Due-in Due-ly - July thread 2, where the beans turn into beansprouts

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Hello all had a go at a very naff name! Hop across!

oh good I'm glad im not the only one having rare steak and camabert I haven't had wine because it's made me feel queasy but I'm sure that will change! Thanks for the book recommendation zampa. All the advice seems so...patronising.

Sorry wantto I wrote that before I read your post. I'm definitely not defending him but DH thinks scan pictures are creepy so maybe it is something some men struggle with even more so x

Maybe touch he just has weird logic IMO!

I agree! Hope your ok and not toostressed

want my DH spent the scans for DC1 playing on his phone. Now the DS is one he is absolutely infatuated.

I think some men just don't "get" pregnancy. Hugs, I know how upsetting it can be.

I am afraid to start the ball rolling with the doctors. I am due on my period today but got a positive test 4 days ago, therefore I am just 4 weeks. I have had 2 prev mc, 1 at 6 weeks and 1 at 8 wks so feel a bit like burying my head in the sand for another 4 weeks :/

Thanks blaze he has just said sorry for upsetting me but not for being indifferent about the scans! He says he will see hem cos he's coming to the appt but he isn't bothered all he wants to know is if baby and me are ok and he is not excited about seeing the baby. I don't get it!aybe just men. I think he honks I only cried cps of hormones but I was so upset - I thought he didn't care! I think he is just being a man though and lookin at it all logically with no emotion I am hoping that will change when he sees heart beating (hopefully I all ok)

Fingers crossed. Good to hear he's coming x

Hi ladies,

This thread does move fast! Hope everyone is feeling well.

wantto your DH sounds quite similar to mine... He keeps saying he's there for support but his not interested in how I count each day and check progress using google and apps look forward to each appointment and scan. He actually said as long as you and baby are fine that's what concerns me...but I want him to get excited about each stage, each milestone...maybe I'm being precious and hormonal and it is my first but I think it's important. Then I remember different men react differently.

Also earlier on I wanted to at least walk through the baby aisle in Asda just to have a nose and as we have plenty of nephew and nieces it would have not been out of the ordinary. He refused. This nearly made me cry!... I blame it on hormones and DH hates every kind of shopping

Also ladies is it just the receptionists at my GP that are very unhelpful or is that across the board?...being told I have no right to be registered there when I'm gasping for a GP/MW appointment.

lewaney are our DHs related? Sounds exactly like mine! definitely didn't do the baby aisle in supermarket thing and have same reaction

Touch I can't recommend Oster's book enough. It doesn't give advice as such but gives you all the tools to make decisions you're comfortable with.

Wantto My DP won't be able to look at scans (or be there at birth!) due to extreme squeamishness. Anything to do with innards and he'll keel over! It's upsetting and I try to think he would if he could but part of me thinks he should just deal!

stone, gosh, that was a bit abrupt of your diabetes guy! Talk about peeing on someone's fire! I'm sure you'll be fine hun, just put him out of your mind xx and do as butler has been told and stay away from dr google (best advice ever where mc worries are concerned!!)

fleur, I remember having the same convos with my dh and mw/hospital last time around. Naty is right, the NT scans do need to be done between 11 and 13 weeks so hopefully that should help your dh out a little.

want, men are a completely different breed to us when it comes to babies and pregnancy. They've no idea what it feels like, how we feel or how our life changes at the very second we get that second pink line. My dh didn't want to look at the monitor when I was having my scan but he did towards the end and it made it a little more real for him when he saw dd move and wave to us. However, I know from talking to our NCT friends that many dp/dh are the same and feel funny about pregnancy; they're not the pregnant ones and so it only becomes properly real when they see and hear the crying bubba after being born. I know it's tough and he has to try and understand your feelings and know that he should go to your scans to support you if nothing else but I'd just say to bear in mind that as a man he's got different perspectives and thoughts. And you always have us, lovely

wantto I think they might be! Haha

I also bought advent calendars for me and DH for the fun of it...upon getting my BFP I started my advent calendar...what a way to count away 25 days of pregnancy... DH also refuses to be a part of my advent/pregnancy calendar countdown. so I'm eating his as well as mine

