November 2014 Thread 8 - Bottoms up, we're heading for the big push!

[TwigletFiend]

Afternoon, ladies. Hop, flop or otherwise clamber aboard!

[eastmidswarwicknightnanny]

Good luck with house move moggle

I have 28wk midwife appointment tomorrow n then whooping cough jab.

I now have heartburn may start taking ranitidine as can't stand gaviscon

[moggle]

Ew I agree, I bought some gaviscon for holiday and after trying it, decided I'd rather deal with the burny feeling at the back of my throat than the gross gaviscon feeling all over my mouth. bleargh. Luckily it hasn't been too for me so far.

[WorkFreeWannabe]

Thanks for the tip Lady

Primark 12-14 it is. Might try and grab 10 pairs this weekend along with some crop tops for sleeping in and button down nighties. Then I'll feel like I've done something!

This week I must get organised! I've had so much going on at work recently I don't know where I'm at mentally. Must clear the nursery out this weekend so I can store baby bits in there.

[Whenwillwe3meetagain]

Turns out I'm having a huge baby - had a scan today for the clubfoot and measurements for head are off the scale and abdomen is at 95th percentile. Not unexpected as DH was a big baby 10lbs 8 and my DB was v v long. So going back at 36 weeks for another growth scan.
Have been reading up on c sections!

[barmybunting]

Mumonabroom, there is a FB group. If you pm me your email address I can add you.

I haven't thought about hospital bags at all. That is next week's task I think. 30 weeks today so still feeling safe it is a while off, but time seems to be flying by! For hospital bags, are you all taking 1 bag with yours and baby's stuff in it or separating it into different bags?

Good point re pants and pjs for hospital and afterwards for breastfeeding. That is on the list for next week too now.

I have finally found a local aquanatal class after hunting for weeks, it is on a Friday so I am looking forward to that.

[barmybunting]

Whenwillwe- do you need to speak to them about c-section now or can you leave it until your next scan?

[haventgotaclue1]

Barmy it took me ages to find an aqua natal class too - thought there'd be quite a few on offer, but no. Anyhow, I've been to about 8 sessions now and they're fab! You actually feel weightless and it's a bit of an odd feeling when you first get in and the water takes the weight of bump .
I'm off again tomorrow - hope you enjoy it on Friday!

Hospital bag(s)??? Er, haven't we got ages yet??!!! not that I'm mentally blocking out the actual giving birth bit at all

[ToniWol]

I knew exactly where the local Aquanatal class was located - only problem was the leisure centre in question was having the pool done up and wasn't due to re-open 'til this month. Luckily they got the pool sorted out by the start of July (suspect they wanted to get the Summer Holiday business) so they've been going for about 6-7 weeks now. It's rather mad as the instructor (male) always calls us round for a section on Pelvic Floor exercises - I suspect the people in the rest of the pool are wondering what we're doing at that point...

[Vicky5910]

Back to work today and everyone was throwing about their opinions on the size of me... Nobbers. Then anyone who had been a pregnant teacher before said how they went so early and I should try and be ready for 33 weeks as it's usually about 35 weeks for teachers due to the physical/stressful nature of the job. Great.

[ladydolly]

oh god vicky, all sticking their oar in aren't they?

How are you feeling about your big baby whenwillwemeet?

I'm going for 2 bags, one for labour and one for if I stay in. I've currently got a bag in the corner of my bedroom and when something pops in my head I chuck it in there.

I got a couple of large button up nightshirts for after labour/if I stay in, from Primark for just a few quid.

Feeling very dizzy this evening, I'm only sat on the sofa but my head is spinning... normal?

[nickiswiss]

Vicky, ignore people telling you to leave early... I left at 37 weeks last time, 38 officially but half term was before that (i'm a secondary teacher) and got really bored waiting for ds to arrive-this time i'm working until 39 wks and everyone likes to tell me how quick their 2nd labours were, how early they were etc etc... Hospital is closer to school than home-so it'll all be good -hopefully he/she wont arrive early! Hoping to move in the next month-6 weeks if we can find somewhere to rent, its stressing me out as i want to start nesting-nearly 31 weeks now!

[barmybunting]

Mumonabroom I have sent you a message re the facebook group - hopefully you get it ok.

Nickiswiss, the fb says I have sent you an email invite to the fb group so hopefully you get that ok, give me a shout if it doesn't work.

Toni and haven'tgotaclue, glad you found aquanatal classes and are enjoying them, I am looking forward to Friday having heard that you like them. I couldn't believe how hard it was to find one here (this on is quite far away but I have wanted to go for ages so I will just go anyway), my local pool in a tiny town in the N.East of Scotland where we used to live used to run 3 aquanatal classes a week, so I couldn't believe how few places do it down here.

