February 2015 #3 - Roll on the Glow!!

[LittleMissSunshine33]

Hi Ladies thread 3!! 2nd Trimester we are on a roll!!

I know what you mean frenetic. I think men take longer to get excited because it doesn't feel real to them until much later. They don't get all the reminders we do

Frenetic sometimes my DH can feel really detached! He's been a lot kore excited since I've said I can feel baby moving. He is desperate to feel it too.

That's true you will not be lonely when you have a big bump that will listen to you all day long!
I used to sing to my bump too.

Donkir I remember you mentioning the bleeding glad they are keeping an eye on you!

HerRoyal just look at it in smaller chunks, it's easier when you work in a school because of holidays but I give my self a time to aim for if I'm waiting for something or not enjoying it like next step Christmas! 121 days or book a long weekend in October to look forward to to break it up a bit? 5 months sounds long but will go fast!! Eeeeek!

Frenetic it will get better, I see my mum every other day at work and still feel really lonely so must be hard for you. Your dh will improve its so hard when they cannot see a big bump or feel the baby, I also think when the next scan is here it makes it even more real for them.

I think when I am eating I am trying to eat more than I should, its smaller portions than I used to eat but 4 hours after tea I feel sick I am that full!

littlemiss I'm marking down the calender! I have 5 more financial reports to present to Snr VPs, and just found out I have to do it on another tiny project I'm reporting for, so now it's 10 We get HAMMERED in these meetings, it's bloody awful.

We have a trip booked to NYC for xmas, but I'm beginning to think we should just put the money aside. Ahhhh, what to do. I have to focus on the crap we'd be in if I quit I guess. Wouldn't be able to fund preschool anymore meaning DS2 would miss out. Okay, I'm doing it for DS2, and the car payments, and the NYC trip!

Thank you all, I feel the warm and fuzzies with the knowledge there are people that understand! Definitely need to think about trying to make friends in this area though, we've both been so busy with hectic careers that our downtime is often 'us' time.

Considering I'm shattered from a busy morning at work, I don't feel too rough tonight. A little bit 'gurgly' in the tummy area, but that's just as likely to be from excessive water consumption!

Frenetic look for groups in your area. Would you do pregnancy yoga or something? Or prep for when baby is here and look for baby groups?

Yeah, I might ask my midwife about yoga groups, if she knows anything. Trouble with this town is there are some, erm, unsavoury areas! I went to an early pregnancy class at the hospital and some of the women there were actually heckling the midwife...

freneticfox I understand the feeling. My entire (and I mean entire) family and DH's family are in Australia, my sister has a 4 month old DS - first of the next generation - who I've never met except over Skype

I'm due on 29 Jan and my mum wants to be here. She is thinking of flying on 27th which means will get here on 28th. I've no idea what advice to give her as it's my first. My sister was induced about 10 days after dd. Are most first babies late as I seem to always here?

suzi could go either way, my first was a week early, my 2nd a week over.

I'm in the same boat re families, mine in Nz, DHs in UK. We moved to a new city a year ago and have made zero friends. I don't know what I'm going to do with the DSs when I'm in labour.

suzi theres really no way of telling unfortunately people say firsts are always late but it's not always true. DD was 2 weeks over but a friend of mine recently had her first 3 weeks early

Is there a way your mum could come just a few days earlier? Or is she limited to how long she can stay?

Frenetic with ds I was the same re the area we lived, I didn't go to any groups and the only reason I didn't go to an ante natal class was because it was held at lunch time, I asked if there was one in an evening i could go to and she said no, because the majority of men in the area didn't work so no need for evening classes!

Suzi its a tough one my sister went 10 days over both times, I started on my due date but took 3 days to get him out. And my friend went on mat leave 3 weeks before having not even bought a baby grow, car seat or anything snd went into labour the next day (resulting in one bug shop in Kiddicare while in labour buying, pram, clothes, moses basket......everything
Can she com indefinetly or is it a set time?
We had a customer whos mum lived in Spain she came a week early as their first was early, she went 14 days over and when induced and it look another 4 days to get things moving so her mum was here nearly a month before baby arrived

Oh my word....work overbump maternity trousers....bliss!!! Had to size up from 10-12 but I'd rather have growing room. I've finally put on 3lbs...in two weeks eek! Still another 3lbs before I'm near my pre-preg weight though.

