June 2015 - thread 6 - baby kicks and bumps appearing

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New thread ... Hopefully no more sadness for the June Bugs.

Welcome back wiggly, it's sometimes best to stay away when things get a bit overwhelming.

Wrapped congrats on your little boy, glad to hear he's loveky and healthy.

As I'll be having another section, I plan to leave the moses basket upstairs for bedtime and the baby can sleep in the buffalo carrycot unit downstairs during the day.

Thanks everyone :)

I'm planning on having another C-Section this time around.

My sister got signed off basically as a carer for when i was in hospital to look after my DS1. Do you know if my partner will be able to get signed off for the same thing? as i won't be able to lift him, put him in and out the bath etc ?

I haven't heard of anyone doing that, wrapped. After my last section, DH took a month off but using two weeks paternity leave (which he had at full pay) and two weeks annual leave. Because of his new job he'll only be able to take the two weeks paternity in one go this time so I'm worrying as I'm having another section and I have no family here to help me. I recovered really well last time because I did no lifting or anything for the first six weeks.

We have lovely pictures from 38 weeks. They can't get the whole baby in the picture in one go but we have a lovely close up of the DD's face (front on) and upper body.

Just DD's. Not the!

Morning all!

Wrapped I haven't heard that re being signed off. I had a section last time and my DH just had 2 weeks paternity leave off. I was fine.

I will admit to being nervous when he first went back but I think that's normal!

I didn't drive for a good while but I didnt need to, i managed ok with the buggy etc on my own and was out and about with baby the first or second week DH went back. Carefully of course!

We didn't bath DS for a few weeks though, they don't really need more than a top and tail wash really / clean with cotton wool.

I seem to recall the rule post csection was don't lift anything heavier than your baby. But that's only just at the start, you'll know how you feel/what you can do.

I used to know when id over done it with a too-long walk etc because my scar/wound would ache a bit :-/

Thanks all my sisters gp signed her off to care for my LO when I was In hospital, I came out with a neurological condition meaning I have to have a load of eye and brain pressure test before I can drive and they won't do these till 6 weeks after.

Can't remember what the name is but I'm hoping she'll reply to my text however she got paid SSP for the time she was off and legal board reckon it was a mistake i think it has carers note written on it but can't be sure.

I'm just worried as he works two job ones already not let him go to scans and make him book everything in the first job who are now getting annoyed and ds1's nursery have said if he doesn't go he'll lose his place and nobody can take him as its in another town as we've just moved. I'm sure a breakdown is going to happen it's stressing me out already!

Would of tried for a vBac but been told I'm not allowed to push due to my head, they're worried I'm gonna get hypertension again so they said I have to have a section this is turning into a mess!

well, told my team at work purely cos I wore skinny jeans to work and couldn't keep the button done up

Get to tell my new manager tomorrow. my colleague has just said she wants to go part time in Sept as she turns 60. Our manager will have a testing time it seems sorting out resourcing.

Oh wrapped that sounds a pickle!

First things first. Huge deep breathe!

I love a list to get me organised so I'm going to write things out in a priority way.

I'm assuming June baby given the board we are on?

1. DS' nursery. It's in another town? Time to start looking at ones closer to you. Yes it may be a shame to move him if he had made friends BUT it's probably more important that your are not stressed by this. But also if you are paying for his space then how can they give it away? That's two things to look into. Whoops.

1. Your DH's work, he has several months to accrue holidays. Do you know your c-section date (roughly). DH will get paternity leave. Then he could try and book two weeks annual leave at the back of that. So four weeks in total.

1. If your sister works full time then she also will accrue annual leave. Perhaps ask her if she would be willing to book two weeks and come help you? Co-ordinating with your dh so 6 weeks are covered? And means she won't need to be signed off and on ssp

1. Can parents/in-law help at all? If you live in a house, can someone come round in morning to lift baby downstairs? Set yourself up with a changing station and moses basket/crib downstairs so you only really need to go back up to pee (if you don't have a toilet downstairs)

Also with regards to your scans. Is your DH using up his annual leave or rearranging his work hours? Does he NEED to go to every scan? I dont mean to sound cheeky. My dh is taking annual leave because he wants to come, it's our first. But if he had minimal annual leave entitlement I'd tell him to save it for after the birth and get a private scan for a day off organised so he's not completely missing out

Most important..... remember to breathe!

sunbathing - I second that!

Thanks comeagainforbigfudge

Yeah, he's due on the 21st so not even in the summer holidays

I don't know how they can give it away, but will look into any local nurseries/child minders. It doesn't help we've moved to a pretty remote place in the town, it's a mile to get in and out of our little village

I was told as he works two jobs, he could take the PL from one and work the other than swap instead of getting them both at the same time which would give him some more time but he wouldn't be there all the time iyswim. We don't know our date yet though, I'm seeing the midwife tomorrow so will ask.

That's a great idea, thank you I will ask her!

