May 2015: Thread 3 - Let's do this :)

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Thread 1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2166619-May-2015-Hello-Anyone-out-there?

Thread 2: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2188580-May-2015-Thread-2-Let-the-sickness-begin

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Thanks tori and kitty, tori my mum works alongside community midwives and she visits young mums in disadvantaged areas pre and post birth for extra support so she is also in the mindset breast is best but would never pressure or expect me to BF if it's not what I want, so will just have to go with the flow! Kitty I wasn't breastfed either as I'm a twin and mum had 3 yr old too so was a bit of a task. I'm also size 10 and never ill so agree that I don't think it makes a massive difference.

I hope u can start to relax soon lumpy.

Welcome longest.

In the weight front I think it makes no difference. I have 4 siblings, all of us were bf and 3 of us are overweight and 2 normal weight. I don't think it gives a big difference to your whole life the benefits for me were easy night feeds and not washing bottles or worrying about them while out and about. The quicker weight loss post birth and the cheapness. And the cuddles and increased boob size (I'm an A cup when not feeding).
Although the cons were pain in the early days, a few mental health issues due to my stubbornness to bf, and the lack of sleep for the first few weeks.
I'd never judge someone for formula feeding. I would only judge someone for not feeding anything at all haha x

Yes it's my first so no idea what to expect. I've spoken to a few friends that have had babies recently but two of them were induced so obviously that's a different experience all together and a friend that had two emergency sections. But then my mum has had six babies all vbac so I've got some stories!!

I'm mostly worried that I will end up having a panic attack in labour that will but the baby at risk to the point where I've spoken to DP about having a c section already. Yay anxiety!! I know when it gets to it I'll be fine!

I'm open to all ways of feeding my baby and DP just told me he'd quite like to give some bottles in the first few weeks so he can bond which is sweet so that's fine with me. I'm thinking more than anything it's down to what mum and baby find the best rather than what you're told is right?

Jenni thanks I shall look on the next website.

With regarding feeding, I'd like to try breastfeeding but certainly won't make myself miserable by trying as I understand varying factors can make it difficult. My dp is quite keen for me to try too and I know he would be supportive so we shall see how I feel when the time comes.

Welcome longest :)

I wasnt breastfed either. And I totally think its upto the mother and what suits as to how babys fed, no gasps of horror from me.

Well im 10 weeks today (or 9 if last scan was right which I doubt it is) or maybe somewhere in between ha. But scan is in 2wks so not too much longer to go guessing now.

Today we are going swimming and then to a carvery...yum x

On the birth front i would say plan and dream for your ideal birth but have in mind what could be the worst case scenario.
I had an ideal plan for dc1... Wanted waterbirth in birth centre so dh could stay, wanted to b/f etc .... I ended up
Bleeding out, baby got distressed, ventouse delivery, and i ended up in surgery due to retained placenta and to stitch me up.
I tried for 3 days to b/f but ds wasnt having it so i switched to formula but expressed for 8 weeks.
Dc2.. I wanted waterbirth on birth centre, when labour started i rang and they were closed to new admissions, went to normal delivery and birth was quick, no pain relief, small tear, and dd b/fed like a dream... Continued feeding until she was 16 mths.
This time i'm not making a plan, what will b will b!
For the first timers i would recommend going to sum sort of parent craft course, me and dh did on the first birth and it was good to see sum of the equipment used.
Sumone mentioned panic attack.. When you transition into the pushing stage alot of ppl including me do have a mini panic attack.. U think u cant carry on, want every pain relief on offer!, cry scream!!.. But when you start pushing it passes and then you just think baby will b here soon.

longest - welcome to the thread :)

Something that was mentioned at Bumpfest was the idea of multiple 'plans'. So that you could have your perfect A plan - lets say home water birth, plan B (your mid preference) - hospital birth without intervention - plan c - your less favourable option - hospital birth with intervention and monitoring plan d - CS or birth with forceps... That way we move away from 'i didn't get the birth I wanted' but more towards moving between plans.

I think I'm going to prepare for all the outcomes, read up as much as I can - get my own plans together as to what I'd need mentally and physically support wise to get through that kind of birth.

