April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

14+0

smiling I hate it when that happens, that is usually a sign to me I'm not saying no enough in general.

Thanks shetland my mum offered to get me a bed pan I think that's going to far.

little - sorry it wasn't better news but hopefully you and the little one can hold on for a bit longer.

Babiecakes - have you gone back to the hospital. what did they say? must be tough for you too.

Little So sorry about your news. Strict bed rest sounds good to me. I hope the 5 weeks +5 days speed by for you.

What a worry for you Little, I am sure the days are dragging being on strict bed rest to. COme on little one, hang on in there!!

Rubbish that you are bleeding again to babies.

babies I hope you are ok.

Nothing much has changed, I think I might be leaking occasionally but very tiny amounts. I'm bored, grumpy, tired and stressed. I'm lovely company.
I've had long phone calls with sister & mum that's helped keep me busy.
I've only been out of bed a few minutes at a time to make sandwich & pack hospital bag.

I'm trying to keep my pessimism under control but this is my 3rd time so it mostly just me being realistic.
I'm going to buy a yellow blanket both dd & ds are burried in their yellow blankets but I slept with them a week so they had my scent on it.
I might also buy sone premiee clothes in a show of optimism that this baby might even get to survive.

I have finally let myself make some decisions about what to buy, Pram and changing bag decided on although not going to order them till January and hope for some sale discount.

I'm not working this week and am resisting the urge to rearrange the house, work goes crazy for me from next week till christmas so I really should relax and take it easy, its easier said than done at times.

Can you occupy yourself with some online xmas shopping Little? I have turned into little miss organised and have a spreadsheet and everything!!

lila that sounds like a good step forward.
Funny enough I've gone into full nesting mode and making a lot of changes to the house etc but since I can't get out of bed DH has to do it all.
Christmas is fairly organised already I only really buy for my niece & nephew and if we feel up to it we will go to my sisters.

Poor DH is probably scared to come home tonight he got the bollocking of his life last night for being a bit of a twit.
Community midwives yet again involving themselves talking to DH about their 'legal duty' to make sure the baby and I receive post natal care. DH basically red flagged us by implying we are have none. Total BS its just a case of making sure I get to 24 weeks before I put a plan in place.
I shouldn't have to deal with this crap when we don't even know if our baby will live! And I know for a fact they provide no post natal care if your baby dies even though they are obliged too.

DH is banned now from speaking to them and one more phone call from them I'm making a complaint of harrassment. And if they really piss me off I might just go speak to a solicitor about their really serious failings in my care.

Despite it all I feel quite relaxed today. Seriously I do 40 games of trivial persuit will do that to a person.

Little well done for the perspective keeping!

How are you coping with the bedrest Little?

Babie, how is the bleeding?

How's everyone else? I'm OK but rapidly running out of clothes to wear. I have put on too much weight and must really curb my eating

Has anyone got any scan coming up? Mine is not for another 3 weeks!

I haven't got a date yet london but should be a couple of weeks I think.

I am also running out of clothes, and I have some rather fetching saddlebags that I didn't have before - I just cannot stop eating, it's ridiculous :(

Hope your doing ok little

Clothes that fit me.....
2 pairs of black maternity trousers
1 pair jogging bottoms
2 long summer skirts
4 tops
2 jumpers
1 cardigan
recently purchased maternity coat

Ive had the opposite issue, Ive completely lost my appetite so my weight gain is all baby.

I dont think theres much left for us to buy, my friends boss has given us pretty much everything we need, moses basket, stand, cot, swing, bumbo, pushchair, jumparoo, bouncy chair etc.

I bought a changing bag yesterday and a few clothes, ive also started buying nappies, wipes and toiletries when I see them on offer.

ive even started thinking about how to decorate the nursery, id like to say its because ive relaxed but in truth its because it gives me something to focus on.

London I'm doing ok. Don't feel great if I get out of bed and I think my abdominal muscles might have died at least if I need a C-section its no great loss.

My next scan is on the 2nd, usual cervix plus 20 week scan. I've never got to the 20 week scan so a bit of a milestone if I get to it.

I'm starting to feel uncomfortable in my PJs with elastic waists and I'm getting a bit of a bump. But even though I have an appetite I can't seem to finish my meals even small ones I suddenly start feeling full. That's probably a good thing since I'm so inactive but baby needs to grow I want him at the magic 500g by 23 weeks.

I've just noticed that this is the furthest I've ever got with my amnotic sac intact I'm so glad I went with my instincts to quit my job, rest and take the Vit C.
Trust your instincts!

