April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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This thread I mean.

I hope I've reached my safety zone little but I'm not trusting anything til the baby is safely here.

I've been busy with swimming lessons, errands and bedtime tantrums - hence not posting today.
But yes, we do seem to be thinning out a bit don't we?
I haven't joined the main April thread because I find them too hard to follow with so many people on.
Shame, cos I loved my last one but I just couldn't keep up with it.

Everyone ok?

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I looked at the April thread too but just can't relate to any of the discussion.
I did join the anti-natal threads with DD & DS but mentally I'm in a different place this time ad worrying about dead babies tends to be a bit of a conversation killer on the main threads which s understandable.

In 57 minutes I'm officially 20 weeks and I now seem to be clearly pregnant which is weird but nice.

Little I hope 20 weeks feels like a good milestone for you - I find every time a week ticks over I allow myself a little sigh of relief. You're doing brilliantly, despite all the worry.

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I'm still lurking, but haven't been posting as much, *little, sorry! I'm well past my safety zone, yet still worrying about everything else that has yet to go wrong.

We're at my MIL's house this weekend and I can't get comfortable in bed, which is small and cramped, so have given up and come downstairs. God I want my bed!

I'm still reading Little but not posting much as I'm struggling with depression at the moment. I've been on Sertraline for a couple of weeks now so hopefully that will make things easier for me but my DS1's behaviour has been very difficult since he started high school and I can't seem to get a handle on it. I gave up last week and told him not no bother going to school on Thursday but he went anyway! Missed the bus though so I had to drive him to school. I honestly can't see him getting through the year, I reckon he's going to get expelled.

Im still here, I looked at the march thread but couldn't bring myself to post, they are all so happy and chirpy (which im pleased they can be) but I wont relax till my baby is born safely so thought id probably end up making them all panic

ive been busy finishing my Christmas shopping so havent been around as much but Im not planning on moving on.

I'm 24 weeks today

stunt that sounds hard, teenagers can be so bloody difficult. My dsd is 16 and although lovely most of the time can be really selfish and rude at times.

I hope things get easier soon

Thank you Jet yes each day that ticks by gives me a tiny bit more hope.

stunt that sounds dreadful.
Is he a school refuser? If so there are suppose extra supportive steps to helping those struggling rather than expulsion. But I know in practice that isn't always the case.

smiling I'm always here to be miserable with.
I do know what you mean and I can understand why when others get to 12 weeks they assume the take a baby home. Statistically that is probably true but once you have experienced loss that sort of confidence in your body is gone.

((Hugs)) stunt I didn't realise things were so bad. Is the sertraline kicking in?

Still here! I don't post lots tho and do tend to most on both threads if I'm going to.

I've been feeling movement daily now and am def feeling more positive, we are only planning on having one child and am focused on enjoying this pregnancy now, I still worry but hope that the stats are on our side.

DP has been away since Friday and back later this afternoon, I have had a day of pottering and naps. Going to set up camp on the sofa with my crocheting and take it easy.

Teenagers sound like hard work stunt and smiling, I guess their hormones are all over the place and you must have to remember that they can be brilliant!!!

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Hello. Haven't been on much. Out Christmas shopping and dd a bit demanding... I go on both threads and also the recurrent miscarriage one

I am also still here little. Just struggling a little with work hassles and constant illness at the moment. Life seems to be passing me by at the moment and i am trying to catch up before a newborn throws that out of the wind. Hope you enjoyed your supermarket trip? Bed rest must be so tough even though I am fantasising about it at the moment. When you reach 24 weeks will you ease up on that or will it be till you give birth?

I am another one that anxiety is still here for although feeling much better now than earlier this week when I was getting myself into a right state. The silly thing is that my miscarriages were both in 2011 and in both cases I never saw a heartbeat so very early so I have no reason to worry now. I think with my 1st mc -I spent too many hours on Google learning about everything that could possibly go wrong.