I also bought that maternity coat & I've got to admit, I only bought it to try on/return so I cut delivery of my total tight but its gorgeous! Was only £40 from new look :-)

How's the after tea snacks going fox? I've been great since Friday xx

Thanks for the advice ladies. My mum will only be able to take a few weeks leave from work so I guess the odds might slightly be in her favour of being here in time.... I'd hate for her to have to fly home if she gets here early and Little One decides not to show up. Why can't babies be predictable? Haha

Bellaboo...over the bump anything feels amazing! I bought leggings, jeans & work trousers, all over bump, such warmth & cosiness!

Apart from a little roundness in the tummy region, anyone else just not feel pregnant?

Me! though I feel guilty to admit it given what some have been through. I just feel like I'm getting fat. Only one episode of what I think was round ligament pain but no other signs that little person has taken over my body! which is why I can't wait to feel some movements! 18 weeks tomorrow. Hurry up little one!

Suzi how would you feel if your mum missed the birth (do you want her in there holding your hand) if you just want her there for support after maybe if she flew in week after due date the. If you go over she is more likely to be there for after birth? Or if you want her here for birth grt her here for due date then she may just have to fly back soon after birth? Its a hard one, I would want my mum here for birth but many would never dream of it

Agree with over the bump anything! So much more comfortable. I have put on about 7lb and can no longer fit into anything but leggings at the moment. Dh thinks I'm going to be huge. Ive avoided stretch marks last two pregnancies but this one will be doubtful! 18 weeks tomorrow.

bella - might give overbump a try after your glowing review; I've always imagined they might be bit warm? But I'm definitely out of my normal trousers now, even my usual leggings are struggling - my small bump is becoming firmer by the day.

So, by my dating scan I'm 15+4, and my my LMP dates 16+1. I sat down when I got in from work and felt a series of weird sensations in my lower abdomen like bubbles popping really quickly; not felt anything like it before with IBS or otherwise. Could this be bean's movement? I wasn't expecting anything to be felt for at least another month as its my first.

Memphis the only one who will be with me for birth is DH! I mainly want my mum for the week or so that I'm first home and adjusting to life with a new born, breastfeeding etc. She stayed with my sister for the first few nights and was a godsend.

Frenetic sounds like it could be baby, mine felt like bubbles for first weeks now its like a tapping

Suzi, so maybe best if she comes from due day on wards? If you don't want her at the birth then if she is a day late it won't be too bad
I asked as if I could only have one at birth it would be my mum, I had a bad birth first time round and mum said she didn't think she could face seeing something like that again so when we started TTC my dh said he wanted to sit down with mum and if she wasn't willing to be there he couldn't have another as she supported HIM so much she was amazing and dh said he drew a lot of strength from her (he cannot handle seeing blood or me in pain ) then it all went a tad wrong and he was able to look after ds while mum looked after me, my best friends wife had a bad time and he said he sat there torn over who to be with, nurses told him to stay with baby but his wife nearly died, he was gutted as her mum refused to be there.

Also just been in Asda there is a baby event on and growing up milk is £2 off, full on fight between 2 men and security over it, one bloke bought 5 boxes then went to get more, he had the basket yanked off him by security then another bloke put 6 in (max 5 per day) he refused to take 6th out so ended up brawling over it
A checkout woman was screeching 'other parents want to feed their babies too!'

memphis thats so nice! Lovely that your OH felt so supported by your mum (not that your first birth was traumatic or anything, obvs!)

Still no mat wear for me, although i just had a big lunch with a supplier and the idea of elasticated trousers is definitely appealing to me at the moment.

Ha I so would have enjoyed watching the brawl in asda memphis!

My sister is going to join us at the birth this time as well as DP. I regret not having her with me at DD's birth.

Bangon I actually dumped my trolley to pretend to look at a baby bouncer to get a better view

Bangles it was great my mum doesn't step on your toes like some mothers you read about on MN, dh couldn't be there for any of my injections or epidural (that took 45 mins) so was nice mum was there, when I was resting they went off for coffee or breakfast together then as time dragged on one shut their eyes while the other 'kept watch' then once ds arrived she had a cuddled and slipped out for us to have alone time.