April 2007 - part II...

[geordiemacminx]

Not that I profess to have a brain of any sorts but here is a new thread as requested!!

Congratulations little frog! That's great news. I told everyone very early on which was a very stupid thing to do but I was too excited- I'm rubbish at keeping secrets. This is a lovely thread unlike others I could mention....
CD hope things go ok today
Weeonion you poor thing. I had pnd and 1 thing i learnt from that is to get help. I didn't and soldiered on pretending to everyone that all was rosy. Not good. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Keep posting too, I wish I had known about MN in those dark days.

Good morning everyone and happy Monday! I'm finally back at work after last week off due to stress over CVS etc and also hating work.

Had a good weekend with lots of home cooking and tidying. The whole family ran in a 12K (DH) and fun run (the rest of us) yesterday and while both DS's did absolutely wonderfully, DH and I were very disappointed at our performances - I also had some scary cramps straight after but they seem to have settled down (where is that fingers crossed emoticon!!!).

WEEONION, I think I may also have a touch of pregnancy depression. It may be everything hitting me after the stress of the CVS etc but I have been feeling very down on and off. Here are my "round and round" thoughts: DH is off to Africa for 2 weeks for a holiday of a lifetime with his best mate and I'm staying here looking after the kids; I'm 41, pg again - in my last 2 pgcys I got absolutely huge and never really got my figure back and I'm terrified of the same thing happening again and finally IhatemyjobIhavenolifeI'vegotnothingtolookforwardto!!!!

I saw the signs with you in that you were noticing how nasty some of the MN posts are. I think there are always threads like that tbh, but when you're feeling down the nastiness of people gets to you a lot more. I have been on Fluoxetine (prozac) in the past and for me it was really fantastic and did the job in that it kind of teaches you to think your way through a depression. Now when I start "sinking" I can usually pull myself out of it after a few hours wallowing. I understand it's one of the safest antidepressants to take in pregnancy and even if you are nowhere near that road it is nice to know that there is somewhere to go. I would certainly recommend seeing your GP if it persists to see what options she suggests (I work in mental health in NHS - we've all been on antidepressants !).

CAPTAINDIPPY - I couldn't leave this marathon post without sending {{{{{Hugs}}}}} and sympathy. Although I would recommend staying put rather than struggling to the hospital again. See if you can get a GP or midwife to come to you, or would that be asking for a miracle???

Hey everyone - pleased you all seemed to have a nice weekend!!

I too have been very shocked by some of the posts that I have read over the recent weeks..it seems to me that some of them are nothing short of rubber necking.. and taking joy out of others misfortune. The whole troll thing surprised me somewhat too!!

Anyways enough of that.. at least we are all nice!!

Weeonion - the meal was truely horrible.. not a chinese fan at the best of time but 7 courses of it was just TOO MUCH.. first the brought out raw salmon and rice.. couldnt eat... then a horrible bowl of lettuce and cucumber with oyster dressing - vile. Then fish soup with a thick layer of fat on top.. enough said really. Then it was steak which was alright had I not had to watch the chef bloke cook that and lobster in front of me on a huge frying pan. The list goes on really, feeling too sick to tell you anymore.. suffice to say I spent most of the evening in the bar, ate a mouth full of steak and a cup of coffee and had to pay £40 for the privilige

The casino was great though..for anyone who hasnt been I couldnt recommend it enough.. epecially since there was no loud music, no horrible chavvy types, plenty comfy places to sit down and free soft drinks!! GOD I SOUND OLD!!

Rightyo I have waffled on enough now... xxx

God, Geordie Mac the food sounded really lovely -just my sort of thing! Salmon, oysters and lobster yum yum!! Have just found out I can eat smoked salmon during pgcy after all (Food Standards Agency) so will nip home at lunchtime for my ultimate smoked salmon, philadelphia, lemon juice & black pepper (and token bit of salad) bagel (or 2). Mmmmmmm!

GGF - STOP IT!!! You are making me drooooooool............

I am actually feeling surprisingly better. DH is going to come home at lunchtime to look after the girls for the afternoon. I feel really guilty about him coming home if I feel a lot better. What do you guys think I should dooooo?? Should I have the afternoon off to allow myself a smidge of time to fully recover or should I just get on with it?? I just feel a bit of a fraud - him coming home and me being ok, iykwim?? Give me some advice and reassurance, please!!

Oh, GeordieMac - poor you, having to sit through all of that and feeling so rough. At least it is over now - your poor thing. Hope you feel heaps better soon......

Going to go and have a shower - I stink!!

Make the most of it CD! Why not have a nice bath, diy manicure/pedicure etc and settle down in bed with a good book!

