April 2015 #4 - time to start glowing and growing

[BrixtonBunny]

I thought I'd start a new thread as the old one was almost full up xxx

Sairie I took to growling openly at people who looked like they were going to try and touch me when I was pregnant with DD figured if they're allowed to ignore my general right to personal space I'm allowed to ignore how rude growling is and that kept most people at bay!

I'm definitely getting a bump on, and I need to do something about my trousers before I spend the rest of my pregnancy in pj bottoms!

It's not even friday yet and I'm dreading this weekend, I don't want to go to work, I don't want to deal with the new lady who is still apparently not catching on to the speed she's required to work out or where anything is in the department despite having been there almost 2 months, and though DH seems to have dealt fairly well with the sickness bug his mum phoned this evening to say his dad appears to have caught another one so probably can't take DD this weekend, we already knew DH's mum couldn't take her because she's had surgery, DH had tried to book he weekend off and had no luck, my weekends have been booked since March and I couldn't get this coming weekend off and I have no idea if my parents are even in the country at the moment, I'm terrified of taking any more time off work incase they give me a disciplinary for a third period of absence and try and sack me, and DH's bradford score is already looking pretty bad. I don't want to deal with his weekend, I want it to go away, and if I can spend it under a duvet so much the better cries

boomonster I think I'm feeling your mood too. Feel like either growling at someone or bursting into tears. One day left at work before half term but it feels like I've got a mountain to climb. I know full well I'm just being dramatic but I still just want to hide for the day. Also feeling incredibly jealous of everyone all of a sudden. Jealous of a old mate whose just announced she's having twins on fb (why would I want more than one at a time!?) Jealous of my SIL who announced she's going for training to be deputy (even though I know she's probably just talking rubbish as usual), even jealous of another teacher who has managed to do more work than me. I'm an ugly person tonight. Taking myself off to bed before I growl at DH when he doesn't deserve it. First time i've thought i could probably do with a really nice glass of wine. Role on Friday night.

Oh a jealous of the bumps too! I want a proper one!!! Mine still goes in a the belly button so reckon it still just flab. Getting a bit harder though. I read on the pregnancy calendar at 14 weeks the uterus is the size of a melon. Where is it?

14+1

Boo...I know this is totally wrong and kind of bad to even suggest..but if you happened to be off work this weekend for a pregnancy related reason..for example stomach pains due to really bad constipation or back pain or something..you couldn't be penalised for it. It doesn't count in absence reviews. Just saying....

lady I very much suspect the manager at my place can't actually spell employment law, let alone have any concept of what it entails. He told me to my face that he was denying me a department move because I was pregnant, and my last period of sickness was for morning sickness (hyperemesis) after I'd ran myself ragged at work the day before and not eaten so I wouldn't be sick but got recorded as being for vomiting so they gave me a 'cause for concern' meeting for it. Luckily my mum has officially saved the day, they are coming home from the other side of the country on Saturday night so they can have DD on Sunday!

Tell him the iPad disturbs you andaybe he'll choose to stay up with it instead?

Squatting I don't know if we even have a HR department, we don't within the store, maybe we do at head office? It was so much easier at my last place, they did' have a HR department but when I announced I was pregnant they hired someone for HR to deal with it :P

squatting my DH does roughly the same, before he came down with the bug I had taken to waiting till he'd gone to sleep to come to bed, and he'd started waiting up, I was going to bed at 3am and then coming down in the morning and sleeping most of the morning whilst DD destroyed the house at the moment I'm sleeping on the sofa 'to avoid getting ill' I'm not sure there is an easy way to say it, Perhaps make sure you're spending time together before you go up to bed and then tell him you need a half hour or so head start if it's just him being there when you're trying to sleep that's an issue we also have my completely vanished sex drive and his completely on overdrive sex drive to compete with which tbh for me is a bigger issue than him being in the way with me getting comfortable, nothing sets you up for a good nights sleep like fighting about sex for the 30th night in a row

out of curiosity does anyone here live with their partner but not share a bed? I've got several sets of friends who have separate bedrooms and they just dtd in one or the others room and then go to their separate beds, it strikes me as unusual, but not being woken up by someone else moving round or mouth breathing also seems genius.

Mine is back now TheBoomonster but tbh it's usually me asking more than him. It is hard being turned down a lot although I appreciate being pestered for it is hard too. And no we don't have separate rooms, not enough space and I wouldn't want to. We are both quite cuddly and I'm a sound sleeper, although if im having a disturbed night one of us goes to ds2's bed (he prefers to share with ds1 so is never in his bed!). I don't know anyone under the age of 60 who has separate beds though!

