October 2014- thread 13. Getting the eviction notices ready!

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Thought we'd better start a new thread, how many more will we get through before babies arrive??

Just thought i'd share this, I watched it a while ago and it made me smile :)

Our NCT lady told us just to buy normal sanitary towels as they're exactly the same...so many different messages out there with this pregnancy debarcle

Aren't normal sanitary towels more expensive? I'm sure the maternity ones were about £2/pack so a fair bit cheaper I thought? Just seen the midwife again and I'm off for another scan tonight, my BP was slightly raised too. Fingers crossed everything is okay!

Excited - you are going to be fine my love! You're in safe hands at the hospital and they will be looking after you in the best possible way. The fear of the unknown is always the worst part but think, you'll be meeting your baby in no time at all now :)

Slide - plenty of women in SA are induced and they have no other interventions. In nct this week, the teacher said interventions mostly occur when the baby is not in the tight position, not because of being induced. So hope that makes you feel better.

Wow, so much going on.

lou, sorry to hear about your not soD H. I can't believe someone could do something so hideous and assclownish. Hope you have all the support you need, and as mum said, focus on your baby instead.

Sending positive thoughts to those of you in hospital too, gun, slide and excited. it must be terrifying but good you're being monitored.

All is very dull and non eventful here. Am at the government hospital for the 5th time in 3 days. They're thorough, if nothing else. apart from Monday's ob who asked why I'd been referred to him, as Ievered my giant 37 week fetus onto the examining bed.

CJ god, so much stress! But I'm glad you're in the right place and fingers crossed they get readings under control and bubs can cook as long as possible.

Gun how stressful for you too. Fingers crossed you get home soon!

Slide thinking of you and hope you're doing well.

Lou what a shit thing you're dealing with. Buggerlugs put things quite well. But I think I'd also not want him at the birth (but rope him in to mind older DC).

Mum2 so sorry that you went through the same at 38 weeks. Some men are such sh*ts! Glad you found someone who's a proper partner and you give Lou good advice about focusing on her and the baby.

Interesting to hear thoughts on Scottish independence! The BBC news hour on our local public radio station had a great focus on it today. So interesting!

Pusscous I highly recommend the BBC world service/news hour on public radio btw. We donate to ours (WNYC) which even makes us feel a bit like licence fee payers!

My good news is that baby is head down so all set for vbac no 2! Estimated to be 7lbs12oz and all looking healthy. Feel relieved as was worried about a breech (there is no choice here - a breech baby only means a c-section).

lou what was the plan you already had in place for the kids when you go into labour? Can you continue with that? At the moment I'm sure your head is spinning but try not to make any rash decisions. Focus on taking each day as It comes. If you feel like you don't want your DH with you for the birth then you don't have to have him, but if you change you mind, that is fine too.

My ex (who was about as useful as a chocolate teapot!) was there when Dd was born but I also had my best friend there who was my rock and support throughout.

I truly believe things happen for a reason and everything will work out one way or another...you and your family will get through this.

with sanitary towels vs maternity, what IS the difference? I've asked my mum to bring some out as we don't have them here but if sanitary pads will do the job , I can save suitcase space for Cadbury's and crisps important things for the baby. I've bought night pads here, will they do do you think?

excited you've a lot to process in a short space of time I'm not suprised you are upset. We are all here to support you. Baby may have some issues with maintaining blood sugar when they are born but there is plenty that can be done to help with this (feeding a lot mainly!) but I'm sure this has been discussed. Also the mws may discuss antenatal hand expression with you if bf is what you want to do? I've posted a link about it on the Facebook group not sure if you are on there so I'll post again here abm.me.uk/expressing-milk-baby-arrives-antenatal-expression-colostrum/

gun sorry to hear about the protein have you done a 24 hr urine collection yet? This is usually done if protein in urine is above a certain level as it is a more accurate measure if amount of protein.

loulou I've been thinking of you today, I feel so bad for you and echo what the others have said I can't believe he has been so insensitive to do this as you are about to have his 3rd child. Just remember the ball is in your court and you do not have to make any concrete decisions now, look after yourself and your babies and I hope you have someone looking after you.

Re sanitary vs mat towels the main advantage of mat towels are they are more absorbant and softer (albeit the size of a brick) and unperfumed do not use perfumed products anywhere down below as can cause infection. After birth when showering just use plain water on stitches including Cs scar and gently pat dry.

Wow it's all go on here today.

Firstly lou what an utter dick. I can't believe that I'm so sorry. Bugs puts it well. Please do focus on you and the baby and do what you feel is best, not what you think others think you should do.

Those at hospital, waiting to hear about various medical stuff, really hope all is ok and sure you are all being well looked after/in the best place for things. We are all so near now suddenly there is that final stress of waiting to get baby into our arms.

Have to echo though the support on here and advice is pretty amazing. For Virtual friends you are better than some of my RL friends!!!

Flippin' eck, a real day of it for pretty much everyone!

Lou - he wears his genitalia on his forehead. Get him to have the kids while you do labour with someone better. What a crap thing to do.

CJ - anything to get out of work, I can't believe our 3-week cheerleader is out! But seriously, you're in the right place, 36+ is pretty much there. It wouldn't have entered my head to worry at that point.

All others in hospital, fingers crossed for you.

