April 2015 #4 - time to start glowing and growing

[BrixtonBunny]

I thought I'd start a new thread as the old one was almost full up xxx

Great Siarie! I also had 2mm and was 12 + 5 at my scan, and got a nice low risk.

15 + 5

Lovely picture Siarie and always nice to be moved forward a few days.

All these responses re nuchal fold are reassuring me - my combined risk was 1 in 626 because my hcg was high, but I was also wondering whether my nuchal measurement seemed at the higher end of normal too (1.7mm). Clearly it was completely fine so one less thing to worry about! NIPT results due this week so will hopefully be able to stop driving myself crazy finding things to worry about soon...

Thanks ladies, that's good to know brixton I thought it should come back low risk based on my searching but its hard to understand how they work it out.

It was quite nice really as it makes it more real seeing an actual baby shape rather than what could have been an alien.

chilli jumping forward is a lot better than back, means I should start to feel better sooner hopefully.

Glad you had a good scan Siarie

Mine was nice too. Measured me in line with my dates (12+6) so I keep my due date of 29th Apr. The sonographer showed me the heartbeat and the arms and legs and said nuchal measurements were low risk, (but need to wait for blood test results to come through as well).

Fascinating to see how much it had grown since the scan I had at 9 weeks - looks like a proper tiny person now, rather than a bloblet.

Well said,Boo - that's how it should be! Sorry if family are stressing you out by not behaving that way.

Congrats on the instabump, Daholster! :)

And congrats, Siarie, great pic! Are you still planning to get a baby hammock btw? I was ogling some second-hand options the other day after seeing that Hushamok one you posted. Sounds like they can be really great if used correctly ( tho potentially disastrous if not!)

Glad to hear all went well Janey - has the scan lifted your spirits a bit? I hope so (I have also found I’m feeling physically better now I’m nearly 16 weeks has helped no end, and you are not far behind. I’m still tired and feel a bit ‘weird’, but just the constant nausea was really wearing me down - its easier to see how much now i’m almost out the other side of it.)

Banana, I know that nagging worry, but maybe look at it this way. If you rolled a 626-sided dice.. would you expect to roll 626? :0)

Congrats on the good scans ladies!

Oh boo I thought you meant family in competition with one another! E.g which nan will get to babysit more, which grandparent has bought what etc...

I have a stinking cold, feel fat and am generally mingling. WHERE IS MY BLOOM!!! I am 16w tomorrow goddamnit!

Minging, of course, definitely not mingling, that is the last thing I feel like doing!

That does help Nunkie - I know when I look at the odds it's not something I'd worry about if it was anything less important. I think having the additional testing is making me more worried because it means I'm high enough risk to warrant having it done, if you see what I mean? Whereas if they'd sent me away saying you're low risk I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe. I think it's probably all fine but until I've had that call I know I won't completely relax! Hoping they might be able to tell me the sex too, which would be a lovely bonus.

Nunkie yeah, still planning on getting that hammock. It seems logical to me that babies will sleep better if it mimics the enviroment they just left. So I'm hoping that will be the case.

Good to hear your scans went well Siarie and JaneyTea!

Just had a look at the hammock mentioned, we were going to use our Moses basket again but I quite fancy a hammock now! Looking at the prices I'm not sure I could persuade DH, especially since we've got a perfectly good basket. There's also the Poco Baby hammock which is a lot cheaper but looks fab too. Had a quick look at used ones on eBay - do you think the same rules apply as second hand mattresses? Wouldn't know how hammock has been stored but then there isn't a mattress as such?

Nunkie the scan has helped my mood a bit - moving a bit closer to things feeling more 'real', if that makes sense. I'm hoping that the tiredness lifts soon - we've got loads that needs doing in the house, and I think that moving forward with that will probably help too. I've had an appointment come through for the antenatal mental health team, which is scary and I can't work out how I feel about it. Mostly that I should be coping/striving and I'm worried about admitting that I'm actually not, not really.

I'm looking forward to starting to tell people - although mostly I want to burst out laughing when I try to say the words "I'm pregnant"..... Me? Really?

Also, all I want to eat at the moment is fizzy strawberry laces. And I suspect there aren't any actual strawberries in those.

Ooooh lovely to see scans! We must all be nearly done by now? janey we are two days apart!

Exciting re royal baby too!

Is anyone else or has anyone else started to get stitch like feelings in their sides and what feels like where ovaries would be?