Glad to hear I am not the only one ignoring the thought of the actual birth! Never mind immaculate conception, I am after an immaculate birth where it just appears in the cot beside the bed as I have a good night's sleep overnight at the hospital! That's feasible, right?

Vicki, ignore them! Another teacher here, and I have never known any of my teaching colleagues to have the baby that early - most have left at 37-39 weeks, and had their baby around 40 weeks. As long as you feel ok, just do your best to ignore their silly tales!

Good idea to have a bag for labour and one for staying in, that might be a plan.

[utopian99]

Everyone is telling me second labour is faster too - ulp. Hopefully easier though..? I didn't get changed during labour last time either, think I ended up in just my bra - I just remember getting really hot!

Vest, lightweight dressing gown and pjs in a size bigger than normal were great for after though.

[Whenwillwe3meetagain]

I will speak to midwife, physio and anesthetist and dr I an due to see all prior to next scan so will get their opinion.
I'm worried about a big baby because if the damage they could do to themselves/me if I deliver naturally.

[Annarose2014]

I'm another one irrationally worried about a big baby. Two people I know in the past week have delievered 10 pounders - one C section, one vaginally after being induced (touch & go for section throughout).

And of course it means in the staff room everyone sharing horror stories about women they know who had big babies. And I'm sitting there shitting myself even though I have no reason to think this baby will be massive other than the amount of chips I'm eating

I haven't been measured since 20 weeks and I'm 31 weeks now. Maybe I'm better not knowing tbh, if i'm anxious just imagining it.

1st Antenatal class this morning! Better get my face on, I had another horrendous night tossing and turning and unable to get comfortable so am going to need to go to town with the undereye concealer. Will report back later on what they covered - hope its not crap!

[TwigletFiend]

For those with big baby worries, for you. I think though that whatever you choose to do, as long as you make a decision you're happy with it will help you to feel relaxed and in control for your labour, which will always make things easier. It's not all horror stories either - the lady I know who had the big baby (very nearly a 10lber) recently is very tall but absolutely tiny, a size 6 all the way from shoulders down, and she delivered naturally with no complications at all. So it isn't always a negative experience!

Urk, hope none of that sounded patronising. I was aiming for supportive

Vicky, no matter what you do and when you leave, someone will gripe and tell you useless anecdotes about why you're making a mistake. Pregnancy seems to make people feel like they have every right to make decisions about your life for you.

MW appointment this afternoon and whooping cough vaccine. Oh joy. Hope I'm going to be okay to drive afterwards, though I don't see why I wouldn't be.

lady, how are you feeling today? Hope it's better. If you're still dizzy etc. I'd call in to get checked over. I think short spells are probably quite normal at this stage, but not prolonged?

haven't, another determined head-in-sander here! Glad we're in good company!

Finally, a bit of light relief for everyone who hasn't seen it yet. Some of these are genius!

[ToniWol]

Hope it's good, Anna. The first NCT session last week was about hormones and what baby can do now. Also about what the baby and the parents need in terms of needs/wants. There was also a chance for a split off where the women all had a moan about the pregnancy and the men bonded about how worried they are/how little they know in respect of looking after baby. Tonight we're looking at labour and the various methods of pain relief.

Everyone thinks I have a 'neat' bump but I think it's because I was big to start off with so there's less of a contrast, especially as I think I've lost weight (only gained about 3lbs overall - and I think baby weighs more than that now - so with the other added stuff may mean a loss for me!)

[ladydolly]

twiglet I'm terrified I'm going to say ridiculous things in labour!! That was hilarious though, I'm stifling giggles in the corner of the office.

I had a few more dizzy spells this morning, I've also got midwife later today so I'll mention them to her. I've also got quite strong pains in my lower abdomen, I've had them for about a week, feels like a cross between period pain and like I've overdone the sit ups. Must be ligaments stretching but quite painful.

For those worried about big babies, I can certainly understand it, if it's any reassurance, if only to counteract the horror stories, my sister (average size 12) had 2 10lb babies naturally, the 2nd one she was only in the hospital an hour before baby arrived having done most of her labouring walking around at home. She's never going to claim it was easy and pain free but what labour is, but she did it, and more than once!!

[Kantha]

When DS2 was born the midwife was in a bit of a flap as she hadn't been expecting him to crown when he did. Note to self: scream more this time! By the time he was delivered and she got me sitting back down on my bottom (I had been on my knees kneeling over the headboard), I said to her, "Are you ok?"

I think if as a midwife you get asked this by the mum you have failed at some level to give an aura of calm authority over the situation.

