April 2015 thread 5: where we hit the half way point and determine the sexes

[TheBooMonster]

Hi Everyone.

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Thanks Oneday, I'll make sure I check it out in John Lewis when I start looking properly in January. x

Hmm had my tea at 6.30 and now feels like I haven't eaten at all. Just hopped on the scales and I've put on 8lbs wish it would pile on this easy normally. Took me 6months to put on half a stone last time I tried. Going to route through the cupboards for something else, it's a toss up between a bowl of cereal or sticking some chips on.

Just joined the fb group btw.

Welcome, Squidge, due date buddies with Siarie and me. DS was late so I may end up in May.

I had a nursing chair with DS, it was fabulous, highly recommend. Advice from me is if possible, get one that rocks, swivels and reclines, has pockets, and a footstool, and is well-padded. I sold it as we moved back from overseas, but I will definitely be getting another one.

Re guessing, 99% of people guessed I was having a girl with my first, but he is a boy! (We chose not to find out until he was born.)

The royals won't choose the name we have chosen for our DD's name, but there is a chance they will pick something that could have the same nickname. Here's hoping not!

I Deleted my Facebook account so ill still be here :)
I think on the breastfeeding front I'm going to go with expressing and giving it in a bottle. I'd like DH to be involved in the feeding and also want the flexibility that it's not tied to always being me, hopefully making night feeds and potential babysitting and plane journeys a bit easier. Probably won't use formula until it's older or I have to go to work. I wasn't breaSt fed as far as I know, certainly not after a few months old anyway as I know that's when my mum left me (don't worry there's no hard feelings)
I think I added my stats to the other thread but I haven't figured out copy and paste if someone could do it for me :)
25, #1, EDD 15TH APRIL

Still not felt any movement yet, or maybe I'm just not that perceptive. Looking forward to 20 week scan so I can see marble and that he/she is ok. I'll probably regret saying this but I look forward to when I can actually feel the movements from the outside

18+3

I have a middle name but didn't like it because it seemed that everybody had it. Louise must have been a popular middle name in 1989! My dad said they chose it coz it went with everything.
DH also has a middle name which was the name of the baby that was also in the special care baby unit with him which I though was very sweet.
We've chosen middle names, it's the first names that are hard!
Oh I never thought about the royals, wonder if they will find out the sex..

DD has two middle names - her first is mine, my mums, my grandma's, great grandma's etc. The second is DPs mums name, she died in 2010. We can't agree on any names Boy or girl.

Just be careful Hidingthefear, the recommend you stick to breast only for 6 weeks due to nipple confusion. Expressing can also be tiring when you've fed quite a few times that day anyway. You will find what suits you and the baby once it's here though. I expressed but only when I wanted to go out or when back to work with ds1, I fed the rest of the time myself and I was lucky mine took to bottles well once past 6 weeks.

I've just read the same advice re breastfeeding cinnamon. My poor OH looked really disappointed that he wouldnt be able to do any bottle feeds with expressed milk until 6wks. might have a look and see if there are any super duper 'natural feel' teats and bottles out there. I really would like him to be able to get hands on. Though all that is aaages away so wont be getting too het up.

Thats lovely to hear nev. At the mo OH seems distanced to it all, think the 20wk scan will remind him whats happening and that we're halfway through, and is worried about feeling like a spare part. I forgot about the bathing, playing and dressing - theres actually loads for him to do!

Hi, I've just asked to join the Facebook group. My pic is of me and my gorgeous boy, he's wearing a blue sunhat!

DH is perfectly hands on, super close with DS, but did zero feeds as I exclusively Bfed DS til six months, then BFed on demand. The men can cuddle, do nappies, bathe them, play with them - feeding is such a small part of it, and as Neville says, the most important thing is what's best for mum and baby. A fleshy nipple is much nicer than a plastic teat, the flesh on flesh snuggle, holding the baby close. I really wouldn't bother worrying about a father-child bond. My DH felt helpful fetching me drinks and food when I was nursing, or a blanket, or a pillow etc.

I hope Will and Kate don't use the name we eventually pick but I don't think it would make me change my mind, maybe I'll feel differently closer to the date. We have finally had a proper discussion about names for the first time since we've been away and have agreed on a good number of potential names for both sexes. Doubt we will get to narrowing the lists down until after we find out the sex as DH is fairly useless about being organised before he needs to be. Think we will definitely go for one middle name though - I have ideas but will depend on what goes with the first name. I know DH has said he's less bothered about middle names but we'll see if that changes as time goes by.

DH has surprised me recently with how excited he is about things. He always wanted children but I was definitely the one who wanted them sooner and I thought he might be a bit slower to get excited, but he's being very lovely and seems quite amazed now my bump has started to emerge. Can't wait til he can start feeling movements!

Trying to catch up - slightly worried that the speed the thread moves, I won't have actually hit the halfway point before we're on the the next one

We have a name for a girl and a couple for a boy - I worry about them being picked by Will & Kate, but hopefully, as I'm due at the end of April, they'll have already had their baby and announced by then. Funny the things that I worry about it - perhaps it's less scary to worry about names than the big things like the birth and how to actually look after the baby

We've now told friends and family about the pregnancy, and I've told work. Feels a relief to be honest and so far I haven't had any unwarranted advice.

I think that DP is also a bit worried about not being involved in feeding for a while/bonding with baby. I suspect it's because his friend's daughter is so clingy to her mum, and went through a stage of crying whenever the dad held her. DP is also super excited though, and I think he'll be fine.

Had my 16 week appointment this week - all bloods etc fine, and got to hear the heartbeat

hiding, my middle name is also Louise - I was born in 1980 and SO many of my friends have it as a middle name.

16+3

squatting I have my scan at 20 weeks and then another midwife appointment at 24 weeks. After that, I think it's the same as yours, but I don't have my notes with me.

(I should probably start having my notes with me )

I am under consultant care so I have a million appointments...

It seems to vary so much depending on what area you're in! I had a booking in appointment and then the next one I had was at 18 weeks.

I'm under Consultant Led Care and I've had a scan at 8 and 13 weeks and will be having one on Monday (20 weeks). Unfortunately due to my medical condition I need scans at 23, 28, 32, 34 and 36. I know I'm "lucky" to be able to see baby more often but I'd much rather know I'm going to have a healthy and safe pregnancy if that makes sense.

But I still have a midwife appointment as usual booked in for 24 weeks (Christmas week!)

Mel0Drama hope you're meeting goes well and you get something lovely for yourself :)

I'm currently wearing PJs at work for Children in Need... Can't complain - very comfortable in current circumstances!

I had my 16 week appt this week (and heard the heartbeat which was great, as still not feeling anything) and now I won't see the midwife until 25 weeks, but have been told to book a GP appointment for around 21 weeks and they will check my heart and lungs - this is certainly a new thing since my last pregnancy, but good to know they are being thorough. I don't have any heart or lung issues, they do it for all pregnant ladies at this surgery now apparently.

i've just applied to join the facebook group, can someone add me please? can it be made secret soon though pls?