turned down alcohol on Xmas day, and with ny next week, abstaining from the drink will def seem odd!

Almost - they say as long as you've had cp then you should be fine. My eldest had cp when I was pregnant with Dd.

Natalie I had agony boobs when pregnant with DS, not even a slightly bit sore with DD and now I'm somewhere in between so I'd really not worry. Everyone is different and each pregnancy is too!

Im shattered after a morning visiting friends but I don't think hubby or children will be pleased if I sleep all afternoon on the sofa again!! I really can't wait for bedtime!

I'm really bloated and struggling to hide it.

X

I haven't told my family about the pregnancy either maude but for different reasons.
My parents will be terribly dissapointed with me. Particularly as I haven't finished my training yet and we are still in rental accommodation

But tbh we are both in our thirties and I would like another before fertility issues set in. We would never be able to afford ivf either.

Has anyone been to see the Dr
I was thinking if making an appearance in two weeks. So should book now then lol.

Welcome snappy and congratulations I am feeling exactly the same! I am so anxious all the time, doctors on Monday and early scan next week at epau so hopefully that makes me feel a bit more relaxed

Welcome to all you new ladies and congrats.

Re the worrying, this is my 3rd and I am paranoid something is going to go wrong. The good news is that all this worrying is totally normal . The bad news is, you will probably worry up until your scans, then (all going well) the scan will reassure you all is going well, then the worrying will commence again. I found myself equally dreading the scans and looking forward to them. Then I would worry that baby hadn't kicked yet. Then worry about whether it had kicked enough etc etc. Just wait until your babies are born and you start worrying about development .

I will be making a gp appointment this week as I will need to get my blood pressure tablets adjusted now I am pregnant. Also going to my gp as apparently I have to go elsewhere to access a midwife . I want to get my free prescriptions card sent off for and a gp can do this apparently so that is an extra incentive.

I'm making myself sick with all the worrying, tmi I keep checking for brown on the loo roll every time I go..I keep thinking I see somthing every time I go! I'm on the boat on the way home and freaking out because I'm convinced I seen brown..probably because that's the way mums started before! Aargh

Sorry for the depressing comments having a bad day!

Sorry you're having a bad day Natalie.

We've not told family but will probs do in a few weeks. I was just 4 was when I saw them and due to previous chemical pregnancies I just felt too early.

I'm planning on going to Dr next week when I'm 6 weeks so probs week commencing 5th.

Anyone planning on telling work before scan? I did with my first but got on well with my boss. My second I was self employed. Not sure what to do about this one as boss is a grumpy man haha. I suspect I'll wait for scan?

X

I told my mum and sister this afternoon, well saying that I didn't even tell them, I just said 'as I've got you both here'....and they looked at each other, laughed, and said they'd guessed!

However, really stressing today, I competely empathise with you nataliebee regarding visits to the loo!

Everyone knew I was doing ivf, so it didn't make sense to try to keep it secret. Still boss had a go for telling him too early, I said that it was in the 1st trimester that I needed to know about infectious diseases in school. It was depressing. He has a lousy rep for treating preggers ladies like crap. I'm the union rep, so we could be in for interesting times!

Cousin also said I shouldn't have told her as it was 'bad luck' FFS .

I hear you on the constant checking. I have a special place in the hall where I can check my pants. One of these days I'll forget and check when someone can see me

Thanks Almost, your last comment made me lol, nice to hear that what I consider to be my own weird behaviour is actually probably normal! Oh for the rose tinted glasses I wore through my first pregnancy!
Are you a teacher Almost? I do supply teaching, so never know what lurgies May be lingering I schools I visit!

hi kitty, yes I am. I run a behaviour unit, so my exposure it much more limited than most, to germs anyway. You can call schools ahead of time to see if they have any reported outbreaks, the school secretary should be able to let you know as it should have gone out as part of the weekly bulletin. Schools are obliged to keep their own staff informed, so they ought to be able to tell you too. The NUT document on your rights is called Maternity Matters, it's worth a read

Hi ladies... Well I actually managed to stop myself worrying today about it all and then went to the loo earlier and found some blood. I didn't experience anything like that before with my first pregnancy, so it's a bit unnerving, but am determined to remain philosophical. I haven't been trying long, so if everything starts to go wrong will try to remain calm. Am keeping my fingers crossed for all of you, and almost I am now inspired to find my own pant checking place in the hall from now on. Hope you all manage to get some rest and that the worry and nerves abate.

Try not to worry to much maude! Easier said than done I know! I've had no more brown since the tiny bit earlier thank goodness it can stay away

I am tho doing the drive from cairnryan to Dundee which is 3 hours and I've already stopped for a wee 3times dog is not impressed ??