October 2014 - Thread 14 They`ve started arriving!

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Arrivals

Fedupofrainydays Baby Boy Rory 16th September
Slidein Baby boy Alexander 15th September
Troubleandfyfe Baby Girl Lumen born 31st August 8lb 5oz
Vicky123uk Baby girl Edith born sleeping

Boys 2 Girls 2

Overdue

None (for ages)

Week beginning 15th September

ExcitedCJ DC2 (boy) EDD 18th October CS booked 18th Sept

Week beginning 22nd September

Gunwalloe DC5 (girl) EDD 30th Sept C-section booked on 23rd
CaptainMcgraw DC2 (boy) EDD 30th Sept C-section booked on 23rd
Takingchances DC1 (girl) EDD 26th Sep by c-section
Kirstipops DC1 (unknown) EDD 27th September
Mrsbadcrumble74 DC2 (boy) EDD 28th September
MundayCakes85 DC1 (unknown) EDD 28th September
ohthegoats DC1 (unknown) EDD 28th September

Week beginning 29th September

hefner DC2 (boy) EDD 29th September
mrsb87 dc1 EDD 29th September
Pinkfizzsparkles DC3 (girl) EDD 30th September
Annoyedbyalfiebear DC2 (girl) EDD 9th oct c-s booked 2nd oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 (girl) EDD 2nd October
Clops2000 DC1 (boy) EDD 2nd October - homebirth (fingers crossed!)
Porcito DC1 (girl) EDD 3rd October (C-section before then likely)
Badgerinbury DC1 (girl) EDD 4th October
Georgebythesea DC1 (boy) EDD 4th October

Week beginning 6th October

CellyD DC2 (unknown) October 6th
Queensanti3 DC2 (unknown) October 6th
Flipfantasia DC3 (unknown) edd 7 October
Cabster DC2 (boy) EDD 8 October
Londonjen DC1 (unknown) EDD 8th October
SummerDreams13 DC1 (unknown - even to us!) EDD 9th Oct
Ldt87 DC3 (boy) EDD 9th October
HazzaB89 DC1 (unknown) EDD 9th October
Binkybunny DC1 (girl) EDD 10th October
Fatpony DC1 (boy) EDD 16 October, c-section booked 10 October
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, (unknown), EDD 10 October
Yellowwellies DC2 (unknown) EDD 25th Oct CS/Induction 11th Oct
Me23 DC3 (girl) EDD 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 (girl) EDD 11th October
Sweetpeapods DC2 (boy) edd 11th Oct.
Kittyvet DC1 (unknown) EDD 12th October
Madamweasel DC2 (girl) EDD 12th October

Week beginning 13th October

Pregnantagain7 DC4 (unknown) EDD 13th October
JellyBeans (team yellow) EDD 13th October, home birth
Mum2kiss dc2 edd 13th October
Happytimes31 DC1, surprise! EDD 15th October
Clairemiss79 DC4 girl EDD 15th October
Mamami DC1 (girl) EDD 15th of October
Mrsandpuppythedog DC1 (team green?) EDD 16th October
Grannyapple DC3 (boy) EDD 16th October
PunkyBubba DC2 (boy) EDD 16th October
Shirehobbit DC2 (unknown) EDD 17th October

Week beginning 20th October

Loulou888 DC3 (unknown) EDD 20th October
Pusscous (girl) edd 20 October
FrauEnglischLehrerinDC2 (boy) EDD 22nd October
BingoBango85 DC1 (unknown) EDD 23rd October
STIGZ dc2 (girl) EDD 23 october (likely c/section)
FatFlashingLazer DC1 (surprise) EDD 23rd October
Magichandles DC3 (girl) EDD 24th October (likely to be induced 10/11 Oct)
Weeonion DC2 (secret) EDD 25th Oct
Pinkie2103 DC2 (unknown) EDD 26th October (HBAC)

Week beginning 27th October

Lily31 DC1 (unknown) EDD 27th October
Lulu298 DC1 (surprise) EDD 27 October
Missus2ndwife DC1 Edd 28th October
Bumpandbaby2014 DC1 (unknown) EDD 29th October

Ha ha to the used by dates! I thought I was the only crazy person that did that- by the time the cheddar is off the baby will be here!!

Cj glad you are feeling better today is hard to see a brighter other side when you are in the middle, this too shall pass as the old mumsnet saying goes :)

Lulu - I wondered that too. At the moment it's all in a 45 litre squashy bag, but it's literally enough stuff to get me through labour, and then me and the baby through one night/about 12 hours in hospital. For the other stuff I might need more than that, including clothes to go home in, I've packed another bag for boyfriend to bring in.

