April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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Woohoo

22+3

little that sounds very frustrating. I had my 1st experience of the ante-natal outpatients appointment last week and it was an unpleasant experience with all the waiting and disorganisation. I was quite glad to have got through my last pregnancy with out it. (Luckily, I bumped into a very new friend who is having a ds at the same time as me and we used the time to get to know each other.)

I am not going for any of the delayed cord clamping etc. as I had a retained placenta last time so this time they will give me the injection earlier. I nearly cried when they said that it wouldn't deliver and I had to go into theatre to get it removed - my 1st thought was C-section but luckily it was a manual removal with an epidural.

I am a bit unbothered about writing my birth plan because I don't think it was even looked at last time. My main thing is to get out as soon as I can and not wait 7 hours for them to 'do the paperwork'. If I do need to stay 24 hours, I intend to be out of the door at 24 hours and 1 minute post birth regardless of when it is but I am hoping they may let me out earlier if things go well and it makes sense timing wise. The more I think about it I do want an epidural as I may need one anyway for a retained placenta and if I need to stay in anyway there is no incentive to not have one. I definitely don't want pethidine although dh said it gave him some peace and I was quite funny! (I lost a few hours of labour although did get from 2 cm to 10cm in that time so not all bad.)

Although I may put something along the lines of little about not wanting idle chat. One was commenting on my nail polish colour and my dh was having a good laugh with them whilst I was having the most painful contractions with no real break. I did at one point go into the bathroom and she the door to get away from them.

shut the door even

I think that's one of the advantages of a home birth, at home I'll feel more confident to tell people to shut up mind you I'm not usually shy about telling people what I want

little that sounds awful, I would be making a complaint, I'm on your behalf.

38+3

Little that is annoying about the consultant.
Regarding the sample I'm afraid that is the drill in my hospital. You get there, do the sample and keep it until they call you... But everyone has one in their hand/ bag..

Tiny oh I know its standard practice but I'm the contrary sort who doesn't bow to pressure.

So today my DH was my knight in shinning armour after the hospital giving us the run around even trying to claim at one point they didn't have any managers (in the NHS! They bloody wish) and then passed me onto the management for the cleaners.
By that point DH was truly fed up so he called the regional manager of maternity amd children's services to complain and make it clear something needs to be done ASAP. Within half an hour we had an appointment at the hospital with the consultant who did the stitch.
She was excellent answered all my questions and I now have a date for the stitch to be removed on the 23rd.

Wow little, you may be the next to have the baby if smiling doesn't get a move on :-)

And I have had a nasty cough for a week, obstetrician heard it and gave me antibiotics straight away as she said it could be viral, but if not I need to be clear for the section... So if not better by Monday to go to the GP and get it seen again...

I'm working on it tiny promise

Saw the midwife today and beanie is really low, which is no surprise since my bump has dropped and the top is soft. My lower back is really painful and I'm getting grumpier by the day!

Glad you got it sorted Little

Sorry you are poorly Tiny, that really is crap timing, isn't it? Hope you are better soon and all ready for the CS.

So I had my consultant appointment today - I didn't see the same one as last time (who again was not the one I've seen all the way through). I explained why I didn't believe induction at 40 weeks was necessary, and this guy was happy to agree with me (although I think after consultation with another consultant, I do now have "DECLINED INDUCTION" on my notes ). So he offered to book me in for induction at 40+10 or 12, and I managed to push him to 40+14 - result
So now DD just needs to get a move on and arrive under her own steam, please! I'm considering looking for a reflexologist or something like that.

smling don't you worry I will get in the queue. You baby is next I'm sure.

Tiny I hope your cough clears up it must be frustrating to have something so out if your control effect something so important like the C-section.

Tea great result on 40+14!

34+4

I only have a week left of bedrest! After 6 weeks of semi bedrest + 14 of strict bedrest I think I've forgotten how to function outside of bed.

Now I'm thinking about all the books I was suppose to read before the baby came..

The real world might be a shock for you little :) That is a long time to be confined for. Great that you've got so far!

little it will feel so odd for you to be up and about.

