Tiptoeing into the Second Trimester... Due April 2015

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Ooh just seen there is a June 2015 thread now. Makes us seem like old hands

lobster I'm so sorry to read your news :(

Oh lobster that is beyond awful, I'm so sorry.

Take care of yourself and take as much time as you need, I hope you have plenty of support around you. Be gentle on yourself. Sending huge hugs xxxxx

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I've been in bed all afternoon, meant to be sleeping but instead reading about other people's experiences and basically what happens next. I guess I'll know more tomorrow when I go back. I feel a bit bad for people in the waiting room as I was clearly crying when I got out of the scanning room & people definitely saw how upset I was. I hope I didn't make anyone else worry about theirs! Good luck to everybody else on here - I'll probably post one last time tomorrow after the hosp appt just to update anything else they tell me!

Don't feel bad about others LobsterMagnet, I'm sure they felt nothing but sorrow for your tears. The lady who has her scan before me with ds1 onviously had bad news and she was taken to a side room and everyone was delayed but absolutely no one complained. Take care of yourself, I know nothing about what happens next so can't give any advice

From my scan in the EPU they dated me a little later which makes me 12 today i think. Arrived home today to find my scan latter for next Monday :) 2 scans in a fortnight, greedy of me i know :/

littleluna89 i too am a front sleeper although some people have said i shouldn't do this. i thought it was more just that it was an impossibility later on, are there actually any reasons why you can't sleep on your front? (also wondering from your username if it may be an indication to your DOB, if so me too ;)

BananaToast My scan at the EPU took about 1 1/2 hours, although it waas all a bit confusing being passed from pillar to post. And it was only when I saw the last nurse she realised that they have set me up as a new patient and had NONE of my medical history. getting married must have confused the NHS! will see how long my scan on monday takes as my leaflet says it will only take 15-20 mins but my actual letter doesn't mention it although it does let me know it will be £5 for a scan photo.

So sorry lobster, take care of yourself and don't feel bad about being upset, its an awful thing to go through xx

lobster hug hug hug hug, it's the nightmare we dread, I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself, work will be fine with or without you, whichever you need.

Good luck tomorrow xxx

lobster I'm so sorry, I had a mmc in April and I had 2 1/2 weeks off work and I definitely needed it so take as much time off as you need. If you have any questions feel free to PM me. Take care x

Lobster so very very sorry to hear this most awful news. Sending huge hugs - take good care of yourself and don't worry about work or any one else at this time xx

Lobster so sad for you, I hope you have good support at home to get you through this difficult time. Definitely take the time to be kind to yourself and build your strength up. Will be thinking of you x

Lobster I am so sorry. I mentioned in my previous post that I had a mmc earlier this year - mine started with some bleeding at 9 weeks so I had an inkling something was up, but when I was scanned I was only measuring 5+5. I read the "What to Expect" thread that you may have seen and while it was very useful, it also terrified me! My mc was almost completely painless, certainly less painful than my usual periods, and bleeding was never really heavy - tbh it seemed wrong in a way that a life was lost so quietly, but I guess that's better than what many experience. There was also nothing scary to see at that stage. Someone started a thread on the miscarriage board for others who'd had a mmc around the same time and we set up a private Facebook group and have been supporting each other through mmc and beyond via that - this might be worth doing. As others have said, please feel feel to message me if you want to chat x

Re the discussion above, sleeping on your left is recommended because as your baby gets bigger, the spine is the heaviest bit, so sleeping on your left encourages them into a position where they spine is on the left. In first time mums, babies tend to turn clockwise as they come out, so if they start on the left they only have to make a little quarter turn, whereas if they're on the right they have to go all the way round or be born "stargazing". Don't get too hung up on it though, it's a small factor :)

In other news, it terrifies me that there are people on this thread who were born virtually in the 90s! I feel very old

So pleased there are others here who can give you support LobsterMagnet, hope you managed to get some sleep and that day is as easy as possible.

So sorry to hear lobsters news. Although with my Dd, I had had a Mac and fallen again by the time I had my twelve week scan. Therefore an embryo of six weeks was seen instead of twelve, but she is now a strapping great 11yo! I don't want to be giving false hope but these things happen.

So so sorry to hear your news lobster. I really hope you have lots of support at home, please take enough time of work to look after yourself. Wishing you all the luck in the world for a sticky one next time xxxx

Oh, Lobster, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.

ThereMustAndShallBeTea thanks for the sleep info, i'll sleep better knowing that
'89 baby here :)

lobster I’m so sorry to hear that. Sending you best wishes for a very sticky bean next time.

Blimey squattingneville and hiding… '89 babies???? I was born in 1975. Old lady alert! Hence much scanxiety.

My sleep is also rubbish right now, squattingneville. I hadn’t been expecting it to get this bad til third trimester so not sure why it’s quite so rubbish this early on. If I do MASSES of exercise then it helps. But where to find time and energy? Alternatively I have a relaxation thingy on my phone which does help, particularly if it’s 3am and I can’t get back to sleep. Anyone else found any good tips?

RIGHT. Best go and make the most of time that DD is asleep and not just faff about on mumsnet / facebook.

londonlivvy I'm not sure age is too related to scanxiety! I'm an '88-er and scanxious as anything!

I haven't had much trouble sleeping (just trouble fitting enough in!) - the only thing I've noticed is that rolling over in my sleep makes my lower stomach muscles pull sharply which wakes me up.

Ugh I have the muscles thing all the time (I call them my 'sick muscles' if that makes sense)

I also had to get up to pee twice last night

I get the lower stomach pulling thing too, though mostly not at night thank goodness.

My coccix really hurts today! Not sure if I've bashed it and forgotten or if this is some weird pg symptom...

Londonlivvy I was born in 1976....

As an early '80s child I feel comfortably mid-range now ;)

Having a bit of a lousy day - a headache that won't quite turn into anything bad enough for painkillers but is just hovering, a grumbly indecisive tummy, plus one of work's annual busy spots which means I've been fire-fighting over e-mail for two days. I sense an early night calling my name...