I could eat smoked salmon and lemon etc but not a bagel fan - prefer it on toast with scrambled egg - yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmyyyyyyyyyyyyyy - need to go raid fridge and pay attention to ds2 who is bored with mummy using laptop!

Can I just post something about depression? Don't get me wrong, I'm a huge fan of anti-depressants, but they shouldn't really be used in isolation IMO, and obviously are best avoided in pregnancy if at all possible (though if not possible, fair dos). What a lot of people don't know is that some private psychotherapy clinics offer a service whereby student therapists see clients at a VERY reduced rate, usually around 7 quid (as opposed to c40); if your doc won't/can't refer you (or not quickly enough) to NHS counselling, or if counselling isn't good enough treatment, then this is really worth investigating.

And Captain Dippy - of course you need the afternoon off! You need to recover fully, in order that DH doesn't have to take further time off

Morning all. Have finally caught up with all the posts I've missed as I don't tend to get on the computer much over the weekend.

We had a busy weekend in the garden (we are in the middle of a big house and garden renovation project) and felt totally knackered, but also very pleased that I had managed to have a 'normal' weekend, rather than have my life dominated by feeling sick and useless! I think I'm finally mostly out of the ms - not suddenly, but gradually and have now realised that it's more than a week since I was actually sick. Still feel queasy at some smells and need to eat regularly though - and this disgusting taste in my mouth is still there and I'm starting to remember from last time that it doesn't actually go, does it!

Fingers crossed for Sexonlegs, Bubbaloo and others have scans in the next couple of days. Sorry to hear your meal out was inedible Geordie. Captain Dippy - of course you should take time off this afternoon, otherwise you'll have a relapse. I bet if you snuggle up in bed, you'll be surprised how much better it will make you feel, and how much more able to face the rest of the week.

Sorry weeonion (and others) to hear that you're feeling down. It's an emotional and hormonal rollercoaster isn't it! I have spend all weekend feeling, for want of a better word 'premenstrual', culminating in a biscuit-making session with DD with me snapping "no not there, put the cutters at the edges"; "no, no more flour", "don't pick it up like that"; "no don't eat those bits"; "oh god, now I have to roll it out again" etc etc!

Hmm. I'd originally thought I didn't have much to say and "would just do a quick post to say hi"! I love you lot - you are my virtual coffee morning!!

14+1 (how the hell did that happen?!)

Found choc cake dh made ....tee hee

Bugmum - thats really useful to know - my mum is suffering from depression after her friend died recently. She won't go to the doctor to get help - so it may be a way forward.

Going back to the constipated thing again - it occured to me that we get it to prepare us for pushing in labour!!!

You have probably gathered that I am a bit of a shopaholic - I have to confess that since 7 weeks pg I have bought 3 different pushchairs in the excitement off ebay - but have successfully resold two as of this morning - cold turkey is working!

Morning all. Yum Chocolate cake.

Bramshott you mean I have to live with this disgusting taste in my mouth. . I was kinda hoping it would go along with the sickness.

13+3

Smole - what day are you due?

13th April

I'm the 15th - just never sure how many days +!
Thanks!

Nope, the smoked salmon, cream cheese and bagels is STILL appealing to me more than the chocolate cake - Call me weird, but there you go - I blame the baby - None of my bumpy babies have liked sweet stuff (but they sure do now, esp DD1!!!!!!)

@ your 3 pushchairs CK!!! Glad you managed to force yourself to part with a couple. Most of my baby stuff is "passed it's best" or broken so I got some real bargains at our NCT Nearly New Sale on Sat. For £30, I got ......

A new bouncy chair.
A MaClaren umbrella folding pushchair in v.good condition
A huge gorgeous wicker box to dump all the DD's crap in!!
2 plastic bodied dollies esp for bathtimes
2 gorgeous H&M outfits for DD2
A toy umbrella folding pram
A gorgeous baby Gap swimming cossy for DD2
Brand New Clarks Shoes for DD1
and a Hungry Caterpillar game for DD1

WOW!!!!

I love Nearly New Sales!!

LOL at virtual coffee morning, that totally sums this thread up!

Sorry you're feeling blue, weeonion. Definitely the right thing to do is have a duvet day. I have a much lower threshold for phoning in sick when pregnant.

I think I'm fairly lucky from the mood point of view as I get dreadful PMS so for me it's 9 months of (relative) stability - pity it fell apart after having dd as I got PND but really hope I can cope better this time.

I was in a great mood today - it's a gorgeous sunny day, took dd to soft play then went for a lovely walk round Arthur's Saet only to get back to a message from MIL on the answerphone saying she's planning to stay for TWO WEEKS over Christmas & New Year. Groan. Any tips on how to stay sane & not throttle her gratefully received. I won't even be able to take refuge in alcohol .