Argh CJ type 1 diabetes is my fear too. More for long term chocolate eating than birth defects - hadn't even considered those . My niece at 27 weeks was born too quickly for steroids to have any effect and she is fine today - so at 36+ weeks really try not to worry about lung health. Easier said than done I know.

Good luck and to all suffering at the mo'.

So I think we're all out of expletives leaving the only one I reserve for such occasions; what a total c**t! I wouldn't want him anywhere near me, never mind around me at my most vulnerable! I was with a good friend when she gave birth to her daughter as her boyfriend had been violent to her during her pregnancy. There was not a man involved at any stage during the birthing process & it was the most amazing empowering experience of my life. Take care of yourself x

flip I missed your post, glad all is set for vbac2. I will never get my head around the American maternity system to be honest it's amazing they are "letting" you vbac was your 1st vbac in America aswell? Just thinking if this was your 1st vbac would they be trying to persuade you to go for elective Cs?

slide I hope all is well with you.

madam hope the move progresses quickly.

me23 I've never really understood the plain water thing - obviously no need of soap or perfumed products - but why not weak antiseptic solution or something similar?

This talk of water has reminded me...

At nct this week we discussed pain relief options and one that came up was sterile water injections in your back?!! I need to know how this would ever help relieve contractions pain? I feel like even if it were proven I would think "you want to inject me with water?! I'll just have a glass of the stuff whilst you sort out the real drugs thanks!"

madam you can use weak antiseptic/ witch hazel if you wish but research shows it doesn't actually aid the healing process. Some more info on care of perineum here www.ouh.nhs.uk/patient-guide/leaflets/files%5C100809perineum.pdf

me23 ah! thanks. I got infected stitches last time and maybe it was the psychological effect of the antiseptic that made me feel I was doing something to help things along. As long as it doesn't cause problems then I'd do it again.

Happytimes I am totally with you on the work front! I am due to finish next week but I am such an emotional wreck, I just can't do it. For various reasons I feel I've been mistreated at work before and during pregnancy. The final straw has been a demotion just before mat leave with a very significant drop in pay. My head is all over the place and I feel I've been robbed of my sanity and excitement, now going on mat leave under a cloud with my colleagues not knowing quite how to react.

clops so emotional that even your lovely video left me blubbering uncontrollably. I just want to be happy for babies sake.

I've been thinking about everyone in hospital and LouLou and I feel like I should be much more grateful. Wow... Sometimes life can be so challenging and I just know once the baby comes I'll know what matters. Have to keep telling myself, this too shall pass...

Is that even legal lily?! Doesn't sound right to me!

Oh work is AWFUL. I'm deputy head, but the head has put in place new people to cover me for some parts of my responsibilities - they've already started bossing me about and changing things. He's also got cover in for my class responsibilities, but they aren't starting until next week. So I've got the worst, most exhausting part of the job still going on, but the bit that actually I want to leave in a proper state NOT going on. It would have been cheaper to just have me out of class for these 2 and a half weeks, but he was being an arse just to try and stop me coming back. He's almost won today in a 'told you so' sort of way, I'm properly struggling. For a start I'm still at work just sorting out special needs stuff for the kids in the class - 30 kids, 12 special needs requiring extra paper work. Joy.

Only 1 and a half days left with the kids though, then I can go back into the office and start putting a stop to the bossing around. Things don't need 'changing', they need managing in my absence. Grrrrr.

I'm going to find it hard with work not being my main focus.. I hope this kid is cute!

mum2 I'm seeking advice and getting support, I just feel like it's the last thing I need to be facing. I don't want to stress the bubba out but I don't want to be a doormat either.

Getting DP to cook something nice so that I don't spend the evening eating nutella straight from the jar...

Hi guys, loulou your news really shocked me..can't imagine how you must be feeling! Make sure you rant on here for support.

Two more days at work but I feel like I finished today as everyone is on a team event for two days so I said goodbye to everyone.

I feel very anxious now, couldn't wait to finish now am starting to panic. I am unlikely to go back next year so life really is changing for me and I feel very emotional. Wasn't expecting this as all I've ever wanted is a baby....please tell me this is normal and it passes? I want to be excited and happy this is happening.

goats I'm going to find it hard with work not being my main focus

• everyone I know who has had their baby find they couldn't give a s* about work once the baby arrives! I also left management responsibilities when I went on mat leave after DS a couple of years ago, I'd worked so hard to get things ship shape and they didn't even directly replace my role at the time, don't know if they have now, and even after all the time and effort I put into the work I thought I'd care about my 'legacy' either persisting or crashing but actually, I couldn't care less - if they messed it up changed things then so be it. It was when DS was one that I started to even contemplate work again and even then, had no desire to go back to the same job. I hope you'll be pleasantly surprised by the effect of a PFB!

bumpforme totally normal

You'll be totally bowled over by your new life!

Jesus Christ what the hell has happened on here!!

loulou my god how awful your dh needs stringing up I can't even imagine what you are going through.

cj, gun and slide thinking of you all and keeping fingers crossed for you all totally understand you wanting to keep them in a bit longer but they are week cooked and I'm sure they will do just fine.

slide think it was you that was worried about induction, don't be I've had two and they were fine no intervention and really positive experiences.

If I've missed anyone sorry hard to keep track everything seems to have gone a bit crazy!

I think I may have just had my first full on weird pregnancy craving, dp was quite disgusted- two burgers in white buns with fried eggs covered in BBQ sauce!! So not the kind of food I would ever eat but my god it was good