January 2015 Thread #9 - Crossing legs and fingers for the final stretch!

[KateTheHuman]

Welcome to the third trimester ladies!

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We have 2 cats which I love dearly but have to admit they drove me up the wall once I had had dd No change during pregnancy but once she had arrived they were both all over me and I found it really difficult as the little time I wasn't holding lo I really didn't want to be sat with a cat rubbing itself all over me. Was in a constant battle trying to keep them out of the cot/ moses basket/car sear etc etc. Think I was quite stressed all round really. Wasn't helped when they both got fleas and the house was infested and took ages to get rid of, the less said about that the better, I was really not feeling the love for them. But I am glad to say it resolved when dd was probably about 9 mnts, not that i had stopped loving them just noticed I was enjoying them again, we had all settled down a bit and got used to the new normal to some extent. Dd loves them now and although the feeling is not entirely mutual they put up with her affections as she learns to stroke them, it really is very cute!

Good luck for your scan cheshire! :)
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We had our scan this afternoon. Baby was head down so we couldn't get any pictures!
There is increased fluid around baby measuring 9.1cm at deepest. Not quite Polyhydramnios (which is from 10cm) but higher than they'd like. As a result I'm back in next Thursday to the day clinic for an afternoon of monitoring and scans and then again the week after. Then they'll decide what to do with me... More not knowing! If fluid is still raised they'll induce at 39w, if not then induction at 40w.
I'm a bit of a control freak so another 2 weeks of limbo isn't helpful!

Oh mad poor you... I hate it when a good plan goes to pot, especially when we are this tired.
cheshire everything crossed for you. Sorry it's all so rubbish.
It's Ds birthday today, I am so exhausted. Can't believe it's been a year though! Where has the time gone! I had a bit of a melt down earlier as I wanted to make Ds' cake while he napped. I couldn't find the cake tins or scales (we have just moved house) so I had a melt down and sat and cried whilst sat on the kitchen floor. Was quite funny really!
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dec wow your babies are going to be 13 months apart!
Dh and I were discussing when to have the next ( I know I know- this one isn't even safely here yet!)
Dh wants a few years gap and I was thinking 18 months! I want my kids all close together but aware that I'll have no sleep for 5 years!!!

Pesto everyone thinks that it was unplanned... It wasn't!! Many reasons behind it. Dh was ill a few years ago and we didn't know if we would be able to have one, let alone more. Also Ds was a very bad sleeper, he was quite poorly in and out if hospital for the first few months. It didn't put us off! We just decided to get the sleepless nights out if the way and Ds would have a playmate. I also had a terrible pregnancy with Ds so decided that I would rather be off anyway on maternity than end up off sick again. Thankfully this pregnancy has been a lot better. Finally, I want to get my career back on track after this maternity leave, so instead of doing back for a couple of years and then being off again we decided if it were possible then this way would be better for us. Ds is a crazy child, but amazing so I am (probably delusional) excited! Bring it on I say! I will re read this when I'm crying in 2 months because I can't cope!
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Aww sounds good
That's partly what I'm thinking ... Just with a few more months between them!
My bro and I are 12 months apart and we had the best of times growing up.
I want my kids to be close together in age.

I'm also thinking to get it all done and then go back to work in 5 years time. Have my own little nursery at home for 5 years!

Aww good luck, you'll be fine!

We've had this conversation too. We want 3 or 4 children... I imagine a 2 year gap between each as that's what I had, but DH has 16 month gaps and that's what he wants! Honestly, I don't mind as long as I (touch wood) get my babies but I guess we'll see how we find the newborn months with the first and then decide...

sk28 we originally wanted 4 and I haven't totally discounted it, but if we have anymore we will do the same again in 5or so years time and have 2 close together. I love being a mum, it's truly amazing, but I am and have always been very career driven too and so want to get back to that for a while first. When discussing this with some of my mummy friends, there was such a mixed response. Some want to stay at home, some want to do part time work, some want full time work again. It annoys me when people judge as I think everyone should be able to do what they want, I don't think there is a right or wrong. It's also frustrating when people are unable to do what they would like, be it stay at home (can't afford to) or go back to work full time (can't work childcare).

