February 2015 #3 - Roll on the Glow!!

[LittleMissSunshine33]

Hi Ladies thread 3!! 2nd Trimester we are on a roll!!

Evening one and all, enjoying the weather?
We had a big barbie yesterday so have spent most of today trying to tidy up the garden in my waterproofs- must say, im very much enjoying the 'no hangover' side of things- only downside is having to deal with drunk people while being sober... Its amazing how far people get in your personal space when theyve had a few!

Im definitely on team'find out gender' - i am an impatient soul. We decided in the end not to pay for a gender scan, so i'll be eagerly counting down the days til the 20 weeker!

Memphis, we are planning on having 3 names to choose from too, then hoping we will just look at baby and know which one suits!

Argh, names! We'll be fine if bean is a boy - we're both 100% set on the same name for a boy. Girls however... we simply cannot agree. Best we can do is one that he loves and I'm 'meh' with. Once we know for sure, we can either settle or battle it out!

Bit of an emotional blob this evening. Just feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything, you know?

Frenetic- we have the opposite problem- 100% cert for a girl, nothing for a boy!

And have just been given a baby-based pep talk by the oh- yesterdays party really brought it home exactly how much life is going to change. Mini meltdown city!

Glad it's not just me having little meltdowns! Everything has just been a bit overwhelming this week. Hope everyone had a good weekend in the end x

I am having major meltdown/wobbles/oh shit this is actually happened moments since the scan.
Im stunned its a boy, If I could pick gender it would have been a boy but I was sure it was a girl and convinced myself it wasn't a boy so now I feel numb and a bit overwhelmed

memphis. I'm feeling the same about a girl! Keep seeing little girls around and think, I'm going to have one and have a little cry. I just assumed it would be another DS. Thrilled to be having a girl, but mentally I was prepared for a boy. I can't quite believe it!

It's a rotten 44c here today, bleurgh!! Thankfully took the day of work, didn't sleep well and got about 3hrs. Weekend was super hot too. Had a company picnic on Saturday and could only manage a couple of forays to see what the DSs were up to then retreated to shade and fans. Ending up sitting alone for most of the day. Had to have a nap when we got in.

Sunday I stencilled the downstairs loo and made hidden veg pasta sauce, knocked a couple of items off the to do list, thank goodness

Aw Memphis hope you are feeling better soon!

Did you have a very strong feeling that is was a girl beforehand?

We are getting a gender scan exactly so we can get used to the idea of what ever we are having, although I do know someone who thought they were having a girl right up until 32 weeks when their boy decided to be less coy! Many many pink clothes all washed and ready had to be sold off quickly for a complete change of wardrobe!

I'm a bit stressed out at work at the moment hoping the next four weeks go by v quickly!

Jack I think because I have felt so different and even the doc printed off something about feeling nausea is sign of a girl etc I had prepared myself for a girl, I always wanted two boys and I never thought for a million years I would get what I wanted.

Everyone had said 'oh you are expecting a girl' so everyone around us is just as shocked. I also think part of it is for last 18 weeks it hasn't felt real but now it does, we waited two years for a bfp and it was our last push trying before medically I had to stop so now it all feels reaI I am a tad overwhelmed

Also makes me even more annoyed with myself that I got PND last time and in that low haze I got rid of all the clothes we had for ds, it was all Next, Debenhams and other pricey brands.

When we went out for dinner last night dh said 'come on lets getvyou two home' and I cried......hormone city

Aw Memphis I'm so glad to hear that others are just as emotional as I am!! I cry at anything these days!

Does anyone else have a total craving for salt? I have always liked salt but I bought some rock salt the other day and it goes on everything..even boiled eggs!
My gut instinct is a boy...anyone know any salty gender facts? Just to complicate things, I still have a sweet tooth!

I've heard that salt cravings are fairly common because of the increase in blood and therefore the increase in sodium needed. I've had the occasional craving for a packet of ready salted crisps - yet another thing MIL and SIL would probably put down to "being a boy"!

Had a very vivid dream last night that I felt the baby move. I woke up after & put my hand on my tummy, felt nothing. As I'm only 14 +5, is it too early to have felt something or was it a dream? I'm a FTM.

blank i keep wondering if i'm feeling something, or if it's just my overactive digestive system! Absolutely no idea what it's meant to feel like! (I'm only just ahead of you- 15+3)

I think the only way im going to know for sure is when the baby's bigger and a swift boot is unmistakable :D

Memphis hope you're feeling better today. Although I am crying at everything lately! Ridiculous things on tv are the worst!

