Due March 2007 - No. 3

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New thread because the last one was giving me "Sorry, this thread is too big to accept new messages".
Onilly - sorry, yes I am sure it's due date - see here - "the Regulations apply to women expecting their babies on or after 1 April 2007.... If an employee's 'expected week of child-birth' falls before 1 April 2007 the old rules will apply."

oh and Rabidzombie, the male bits WERE SO visable, and i really did see them beofre the lady. I even said 'look theres a willy' and she said she hadnt looked preoperly yet, it was the last thing she looked for!!!!

Cosmo?

I am so impressed. It is really nice to put a face to the name. I'm so thick that at all of my girls' scans even when they pointed the bits out I still couldn't make head nor tail of 'em .
You must be eagle-eyed!

it did help that the scanning equiptment was awesome, in that the picture wasn't grainy or blurry at all, but really defined and soooo clear, so much better than when i had DD scanned. Still amazes me what technology can do!

Glad you all like the website, and now you have a face to my name, bet it wasnt at all how you had thought! Which reminds me.... i started up a Yahoo group which most of my 'due in Jauary 2005' posted pics on, i wonder if anyone wants to do the same on here?

oops i meant 'due in December2005'

That's a good idea? I'm forgetful, was your last born in Dec 05? Mine was too !

supposed to have been dec 31, but she arrived 3 Jan, so close enough!

heres the link for the yahoo group. I guess if anyone wants to add a folder with pics then please feel free. Just name it with your nick from here, or with the due date, and we can all have a gander!!!!

Cool, dd3 was supposed to come on the 5th but arrived on the 22nd, bad time keeping. I'll go and search out some pics.

I had a friend who called her son Cosmo. His surname was Pratt .

Kind of put me off the name Cosmo somehow

off to bed now..

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Have joined and added 2 pics... my yahoo name is still in my maiden name!

Nice one Amie, i like your wedding pic, when did you get married?

Cheers Jay.. we got married 11th Septmeber 2004, we're childhood sweethearts! Sam offered me his umbrella when I was waiting for my school bus!

awwww, how sweet, so this bubba will be your icing on the cake!

Well i think i need to go to bed, or at least try, i know i wont be able to sleep, takes me ages to drop off at the moment! Night, spk later all xx

Sure is! taken us almost a year to get here with trying but its all good!

Night Jay! Have a good rest!

Aghhhhhhh, bloody hell, I can't do the site. I was trying to download the softwear and cy poxy computer has gone mad. i'm getrting a mad in a few days so |I'll see if I have better luck with that.

Wow Jay so organised and lovely piccies. I don't know how to put photos on the computor and I don't yet have a digital camera (put to shame)

Kitty I had a bit of a look at the thread earlier and its a lively one but its good that some people are understanding other opposing points of view and respecting our right to differ.
I think its funny the way you plough in! I'm no good at debating points I'm too A-moral and I just agree with everyone, even 2 opposites can still both seem true to me! I get all muddled up with the paradoxes of life and can't think straight. (And thats me even when not preggers!)

But there is alot of anger. I think the problem is that I gather its a sore point on mn at the moment about people with sn family not feeling the environment is supportive for them. Which is a big shame, So the subject of that thread hit a raw nerve I reckon!

its not about the lack of support that has upset parents of children with sn - it is the ignorant and smug judgemental posts that has upset people. WHen they have come on for support or the chance to just rant anout something that has upset them immensely only to be set upon time and time again by posters who despite being very clear in their initial post feel the need to jab the point home over and over again.

You fight enough ignorance and crap every day and sometimes enough is enough -without coming on here for some support and someone to say - that really was crap and getting blasted once again.

UNless you have walked a mile in those shoes - you can't begin to understand.

tbh - i think comments such as the parents really should not have had any other children after Charlotte and the presumption that some people knew their motivations or whatever is what got people upset. The fact that people seemed to be sitting in judgement of these parents who have had such a hard time - beyond anything we could imagine unless we had been there - is what got to people.

Families break down under all sorts of strains - unfortunately for this family it is played out for the world to see.

I did wonder how you felt Eidsvold. From my position on the fence, I can see that there are an awful lot of unwanted children in the world who were born because their parents are extremely selfish, though they were still born and deserve societys support. (My family fostered.)
And also maybe its good for people to have somewhere to express their rage and get it off their chest on some threads but maybe threads should be clearly labelled 'for unconditional support' or 'for big fat row' so people can get what they need from mn?

It's tricky. I have just seen what my dp wrote last night. He is a very practical man,not governed ever by his emototions and that is how he sees life.
i normally steer well clear of SN threads, my personal experience of sn is limited to ds1 and his problems and I have no interest in including my experiences on these threads. My experiences are not relevant on arguments like the ones about the Wyatts. If I'd considered for a moment that it was going to become about special needs I would have passed it by because these threads get too heated for my liking.

I found the wyatts story really really sad and also don't think antone should feel that they shouldn't have children if they really want them. One of my foster sisters has cp, she was abused and abandoned. I hate her parents for what they did do her-horrific! But also she is married and wants a baby, and people judge her and say she shouldn't have kids
Anyway I think this thread should be ' for unconditional support' if possible.

I agree Rosy.

i just think that none of us has a crystal ball and can see in the future - there can be any number of reasons why parents are unable to care for their children - very valid reasons and that to sit back and judge this family is a little harsh.

perhaps

Good morning all. Great to get your news Jay ! I'm having a boy too (to add to my other 2 Ds's !)Your web site is fab - was interested to see that you started the Probation Officer training, I was in the first cohort and qualified in 2000. Then left and trained in psychotherapy. Will you go back ?

I also read through the Charlotte Wyatt thread and reminded myself why I don't post about things I don't have any direct or related experience of !! I have fostered, but mainly kids with emotional and behavioural difficulties , rather than physical special needs. It is a very complex issue.

My DS2 has discovered marbles so walking round the house has become a bit of a minefield. It is DH's birthday todays, so am off to sort out a family breakfast.

Whoowhoo - had a dream about you last night (even though we've not met) and you showed me that you had a very painful mouth ulcer !!

Have a good morning all !!