Due-in Due-ly - July thread 2, where the beans turn into beansprouts

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Hello all had a go at a very naff name! Hop across!

Not sure about prem but breech
Dnan had breech baby 1 Duncle
Dmum had breech baby 1 - dsis
Then me head up
Dsis had baby 1 breech (cs)
I had baby 1 head up
So no idea for baby 2. (Though expecting similar to 1st.
If only it was the fathers side - they Sil and Mil out within hours
But at least i escaped the 10lb babies on both sides :)
Def getting a GTT as dsis just had a 9lb baby and i have pcos

I'm having another ELCS, have to for medical reasons but loved my last one.

zampa, I was the same at worrying over birth for my first, you'll get it a lot however, I am going to fly the flag for fabulous labours - I went in with dd at 330am, no drugs, not even gas and air, just used the breathing I'd learnt in pregnancy yoga and she was born at 1118 with help from forceps It's tiring but entirely doable

I'm just hoping I get there in time - think I'll be heading off at the slightest twinge!

I live 30 miles away from the hospital I want to give birth in (where I work, where my Mum who is an ob-gyn works) so guessing we will be speeding down the motorway as soon as there is the smallest sign! :) and not bump into any work colleagues on the way in

Congrats to all those with good scan news. Can't wait for mine in about a week and a half....

Zampa don't worry about birth stories, you'll hear loads of them from people trying to scare you (why do people think that is a good idea?!) but the honest truth is it's really not that bad, and I had two 'difficult' births so I'm not the two-hour sneeze birth type! I might have to have an elcs/ induction this time round tho due to issues with my last one.

I've been feeling really nauseous all day today, was actually sick for the first time and felt like I was going to puke again the whole way round the supermarket. All the food just looked so unappetising and was making me gag. Also had a nap, feel like the pregnancy symptoms have really kicked up a gear now. Although they are probably being made worse by having to look after two very whingy toddlers! So glad they are finally asleep!

6+5

Does anyone else have to make the choice between c-section and vbac? I know it's early days but I am in a real quandary about which to go for. I had an elcs last time as dd was breech and by all accounts it was an amazing experience compared to emcs.
I have been feeling sick for days now but was actually sick this morning a little bit. I always find that brushing my teeth is when it all goes wrong.
I am really struggling with food, which I did last time as well. I am finding it hard to find things I can manage and things that work one day won't necessarily work the next.
Congrats to all those with successful scans, sorry for the empty sac though

Lordy - I was going to tell family with copies of the scan photo, but then my friend suggested something better. So Im going to make biscuits and ice them with 'Grandpa - July 2015', 'Auntie - July 2015' etc. Also have time to do them after the scan on 24th Dec, as dont want to do them before, just in case.

Oooh wildfire, that's like I announced my pg to my folks! I made cupcakes with "bun in oven" "preggo" "nanny" and "grandad" on them. Will try and find a pic....

Thanks cat and broody!

I think I'm going to give hypnobirthing a go and it might help DP with his fear of blood and gore!

zampa I truly believe the more relaxed you are the better your labour, all the ladies I know who had dream labours are very chilled and calm, unlike myself

I remember in antenatal class that labours not painful, its uncomfortable

im loving all these announcement ideas, I ended up showing my mum the stick I peed on and bursting into tears and I told my OH over the phone due to him living miles away.

These are the cakes I made for my folks when we announced our pg with dd.

zampa wasn't trying to scare you! That's just what happened. Wish I could have had it another way, believe me no one wants to go through that but it's very rare and I am actually the only person I know who has had eclampsia in labour. My Csection with my daughter was the most amazing experience ever. I had planned for vbac but the choice was taken out of my hands. The actual labour part with my DS (before seizures) was absolutely fine, I was coping perfectly with gas and air and ready to start pushing.

I love catching up with all these conversations and everybody's news. This week, I've been struggling to decide how to manage my workload as I begin to feel more rubbish, tired and pregnant - I'm self-employed as a private tutor, so I have a weird schedule that involves lots of quite firmly-scheduled commitments. I know that lots of people have genuinely demanding and tiring jobs, but mine is only sometimes over-the-top tiring, and it's difficult to know how to handle it because while I'm technically in control of my workload, it's not so easy to just have a sick-day! Monday was a 12-hour day with lots of long walks between lessons, during which tummy cramps and most of my other pregnancy symptoms kept getting worse. (Standing in my students' doorway, googling miscarriage symptoms before ringing the bell.) Waiting half an hour in 0 degrees for a delayed train at 8.30pm, I decided that this was definitely too much! Plus my GP said yesterday that if walking makes me feel unwell, I shouldn't walk at all -so taxis to my pupils' houses, I suppose…!

If you were self-employed (or maybe you are), where would you draw the line? I'm considering the following boundaries:

1. Not working after 8pm
2. Cancelling a lesson if I think I'm liable to throw up
3. Allowing for a 30-minute break for eating after each 90m-2h of teaching. (I find that if I teach so much I miss meals, it's really bad!)
4. Asking more of my students to come to me, or to give me a lift home after a lesson
5. Paying taxi fares instead of walking/bus if it saves a lot of time and energy, and I still make an overall profit on the lesson.
6. Cancelling those students where I have to travel for an hour on two buses, teach for an hour and then travel home for an hour!