Stuntnun -sounds tough. One thing I never understand is why they would expel someone for not going to school. Seems kind of the opposite of what they should do. (Not sure what they can do though.) It is however the last thing you need. Can you take anything for the depression when pregnant? I imagine pregnancy cannot be great for depression.

Toucan -very of the lack of weight gain. Although in terms of getting a bump, the weight I gain early on tends to focus on the bump (along with bloating) means that at least I get to the looking pregnant stage quickly (Even though the bump size early on does not match with the tiny blob inside of me.) I imagine that as you gain more weight it will turn more into bump.

That said, after gaining 12 lbs by 10 weeks I am now at 20 weeks and have only gained 15 lbs. Which is a relief and means that my weight gain pattern is hopefully going the same as my last pregnancy with early weight gain but overall not gaining an excessive amount. (Gained 33 lbs last time when i gave birth at 38 weeks which I was happy with.)

Anyone do anything nice this weekend? It has just been dd and I which was nice as she was in good form and we got to spend some quality time together. Although she has been very busy so I am knackered. Hopefully dh will be active with her when she wakes up from her nap. (She is a great sleeper but 100 miles an hour when awake.)

Ive had a 2 year old staying since yesterday evening, picked him up at 6 last night and dropped him home at 3 today. Hes no trouble but I really dont want to go back to work tomorrow as I feel like I havent had a break, mind you id best get used to that I suppose

I feel pregnant now, my back aches, I have constant heartburn, I can feel beany moving all the time now even when hes just wriggling and I feel heavy, everythings hard work, just getting up off the sofa is a mammoth task!

Anyone got appointments/scans this week? Ive got my first 'extra' scan on Wednesday.

24wks

LIG I think once I get to 24 weeks I will relax a lot more than now and can start planning for a baby. But I do think its going to take till I give birth as I'm worried about stillbirth too but I do remind myself that neither or my babies died silently and to be grateful.
Like I said earlier once your body has let you down once its hard to trust it again.

lila I'm with you on the one child thing, I don't think I could do this again. DH on the other hand now thinks we should be the new Waltons. honestly this was a guy that was fairly meh about having a family!

I suddenly seem to have a bump, honestly it popped out over a few hours yesterday in between loo breaks suddenly it was there and its obvious to others I'm now pregnant.

smiling does everyone think because your a nanny you absolutely love being with kids 24/7? I used to get that a lot especially at family functions, like I was the child entertainment Center.
Or that people are doing me a favour by letting me care for their PFB because I just luvrve kids...
I told a cousin once money make me love them a whole lot more.

little its exactly like that I end up with all the kids at family gatherings, I do love kids but its nice to have a break from being responsible for other peoples children.

I have to say reaching 24 weeks is a huge relief but I still wont relax till my baby is in my arms. Getting to the third trimester is my goal ill feel a whole lot better then.

I have my 20 week scan on Tuesday smiling

My anxiety has eased a bit and I'm almost enjoying being pregnant now. I did go on the soft play with DD2 today which proved a bit much I think, so perhaps aches pains and general uncomfortableness is starting to set in a bit.

I am always knackered now, can't walk for long and my hips ache... blah!

I'm still here. Just been manically busy with work & trying to tidy up my house. I moved house back in September and I have about 20 boxes left to unpack :(

My 20 week scan is not till next Tuesday. I do have a consultant appointment on Thursday. Not quite sure what for, possibly due to my high BMI.

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Tiny I am always tired too. I'm intending to do some light exercise, well as soon as my maternity swimsuit arrives.

now that is an issue i hadn't thought about... we will stay 3 nights in a hotel over christmas when i go to portugal and i have been telling DD we will go to the pool, but i hadn't thought if i will need a special swimsuit... might try my old one... might be old and loose enough to cope for a couple of little dips...

Good luck! I can't fit into my old swimsuits, my tummy is far too big. Well I can wear it but it's very revealing as half of my boobs are uncovered!

this would only be a couple of quick dips in the hotel indoor pool, so don't think i'd be exposing many people... will have to check...

I bought a normal cheap one from asda in the next size up - maternity ones are a rip off I think. Especially if you're not going to use it much.