I've put together the crib and sawed off one side of it (still structurally sound), to make a bedside crib - tried it out in place (then moved it all back) and done things like change the sheets to old ones, put a towel down under the mattress protector, just in case. Interesting conversation with boyfriend whilst doing this stuff - he genuinely thinks that he gets to sleep in the other room THE WHOLE TIME FROM NOW ON until the baby moves into its own room. Gave him a reality check regards my expectations for the first two weeks when he's not at work, and after that the weekends when frankly I'll probably be off my bonce with tiredness and need him to let me go next door for a few hours. Apparently the first three months, if I'm breast feeding then that's it - pretty much the baby is my responsibility because he can't do much. I can sleep when the baby does during the day... yerp, what if our baby doesn't sleep for more than 20 minutes at any one time? What if our baby feeds/sleeps all night then cries all day? What if I want to eat or wash at any point during either of those scenarios?

Interesting times ahead for the man who plans to stop a baby crying by having a conversation with it... hahaaaaargh.

Ha ha, your last sentence goats made me laugh!

Hmmm might need to get a smaller bag for the hospital - think they would look at my wheelie and think I was moving in!

Hospital bag: try to get it as small as possible, as there's not usually a tonne of space around your bed/curtained in bay...but bring a pillow with a good pattern (to differentiate from the hospital ones) as it will make things more comfy! Goat's idea of having a separate back up bag with extras in the boot of the car is a great one.

Goats lol at your DP's plans! He'll learn! The first rule of sleep deprived parents: the new mum is always the most tired and deserves extra kip every weekend! To be honest, dads go through a huge hormonal change at birth too (eg prolactin levels really rise = increase in nurturing instincts). He's going to be smitten, especially once he gets baby on his bare chest for skin to skin!

Gun sounds like a good trial! No need to poo within a day. The pain relief/morphine usually has you a bit bunged up.

I've got a tiny cabin sized bag for hospital will also bring rucksack with snacks and going home clothes. In cabin bag Have packed x2 baby vest and sleep suits (in small and up to 10lb) and 2 pj for me (thinking leakage!) plus pack of maternity towels and about 5 nappies. Plus pack of big cheap primark knickers. Also packing vest top to wear in pool and old nightie to labour in. Plus wash bag. Will use hospital towels. Also some plastic bags to put dirty clothes in.

Lol goats it seems your dp and mine have been comparing notes...mine has a default answer for every post birth scenario - "babies always want their mother"

Damn. Midwife just been and sending us back to hospital for another jaundice test :( I know it's better to be on the safe side but

goats I think I needed a rest too. Felt fine today so have been back to skirting board painting in order to shift this little one...

Great list cj. Glad you are more chipper today.

My hospital bag is pretty small. Absolute basics to see me through one night - if I'm in any longer husband will can bring extras. Pjs, one change clothes, thin dressing gown, 3 baby grows for baby and some nappies and maternity pads, wash stuff. Just need to pop in a few snacks!

That's pants fedup, but you're right about better safe... Fx they'll suggest plenty of sunshine. Chuck him in the window for the rest of the day!

My oh was brilliant first time round. I think they're a bit right about there not being much they can do though. I felt like it was pointless to wake him up to burp/change ds in the night when I was up anyway. I did go to bed a whole feed cycle earlier than oh so he could do all that while I got a good chunk without worrying about every little snuffle.

Its very touching all these Dad's convinced there'll be nothing they can help with in the first few months! We divided the night time labour between me: input and DH: output at night. If you're up doing 3 BFs then also doing 2 night nappies (in the early days when they still poo at night) or changing the cot bedding when they spew, whilst a 'supportive' partner snores, is taking the piss. DH did output duties even when working the next day. Ok he was up twice a night but never for longer than five minutes, a night BF in the early days with winding can take an hour. An office job with hot meals, hot drinks, no one shitting themselves and screaming at you is MUCH easier than being the stay at home parent and arguing anything otherwise is a bloke basically being misogynistic or lazy.

Bump that's what we did - I'd cluster feed him til 9 then get sleep til 2, whilst DH did the 11pm feed with expressed milk. Not sure how it'll work this time as gawd knows when I'll get time to express with J running about.

Yep, my hospital bag is basically the size of a cabin bag full of t-shirt material crappy old clothes in dark colours! Some for wearing in labour, some for afterwards, some I'd be semi happy to be in public in to come home. Obviously basics for the baby too. I've got a list on top of the bag for things to add like chargers and v-pillows.

My friend who stayed in for 4 days said she just decided to go with hospital gown for the first 3 - bled all over her own first change of clothes so decided to stop creating washing for herself.

goats did you see your early warning signal went off last night?! Squizita had her baby

My plan would be the same ideally. Give it a month to get in to breastfeeding (if it works for me), then he does the last feed with expressed milk. I think all of my friends have done that.

It's alright if the kid is a sleeper at least slightly. My nephew basically screamed all night unless he was on my brother's chest, or being fed. They tried to sort out a sleeping rota to deal with that, but my brother didn't cop out of it, even when he went back to work. Surely that's not the deal! My boyfriend is a bit of a precious sleeper, we've just had to do some shifting around of rooms and curtains etc so he can sleep even now - we're in different rooms because he can't sleep through me getting up to wee in the night, and then can't get back to sleep. I'm actually wondering about sending him to a sleep clinic at some point - it's IMPOSSIBLE to be an adult with children, NEED 8 hours sleep a night to be bearable, and only be able to sleep in complete pitch darkness in total 'live in middle of nowhere' silence. Just unrealistic. It needs sorting out.

