April 2015 thread 5: where we hit the half way point and determine the sexes

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Like I said earlier on this thread our dd has thankfully been a good night time sleeper. I absolutely would not have coped with a bad sleeper being so poorly. I wonder if she had instincts for this and knew to "behave"? As if newborns can choose to behave! But I do sometimes wonder.

We started a bed time routine when she was about 6 weeks old. I'm sure it really helped. As others have said if she isn't asleep by 8 she can't get the 11hrs she needs since we have to be out of the door to nursery at 7.15. I've been lazy with times this week since I'm on annual leave and so she's waking at nearly 8... Got to try to fix this before Tuesday otherwise the poor thing will be exhausted!

Dd is 18 months old. We used to do bath, bottle in rocking chair, short cuddle to burp then bed. Since about a month ago we have changed it - switched to quilt not sleeping bag so it's more like a big bed, and ditched the bottle and switched it for a mug of milk. Its a more grown up bed time now. Tea is at about 6.30 (nursery give her a tea at 3.30 too!). She has a big bath at about 7.30 (no longer in the baby bath!) which she loves. She has a story read by one of us while sitting on the other's knee usually, so that it's easier to help with the mug (though she's getting pretty good now!). then quick cuddle and into bed by about 8, in theory. We use the same words every night - night night, sleep tight, love you - and she says night night back and seems not to complain. She usually has a big grin on her face like it's a game

If dh can get home early enough he gets about an hour and a half with her. It's just the way life is sadly. If she stayed up with us she wouldn't be able to function at all having to go to day care. It would be lovely in some ways to have her on our timetable like freedom and go to bed and get up all together. But I do value the time dh and I have together after she is in bed and think it's important for our relationship (when he isn't catching up on work and I'm not falling asleep!) Plus, when would we clean up the kitchen?!

Dd goes to bed at 7. Dh gets home at 645 or so, so generally is home in time to read her a story and give her a cuddle before bed. He gets her up in the morning at7 and we are lucky that he doesn't have to leave until about 745 so we get some family time in the morning.

Every family is different, but I was delighted when dd learnt to settle eventually and started going to bed at seven. Partly too because for the first two years of her life, dh was doing a part time masters on top of his job so didn't get home until 1030pm during the week and wasn't around at all at the weekend. Thus critical for me to finish my working day and be able to relax / go to bed!

misty sorry to hear work are still messing you round with pay! Reminds me a bit if my last job, when I was promoted no one could agree on my wage (never got a new contract with a definite number either) so I could tell which member of head office had processed my pay that month by the hourly rate I got on the pay packet. It would vary between £6.50 an hour and £7.50 an hour and a few points between (this is when minimum wage was something like £5.85) but I'd have been fuming if I'd been underpaid as we were planning the wedding at the same time as buying baby things! At least hr will talk to you, I was tersely told to get my manager or admin to ring them last time I made the mistake of calling hr at my current place >.

I have a huge urge to make mince pies... is this nesting? Or just festivity?! I didn't do much nesting last time, felt too rubbish I think... But this time I want to clean the house and stuff. Trouble I'm only half doing it then getting fed up but still wanting it finished with no impetus to actually pick up the vacuum cleaner!!!

daholster my Mum asked me if I was nesting yesterday because this week I have tidied a cupboard in the living room, the medicine cupboard, wrote all the Christmas cards, wrote 2015 calendar and took 3 bags to the charity shop. I don't know what's wrong with me but I seem to have found a burst of energy from somewhere.

Congratulations Cinnamon on having another boy, my cousins are 3 boys with 2 years between them and they are so close they are like a mini team even now that they are 42, 40 and 38!

Scan this afternoon, I'm nervous and excited

Oooooh good luck on your scan, Wineandchoccy, mine seems ages away still! MIL has DD for the day today, now I'm not working I've made Fridays housework day. I've not actually started yet , but planning to give the front room a good old clear out and if I have time in the afternoon once I've done that, I'm definitely going to make those mince pies daholster just mentioned! YUMMY! Mmmm warm straight from the oven OK I'd better stop mumsnetting and get started then, hadn't I.

