Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

For the old bird thread graduates and any other slightly older mums to be, please join us. We're a friendly bunch.

Oops...you need to tilt your head lol!

Am pooping my pants again today - can I really do this?! Finances are not stable, DS will be 10 and DD 6, feels like I'm going backwards and I'm terrified

Can't believe your 12 weeks already gingerbread!!
Wish I could see your pic but it doesn't show on the I pad
just lurking on here, not ready to think about being ante-natal yet

De lurking just to offer ginger my congratulations! That's fantastic! What a huge milestone passed - now you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy!

(my God woman, you go on a lot of holidays....totally Have a lovely time x)

Congrats on the scan Ginger.

Tranq I am having a Harmony test. Dreading it. Shitting it. Wishing I was younger. Still feel like I have got ages to wait. Then wait another two weeks for the results. Then the complete state of panic and worry that I will be in if the results are good or inconclusive. Trying hard not to get too worked up. Feeling so sick nearly all day again does take your mind off of worrying sort of but sort of not. I'm 7+2 which is nothing I know. Previous times I knew right away. This time I found out when I was 5+6 so a little later.

A bit apprehensive about joining this thread:

1. Never been on mumsnet before
2. Have only just had my faint positives (x2)
3. And I'm forty-bl**dy-five!

Statistically everything says the chances of this ticking along nicely is remote. Positive vibes please peeps!

Aww ginger what a sweet little scan pic! Have a great holiday, I hope you're going somewhere nice and hot!

overtired and bingo I feel exactly the same, shit scared and worried about everything. Really don't want to have the Harmony now, but know I should as I need to know everything ok with as big a certainty as possible.

I'm 7 weeks, knows since 4.

Congrats babs welcome to the thread x

Thanks Tranq :)

I had the Harmony test last time I was pregnant about 18 months ago. Well worth it despite the anxiety and my results came back all good. Sadly lost the baby for other reasons but will deffo be booking in for the test this time around.

One of my biggest fears is breaking the news to my other children (21, 19 and 17). Told them last time after the MC (was very ill and so had to) and the middle child said he would have disowned me if I'd had a baby :(

Oh babs I am sure your DC will be supportive this time.

Can I just ask a really naive question - is the Harmony test something automatically offered to over 40? I've never heard of it and I have realised I am being rather naive in thinking this pregnancy will be normal?

Ever so slightly freaking out! Can someone please explain what I should expect

Oh no :0( why did he say that do you know? X

Harmony is a private test and not available on the NHS. I've opted it for it due to my age and my sanity. I know there is still an element of ? But it's minuscule and I need to know otherwise I will drive myself potty. Google it. I have had scans with previous pregnancies at the Fmc and yes it does cost but I really think it's worth the money. The NHS scans just don't compare. However this is more a reflection of me being an absolute worrier than anything else.

Welcome Babs! Any idea as to why he would say that?

If I have high risk from nhs tests I'm going to get harmony too though consultant today was fab, said "bollocks" to my being previously called a geriatric mum, & said even though I 'm 42 I have "statistically far far higher chance of having normal preg & child than any negative outcome that's bandied about". Put my mind at rest a bit. And I wasn't suck on his floor, tho was retching in a cardboard tub throughout... I do like to make a good first impression. Oh & my C Section is booked for 1st June!!!!!!! Never shaken the hand of someone who will be rummaging around in my innards b4

Congrats & welcome babs x

No idea why he felt like that. Don't know whether he was horrified because of my age, or whether it's an issue to do with his step-dad although all the kids get on well with him and were really pleased when we got married and I was happy. Maybe it's because they'd have a share me and everything we have. I would hope that a year on and a year of him living away at university might give him a different perspective but really not sure. My daughter was also let than impressed but I'm sure that really is because she doesn't want my attention to be diluted - and she's 21!!!!

Babs I guess they will always be your babies, no matter how old they are!

Hope everyone is ok. Got booked in for first midwife appointment in four weeks time by which time I will be 9 weeks hopefully. Still feels so surreal, hoping I'll get my head round this soon.

I think the issue is more with telling my parents and exH, I've had so much crap from him over last 12 months and am only just trying to repair fractured relationship with parents, as they totally adore him and cut me off for 12 months

Babs they will come round. May take time but they will.

Over sounds like my parents. More likely to side with someone else rather than me.

Today I have struggled to find good that has really hit the spot and given me a nausea reprieve. I've troughed so much and for no benefit. My jeans which are bootleg now resemble skinnies.

Congrats to newcomers and to everyone enjoying good news.
I had my last baby after a gap of 6 years, and it was great. I could really relax and enjoy the newborn stage with the others being older.
I'm 7 weeks now and still no symptoms. I think this doesn't bode well. Last time I had a too good to be true first trimester it was a miscarriage at 11 weeks.
Very encouraging to hear stories of other ladies progressing well. Even if it is not my turn this time, there is always hope!

I'll have a baby gap of 17 years fromwesttoeast. Not so much about having time, more about trying to remember what to do...Or what I went upstairs for!!!! Share your concerns re symptoms. I tested two days ahead of AF date as I realised that getting up to wee in the night, nausea, tiredness and sore boobs might add up to a pregnancy. Doh! Only two days on boobs not feeling so tender, only slight nausea which could be psychological, and not really tired. Crazy isn't it, we moan if we have symptoms and moan if we don't. Fingers crossed for you x

Thanks Babs.
The only pregnancy feelings I have are the low dragging sensations that are always the first sign that tells me I'm pregnant even before I test.
In successful pregnancies I get tiredness, metallic taste, sensitivity to smells and varying amounts of sickness. None of that happening yet this time. If it wasn't for knowing my cycle and the pregnancy test I probably wouldn't suspect anything yet.

Hi New People!!

I'm still waiting for symptoms to properly arrive - however since I didn't have any extreme symptoms with my previous 4 I'm not too worried. I'm am getting tired easily, feeling hungry, peeing for England but mainly in the afternoon and evening, and having occasional heartburn (my only real symptom in the past) but apart from that I'm feeling fairly normal really!

I told my parents today. I'm rubbish at hiding big stuff and as DP works away during the week and I don't really have any friends it's nice to have someone else who knows. I was very worried about their reaction but they both seemed pleased and said they weren't too surprised as they thought it was natural that we would want to have a baby together (we'll have a combined total of 7). DP will tell his DDs when we have them for Christmas - he speaks to them daily but won't see them face to face until then) and I'll tell my boys after I have an early private scan in a few weeks. I'm not too worried as they're all laid back about pretty much everything anyway although I expect they will be shocked! I'm a bit more sensitive about telling the wider family as DPs sis had a miscarriage very recently and my sis has been trying for a second baby for a few years now. I need to work out how to approach it as I don't want to cause sadness.

I was ProbablyEvil btw - Halloween name change!

All sounds good ProbablyMe. Lack of symptoms isn't a bad sign for everyone, some people are just lucky in that respect!
In general I have found pregnancy easier as I got older. I think we develop stamina as we age!

I feel like I've a bowling ball in the out of my stomach if that makes any sense.

How far gone are you now Bingo? Ax

Not far Over, I'm 7+4. I'm so impatient too.