My flu jab arm hurts and I didn't get a sticker, ds2 couldn't understand why when he got one and just had stuff squirted up his nose! She's told me to be careful wiping his nose as his is live so more dangerous for me being pregnant

no sticker cinnamon it's an outrage! Perhaps I just cry so much when I go for jabs that they feel sorry for me :P Up the nose? what vaccine is that? I don't recall a nose vaccine searches for DD's red book yikes have some of my bug ocd gloves passes some gloves from the stash

You just described my sex life exactly Boo although I also keep getting "thought it comes back in 2nd trimester??!" every day!

Up the nose is a flu vaccine TheBooMonster, the government are offering it to all 2,3 and 4 year olds. It got an extra strain to normal one and is a live vaccine. Ds2 had it last year and was fine with it so we decided to have it again this year. The nurse said by next year it should be in primary schools too so mine will both get it at school. It clearly isn't pleasant by his face but better than a jab!

I'm slightly luckier than you guys. DH got a new PS4 so plays Destiny with his mates till 1am so I can toddle off to bed when I feel like it and not get disturbed.

Before the PS4 though yes I too got blinded by the ipad light and he watched YouTube videos too so it was like he had the tv on. Always seemed to happen when I had finished reading and just turned my light off to go to sleep. I just don't think he gets what he's doing sometimes. He treats you the same no matter what, so no extra help doing anything or little treats.
As for sex drive mine goes into overdrive in the very early days but drops off by about 6 weeks. I have regular cycles where mine is non existent outside of being pregnant so DH seems to be used to it only happening occasionally I try my best for more than once or twice a month.
He does have terrible timing though and seems to ask for it when I'm on my period and I feel mean having to turn him down. Which is why I give in more often even if I don't feel like it. Case in point the other night at stupid o'clock. It had been a couple of weeks since we had dtd last due to my spotting and I was slightly awake debating if I needed a wee or not so not like he woke me up properly.

I tell DH all the weekly updates on my pregnancy apps.... but neglect to mention the bits where ALL of them are saying my sex drive will be increasing now so as not to get his hopes up!

We're the same Misty414, only go to bed to sleep. We have a double and dh is pretty large, but I'm smaller than I have been most of the time we've been together so we get on ok. Our problem with dtd is usually the time of day not actually doing it! He is usually tired at bedtime but will get annoyed that we haven't done anything earlier in the evening (but doesn't actually suggest that he wanted to!). He prefers mornings which usually means the kids are awake and tend to pop up to see us at some point or it's super early and I'm still actually asleep! But this hasn't changed because I'm pregnant it's a long term debate!!

Don't understand all of you being disturbed by your DH coming to bed... I go to bed HOURS before DH, I'm averaging 9.30 at the moment, are you all staying up later than me? By the time DH comes to bed at 12.00-ish I'm out for the count. Although we do have a superking sized bed, so we may as well be sleeping in different time zones!

Have been back on the red sofa of worry these last couple of days. Wednesday afternoon I went to the loo and found blood when I wiped Spent most of the afternoon hanging out in A&E waiting to be seen, they just checked baby's heartbeat with doppler and said all fine. No bleeding since, thank goodness.

Yesterday morning I felt some stabbing pains so I went to the docs who referred me back to the hospital. They gave me an internal lie back and think of England as well as listening to the heartbeat on doppler and said all fine, but I'm having an extra scan on Tuesday just in case.

Pregnancy is such stressy business. Looking forward to my gender scan, not til 4th December for me though!

Im so exhausted at the moment that im going to be at 8pm with him coming to bed at a normal grownup time, so im normally unconscious by then.

We've signed up to email alerts. I think it's by ready steady baby and he keeps showing me the section telling him about my sex drive. I just nod and smile at him. Ha ha.

I've got phone call with my boss this morning to discuss when I'll be back at work. Should be Wednesday but im full of the cold and think it might turn into a chest infection. Pregnancy is too bloody hard.

Oh Bonjour, sorry to hear you are bleeding but thankfully they are looking after you properly.

i'm with Bonjour
Super King sized bed is the best and I also go to bed at 9h30, DH sometimes 10, 10h30... and says I am snoring like a baby...

also we have a rule of no tv, tablets, anything in the bedroom. i have my phone by the bed in case of calls, but bedroom is to sleep...

Regarding separate beds we had a while about 3 years ago, actually when pregnant with DD as my DH has back issues and we needed a new mattress, so until we finally bought one (when DD was 7 or 8 months old) he was on either of the sofa beds in the spare room or living room because he needed to rotate the beds to be able to sleep

We then bought zip and link mattresses so when one turns it doesn't affect the other as much

Hope you are ok Bonjour, so bloody frightening when things don't run smoothly during pregnancy. Hope the scan goes well on Tuesday, I'm sure you'll be fine

I found out I have a Group B Strep infection, had quite bad symptoms which is why they tested. I'm taking antibiotics at the minute which I'm not happy about, but I don't really have a choice. Having scared myself sh*tless with a Google search, I'm really worried about the baby and birth now.

Anyone else with experience of this?