Pregnantagain - yes! I saw it... I've been out today just to Dunelm Mill for a pillowcase, and the walk across the carpark and shop brought on period pain and massive BH in the middle of the shop. I'm still hoping for another week of being able to rest, but I think I'm really going to have to sit down the whole time. Shaaaame.

Goats I'm thinking he's going to develop some spectacular "able to sleep thru screaming baby without waking and helping" skillz- lots of blokes do when needs must! Anyone of us could insist we just can't function without 8 hours sleep too - but fact is that's not a luxury in large supply in the first year. If you're getting 4 broken hours would you be able to cope with him having 8 without defenestrating him?

Aaawk! I am lying in my bed in hospital doing skin to skin with my wee bub! He is just yummy!
My milk has started to come in already, god bless the fab midwife & aux nurse who got me pumping while he was in SCBU.
I have another great MW again today who has been helped latch with his tongue tie.
We will be in until tomorrow & hopefully get hearing check etc done before we depart.
Fedup blooming heck, hope all is OK with jaundice check.
These babies are def stressful little bundles!

Yeah... He needs phototherapy again

Admitted back in to special care

Oh, that's hard Fedup - fingers crossed it's only a really short stay.

Loving the sleep/OH chat
One of the best aspects of mix feeding, despite it not being what I had wanted to do, was being able to share some of that night time responsibility - especially with a non-sleeping baby.
Beware of competitive tiredness, btw - it kicks in after a few weeks and can be the biggest cause of friction.

Fed up oh no - fingers crossed another wee top up should do it. J was under the lights 8 days in total so you really are doing so well. Given billirubin builds up in the brain it really is better safe than sorry - this will sort it once and for all.

Day 6 - still contracting, lots more show, a bit more nippy - still no waters! Am starting to wonder like Goats said if my body is going to play this game for the full 20 days before induction. Meh. Hey ho. Enchiladas for tea. Then more sex I reckon. Also wondering given I'm producing heaps of colostrum from contracting - if its worth collecting and freezing it - assuming baby could have blood sugar / feeding issues and we have to avoid dairy formula? Not vair sexy to sit and milk myself in front of the telly (- lucky DH!) but it seems a shame to waste it.

Oh fedup how frustrating. Fx bubs is out soon!

Yes, competitive tiredness is a big pitfall to trap the unwary. Obviously there were times when I thought I could do no more but so did oh. I think going in to work can be mentally very taxing which is not how I found being at home with ds. Ds was a terrible sleeper and I made the most of oh's time off to try and catch up on sleep. I did have to acknowledge that oh had to function like a normal human whereas I could smell of sick and look like I'd been through a hedge backwards and I wouldn't be loosing any clients or contracts.

I'm hoping for a similar arrangement this time. I'll do dinner and the last feed of the evening before hitting the hay at about 8-9pm. Oh can then do a bottle at 12 and pop little one down so I can Carr on sleeping until 2-3am. This would be best case, worst case involves another bottle refuser!!!

fedup sorry baby is in scbu but thankfully it's been picked up hopefully you won't need to stay long, lights and feed feed feed should sort te jaundice out.

excited glad milk has come in and fingers crossed for home tomorrow.

Agree with yellow and others re sleep I think expectations need to be set now, you need to both help in the night you cannot do it all night and be expected to cope with baby in the day too while daddy gets a full nights sleep and all the "good" bits eg cuddles and bath when he gets home.
My partner wouldn't dream of this we are a partnership and parent 50/50.
As yellow said working an office job is nothing compared to looking after a baby all day. I had a non sleeping baby so none of this "sleep when baby sleeps" for me it was relentless without partners input I would have fallen apart.

So after several days of stomach cramps I'm not having some tightenings down in my lower stomach and into my hips and back after going for a walk this afternoon. Could this be the start?! No show, plug and it's not very regular so just waiting to see!

• now having tightenings, not not!

Me23 yes sleep when baby sleeps is easy to say but not something I could happily rely on. J when really colicky / CMPI coughing up blood and screaming for hours - would only sleep on me in a sling (with me walking!) or in a moving pushchair. It brought me to the brink of tears so many times when, sleep deprived, after walking miles with him, his wee eyes would ping open the minute I tried to sit down, let alone sleep - the thought of that AND a toddler gives me palpitations. DH and I try to parent 50:50 too, I managed an office job with night BF so he's happy to manage a couple of 5 minute nappy changes. The end result is that he has a much closer bond with DS and sometimes is who DS wants when poorly. This time he's in charge of J's night wakings (at most twice a month now) and any poos that don't coincide with a BF!