I spent most of yesterday in bed, I was so sore and tired.

Little, hope your DH has prepared you for what is out there... The jetpacks do make it easier to get around but a bit fiddle to prevent the toddlers from escaping

I will be like ne of those people who went into prision in the 70s and just got out all wide eyed.

I don't know who else to say this too but I know you will all understand so thought I'd post here.

I'm struggling with the whole mothers day thing, I should be celebrating my first mothers day with a 5 month old. I love beanie more than anything and can't wait to meet him but it hurts so bloody much

 little - I am so impressed at how well you have done at holding on for so many weeks. not long till you go back to real world albeit with a small baby! what will you do first?

Tea - I often feel that the midwives are forced to spend alot of time covering their backsides. I always get a half hearted have you thought about the flu jab and then refused flu jab in notes. Everything else we discussed is never noted.

Smiling - hope the resting helped!

Tiny - hope you feel better soon. You finished with work now? Yay!!!

I have yet another cold and dd has been really challenging. She has insisted on being carried everywhere and so now my back hurts. She also seems to have regressed with the toilet training and has had loads of accidents in the last 2 days after being dry for ages. She has also been having major meltdowns and I have been a bad mum and got quite angry with the high pitched screaming. It is almost like she knows the baby is coming soon and has already regressed in preparation. Luckily dh is around for the next day or so and I can get a bit of a break.

How is everyone else doing?Â

Babiecakes, dances - how are you get on with your new little ones?

35+1.....The countdown is well and truly underway. (6 working days left and 5 in the office.)

Smiling - sorry mother's day is haunting you. I am usually ok with mothers day but find the due date of my 1st mc and the mc day really tough. My 1st mc happened on the 9th April and I am still not sure if I want ds to arrive on that day.....not sure if I can replace bad memories with good ones or whether it will always add a damper on ds's birthday. (My 2nd mc I didn't get far enough to look up a due date so is much easier to deal with.)

Smiling, I so understand you. For me the tricky day is Christmas as it was the due date of mc1...

Lig I had my ERPC on the 9th of April which was my cousins 16th birthday, so was a real mixed emotional time, thankfully beanie should be here before then.

I've had a cry and feel much better now, I don't know why it hit me so hard but it just suddenly occurred to me that I am a mother but I don't have a child yet.

Hasn't helped that I've spent all afternoon in a&e with my mum, she's fine but I'm tired and hormonal, I just want to meet my baby boy now.

smiling I so completely understand how you feel I should have a 5 month old daughter instead I have a daughter sons to be born. I'm so greatful for DD2 but that doesn't lessen the pain. Others just don't get it.

Lig thank you. I have no idea what to do with myself, I always said a walk into town just being indpendent again, but I won't be alone I will have a baby
Yes toddlers really can pick up on the new baby vibe its really common for them to regress for a bit. And well mening family members and strangers telling them constantly they must be a big girl/boy now doesn't help either.
You are not a bad mum your an ordinary one its hard to listen to a screaming kid and not react.

34+6

smiling I hold the exact same view I am a mother still to the two that passed, a lot of mothering goes into pregnancy too. That bond that you build with them stays forever even if they aren't with us.

Smiling - you poor thing. Hopefully next mothers day will be a happy occasion. (Although I am looking forward to some time to lie in and be away from dd tomorrow.) One of my friends lost a baby during childbirth which was heartbreaking. She always says she is a mum but her little girl died. I don't know how she is as strong as she is.

Hope everyone had a good mother's day. I finally had a good sleep and the lie - in and breakfast in bed has helped me feel like a normal person. Didn't manage to get away from dd but she was in a really good mood again and being really lovely again so I did enjoy being with her. However, she did steal my mother's day teddy but gave me last year's one which she took as hers.

Smiling - hope you got through today.

Glad you had a good mothers day lig

I'm ok have actually been fine today, I was obviously just overtired and emotional yesterday. DP and I have spent the day just relaxing and making the most of it being just the 2 of us.

39 weeks today