October 2014- thread 13. Getting the eviction notices ready!

[MundayCakes85]

Thought we'd better start a new thread, how many more will we get through before babies arrive??

Oh wow CJ. That must be a shock, but try not to worry, baby should be pretty much ready at 36 weeks+ and the steroids will help. Have they told you when it'll happen? Hopefully if its a few days off you'll have chance to get your head round it a bit.

Good luck Slide!

CJ sounds scary but as others have said, you're nearly term and with the steroids you'll both be fine I'm sure.

Good luck slide. I also know several women who have been induced with no problems including my dsis's mum.

loulou my dd's dad dumped me when I was 38 weeks pregnant with her. It's shit...but you know what? Now is the time to focus on what really counts at the moment and that is the baby growing inside you getting ready to meet heir mummy. Whatever happens you and baby will be just fine. Reach out if you need support and as others have said feel free to offload here. ((Hugs))

Loulou pregnancy and fatherhood really does sort out the men from the boys as Mum2 says sadly some blokes just don't / won't /can't measure up. Focus on you and your beautiful baby and it will all work itself out. My sister has just made the bold move to raise her two DCs on her own and is a new woman, it can work out well. Do you have support for labour and the first few weeks?

loulou that's horrible, you poor thing. What a nasty thing to do :(

Thank you everyone think I will continue to read and post. yellow I don't know what to do. My family aren't on the doorstep. Got 2 kids at school. Do I request a home birth? DH reckons he wants to support us. He can F off if he thinks he will be at the birth! I never thought he would do this feel so shit

You can choose whatever birth you want but even at home you will possibly want support and/or someone to entertain the children. Do you have a friend you wouldn't mind being vulnerable with, someone you trust and can be comfortable with? As for family, could you ask them to come for a visit or be on high alert for birth support/ childcare? Were you early/late with your other 2?

Oh crap Loulou that's so hard. What a knobjockey he is (sorry). I'd get his proposed financial support legally agreed and in writing (the last thing you need right now is money worries) and ask a relative or friend to stay with you for the birth and aftermath as you need loving support. Figure out longer term plans once you've got beyond the birth xxxx

Well I didn't get a quick in n out scan BP to high and protein so I've been admitted not a happy bunny! Hopefully it will come down and I can go home soon. I've had a trace which was all good and bloods been sent straight down.

Loulou I'm sorry you've been put in this position what a arse!

So sorry to hear your news loulou. As others have said you need to keep in mind what's right for you and if that's homebirth then so be it, but make sure you have support if you go down that route - I'm planning a homebirth but it entirely depends on where you'd feel most comfortable. It being the most convenient option doesn't feel like the right reason.

Can you speak to your midwife about options locally if you went into labour when kids were at school? If family aren't on the doorstep is there someone else locally who would be on-call for you? or would a family member be prepared to come and stay a little while?

Thinking of you CJ and slide, keep us updated on how you are xxx

Slide in I hope you get your escape today to and everything's ok

CJ your in the right place I'm sure they will make the best decision for baby it is scary when our plans change

Oh no gun. Hope you get out soon. Seems the full moon is playing a few of us up!

LouLou so sorry to hear your news, what an awful time to find out something like that. If you don't want DH at the birth do you still trust him enough to look after the kids for you? At least then not won't be worrying about what to do with them.

CJ, i was born 5 weeks early & apart from needing an incubator for my lungs i was fine & have had no long term effects whatsoever hope you have a wonderful birth & can't wait to hear news of your beautiful baby!

DS woke us up before 6am again this morning. Even though he went back to sleep i still felt broken enough to have a 2hr nap whilst he was at nursery. Slightly freaking out about how i will cope with the sleep deprivation

Oh btw Kirsti i also used the tesco maternity pads. Thick ones initially but the thin ones are just as absorbant & very comfy. Just make sure you don't get regular sanitary towels, can't remember the exact reason but we were told not to in our NCT class. Something to do with normal towels masking the colour of the blood or something!

Hi guys, seems the full moon is def having an effect!
The latest - I will be admitted tomorrow to get steroids and have to stay in until Saturday earliest as steroids and GD hard to control apparently. Just now waiting for date for section next week!
I'm upset as the Endochrinologist suspects I actually might be type 1 diabetic & it looks likely I will be in hospital for an extended period with bub & they can't rule out any congenital effects from this until after birth. It's really scary - no more babies for me!!!!
Was meant to be in work for another 6 days so I'm about to call in to say my goodbye to everyone.

Loulou how awful, so sorry to hear that.

Having a shit day at work just want to cry and run away!

Massive hugs CJ - your head must be spinning x

Massive hugs CJ - your head must be spinning x

Wow jelly i never knew that about normal sanitary towels!!

cj you must be so shocked, hopefully in a couple of days you get your head around whats happning and start to feel a bit less anxious about things, thinking of you and slide xxx

Wow, things can change so dramatically so quickly.

I'm thinking of those of you stuck in hospital at the mo, CJ, Slide, gunwalloe and keeping my fingers crossed things turn out for the best. I'm a firm believer that there's no medal for going through Hell in labour so if it comes to it, that's what pain relief is for

So sorry, loulou, what a shit.

I'm sitting here with a napping toddler, surrounded by cardboard boxes and general mess as we're hoping to move house next week. I say 'hoping' because the bloody solicitors are so slow nothings been finalised yet. DH had to call yesterday and have a go since they weren't making any progress. I've got a to do list as long as my arm but have to go slowly with the physical stuff as it knackers me out in no time. All thoughts of stuff for new baby have been relegated to after we move, I only hope baby stays put till then. I have half a hospital bag prepared but it's on my to do list to fill it.

Time for a before I have to move and do stuff.

Bizarre double posting - sorry.

A lot of sanitary towels are perfumed, too - which is not great with soreness and stitches.

Sorry cj never seen your last post before i responded... Dont think you will be less anxious at all with regards to not ruling out cogenital defects, i know you wont be at peace till baby is out safe & sound in your arms xxx

Thinking of you too gun

God its all systems go today ... Think this is the way forward for all of us, we all gotta go sometime