I think it all seems to depend on a bit of a gamble about how long I'll likely feel awful - if I feel better in a few weeks, then I won't want to have lost any students for good. But then of course there's the fact that I probably don't want to be doing a 50-hour working week when a baby is born anyway, so cutting back now might not be a bad thing…

Sorry to ramble on - any suggestions or opinions welcome!
(5+3)

Lizzitea I think you sound very switched on and your points seem very reasonable (especially no. 6).

Number3 TBH I think the more aware I am of possible outcomes, the more I can plan and so as a consequence, I am calmer. So, thanks!

Has anyone discussed Strep B testing with their midwife? Is it something the NHS offer?

Hi lizzi. I'm self employed and although my job isn't physically demanding and I work from home, I do need to be focused and mentally alert in order to do it the best I can. I've found in the afternoons, I'm just a mess so I've started working from about 830 until lunchtime, stop for something to eat then if I feel I can, I'll continue until I'm past it and doing a rubbish job! In your position, it's not as easy as that but I'd definitely consider asking students to come to you or meeting in a convenient midway venue and before 8pm. How do you feel about explaining to them why? Do you want to tell anyone this early or rather wait? I'm sure they'll stay with you whatever you choose

In so glad I have this thread to read through when insomnia and cramps hit!

pipbin and naty I agree it feels as though they just wanted any excuse to force me to move and as mentioned their policy is surely discriminatory as it means those who have been married a week can register but those with longstanding partners can't. DH keeps reassuring me that the Gps are fab otherwise I would have moved and the fact it's only 5 mins away from home.

Also the birthing stories are very interesting read although I am so anxious about the birth even though I know it's along way to go yet.

Also lizzi I think they're fantastic boundaries to start off with.

Had my first scan this afternoon at 6+6, and there's two in there! I knew it was a possibility (what with the double embryo transfer and all) but it was still startling to see two little blobs on the screen and see two little heartbeats.

The doctor did say though that one is a fair bit smaller than the other and the heartbeat is slower - which he stressed could mean absolutely nothing at this stage, and it could quite possibly catch up. Or it could be that it just isn't meant to be.

So I'm booked in for another scan at 8+6 to see how things are progressing and if it is going to be viable or not.

Morning ladies. Had a bad night last night. OH went footy and came in about 9ish, I was comatose on the settee. We had to go shopping damn you 24 hour tesco as I am off to Newcastle to work for a couple of days and he needs supplies for him and the kids to keep going. He is actually step dad, so I massively appreciate him looking after the kids.
Anyway, when I was woken up on the settee I immediate felt sick as a dog, walking round tesco I just didn't feel right, horrible pains in my stomach and feeling absolutely like I was going to pass out. I came home and went virtually straight to bed. I was having horrible dreams in the night and this morning my sore boobs have gone but I do feel nausea?
I have a 4 hour trip to Newcastle at lunchtime and a Christmas party this evening, all I want to do is lay in my bed and cry. Not going is not an option as my employer has paid out travel / hotel etc. I am so paranoid something will go wrong whilst I am there.
POAS this morning as I am ao worried my baby is not there anymore, the test is nice as strong although I guess that doesn't mean anything :(

Oh wow orange twins! How amazing

Need to get up to go to work don't want to move feel like I will throw up and my tummy is all full of gas ugh. I think the morning sickness has arrived.

5+6

Orange twins, very exciting.

Number. Is it worth calling the EPU for advice? It would put your mind at rest.

Very dizzy today. You know when you are pissed and the whole room is spinning? That.
5+6

Congratulations orange

Urgh, work. I need to be there in half an hour but am still in bed, again.

My job is really busy and stressful. I usually thrive on it but for the past week I really cannot cope with it.

I am covering some leave too and have additional stress from that but whereas usually I pull my sleeves up and get on with it, now I just want to hide away and cry .

I have zero confidence in my abilities and am shaking at the thought of the next two days in the office.

Calling in sick is not an option.

Congratulations to all those who've had early scans!

I'm very jealous of those without MS....it's hit me quite hard this week and fleur I totally sympathasise! I am at home wondering how I am going to get through today and tomorrow, and then next week (which is a really busy week for work). DH is covering a small amount of my work but I am now wondering if it's time to tell the boss and see if there's anything they can do to reduce the work load. Taking time offs tricky and involves loads of work planning lessons anyway so not ideal.

Wow orange! How exciting for you!

6+1 here. Nausea at night is so bleurgh but with a toddler and a few businesses to run, I'm not going to complain because I'm pretty sure it's going to all kick off soon with full on MS (and I can't wait because it is a fantastic symptom!!)

Morning ladies. Got my initial doctors appt today, and strangely I feel nervous about it! Any specific things I should bring up?
I am having sharp twangs on my right side, hoping it's all part of the process rather than anything scary.

I'm 4+4. But after this appt I'm considering telling work as I work in the nhs and the risks of infection/injury are a bit higher in my job so think I need to tell. Even though I'd rather not until I've had a scan.