And despite texting my brother yesterday that we're having a boy and about his kidney not being quite right I have heard nothing from him. This is one of the things that worries me about having boys later in life :(

Daholster I feel the need to make mince pies with DD but I can't actually stand them so no idea where that is coming from. In general I am so far from nesting, I can't be bothered to clean the house at all, still got Wednesday nights pizza plate in the sink! haven't done any washing since Tuesday which is still sat in the machine (going to need washing again) and desperately need to go food shopping as the fridge is bare! My ironing basket is an avalanche too but I can't seem to motivate myself to get it sorted and then I start thinking why the hell should I? There is another adult in our house not just me. So I'm going to see how long that plate stays in the sink. It's a matter of principle now, not that I'm lazy or anything
DD is 3&1/2 and in the last 4 months has become a nightmare for bedtime and staying in her own bed. We have resorted to putting a gate back on her room so she can't get out. She wailed at it 3 times last night. "I don't want to be in my bed" I still miss the days she used to wake up in the morning and shout she was stuck (behind the gate) bedtime is at 7pm but some days she doesn't even make it that far and falls asleep on the couch. Wake up used to be good too but now it's whatever time she feels the need and will not go back to bed. She even worked out how to change her grow clock to sun, so yells it's yellow at 5am when it clearly isn't! Too clever for her own good.

Lauren I read a thread on groclocks recently and apparently you can lock them to stop the DC's doing that. Just turned laptop on to put some background Christmas music on while I'm cleaning Couldn't not check this thread! Right... back to it...

Lauren my DD just ignores the groclock after a week or two of obedience. Now she marches in at whatever o'clock and announces the sun isn't up yet.

I would put the gate back on her room but I think by sheer force of will she would just climb over it. Also she needs to be able to get to bathroom.

Another 5:50am wake up this morning...

I'm sat in Costa drinking a hot chocolate, just had a beauty appointment and I've worked out my plan of action with my beauty therapist for when I start getting bigger. The things we girls do!

Hi all, im a bit late to the party and not very quick at keeping up with mumsnet!
I'm 22 weeks the coming Tuesday, due 9th April and he's kicking strong, but no visible bump, i just look like ive been enjoying extra cake!
Has anyone got there pram sorted yet? Ive got my heart set on one but DP family are pushing to find a second hand one :( as with everything else, they're wondeful and resourceful though.

Hi Nerdsgirl and welcome! Which pram was it that you're after?

I haven't got mine sorted yet, going to look and try out various types at John Lewis in January, then going to the Mother & Baby show in February to see if I can get a discount on the one I want.

You might be able to get a good deal online, or you could always try ebay or the facebook selling groups if it has to be a second hand one.

Best thing to do is to try out various types and then see if you can get a good deal or second hand version of the one you like.

Be firm, don't let them get you any old pram, you're the one that will have to push it! xxx

PS I should probably explain that this is my second baby and the reason I'm after a new pram is because I need a tandem. I did all the trying out the first time around, too! Luckily my parents bought me mine for me. xx

Hello nerds

Just had my 20wk scan, all good as far as sonographer could tell. Baby was being a little monkey and is current breech, sitting on it's legs. We don't want to find out the sex but the sonographer did say 'she' a couple of times, but maybe that's how they refer to all babies regardless of sex!

I did find out that I have an anterior placenta which may explain why I haven't felt more than a tiny bit of movement so far.

Off to work now, shattered! siarie that is just mean to tell us about your lovely relaxing day!

20+3

Congrats on your scan rusty! :)

Well I did hold back sharing a picture of my drink, just tucked into a nice Pret A Manger sarnie that I picked up. I was starting to feel sick so decided to come home and cosy up.

Did you get any pics of your scan? Xx

siarie I have to say I'm a bit jealous of your lifestyle... It sounds like a fairytale sometimes, a lovely one! Though I think, working or not relaxing will only last a little while longer... You just wait til your dd is 1 and trying to be an independent little lady! Then hot chocolates at Costa won't be so easy... I tried an eggnog latte at Starbucks and a sandwich with my daughter and a friend with her 17 month old boy on Wednesday. I lost pretty much all my sandwich to dd, there were raisins all over the floor, a noisy shouting each other's name contest between dd and df's ds, and a dance in our chairs competition. I had to go and buy another sandwich!

