April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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LIG hope you enjoyed it. Have abstained completely so far but the odd glass or two does appeal & I'm sure will be fine.

Thanks for reassurance on the scan front. Never fancied a 3D/4D one anyway.

Tiny hope your DD is tucked up & well enough to get some rest now.

Shetland great news on the scan! That's a relief. And the gender if that's what you want, though guess better be prepared as you say in case hear the opposite next time (I do know of someone having the opposite to what they'd been told)!

Our XX/XY result is still unopened in the Harmony envelope and I think we'll resist. (Though would open if lost it again - at least I would want to, though suppose as time goes by you wouldn't actually need it on paper).

Welcome Tanny too, seems we're nearby, I could have been sat in a waiting room in Coventry alongside you & Tiny too! Congratulations on your pg.

Not had a good weekend, though not pg problems which (apologies LIG & other ms sufferers) is as unnoticeable as ever apart from feeling slightly bloated & breathless (could still just be too much food)! On Friday night I had a seizure for the 1st time in 3 years. Tonic-clonic which can potentially be dangerous to the (individual and) foetus in reducing blood flow/oxygen if prolonged. Hopefully it didn't do that. Know triggered by tiredness as felt really really crap at work but had to finish something then nodded off on sofa at home, went to bed 2030 but DH heard me falling out and found me fitting on the floor, but breathing fast which continued in my postictal sleep. No bump yet to bash, just my head and back where managed to get blood blisters as well as bruises. So bye-bye driving licence & so much for having finally replaced my old banger with a decent car 2 months ago. Thankfully I can get the train to work but limited service and hate being dependent on a timetable. Will have to check out buses for hospital. So a bit annoyed & down about that. Drug level in my blood might have dropped owing to pg but isn't being regularly monitored anyway, though the theory is to see about putting my dose up if/when blood levels drop - harm that can be done by the drugs allegedly being less than by actual seizures - will see what GP says tomorrow, best speak to bosses/some colleagues too.

17 wks today

Jeez toucan I hope you're ok. Hopefully your GP can sort you out. Absolute pain for the driving licence too :( Big hugs - make sure you take it easy. Xx

17 weeks today too!

Toucan I hope that you are OK. What a pain that you can't drive. Good luck at your GP appt.

Tanny welcome, I think I remember you from the RMC thread. I dropped off the radar when I had my miscarriage so haven't kept up with where everyone got to.

Tiny I hope that your DD is feeling better today.

Shetland I love your age gaps! I wanted a 2 year gap between each of my DC... alas life didn't work out this way!

LIG I hope you enjoyed your glass of wine. I don't drink alcohol at all but do miss drinking my diet coke/pepsi max in the evenings.

Little sorry about your dad. Sometimes people say a lot without actually realising the damage that this may cause.

I have my midwife apt on Thursday and I simply cannot wait! I hope that Bunny is still hanging in there and growing well. I think that I haven't felt any movement so I'm hoping to hear the heartbeat. By the way, do any of you know much about anterior placenta? Apparently I've got this and I'm not sure whether I should be worries or not!

16+1 :)

Hi tanny im due in March too

tiny I hope your dd is feeling better today.

toucan I hope your feeling ok and that your gp is helpful.

london I dont drink alcohol but am also missing my cherry coke in the evenings, ive decided if my scan goes ok on friday im going to treat myself to a can.

Ive been awake since 4.30 and am starting to flag already, when does the 2nd trimester bloom everyone keeps telling me about start? Luckily the ms has gone but the bone deep exhaustion hasnt lifted at all.

21+1

Smiling I've yet to experience the pregnancy bloom. By the time I finish work I am utterly exhausted and cannot move from the sofa - much to my husband's annoyance :( And for the first time in my life I am spotty! My complexions is utterly horrendous.

Speaking of DH, how is everyone getting on with theirs? I am having a hard time with mine. He thinks that I've now passed the magical 12 weeks, I should be up and about and back to my usual self. He's complaining the house looks like a tip (which it is as I'm too tired to deal with the housework).I am having great difficulty communicating with him. He simply cannot understand why I am so tired. I tried to explain that working full time and ferrying DS to all his usual activities, as well as the shopping and cooking wipes me out. He just doesn't get it! Any tips?

