Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

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I have no idea what route I want to take so I've just gone out to stock up on absorbent towels and painkillers and they've asked me to ring in in the morning. I don't really have any fight in me so if they won't allow me to have the surgical option I guess the next best is tablets or pessary.

oh sebs, I'm so very, very sorry. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. My heart really goes out to you, we're here for you to talk to hon xxx

Oh love. Oh shit....xxx

So sorry to hear that Sebs, for my 2nd I took the tablet route first, Fir me tho I wanted to see blood etc to feel it was real I know that may sound a bit weird but they didn't work so after 3 days in hosp had the surgical option which in hindsight was straightforward, get some strong painkillers codeine based if you can take them, big hugs xx

Oh sebs. Big hugs, I'm so very very sorry for you. Do whatever you feel is right for you. Hope u both have RL support. We are here for you too xxx

Sorry to hear your news Sebs..hope you have good support in RL

Dear Sebs,
How are you doing? Have you worked out your options? So sorry you are going through this, it is horrid. Thinking of you. x

Hi girls. I'm ok, slightly calmer as I've booked in now for surgery early next week and they have referred me to the recurrent MC unit. I don't feel positive that I will ever be able to carry another child to term, but I think I'll feel a whole heap better once I know I'm not carrying around a dead child in me anymore.

Wishing you all loads and loads of luck in your pregnancy journeys. Wouldn't wish this shit on my worst enemy xxxxx

sebs there is always hope, even though it doesnt seem like it at the moment. A dear friend lost several babies and was sent to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and now has had 2 thriving daughters since (one in her late thirties and other in early forties).

I've been thinking of you a lot since you told us. Please know we are here for you if you want, plus the miscarriage boards are really good source of support and advice (wish I'd known about them when I had my mc).

Big hugs to you xxx

That's just crap though, they should deal with it within 24 hours, imo. So sorry you have the wait on top of what's happened.

I don't know your story, sorry it's not been a smooth ride for you. Cherish that little boy, and I'll hope you get another one in good time.
Thinking of you.
x

Sebs big hugs, I had 2 MC in a row within 6 months of each other one at 6 and one at 9 weeks and I felt the same, I am on low dose asprin and was given high dose of folic acid for first 12 weeks too, don't give up hope it can happen xx

sebit must be extremely difficult.... Hopefully the referral will be a positive one xxx thinking of you

Snooky I was on aspirin and high dose folic acid. I suspect it was genetically damaged but I guess I'll find that out in time. Edwards Syndrome maybe? I hear that mentioned a lot.

Sebs, balks was hoping my post might have given you some positivity, hopefully you will get answers tho, it's shit I agree big hugs x

Snooky I am feeling much more pragmatic now I've arranged my surgery. You are a sweetie and hopefully I might get some answers in time xxx

Oh I do hope you get some answers sebs. As you said, I wouldn't wish what you are going through on my worst enemy. What day is the surgery booked for (tho I'm with Abs that it should be done ASAP for you)? We are here to hold you hand if you want us xxx

Tuesday morning. Luckily my body is showing no signs that the pregnancy has ended so I'm not worried I will spontaneously miscarry and am in no pain.

I think pragmatic is the way to be.

I am really horrified they are making you wait til Tuesday, that is dreadful.

Funnily enough the wait isn't really a problem for some reason. I guess whilst it's still inside me I'm kidding myself I'm still pregnant.

Oh sebs so very sorry. I don't know what else to say. (hugs)

I havent been on here for a while, been so very anxious about things. I've been really tired but the nausea has mostly gone, but was starting to worry that nothing was happening. This week though a bump has appeared, just a small one, and last night I felt a couple of movements. Had a scan Friday, just a quick one at a consultant appointment, but was so relieved to see baby and heartbeat. 17 +1 now.

How's everyone else?

Congratulations notta, that's brilliant news. I didn't feel movement till a good bit later than you due to placenta, it's so comforting isn't it?

I'm 28 weeks today, just out consultant apt & delighted to say all looks good & now moved to mw led. So chuffed!

How's everyone else?

I think the anxiety is getting us all, Notta. Must try to enjoy!
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Yay, Gingerbread, get you!

I am fine. Coming up to 31 weeks this week.

I just wanted to say I'll be thinking of you tomorrow sebs. All MCs are bad, but it just seems that fate has been especially cruel to you with this one. I hope it goes as painlessly and quickly as possible, and that you get some peaceful time to grieve and heal, and that DP and DS will be a comfort to you over the next few weeks.

And, looking forward, if offering hope doesn't seem cruel in itself at the moment- you could have a baby in the future. Many women do have several MCs and go on to have another baby, even at our age. Hopefully the recurrent MC team will be able to give you help and support.

Sebs, I second what stubborn says. Will be thinking of you tomorrow ,hon. Don't know what else to say, my heart feels for you so much. Big hugs xxx