Enjoy the peace while it lasts...

(You will love the new way of things but in a totally different way, so make the most of what you have now!)

Dunno where my get up and go has got up and gone, still haven't cleaned anything or picked up the vacuum cleaner

Hi ladies!

cinnamon sorry to hear about the worry you've had. Though like a couple of others have said, I too had a friend with a LO with the same thing picked up at a scan and all worked out absolutely fine. I think it's relatively common?

4am wake up for me - dog with diarrhoea complete with blood. He's been really poorly all week (and since we rehomed him 4yrs ago he's been a regular at he vets) Full bloods run today and thankfully nothing nasty came up apart from an infection. Vet thinks he's had a nasty/potentially life threatening virus as a puppy that's not left him with a compromised immune system and also left him with the blindness. My poor baby. Lots of fusses for him today. I think I love him even more now but wow, what an emotional day.

On a happier note, we've bought a buggy! A new bugaboo chameleon 3 in navy with cream liners. My dream pram and was planning on looking at a reconditioned once but found a new one on eBay and negotiated £250 off the price!! Can't wait for it to arrive so we can start looking like weirdos walking around with an empty buggy so we can get the dog used to walking nicely with it.

siarie I too am very jealous of your updates! Though I think after a couple of weeks of not working the novelty would go. I would really miss my work as I love my job and feel like it's something for me. You're very fortunate to be in the position not to have to work though.

And congratulations rusty!

Oh my dd likes Starbucks don't get me wrong... It's just not peaceful!

Yes congrats rusty

Oneday your poor dog. I hope he feels better soon.

I'm a second hand fan nerdsgirl, they're often excellent condition and much cheaper! My mum didn't approve at all and so didn't have much to do with my big purchases.

Congratulations Rustyzilla! Mine is feet down too, doesn't matter at this stage :)

Apparently 1in100 OneDayLikeThis2013. Sorry to hear about your dog, they are such a worry :(

Ds2 loves it too SquattingNeville, he gets the kids hot chocolate and the marshmallow stick thing covered in chocolate. He's big enough to be quite quiet while there though and is much cheaper just me and him :)

Just trying to clean the bathroom. Feeling very sorry for myself. Got a thumping headache and feel like I am dragging myself from one corner of the little room to the next picking up rubbish, clothes, mess, toothpicks by the hundred (that's dh, it INFURIATES me that he doesn't put them - and cotton buds - in the bin!!!) And also I am starting to get pain around my stoma. it hurts when is stand up, hurts when I bend down, I feel like my insides might fall out. I'm a bit terrified of it to be honest, I have a bit of a hernia next to it but I'm not sure that is what is actually hurting. I need to lose weight to take some pressure off it I think, but I so fancy all the bad stuff I shouldn't! Put on 7lbs so far. So I've tied a scarf round it as tightly as I can for a bit of support, it helps a little.

I just feel cross and angry that it's the last day of my holiday and I feel rubbish. I want to do nice things but don't want to do things in a messy house so am a bit stuck really. It's hard work doing the cleaning and tidying especially with the headache.

I'm fed up

Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish, daholster. And sorry to hear about your dog, Oneday. for both of you.

I am halfway through cleaning the front room. Toy corner was getting out of hand so I decided to re-organise. Needed to borrow storage solutions from shoe corner so had to re-organise that, too. Toy corner and shoe corner now finished but front room, hallway and kitchen are all now a mess. I know it gets worse before it gets better, but I'm exhausted! Am just going to have to tidy as best I can and then collapse. No mince pie making for me.

Thanks @Bonjour! Well my 'if i won the lottery' pram choices are the Bugaboo Buffalo or Phil & Teds classic haha, but im in love with the Babystyle Oyster2. I had a little go of it in John Lewis and ive been keeping a look out for deals online.
It's not that i have an issue with second hand @cinnamon, a lot of my furniture is, and ive been gifted a heap of grows, clothes, accessories. I just want to have something new, and affordable. Hell my other halfs on about getting his first brand new non second hand car on finance, and so he understands what i mean. I just want to buy my first pram, this is my car haha, its my only big purchase, im being thrifty with everything else.