Hope todays scans go well!

That's Arthur's SEAT!

Strangely I was already planning a smoked salmon based supper - spooky!

Smoked Salmon lovers R Us, eh!!?

TWO WEEKS!!!!? Eeeek, liath - can't you somehow tell (in a nice, polite, slightly stretching the truth sort of way) that one week is quite sufficient?? [hugs] to you honey.

DH home - going for a bath .....

Well that was a nice lunch, now my smoked salmon is all gone so will have to think of something else to eat......

I'm due on the 12th which should make me -

13 + 4

Hi everyone.

Just a quick pop in to say hi and good luck to all ladies having scans this week.Sexonlegs hope all is ok honey.

my morning sickness has been awful this weekend my poor dd has been in the bathroom with me rubbing my back and saying "thats a naughty baby making you poorly sick !!!" Bless her! hopefully it will come to an end soon. I havent developed any cravings yet I m just finding it a bonus that somedays I do actually want to eat!!

Anyway do take care all xxxx

Hi guys - Sorry haven't posted for a while had family round and haven't had a moments peace to even gather my own thoughts!!!!

I love smoked salmon with scrambled egg - its lovely, with a bit of cream cheese (the one your allow) Its lovely infact you girls have got me thinking now!!!

Had an interesting weekend sat and cried at X factor on Saturday - my emotions seem to be going metal at the mo' anyone else have this problem???

Welcome to all the newcomers, I hope you all have happy and healthy pregnancies!
Good luck to everyones upcoming scans aswell!!!

Take care everyone xxxx

twinkle183 (14+2)

Hi ladies, and welcome littlefrog.
Geordie, sorry your meal turned out so pants. I was like that the other week. A group arranged to go for an Indian - quite an expensive one at that, and it got so late in the evening, sickness kicked in, and I could barely eat a thing.
Anyway, weeoinion, I am really sorry to hear you are having a down day. It is all such an emotional rollercoaster isn't it. I hope you a feeling brighter.
Well, I am delighhted to say that I had my scan this morning, and all is fine - (sigh of relief emoticon). My placenta is v low, which is what could have caused the slight bleeding. I just have to keep an eye on it.
My doppler arrived this morning as well, and in fact before I went for the scan, had a listen in, and could hear the heart beating like a train. It was wonderful!!
Just gotta get through the nuchal fold/blood test next Friday now.
Hope everyone is ok; glad to hear you are feeling better CD.
Liath, know what you mean about the MIL - don't get me started!!!
Need to go. See you later. xx

SOL... How far along are you? I really really want one but dp and my mum have both siad its a bad idea... I am the worlds worst worrier... I think I would be to take away if I couldnt hear it. I'm 11 weeks tomorrow. Which kind did you get?

Hi Geordie, I got an Angel sounds one from ebay. I am only 11 + 2, so only a few days in front of you. You have to be quite patient with it, and use the gel that comes with it. I know what you mean about stressing, as had I not heard anything this am I would have got a bit fretful.
But, so far so good, and I know my dh is looking forward to having a listen. x

SOL - that's great news! Glad all is okay.

Hi ladies

Fantastic news SOL I am so chuffed to hear that - it must be a BIG weight off your mind.

weeonion - I really feel for you honey, I felt just like you a few weeks ago and thankfully I just seemed to lift myself out of it - but when you are feeling low it is so hideous and everything just gets to you. I have to say I never stray from this thread and judging by what everyone is saying thats probably a good thing.
Just look after yourself and rest as much as possible - be kind to yourself and I hope that in time you will perk up...but as others have said - don't b afraid to ask for help if you feel you need it.

Hi to Littlefrog - you are so self controlled!!! I couldn't hold my own wee never mind such a big secret as being PG and promptly told just about everyone in shouting distance as soon as the blue line appeared!

Captain Dippy - hope you are feeling a bit brighter today....do you live over a pit with all these bugs! lol

Glad someone else cried over X factor and it wasn't just me - I cry at EVERYTHING at the moment!!! Tears streaming down my face - wouldn't mind but we were at friends - they were all laughing at me

Had a nice weekend - although felt v tired and run down yesterday so wallowed on the sofa. Bit brighter today but have got to now go and drag myself round tesco to do the food shopping ....ugh

Was most cheesed off last night as couldn't get to watch Birth Night on Channel 5 as DH was watching The Match - was it any good? I caught a little bit of it - just after the Live C Sec and then a really heart breaking bit about an op on a baby in the womb and had to turn it off then as half time was over and as I was getting too upset watching it!

MIAM 12 +3