The 17th home for lovely upduffed viroids - Toni Braxtons, pumping, arse rain and hospital parking charges.... its all going on in the JS Grads Fred!!

[RPopz]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 17th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 33rd outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Lovely names!!! You all have very good taste :)

popz I also have a tricky dad and have found over the years that I can't be blamed for 'not including him' as long as I keep him in the loop. So I update when necessary but at an arm's length. I think a card with a note would be nice, to let him know your due date perhaps and sign off in way that says you've let him know and he's involved as grandfather but that you're not asking permission/approval.

Does that make sense?

thanks for the positive votes for Emine - I was worried that it was a bit too unusual, so feel a bit better about it now!

Rpopz That's a hard situation. I have a similar situation with my dad (in that we have virtually no contact...but he does know I'm upduffed). I completely understand the not wanting to phone, so personally I think the card is fine. Maybe with a short note (as la suggests too) just to say that you're doing well and scans have been good, due date is XX etc.? But that depends on how much you want to share with him I guess. I think I'm going to send my dad a card this xmas to tell him that our 20-week scan went well and that we're having a girl. Like you, I really don't want to phone him, but (like la) I kind of feel like I have to keep him in the loop. Up to him to reply if he wants to then!

popz I think I will be in the same boat. I have not spoken to my dad since finding out, not that I would tell him yet, but I speak to him so rarely (and it is always on his terms, so when he wants/ needs something) I think I am just going to send him a Christmas card with the news. Btw I try to meet up with him but he is always too vague/ difficult about it that I just give up. I know I will have to let him know before other family members as the only time he moans to me is when he finds something out from my cousins via facebook

la have you told your dad?

Yeah I think I'll have to put a letter in the card - just signing off with it might be a bit too much of a bombshell approach! He's always been a bit funny about keeping in touch... he seems to think the onus is all on me and my sisters and he shouldn't have to make any effort. Things kinda improved for our wedding and shortly after... but this year he's just lost the plot again. Eurgh.

Don't be daft lass xx
As crap as it is. Life goes on. My dad understood this. Xx
I've just had my growth scan, baby is bang on target, slightly bigger had than average, but I do too, so not a huge surprise!
Also I now know the sex.. Won't post it yet in case husband randomly checks this, but I've bought him a foot shaped balloon with the 'its a... ' slogan on and stick it in the Christmas tree for him to see when he gets in...
I'll let you know

Bigger than average head that is

Do we have the same dad popz?

I have just looked at my phone. I have tried to call my dad once per week for the last two months. The last time I spoke to him he wanted a lift somewhere (at 6am on a Monday morning) but I refused as I had to be in work early. He is still getting over it.

He doesn't answer his phone when he has the hump. The last text he responded to (I asked him over for Sunday lunch a couple of weeks ago) he said no as he had sky coming to fix his box on the Monday he lives a 10/15 mins drive away.

I just don't have the energy (or thick skin) to keep trying with him. It's his loss.

Ah lovely news min how are you feeling?

Ooh min i'll be checking back to hear the news!

On the dad's front I haven't spoken to mine for almost 6 years. He told me it was my life and why should he be interested in seeing me get married, have babies etc. So I told him not to bother. He did try to get in touch but not to apologise, just wanted to make out it had never happened. I spent years beating myself up about my relationship with him and trying constantly to have a relationship with him, but it just hurt and upset me. Cutting him out is the best thing I could have done. I was thinking about sending him a letter when I get pregnant but to be honest he's had nothing to do with nephew for last 12 months and has never met my niece so I think i'd be setting myself up for more disappointment. I see how it must be difficult if you are in each others lives though. I agree card/letter is fine though in the circumstances. Maybe send scan picture?

urgh! Ladies I think I'm broken, the back pain lasted for 2 solid hours this morning and every time I took the hot water bottle away I got waves of pain down my back. It's happened a couple of times since, both times when I've left the summery type heat of my house :S The pharmacist reckons it's pretty unusual symptoms to be Branson Hicks, DD keeps stealing my hot water bottle and I want to cry :'(

It's not your kidneys is it Boo? I had a fairly insignificant UTI when expecting DS and it travelled to my kidneys which caused me horrible pain. Are there any out of hours/walk in centres you could go to? Hope it improves soon

A letter with the card sounds like the best approach Popz

Definitely GP in the morning boo - kidney infections can be nasty.

Aw Min how exciting!! Can't wait to hear how he reacts

Haha, bless you Fleur - I've never made that much effort tbf. I send cards and text occasionally - apart from when he's doing his stupid "I'm not texting you unless you text me first" act. Which is what he's currently doing, hence why we haven't spoken since May. I figure if he actually wanted to speak to me, it wouldn't matter whose "turn" it was. He got remarried a while back and had another child, which is basically all he's bothered about now.

Families eh.

Ok, all are informed!
Husband just kept saying 'nooo, noooo, never' in his boro twang and promptly got on the phone to everyone! He's over the moon and is now saying I can't wait till SHE ia here.
That's right mini min is a girl.

I'm so bloody excited xx

Aww min yay that's lovely! congrats!

Ah lovely news min are you revealing names?

I'm hoping that it will go do one tonight, else I'll get MiL to bring over some pee sticks in the morning (ex nurse, it seems like the sort of thing she'd have handy), if she confirms an infection then I'll have to go to the walk in centre as my place probably won't have a nurse available till Monday >.<

yay min!!

Fab news min!!! Remind me why you had to go for growth scan? We're DEFFO on for boys Popz.

boo phone midwife or GP tomorrow. I also think it sounds like uti. I am waiting to hear if I have one although I think I might just be being a massive hypochondriac. It's probably because I keep forgetting to take my iron so I feel shit and then start panicking that I have a million things wrong with me. I do def have thrush though which is pissing me off.

All this stuff about your Dads is making me sad. My Dad wasn't much of a conversationalist but he was great and would always have been around for me. I hope your news is well received Popz.

Question for those people with or about to have little girls. What word have you taught them or are you going to teach them for their ahem 'intimate areas'? I'm all for being factual but not sure I can bring myself to teach my two year old 'vulva' or 'vagina'!

Sorry Boo, x-posted.

Awwww a wee girl min, how lovely!!!! Xxx

Can we do a stats update? Does anyone have the list?

Congrats min that's lovely :)

haha La are you trying to work out your odds?

wil I think I'd just go with what I was taught which was "bits" lol! although dhs nickname for down there has always been "secret" lmao.

Hmm wil I hadn't thought Bout it, I will teach her the proper name for it, but might also say we normally call them her bits, or something....

Scan all good I'll post a pic in the FB group this evening. Twelve weeks exactly, normal looking NT and we saw it waving at us :)

Definitely get looked at in the morning, Boo - you don't want it getting worse.

Congrats on the pink news, Min :)