I first felt movement the day after my 16 week midwife appt (was 16+2) think I might have had flutterings earlier but just didn't recognise it. Friends had told me I wouldn't feel anything til 20 weeks! Think I started paying more attention when the midwife told me I would probably be feeling it v soon

I've been having flutterings since week 14. Now nearly 17 and had my first internal scan to measure cervix today. Everything looks good and it's very unlikely I'll need a stitch. Didn't take partner as didn't realise they'd do normal scan too. She asked if I wanted to know sex. I was very good and said no as DP wasn't there. What would you lot have done? My boss said I should have found out.

donkir - i don't think i'd have found out without DP there (even if we were planning to find out!) unless we'd discussed beforehand that he was ok finding out later.

I had my 16 week appt today - they're chasing up perinatal mental health since my referral has been lost again - sigh. Really, i just want to talk to someone knowledgeable about my meds/what to do for the best.

They said that the chances of finding heartbeat with doppler were low today (partly as i'm obese) and that at this stage they wouldn't scan if they didn't find it (unlike last health authority), so i decided not to get them to try, as i knew what it would do to my anxiety if they couldn't find it, but weren't going to do anything else. I really wanted to hear if for reassurance, but with such low chances, it wasn't worth the potential anxiety (which they agreed with, saying they'd attempt if i really wanted to, but wouldn't recommend it for me). Doesn't help that DP can't come to my 20 week scan though.

Getting a bit fed up with "we want to see you because you're high risk, but we won't discuss x, y, z till later" - if they're going to see me now, i want it discussed now, lol.

Donkir I would like to think I wouldn't have said yes but knowing me I would have asked if I could get him on the phone to hear the outcome....I am that impatient!

Glad I am not the only one who is hormonal, am a bit better today although someone at work said 'two boys, lovely...try for a girl next' which annoyed me will be glad when dh is snipped but think I am going to say I cannot medically have any more and hopefully shut people up.

Donkir is that normal to get an internal scan? Was that with the midwife?

I am also in the finding out the gender camp. I like knowing and feel like it helps me to become more attached while pregnant.

I didn't feel any movement until about 20 weeks with ds so any first time mums not feeling anything yet don't panic. I have felt a few movements so far this time but they are not at all regular and are really light. I'm really looking forward to them getting bigger. It is one of my favourite things about being pregnant.

Littlemiss no it's not usual to have internal scan but because ive had two LETZ treatments for pre cancer cells on my cervix it has left my cervix week and could be shorter than normal. Thankfully although my cervix is mushy which causes me bleeding it's still quite long. Will need checking again at 22weeks.

Evening all, I appear to have a wee bump today! DD is so happy and has spent the day kissing it
I didn't know sex with DD and felt it kept me going! DD is desperate to know!

I've gone off all sweet things, it makes me feel sick, and I'm having a girl. I've gone off junk all together actually. Hopefully that'll mean less weight gain then when I had DS2! There is nothing that I actually want to eat, nothing feels satisfying. Most frustrating. I took the DSs for cupcakes and a drink to celebrate a great first day of school yesterday, ordered a lychee chill, freshly made, sounded gorgeous. Couldn't even drink a quarter of it.

I got my blood results today, low risk for downs.

I asked DH if I could quit my job today, and I know I can't. It just seems so pointless and I don't know how I can get through the next 5mths, but I have to find a way. I shouldn't complain, but I can't help it. I've done this job for 18yrs and the way they do it here is NOT right, it's more an accounting position which is not what I am. They want me to help them tighten up a procedure as according to them the last company I worked at was the best in the business at it. I'm really debating if I want to help them or not. I just want to go back to my old company, waaah, but they have no work.

Hi all, rough day today, emotion wise. Just feeling very lonely, if that makes sense. I don't really have any local friends, and DH seems to be very detached.. maybe that'll change when I have a proper bump but at the moment when I get overwhelmed or excited he's very 'meh', which is hard to take at the moment.

Plus my Mum lives a couple of hours away and could do with her closer!

Frenetic, when you have a proper bump you'll never feel lonely! I mourned my bump after having DD!