Hi all. I was cleaning up sick at midnight so off work this morning and took dd to GP. It's a virus bla bla...
At least I know ears and chest are clear...
She perks up with meds so we just have to let it run it's course...

But I am so busy DH went to work in the morning and will come to relieve me later and I will go back to the office for the afternoon... Sigh...

Oh tiny poor you and dd, hopefully it will run its course quickly.

London dp is being very good in general but I think he is getting a bit exasperated with how long the tiredness has gone on, he doesnt understand why I just want to collapse at the end of the day I think he thinks 12 weeks is a magic number and the tiredness would just vanish (I wish).

my mum is also being a pain, if I dare to say im tired or moan about my back aching I get "your just pregnant not ill" ive given up saying anything. She was 18 when she had me, im 31, im fairly certain shes either a) forgotten what its like or b) its easier when your young and she didnt have the same aches/pains and exhaustion.

im supposed to be tidying the playroom at work but I havent got the energy to walk up the stairs, ive managed the school run for eldest, taken youngest to the dentist then to school, done some washing and hung it up and unloaded/loaded the dishwasher and im out of energy.

LIG my family took DS death badly, so badly I went NC for almost a year and we are usually such a close family. But no one had ever lost a baby in my family they were utterly bewildered and insenstive.
But they try really hard to make it up to me now and are all super supportive.
I'm horrified your mum would try find a reason for the cause of the MC!

tanny welcome don't worry about due dates I'll be amazed if I get to March never mind April.

Toucan I'm so sorry that's dreadful so glad your DH was with you at the time. Such a pain about the driving licence too, my dad lost his bus driving licence due to a neurological condition but they let him keep his normal one!
Is it automatic if you have a seizure then you loose it for 3 years?

Tiny poor little one and you having to clean it up. Its amazing how kids can bounce from dire illness to bouncing around like to Tigger and back again to illness.

London I'm sorry about your DH. I don't think men really get the long lasting emotional impact that loosing a baby can have on a woman. You not only loose a much wanted baby but you loose faith in your body too. That is why we won't relax to their is a breathing baby in our arms.
When mine wonders why I'm so tired when I'm in bed all day I point out I'm building another human being its bloody tiring building a new brain from scratch, developing their organs and supporting two circulations in one body.

My DH is pretty good about the mess of the house, if anything he moans about me doing to much.
But he is a bit jealous of all the time I spend lounging around he's working flat out at the moment and would love a few days to himself.

smiling funny enough my mum didn't understand my tiredness too and she was 17 when she had me and I'm almost 30.
TBF she had HG so she was brilliant in that regards.
I See red whenever anyone dares to claim this isn't an illness no maybe not but for some of us its pretty medically complicated.

london I have an anterior placenta - it just means it's on the front wall. It can mask movements though, I'm only just feeling movement now at 17 weeks - with DD2 it was more like 14 weeks.

My In-law have just sent us an anniversary card and reminded me in a couple of days its our wedding anniversary. Every year they remind us we totally forget.
I was sure we have been married longer than they mentioned in the card but since they actually remember our anniversary I will defer to their superior memories.

waaahhhh she was asleep on me and I left her... but have work that needs finishing... sniff

I told them all at work today. Well, they'd all guessed already so really I just made it official. It's quite nice to have it out in the open though.

Tiny mothers guilt has to be the worst!

shetland it must be a relief to be out the closet. How was the news taken?

She slept for 3:30h perked up a bit had some milk and a biscuit and now temp up again and asleep early ish... Fingers crossed I get some sleep as well as I have a big day at work tomorrow and daddy will stay with her.

His work are more open to work from home, they don't ask if there is a child here. My work make me take a day off if she is I'll as they know I wouldn't do much work...

At least at 2y9m she is more robust than when a teeny tiny baby and you just feel sad for her but not worry if you see what I mean...