18+5

smiling I agree with having a focus especially a nice one.
I bought most of my baby stuff during my pregnancy with DD I love a good online shop.

Id bought a few bits last time and found it really helpful when I miscarried, it was like it made my baby real iyswim.

I saw the consultant yesterday, nothing to report really, baby is ok and everythings looking good with me, ive got to have my blood pressure checked every week from now on though as both my mum and aunt had pre-eclampsia, my blood pressure is fine though so its just a precaution.

22+4

Little your last post was very upbeat. I am very impressed with your attitude as it must be so difficult just waiting and hoping. That does sound like an important milestone you have reached and hopefully this will help you get through the next few weeks.

London I have put on too much weight too but I did that will my last pregnancy early on too. I have actually only gained 3 pounds since 11 weeks but gained 12 lb by 11 weeks. That said I am only about a 1lb above what I was last time at the same time in my last pregnancy and gained less than 2.5 stones last time. Hoping the same happens this time! Are you still keeping it from work? I would have no chance of keeping it quiet for so long.

smiling I have a few non-maternity tops that fit but no trousers. Wearing mostly maternity clothes now but they are still quite big. Having real difficulty finding maternity clothes I like this time and end up buying most things second hand ebay as the choice is so poor. I am hoping that when I have more of a bump thing will look better.

babiecakes how are you doing? Any more bleeding?

I have been feeling quite anxious as I do not seem to have felt many movements. Not sure if it is because I have been too busy. Can I go to the hospital about movements this early? They are very inconsistent anyway at the moment so I don’t really have a pattern but know I haven’t felt much. I went on the Doppler and there is strong heartbeat but still feel a little bit panicked. I think it may be tiredness from dd being sick causing me to get very anxious. (And I thought I was doing really well this pregnancy and having less panics.)

18+6

smiling I feel the same too. With DS we had nothing but hs blanket when we came home from the hospital it just felt so wrong that there was no sign in our home that he ever existed. So with DD we bought everything we even left the Amby nest up for weeks afterwards.

LIG I'm not sure if they would monitor you at this stage but it would be worth asking the midwife.
DC movements aren't really consistent if I do feel movement its usually in the evening and I could easily miss them if I weren't resting.

I am feeling lots more movements which is great

Had the day off today and went to see interstellar. It's amazing. I cried in a couple of bits and blame my hormones. DH cried too and blames my hormones

Tiny you must be leaking pheromones.
I really want to see Interstellar too. I'm annoyed that Film 2014 gave away a plot point/Twist.

Id say its only been the last few days that ive noticed a pattern to beanys movements and they are proper kicks no, before it was very inconsistent and I had to be resting to really feel anything

I hadn't felt movement properly until the this last few days and I am 21 weeks tomorrow. Although this is my first and I wasn't really sure what I was feeling for. Everything I have read has said don't worry about feeling regular movement until 24 weeks, and start counting the kicks from 28. That said the midwives are there to reassure you so could be worth a call to put your mind at rest.

We experimented with some music today, and it seems we have a boy who quite likes Nirvana and The Foo's but not Guns and Roses or AC/DC these choices being DP's not mine...

I am still only feeling slight flutter and barely there movements. And at my 16 week scan they commented on what a lively baby it was, you could see her moving constantly but I couldn't feel a thing.

Glad to hear you've reached a milestone little Roll on 20 weeks.

I have surpassed myself with eating today - loads and loads and almost all of it total crap. I have disgusted myself. Tomorrow is a new start - healthy meals and almost no sugary rubbish.

Weve done the music thing, our boy likes mummy's music (micheal buble, micheal jackson, ed sheeran) but doesnt move at all for daddys (queen, scooter)

im also reading treasure island to him and dp is reading him childrens books like the gruffalo and going on a bear hunt, he seems to enjoy it as he gets really active.

Last time I got them around 19 weeks but not consistently. I think I just need to sit still which hasn't happened this week. I have just been feeling quite anxious this week but I assume it is lack of sleep. Got a lie in tomorrow which will be nice and hopefully sort me out.

I have also been starving this week and got back into chocolate and been catching up on 3 months without chocolate.

Meant to say dd used to kick lots with a guy at work. Not with dh but a guy I work with . I wonder what would happen if she met him now?

LIG she'd give him a boot.
Did he have a different regional accent or tone?
When one of my bosses was pregnant with twins they would both get excited if they heard my voice, I assume because my Scots accent was rather different in tone to the English accents of everyone else.
Even as newborns they would stare really intently if I spoke.