On the food thing, I am being completely boring and following the guidelines to the letter. I am pretty sure an odd bit of Brie or a visit to the salad bar at sainsburys wouldn't hurt but I would never be able to forgive myself if I miscarried again so am not going to risk it. It's nine months out of my life and I shan't die if I don't have a glass of prosecco, runny eggs or nibble of chorizo however, I will have a cheeseboard and deli meats delivered to me as soon as labour is done

Sorry for spamming the board girls, I've such dreadful memory and can't remember what I want to say then post and remember

Oh lewany, I forgot to say earlier that YES my GP receptionists are shocking. So bloody rude and unhelpful. I had to bite my tongue the other day or I'd have actually said "oh I'm so effing sorry for making you do your effing job!" (And I don't normally swear because of the copycat toddler!) I called them at 1755 and they close at 6, automated voice said I was fourth in queue, then second, then got through at 1758 and they slammed the phone down!!! Tried again and they did the same. In two minds whether to complain to GP actually....

headlesschicken I LOVE spreadsheets! I've just updated it. Can you see?
want sorry your exam was stressful, hope you are having a nice lie down in the dark

Hello all, please can I join? I am 35 and preggers with #1. Due 24 July. Currently 5 +5 and experiencing quite a lot of cramps and mild stabby pains. Bit worried about that. V mild waves of nausea, mostly in the pm. But none today. Boobs haven't changed at all! Terrified something will go wrong ??.

I agree broody I'm trying to be sensible with my eating..emphasis being on trying.

That sounds so annoying and cheeky!! Upon BFP I was told to book in at 8 weeks. But the concern for me is some sharp cramps and the fact it's my first I wanted some advice on vitamins and diet etc. Also a big worry is that I've only recently moved down to watford so I've not even met my Gp yet.

Finally went in today to book an appointment as I couldn't get through on the phones...for the receptionist to tell me they're now a closed book surgery and are not accepting new patients and as I registered a few weeks ago..I would have to go elsewhere!!...the woman was so patronising. Especially after I told her I'm pregnant and can't be wasting time being passed around. Called the correct nhs department to be told that I have every right to be at the same practice as DH/father of baby is registered there!... A lot of huffing and puffing from the receptionist when I relayed this and finally got my appointment!!
Sorry for writing out my life story ladies...but needed to get that pavlova off my chest.

Yeah shiv it worked!

Oh my goodness lewaney!! That's disgraceful!! Same as you, we moved house recently and I've not met my GP yet either so tbh this has not been a fantastic intro to my new surgery at all. Hoping the mw will be lovely so I don't need to bother with those vile women anymore.

Interesting that a few of you also have your mw coming to your house to do your booking in appts. I only got that at the end of my pg with dd so I was taken aback when she said she would come to my house on a Sunday afternoon for the booking in! Good taken aback though. Our local nhs runs three teaching hospitals across the city so I'm prepared this time for students to be present at every appt, which isn't a problem unless they try to take bloods because I've really awkward veins in the arm they prefer

broody i have awful veins no way could i have a student try.
3 wks ago the nurse had to give up- after stabbing me in mid arm painfully and rooting around lots.
I went in next day and older nurse used a syringe thing to draw it and transfer to the vacuum. Thinking vacuum doesnt work for me. Amazing might have to get myself some.
pipbin thanks, when is your scan.?

Oh you're making me panic with your talk of blood tests! tbh the idea of a blood test is something that's actually put me off getting pregnant - i realise that sounds totally ridiculous but it's actually pretty true. I seem to have a phobia about my inner arms and coupled that with an injection issue that started about 13 years ago when I had two jabs for going away on the same day and had to get a taxi back to work. A couple of years later I fell down the stairs after an injection at the dentists... so I'm petrified about blood tests. I've never had one.
Even when I broke my ankle, they kept me on gas and air cos I nearly deafened everyone in triage with my protests over a canula going in whilst i was conscious...
I'm not going to cope well, am I?!

7 weeks today, although I think my DD is actually 16 July not 14th as per our list, cos of my cycle length.

That is a good idea to have a spreadsheet headlesschicken247. It will be much easier to see how everyone is progressing on there.

I would add self to spreadsheet, but cant. How do you edit it?

badidea I am the same re canulas and blood tests! When I was admitte with food poisoning a few years back I cried the whole time they were putting the canula in! Blood tests aren't so bad, I just think that it is better than an injection ( which would cause me to faint) oh dear I don't think I will be a good pregnant patient!

Early start for me, off to London for a course. Too early!