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OVER HERE!!! Due April 2015

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cinnamongreyhound · 03/09/2014 13:48

Whoops we ran out of thread! Tried to post and couldn't, hope someone else hasn't already started one :)

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Lauren82000 · 06/09/2014 11:29

Ugh feeling very woozy today I've had some toast but doesn't seem to of helped.

HippoPottyMouth · 06/09/2014 13:26

Fab news Banana and misty Grin

Misty414 · 06/09/2014 16:50

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BonjourMinou · 06/09/2014 18:43

Aww, that's lovely Misty, I can't wait until I get mine, but it's ages away. You can have a lovely holiday and enjoy looking at that now Smile

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cinnamongreyhound · 06/09/2014 19:15

Good to see you back motherto4!

Great news BananaToast!

That's a relief Misty414, glad you called :) loving your scan pic and glad everything is ok. I guess the further along the more accurate they can be?

Dh and I had a massive row last night mostly about us not having sex often enough :( we are managing once a week but it's not te best as I feel sick all day so I'm more doing it because I know he wants to and he doesn't like that. I've offered more but he wants my heart to be more in it but it can't be while I feel so sick I just don't feel sexy at all. He back tracked this morning and said he just feels I'm very negative (feeling crap so not my usual cheerful self it's true) and so he's keeping away from me and doesn't like the lack of closeness.

I ended up in tears last night as he said that he only agreed to have a baby to make me happy. I have wanted a baby for 2 years and I have respected the fact that he doesn't and had accepted that we wouldn't have one. I have got upset in the last but not put masses of pressure on him. So when he changed his mind I thought that he'd actually changed his mind not just said yes because I wanted one, I feel a bit lost now! I don't want this baby to drive a wedge between us. Yes I wanted another baby but not on my own, with my husband who I love very much.

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BonjourMinou · 06/09/2014 19:33

Oh I'm sorry to hear you're having such a shit time with your husband, cinnamon Of course you're not up to having sex, neither am I, who is when they're feeling pukey? It's a shame he's not stepped up to be more supportive. However when the baby comes along I'm sure he'll fall in love with him/her as soon as he claps eyes on it, I guess it's taking him a bit longer to get used to the idea. Have some Cake and some ice poles to make the nausea subside. xxx

Lauren82000 · 06/09/2014 19:58

Oh no cinamon what a horrible thing to have a barney about, my boss at work is in a similar position with her partner. He never wanted kids then they had 2 but he never helps with child care and frequently uses the 'you wanted them you deal with them' argument.
You DH is very lucky to get some once a week. My DH has to go weeks at a time. We have dtd once since we got pregnant.

Misty414 · 06/09/2014 22:22

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motherto4 · 07/09/2014 00:30

dancestomyowntune, thank you so much for your advice. Yes I'm also thinking that I need to take some drastic steps to make sure it's the last one. Like you I have mixed feelings about pregnancy. One step at a time I think!

SquattingNeville · 07/09/2014 01:23

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Siarie · 07/09/2014 09:36

My DH is being great, he's making all my meals and bringing me cold water in the middle of the night. Were on holiday still but I don't have aircon here and keep over heating.

He's gone to play golf this morning but is leaving early so he can be back to feed me. I can't shop for food, I can't make food it makes me feel worse. But my food is staying down, only had dry heaving or acid so far.

With regards to DTD we do that when I feel well enough which seems to work out ok! X he knows it's a short time and he wants children as much as I do so, all good there.

I'm sorry some if you are having issues but perhaps the hormones are amplifying things at the moment. I get angry easily, little things set me off and I'm not like that normally.

Siarie · 07/09/2014 09:38

Oh and misty great scan picture! I'm sure whatever happens with your dates you're happy that baby is bigger than expected right now. I'd love to be further along!

BrixtonBunny · 07/09/2014 10:22

Oh cinnamon that's rubbish, I'm sorry. We've gone from DTD four or five times a week to not having had sex in almost two weeks - I'm just too nauseous and exhausted, and I don't feel sexy at all. I'm lucky in that my DP is being very understanding, but this is our first pregnancy so he's treating me like a queen at the moment as he's so excited and just wants everything to go well - it must feel different by your third baby, quite a shift in lifestyle. As others have said, I'm sure your DH is just getting his head round it. But it's mean of him to say that he's only doing this because of you - I'm sure that's not true, no one would have a baby just because their partner wanted another if they didn't want one at all! Sending huge hugs xxxx

chiliplant · 07/09/2014 11:17

Good news on the scan! I haven't even contacted midwife yet and I'm 10 weeks tomorrow!
How is everyone finding not drinking? I'm finding it quite tough! I'm not an alcoholic but I do miss that relaxing chatty feeling on a sat night ??