At the moment money isn't a worry so I can afford to be at home but when that decision is taken out of your hands it is sad and frustrating.
I would love to stay at home forever but I think I would go mad cz in laws live at the bottom of the road and are always around... And will be even more so when grandchild comes along.
I think I might need work as a distraction rather than financially!

I also am a big believer in each to their own and I feel really lucky that, at the moment at least, we have options.

I'm ambitious to a point but all I've really wanted to be is a mum so my career is definitely secondary. If I could be a sahm I would but I think I'll need to go back in some capacity after a year - hopefully freelance though so can scale up and down. And of course once I'm actually a mum I might realise I miss work more than I think!

Thanks Mad! I had a bit of a meltdown on DH last night but feeling much better this morning after what I must say was the best sleep I've had in weeks!

Today is ME day! I'm having a lazy (ish) morning doing a spot of tidying up and doing the food shopping and then this afternoon I'm getting my hair cut, getting fitted for nursing bras and then coming home to do my nails and have a relaxing evening in with DH! That's the plan anyway!

We wanted about a 2-3 yr age gap and dd will be 2.6 when baby comes so it's all good.

Got my consultant appt this morning. I have a blood clotting disorder so that's been worrying me and playing on my mind, especially as my platelets are on the decline again. I was really hoping they'd stay stable but I kinda knew they wouldn't as pregnancy makes them worse. So will see if consultant wants me to go on steroids for rest of pregnancy to boost the platelets ready for labour. I'm anxious about it because they make the baby big but better that than having a pph.

Dh de camped to the spare room at 4am because I was coughing so much. I managed to pull a muscle in my stomach coughing so I'm feeling ruined after an awful sleep!

Oh dear little pink hopefully doctors will hobs you whys you need. And ouch to the pulled muscle!

My midwife has told me that baby is back to back?!?! Also said that baby is looking quite big! I'm only 5ft and quite petite... I'm stressing about pushing a 6lb baby out let alone anything bigger! She looked at my graph and and said 'it won't be 4kilos' She looked worried as she pressed my Belly and kept huffing and puffing_ wasn't happy... ???

Had a terrible night's sleep.
She said 'you have a month left' as I left

Hate it when they're so unhelpful!

Not seeing anyone for another 3 weeks so can't do or ask anyone anything.

Agghhh

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29 days left!!!

Hopefully doctors will Give you what you need

Seriously pesto - no appt for 3 weeks at this stage?!

My appts have been every 2 weeks for the last few and after my next one it'll be once a week.

Losing the will to live with DS - potty training and friggin chicken pox I will cry if he can't go to nursery next week.

Eek good luck with potty training plus chicken pox!!!
I'm watching a load of daytime TV and depressing myself! Need to get a grip and snap out of it! Might go for a walk in a bit.

My internet research tells me to be on all fours, and not sit on a sofa where my hips are lower than my knees...

My appointments have been every 3 weeks, wait for an hour cz they're always running behind and then I feel rushed and leave after 10 minutes.
Really am feeling sorry for myself!

calling I feel your pain. We attempted potty training last month and it didn't work. It was too stressful with dd refusing to sit on the potty and having tantrums. The first day was ok and we thought maybe it would work but the second day was horrendous with multiple accidents which she didn't like at all and looked traumatised by it all so we gave up and put a nappy back on. Will try again in a few months.

The consultant went well. She wasn't bothered by my falling platelets in the slightest and said if they drop drastically in labour like they did last time they'll give me a platelet transfusion but no treatment at the moment.

pesto dd was back to back but I didn't do anything to encourage her to move because nobody told me I could. It's only recently I found the spinning babies website when this baby was breech a few weeks ago. He's turned head down now so not sure if it was the exercises or he was going to anyway but you can do exercises to help baby turn anterior. This baby is roa and I've been trying to get him Loa as I read that's a more optimal position but consultant said it doesn't matter, roa/loa, they are the best positions but I'm still doing my exercises 2-3 times a day to try and keep him head down. I prob don't need to as he's 3/5 engaged now but don't want another posterior labour again so get researching and exercising! They say they can turn at any point anyway even during labour but if I were you I would take steps now to encourage a more optimal position.