Tiptoeing into the Second Trimester... Due April 2015

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Ooh just seen there is a June 2015 thread now. Makes us seem like old hands

Impatiently waiting for blood test results from the nuchal scan...how long did it take to get yours, if you have had them before or got yours already?

Janeytea, could the baby have a double barrelled surname? (Ie both your names?). Btw, if you're not married, your partner has to come to register the baby with you, so it can be helpful to go and register the baby during paternity leave, rather than him needing to take time off later. We were engaged but not married when dd was born.

livy the names don't work together, unfortunately. I think we'll probably go with his surname, but it does make me feel a tiny bit defeated.

Thanks for the info about registering the baby - I didn't know that. So much I don't know!

Janey totally agree there should be no assumption that the baby has his surname, whether you're married or not.

I didn't change my name. DD has DH's surname and my surname as a middle name. So we're both "represented" in her name. Could have been the other way round of course, but it "flowed" better with mine as a mn and his last, so I was ok with her having his surname for that reason. We'll do the same again for DD2. So maybe you could use one of your surnames as a middle name? Depends what the names are though I guess...

tryinghard I had mine before my scan, so I got them at the scan which was a week after the bloods - sorry that's probably not much help!

misty my best bet for trapped wind is going on all fours on the bed and sticking your bum in the air and wiggling around! You feel like a loon but it works. Oh and hot water bottle and walking as much as you can. Do get checked out though if you aren't certain it's wind.

dances best of luck with the scan!

Janey, we're married but I kept my surname. Current thinking is to give the child his surname, as that makes certain admin things simpler, and for me to use double-barrelled (hideous as it'll be) when dealing w/schools etc. We may change our minds but that's the plan atm.

I'm married but kept my surname. So bubs will have mine or husband's name as middle name...mine probably works better as a middle name. I think yes I'll use a double barrel then when dealing with Schools etc, though not actually use that in reality.

All good with my scan, apparently very well behaved baby! Nuchal measurements within normal and had blood test done. So relieved, EdD moved to 6th April so I'm 13+2.

Brilliant cinnamon! Looks like baby is whistling.

Aw, lovely scan pic cinnamon, I love how well you can see the facial features.

Congrats cinnamon! How exciting to be rid of scanxiety.... I feel like I'm starting to show (finally!) although husband laughs and says you can't see anything at all. I can't wait to start feeling big as it makes it more real... Someone needs to invent a miniature portable affordable personal ultrasound so we can check in on the tiny ones whenever we like!

Lovely scan pic cinnamon, but your personal details are showing at the top so you might want to ask to remove it and replace with a cropped version.

Good luck at your scan dances.

Eeek at people talking names already - I've been making notes of ones I like but we haven't discussed any yet. I sort of feel like I've only just got my head around being pregnant and can't believe it's actually going to turn into a baby.

Oh and MissV if you invent one, I'll have one please! If I was a sonographer I'd be checking in all the time!

Morning ladies,

May I ask when you started feeling less sick? I think a fair few of you are at that stage now. Is there light at the end of this tunnel?

Siarie for me it was pretty much bang on 12 weeks. I think I've been lucky though, it was more like 13-14 weeks with DD and it's not unusual for it to persist till 15/16 weeks...

Another one putting her name down for a personal ultrasound, please - me and DH were just talking about this at the weekend (when he put me on rations on the Doppler because he's worried I will panic if I don't find the heartbeat - I won't, but I would if he couldn't find it because he's better at it than me).

Siarie I'm 14+6 and still feel rough. Went to the doctor, she told me it was normal and suggested small regular meals and ginger biscuits...

DH and I have tried talking names, but struggle to find any we agree on. I can see us when baby's 7 days old playing eeny meeny in the baby names book just so we don't get arrested! I took DH surname when we married for everything but work, because it was important to me that if we have children we all have the same surname - this is just my feelings, I'm not saying it's right or anyone else is wrong. I have kept the same surname at work because I have built up my reputation in 'my' name plus it makes me feel cool having two identities, like a spy or something

Double barreling would not have worked for us, and DH's is pretty inoffensive, so I took that, but if you want you could pick a new surname for you all to go by? Unusual, but it's an option.