Rustyzilla · 07/09/2014 11:56

Morning all

cinnamon your DH is doing well! My poor H hasn't had it once since I got my BFP! I feel revoltingly fat and tired all the time! He hasn't complained though, he possibly also thinks I'm not quite on my A game too ha!

Bit worried here. TMI alert. I am usually not a CM kind of person but on Monday (day of migraine) I had the tiniest pin prick of what looked like blood in CM. Then, on Fri I had a huge (for me) 'strand' of CM with a tiny tinge of brown. Now just been to the bathroom and I have brown CM when wiping. Not loads, but enough that I am now starting to freak out a bit. Also having a few cramps, not bad but combined with the brown CM worrying me. I'm 9+3 today, scan in 3 weeks, not seen midwife for booking in appt yet, still waiting for that. Should I be worried? Do I text the midwife over this in a Sunday or is it trivial?!

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BrixtonBunny · 07/09/2014 12:16

Chili I don't drink that much, but I do like the odd gin and tonic of glass of wine. But I feel so sick that the idea of drinking is just horrendous! So luckily I don't miss it at all. DP barely drinks either - I think since my BFP he's had a glass of champagne and two glasses of wine - so that's not an issue either. On holiday he didn't drink to keep me company (we pretended to our friends that he couldn't drink because of meds and I was keeping him company)!

mswibble · 07/09/2014 12:17

Sorry to hear your Dh is being a total git at the moment cinnamon. You should remind him how bloody well he's doing with it once a week. My OH hasnt had any since we found out. No real reason, im just not fancying it. I hope you have a proper sit down and instead of blaming you, he actually tells you what it going on in his head.

rustyzilla as far as I know, brown blood or CM is old blood and nothing to be concerned about. Its hard to relax but I would just see how it goes. Try not to get yourself too worked up.

mswibble · 07/09/2014 12:21

Does anyone else have really stinky urine? Honestly, mine smells truly disgusting - hard to describe, a really sickly super sweet smell. Quite embarassing when using stalls, convinced everyone else can catch a whiff!

Rustyzilla · 07/09/2014 12:22

Thanks mswibble - I've been lucky so far to have not had any spotting until now I know, feeling quite perturbed by the experience.

mswibble · 07/09/2014 13:06

I had one day of it last week rusty and immediately I started preparing myself mentally incase it was the start of the end. Im a bit of a drama queen!
Thankfully it only lasted about 12hrs and havent had anything since. Fingers crossed you're the same.

RiverRocks · 07/09/2014 13:14

Rusty it's quite normal to have some spotting, and even cramps due to everything stretching, but definitely bring it up with the midwife when you see her.

mswibble I've noticed mine smells stronger but not different.

We've dtd about half a dozen times since I started feeling ill at 6 weeks-majority of that has been because we're on holiday so I'm not as tired, we're all inclusive so I don't have to think about food, and I'm no longer in agony at the slightest breath of air on my boobs. I'm sorry your DH is being unsympathetic, cinnamon.

Roll on the end of the first trimester, hey ladies Grin

Roseylee20 · 07/09/2014 13:31

Hey hope everyone is ok- I'm currently 7+5 so due in April at some point! 2 previous mc's, had an early scan this time saw baby and strong heartbeat, also shown small haematoma which I am having spotting with- been told not to worry. Anyone else on here have a haematoma? Wishing everyone the best x

BitchPeas · 07/09/2014 15:53

Hi roseylee I had a heamatoma in my last pregnancy. They kept an eye on it and it bled out slowly by 12 weeks, I think some had been re absorbed into the womb lining as well.

I'm really struggling still, I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and have been prescribed stemetil for excessive morning sickness. It's taken the edge off but I still feel awful. I keep getting really dizzy and sweaty and can't stand any food. Sad feel bad for DS as well as we are not telling him til we absolutely have too so he just thinks I'm being lazy!!

DP is not getting any sex either. He's being ok about it and doing a lot round the house as I'm being a bit useless. He didn't even get too grumpy when I threw up all over his car on Friday Grin

CareBearWithFangs · 07/09/2014 16:31

Hi everyone

Sorry your DP is being a bit of a git. We've had more fall outs lately too. I think it's mostly due to sorting out DD and house is a 2 person job and I'm barely half a person at the moment so causing lots of strain.

I think I'm going to call docs in the morning for something for morning sickness because I feel absolutely dreadful. We're supposed to be moving out of the house this week for 2 months while we have an extension built and DP has had to pack everything up by himself because I'm keep being sick.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend and enjoying the sunshine Smile