I'm still a bit that I said this though.

[Annarose2014]

ToniWol it was non-NCT, the ordinary hospital one. And it wasn't like that at all!

Actually I found it a bit overwhelming, though everyone was very nice. (And every mother in her thirties! fascinating!)

The midwife basically talked us through the stages of labour. It was interesting. And showed us what to pack in our bags, which was good. We got a tour of the labour ward and a look at the birthing pool and the birthing balls and she talked us through all of that and all the machines, and what gas and air is, and so on.

But I was staring at that bed with the disposable sheets on it and I suddenly got a bit scared! Its going to happen to me! I don't feel ready at all. Hopefully I will by the time it comes.

I didn't like looking at all those machines at all. Totally ridiculous considering I'm a flipping nurse for Gods sake. I'm just so scared at the thoughts of loss of control.

She kept saying things like "We might recommend...." And I know that means "say yes to our suggestions" and the thoughts of all these "recommendations" coming at me thick and fast when I'm in the midst of a contraction makes me feel very anxious.

Oh and she said next week we'd be talking about Epidurals, and there would be an anaesthatist there giving the talk (obviously) and he would have Consents for us to sign to save time!! Now she said it was to spare us all that when we were in Labour - and realistically I know they'd have to still ask you on the day (they're not gonna creep up behind you and whack it in!) but I didn't like that AT ALL.

So am going to decline to sign it next week. I'll be in Labour, I won't be braindead! They can have a chat about Consent on the bloody day!

[ladydolly]

Midwife appt today. Still measuring 'normal', they weighed me for the first time (and reassured me it was all baby, bless them). Baby is back to back at the moment but with 9 weeks to go I'm not too worried, I know she moves around alot, she's on her side when I wake up and I often feel her back and bottom around the front. I'll give it a few more weeks before I start the moves to try and get her into position.

The dizzy spells are low blood pressure, which I've always had, I guess it's properly kicking in now.

[amy83firsttimer]

Also had midwife appt today and also lunch with parents where the moses basket was finally handed over!!! So exciting seeing it in our room.
Also did ikea trip and got some stuff including a big soft rug for softening up our rather hard surface heavy sitting room.
All seems very grown up and real.
Midwife measured me big again but doesn't seem worried cos it's not her fanny it's got to come out of and was nice for DH to hear heartbeat again.
Mother thought it appropriate to both call my house small and dirty during the 5 minutes she was here which only wound me up a little bit, think I just never noticed it til I got pregnant but now no tiny little perceived criticism slips past unnoticed!!!

[WinterLover]

I lost you all again, hopefully now DS is back at nursery a few days I week I'll be able to keep up on here as well as the FB group a bit more.

Hope you are all well, we've opted for disposables, didnt get on with reusable ones last time. I've gone for Aldi's newborn size 1 nappies, cant fault them for DS (he has their size 6 ones for bed and they last 12-14 hours with no leaks and he moves around ALOT at night)

Starting to get really scared over another early baby. Had a private growth scan 2 weeks ago and was measuring 2 weeks ahead, which is in line with my fundal height too. Consulatants, MW's etc all 'think' it will be 35/36 weeks again. Not sure what im most scared of, going into labour early, being kept in hospital again away from DS or the panic of getting DS to my parents when I go into labour.

Baby has to stick in there another couple of weeks, as DP and I have a very rare weekend without DS, he's off to grandparents friday night and coming back sunday. Will miss him but he'll have loads of fun and the break will be nice.

Other than some cotbed sheets I have everything prepared for baby which is a relief. Cant wait for baby to arrive so we can find out if its a boy or a girl then we can pain the kids bedroom as the baby and DS will eventually share.

Hope your all keeping ok, and resting

[misslaughalot]

Hellooooooo everyone! I was on the early threads but couldn't keep up so took a break. Wanted to come back and get to know you all again seeing as due dates are getting ever closer!

I've decided to opt for an ELCS this time round. DD was an EMCS after 66 hours of labour when I never made it past 5cm and I don't even want to chance going through that again. I had a really positive recovery experience from the CS though so have no fears about doing it again at the moment anyway

We are cloth nappy users with DD in the day here, we use a mix of Little Lamb pockets and bamboo nappies. Love that we're not forking out much for baby number 2, have just bought a new sling and that's all I think we will need until he/she is 6 months, hopefully!

Is there a FB group?

[NovemberRainbow]

Sorry I'm rather late to these threads, but could I join you lovely ladies?

This is my first and I'm due on the 14th of November(30 weeks today). Scans are saying its a little girl

Hope your all doing well. When's everybody going to start packing for their hospital bag?