I'm not sure if I overdid it dancing at a wedding on Saturday or whether this is normal? Slightly worried as pain quite sore. :(

So glad scan went well Janey and snap on fizzy strawberry laces! I never eat sweets and I've just polished off a whole bag of sour haribo... But still can't stomach a vegetable! I called in sick today. I feel awful doing it - I'm so tired/down the thought of trying to manage a class was too much. I need to go in tomorrow, I don't think I can hide much longer. Paranoia about 'hurting' the baby by being stressed/tired is making me so anxious.

Horseyone, I've had a few stitch like pains and a couple of twangy twinges it feels like if you twang an elastic band it's the best way I can describe it. I've mainly just had back ache and occasionally I get an ache between my legs like someone kicked me. Who knows what that's about.

So tired today couldn't wait to get home to sit down but had to get the tea started so only just sat down.

Countdown to scan on Wednesday t minus 44hrs

Some.flutters today and yesterday... I wonder if these are mini kicks...

Had my NT scan today as first scan was a bit early. Baby had other ideas and was basically on its head looking more squid than baby!!
I'm gonna have to go back at 15 weeks for just bloods instead.

13 + 4 today

oh no Rusty DH's parents don't work and mine do, so they always win on the time and babysitting front :P

Anyone started to work out childcare costs? I'll prob return to work 4 days a week and think I'll try & do a mix of nursery 3 days and nanny 1, or 2 and 2.
If I can WFH 1 day a week when nanny is there it also means I'm around for a cuddle/ lunchtime walk.
Works out at £1200-£1400 a month though yikes!

Lindalove does your work do child are vouchers or salary sacrifice? The money comes out before tax so you save in the long run, but your right child are costs are scary when the majority if not all of your wage goes on it. We were lucky with DD and only had her in nursery 3 and a half days a week but it was still practically a mortgage payment a month. Poor DH ended up paying that and the actual mortgage while I just paid the bills. Now she is on free hours and the mortgage has come down a bit he has more free cash. It can be a struggle in the beginning but it doesn't last long and you may be eligible for free hours when the baby is 2!

Damn autocorrect on my phone I meant care not are!

My work doesn't (yet) do childcare vouchers but I think they might if I asked. However my husbands does so he will be able to claim six months worth at least ... Not sure what that's actually worth in terms of cash though.

Great news sairie. I attempted to put on a pair of trousers today but they were a definite no no. They were really tight around my thighs too. Hope I'm not ballooning in all directions.

Shattered tonight. Would it be wrong to go to bed at half 8?

Hello, I'm new!
First day of second trimester today. Am a sahm to DS, aged four. And this one's a girl! We have her names picked out, and are feeling pretty sorted!
Off on holiday tomorrow and not taking any tech, looking forward to being offline, will catch up with you lot when we get back, just wanted to jump on the bus now before you all got too far ahead! Looking forward to getting to know you all.

EDD 27th. (Same day I myself was due 40 years ago!)
13 weeks today.

You can get £243 per month each LindaLove, which comes out before tax so will depend how much you earn as you how much it saves you. Dh and I used to save £80 a month with vouchers when I had ds1. You only qualify for hours for 2 year olds if you're on a significant amount of benefits but they are talking about increasing the 3year old funding to 20hrs a week. Have you tried a childminder? I know I'm in quite a rural, poor area but I'm still cheaper than a nursery here. I was worried about a cm when I had ds1 but once I visited her my mind was at ease and he loved it. My mindees are certainly part of my family and I still have to follow the same framework as a nursery/preschool but with a more homely feel. The downside is that most cm will do school runs so your child will be in and out during the day but the upside is they get out and about , are interacting with all ages of children and are in a home so can often have their own routines more easily followed. Cm here was £200 a month cheaper than a nursery round here in 2007.

I think that we worry more about stress than is necessary MissV84. Dh and I had a bloody tough time between us while I was pg with ds1, lots of background but he was very stressed by me being pg, didn't talk to me about it or tell me what was up and it ended with lots of arguements and me sleeping on the living room floor a lot. Plus we still had a lot of stress with his ex and dss and an hour commute each way every day. I had a very healthy pregnancy, a 8lb 12 1/2 baby who is now THE MOST laid back child you could ever imagine!

Glad you've seen someone JaneyTea and remember just because you have alerted someone to a possibility of a problem doesn't mean there will be a problem. The more you worry about it, the worse you will feel too