I can't believe how many of you have gotten married and kept your name..I literally cannot wait to get rid of mine!

Congrats cinnamon! Lovely pic.

DP and I are engaged but not married, I won't take his name when we get married, but our children will have it. I don't think I'll be bothered by not having their surname - I'll have given birth to them, after all!

13 weeks today

I'm surprised how many people keep their own names too! I'm such a traditionalist...

Dd is poorly and being a screaming nightmare. I feel sorry for her feeling poorly but I am not sure the extreme tantrumming is required!!! So embarrassing when you are in a cafe, 30 mins of screaming because I put her in the high chair when she wanted to be in my chair, then my chair wasn't good enough.... Argh!!!

She's asleep in the back of the car now and I'm doing the obligatory sit in the car on the drive - since all that there is no way I'm risking waking her to take her in and put her in her cot for a nap!

Was feeling retchy again this morning... Moving makes me want to retch (not vomit) which makes any sort of daily activities and childcare a bit difficult! Also felt nauseous but seems to have settled with a ham and cheese toastie and flat ginger beer on ice.

Scan is on Friday. 2 more sleeps until hubby cones home and we head to the hospital! Can't flippin' wait... 11+5!

Oh dear, phone call was as expected, high risk for Down's based solely on blood test results as the nuchal was fine, so now we are opting to go for Harmony test (available privately at our local hospital) and justifying it that I'd happily spend £500 to avoid miscarriage risk with amniocentesis and having to go through morning sickness hell all over again!

Not sure when we'll get the test or results, so its a couple more weeks on the worry sofa for me. I thought I was fine about it, then told boss as I wanted him to be prepared for me needing some time off depending on results, and ended up bursting into tears! Anyway at least I got lots of sympathy!

Hope everyone else is doing ok!

Oh Essence I'm sorry, that all sounds very scary. Keeping my fingers crossed for a good result for you. Hold onto the fact that unless it's a 1:2 risk it's more likely to be good news than bad.

LadyNovember I couldn't wait to get rid of my last name either. Years of being last for everything having a W surname gave me a bit of a complex so was only too happy to swap mine for DHs P surname. Funny thing is both me and my sister both married men with P surnames so we are both Call each other Mrs P.

Essence try not to panic too much about being higher risk. My mw explained it to me yesterday like putting on a horse for the grand national it's purely just statistics. Made me feel better about not getting the blood test done. (They only test downs and spina bifida in my area) she said you could be low risk and get a downs baby or you can be high risk and have a baby that is fine. It wouldn't change my mind either way about keeping it and is rather just having it in the back of my mind it's a possibility but not one is panic about. Which is what I can live with.

Oh dear Essence, sorry to hear that. The vast vast vast majority of people who are "high risk" by the NHS screening tests turn out to be all clear so fx for your Harmony results. (With DD was 1:104 for Downs and 1:42 for Edwards/Patau).

As a side bonus of Harmony you do get to find out the sex (if you want...)

Names, names, names. DH refuses to talk about it yet - even though we know the sex. However, I expect we'll go with the name that was second on our list for DD - it was very close between that and our first choice so I don't feel DD2 would be getting second best iyswim. And there were the only 2 names that DH and I agreed on!

Hi all, I haven't posted for a while as I've been feeling like death since about 6 weeks. Was hoping it would lift soon as it's really affecting my ability to concentrate and I am exhausted too from the constant waking, but guess I will just stick it out.

Scan's in a week and very nervous. I am really hoping it's not twins (my dad is a twin). I could have dealt with twins with my first child - get it out of the way! - but not now!

Sorry to hear the news Lobster. I really feel for you.

Good luck Essence - I hope the waiting is over soon.