Yeah, we're in a house and have a loo downstairs my mum works in london and is self-employed but she isn't the best and won't help. DP's DF lives in plymouth so can't help and his mum is an alcoholic so I don't really want to rely on her to much.

at the moment he has about an hour gap where he can grab a shower lunch etc so we're trying to book things in there, he wants to go but I've said not to use his holiday for scan's as we can use that. I'm High risk so I'm gonna have a load of extra scans and consultant appointments and midwife appointments

Will remember to breathe! I feel bad because I can't even find a name for him :(

The name will come! DD wasn't named until after she was born, I fully expect the same for this one. It's great that he can get pat leave from both jobs - definitely get them to follow each other so he's only out of the house for short periods of time.

I may be stopping with this whole sickness thing - not wanting to speak too soon, but there's only been one day in the last week or so it's been unpleasant, so I may just be through the worst of it! Celebrating by catching a cold - horrible painful cough as well, nasty.

I can't believe some 20-week scans are here already...I'm not even 16 weeks yet!

Thanks chat I had my name for my DS1 and it was love at first sight, I feel bad that I can't give him the same.

That's good about the sickness, shame about the cold I got the same thing, it's on it way out hopefully.

Mines not till February!

Ha ha ladies. Anytime!! I think my nurse training is coming to the fore. Always needing a list and an order of priority!

Wrapped, start getting to know your neighbours! They will know the childminders/nurseries

And honestly, my best mate had a cs years ago and various family members would drive over to bring baby downstairs then head off to work. (Her dh worked shifts). So you might not even need that much help over a day. but I can see why it's not so easy with your extended family

It'll be summer, pram can live outside (if you think it'll be safe) then all you will need to do is put baby in pram for a wee walk.

Oh that sounds brilliant re parental leave for dh! But I would maybe check it out with citizens advice? I'm not au fait with all the laws but think you both need to find out as much information as you can. Just to make sure what they are saying is correct.

Just try not to over think things. Keep it simple.

Oh and I have no idea about names. A vague list. But we don't know what we having and also there's such a long time to go.

I also have FAR too much time on my hands hence posting so quickly. The joy of annual leave.

Consultant appointment this afternoon. No idea what to ask apart from about folic acid, and for them to reassure me with regards to my multiple sclerosis and pregnancy.

Hi all! Thought I'd check in.

First day back at work after being signed off and Xmas holiday, feeling alright so far but only had about 4 hours sleep (I always sleep badly the night before going back to work), so I will be hanging tomorrow or Wednesday. Not great as my hyperemesis gets worse when I'm tired and/or stressed, but it can't be helped! At least I'm feeling mostly more like my usual self apart from my "huge" bump with already turning inside out belly button.

My DD was 9lb 10 at birth so I couldn't really lift even her after my section! DH would bring her to me when needed etc. This time I have her to deal with too and I won't be able to carry her and lift her into her highchair, pushchair etc. I found walking and stairs fine - I went out for a short walk the day I came out of hospital a day and a half after my section!

cup I was walking around in the hospital with my son and at home. Do you have any kind of plan you could enlighten me with I also found stairs weren't that bad but I found my DS hard to lift and he was 6lbs 13oz lol

morning ladies

First day back at work here too, and I am really struggling! I got used to getting up when I wanted and not rushing around for the school run it was bliss!

No names here either but we wont be finding out so have plenty of time to come up with one name of each we agree on!

come that is some impressive list making, I am quite an organised person but you put me to shame!

I have two scans coming up one on the 15th and one on the 19th I'm back to crapping myself again... really hope this fear of scans will subside as I have 5 more to get through before baby is due!!!

I wish I did, wrapped! I posted earlier that my DH took a month off - two weeks paternity and two weeks annual leave. But he can only take the two weeks paternity this time so I'm panicking a bit!

I think we've more or less agreed on our name. It's not what we originally thought we'd go for but we really want something that's suitable for an adult as well as a child. When we imagined adults with the name we really loved it didn't seem right any more. Still plenty of time to change our minds though. We decided on DD's very early on, stuck to it and are still very glad we chose it.

Just to add, he has the leave but has just had a promotion to a job where he can't take a month off in one go. He'll take a bit more time off later on. His job is letting me take a 5 year career break so I can't complain too much.

Afternoon all... 1 week until my 20 week scan!
I havnt really thought about mat/pat leave yet, i've not had a section but dh still took 2 weeks pat and then 2 weeks hol.
This might sound mad but is anyone planning on going on holiday this summer?
I dont want my kids to miss out so was thinking that we might go away the last 2 weeks of august.
So mite get dh to take 2 weeks pat leave and save 2 weeks for holidays... Baby should b about 8 weeks so i'll b able to get passport and possibly first jabs.
I'll b starting back to work in october if i can get another minded child lined up as the ones i care for now will prob leave with me taking 4 mths off.

Mine is then too jazzy!

We've been offered a free holiday! But baby will be roughly eight weeks old and we've refused. I had problems with mastitis and an abscess last time and I really wouldn't want to be abroad and have problems so we're being sensible. Plus I'll be eight weeks post-section and not likely to be feeling like getting into my bikini anyway! I know people who have done it and been fine though (but they booked last minute). It's hard to tell how you'll be.