As this is my first, I'm looking for a hospital water birth with limited intervention. If the baby has other ideas, at least I'm prepared for the other options.

As long as my baby comes out alive and I get out of it alive - the rest counselling can deal with!!

RE Breastfeeding - was a lil saddened at home much it was pushed at Bumpfest. I have very painful lumpy breasts and I can barely touch my own breasts at times let alone have a baby BF! My main concern after the birth will be my and baby's wellbeing. I'm worried about getting PND so for me sleep, nutrition and establishing a feeding pattern is important. I don't think a tired, sleep deprived me is going to be of benefit to anyone - so I may try BF at the start, if it's OK I may try a mix of BF and bottle feeding. If I can't do BF at all, I'll bottle feed. I'll leave the judgypants to the midwives and other people that have an opinion :)

I think my birth plan is just going to contain the word "Epidural"

Haha Kitty! Mine will read 'as much pain relief as possible that won't kill me' I'm going to be that woman that all the other ladies hate for screaming the place down I know it. Cringe!

Omg I am irritable today I have just ushered DP out the house with DS3 because if I have to watch another episode of Fireman Sam again this weekend I will scream.

Then I get DP trying to look after me which is lovely but there is only so many times I can say "I'm fine, I don't know what we should do for lunch/dinner, please just let me have a few minutes time out."
He's a cuddler, he likes closeness and affection where as I so uncomfortable in my own skin at the moment, I'm tired, nauseous, acidic and generally quite grumpy.
Usually I hate my own company but at present I find myself craving somewhere quiet and calm and alone.

Does that make me awful?

Hmm had sext his morning and had a bit of very right blood( tmi but most came out as soon as I went to the loo to get rid of the ..... You know what). Not sure what to do. No cramps or anything and its a Sunday so no gp etc.. Anyone else experienced this?

I've gained loads (8lbs! ) I was on a very restrictive diet before though (Slimming World - a tougher version) I do need to stop eating loaves of bread and crisps but they do stop me feeling sick.
It's hard to find a balance, I'm just thankful I'd lost 2 stone before falling pregnant.

ToriB34 I've lost around 5lbs so far, mainly through loss of appetite. Losing weight in the first trimester is pretty normal. My appetite has slowly come back since week 10, though I'm still not eating that much. Really looking forward to seeing food and wanting it eat it again - I love food - this is oh so wrong!!!

ToriB34 3lbs in a week though is a lot. Are you drinking enough water? If it's nausea causing the lack of appetite it may be worth going to doctor's. x

I seem to have lost my appetite and when I do eat (not getting that hungry feeling) I then realise that I was hungry after all! Today's the best I've felt for a while done a massive clean and in the middle of making some sweet potato and red pepper soup. Hope it's yummy not tried this recipe before! Mmm with French stick too!!

On bleeding, it can be everything and nothing. For me it has always turned into the worst case scenario but loads of people bleed quite heavily but everything is fine. If you are worried give the midwife a call. Post sex bleeding is very common because of the extra full capillaries though sadly for me it was also the first sign of my first mmc.

Oh Tits - you could be me! I can't come up with ideas for meals and hate being hugged at the moment. Don't know why, just feel really claustrophobic.enjoy the peace x

It can be normal tori, ds2 I lost a stone well over in the first trimester and by the time I went into labour I only weighd about 4ib more then I did before I got pregnant. I lost 2ib within 2 days last week I jyst think it tends to fluctuate...make sure your keeping hydrated.

Arghhh please stop me on this spending spree :( I has bought far, far, far too much maternity clothes :(

Ha ha plinky I spent £140 today on a maternity winter coat that has a panel that you can take out afterwards, maternity work trousers and a maternity wrap around jumper. We are naughty!!

Ellstor--- this was me on friday night, went to the loo after dtd and pink on wiping, non in pants in the morning but a little more on wiping, brown by end of sat, none today. I'm going to phone epu in the morning. Saw healthy heartbeat last tue but am still worried! Call your epu tomorrow to get checked out, i'm sure all will b fine but u may get an extra scan thrown in