At least keeps my head off newbie

Tiny I'm sure she will have a lovely time with her dad.

Hope she's feeling better soon tiny

They took it well little - seemed pleased, even though we've got one vacancy, 2 trainees and one off on mat leave so we're already a little stretched to say the least. There may be mutterings about that behind my back but that's fine by me!

shetland I'm never bothered by what people say behind my back as long as their. Ice to my face.

Feeling a bit weird tonight with pressure pain so I had a shower just in case.butit might be because I sat in my armchair mst of the day so now I feel guilty.
I swear I get really weird smelling BO when pregnant but DH swears that I smell normal. It doesn't help I'm struggling to brush my teeth twice a day its still making me sick.
I get teeth anxiety the same way one people get health anxiety, even though my teeth are perfectly fine.

Thank you for the warm welcome, it is great to meet you all.

I'm 24 weeks today and experiencing some sharp pains across my bellybutton, so will be ringing the midwives today for some reassurance. Baby Tan is wriggling enough, but I've also had a bit of an increase in soggy knickers (sorry early days in our relationship for this I know!). Probably just usual stuff, but I am a basket case of worry...

Smiling and London I recognise you both... (waves)

So sitting on a train to Leeds. Will cover 372 miles in one day for a 90 minute meeting. Luckily I am feeling pretty good this week so apart from tiredness it shouldn't be too bad. My one big dilemma was what to wear -all my non maternity smart stuff is too small and my maternity stuff is too small. Wearing a maternity dress but it just looks a little loose. (Maybe need to find a cushion to stuff down it.)

Tanny - hope the doctor reassures you. I panic about every ache/pain etc. But as many unsympathetic doctors/midwives say they are par for the course (most of the time).

Shetland -glad work took it well. Both times I have told work, I have been surprised at how well they have taken it. Personally I was a bit miffed at how well they survived with out me on my last maternity leave as I am obviously not as irreplaceable as I thought I was!

Tiny - how is dd? Poor little thing and tough for you too. Good dh can help. I usually tell work that I am going to take half a day working from home and half holiday. If they made me take a days holiday then I would do nothing and also not do the extra hours to catch up when back in the office. I then do my best to not let anything slip whilst off with dd. dh also takes days but his work is impossible to do at home which makes it tougher.

London- I am just angry with dh (and other people). My trouble is that he wants affection and mostly likely sex too and I am just not feeling very loving. I think the housework thing is got round with us having a cleaner.

Just coming into London. Now got to get across on the tube. I hate it at the best of times!

LIG that sounds like a rather long journey for such a short trip! Hopefully the train will be relaxing.
Tube misery is something I'm glad I don't have to out up with anymore. For one thing my super pregnancy smelling abilities couldn't handle being that close to so many people.
Do the pregnant badges work or do people pretend the can't see them even when there is a massive bump?

tanny congratulations on the 24weeks. Damp knickers are supposed to be normal but its something that panics me too. Nothing is too TMI here.

Hi all

Tough night again but at least I was in bed and asleep at 9pm myself, so when I had to get up for DD at midnight, i had a few hours sleep...

Just had an email from DH and she is awake now and temp is 37.7 so it's good it's below 38, but i am sure it may rise again in the day. although she is saying her ear hurts and yesterday the doc said the ears looked good. gah! i guess i can take her again to GP tomorrow if she is still complaining...

I haven't even been feeling flutters as when I sleep I am so tired i go really fast asleep and when awake have been looking after DD...

LIG, Leeds? pah! I raise you to day trips to Munich and Warsaw for 1h meetings... in my pre-DD days my carbon footprint was HUGE

18+3

Tiny Oh I love Munich I lived there for a few months.. But you are probably to busy to enjoy the city.

I would take her back to GP I've often found them to claim ears are fine (they probably don't look to bad at that stage) only for a few days later for an infection to be found.

I will tell DH to monitor it and make an appointment if needed... when she had ear infections when smaller didn't respont well to nurofen and this time seems to be working