February 2015 #3 - Roll on the Glow!!

[LittleMissSunshine33]

Hi Ladies thread 3!! 2nd Trimester we are on a roll!!

Hope all goes well today Memphis and others who have their scans!
Mine is in two weeks time am 90% sure we won't find out what it is

Very much debating whether to talk to my midwife about going off sick I hate giving up but the pressure at work is giving me such stomach pains and feeling awful every day I normally can handle work pressure but my worry is more on the effect it's having on little bean!!

Good luck memphis

littlemiss definitely put you and your baby first at this time. You don't need any extra stress.

We've got a sickness bug in our house! I haven't got it yet....I hope i don't! I've got sheets and sheets of washing to do not to mention all the disinfecting! I've taken the day off work to be with DD and clear up last nights mess

Good luck with scans girls. I'm officially half way today woo hoo. Scan at lunch tomorrow.

Morning all

Littlemiss- deffo mention it (and I say that as someone who hates making a fuss and would much rather soldier on regardless)- it's just not worth feeling rubbish for 'just some job'

I had a poo nights sleep- ended up surrounding myself with pillows in an attempt to prop things up. Woke up about 4am and the baby must've been hanging out 'down low' because the bottom of my stomach had gone totally solid- very odd stuff! (but quite exciting though!)

Im back.....seems they did think there was an issue with his heart, 20 mins of just on the heart, zooming in, different angles, making recordings and slowing it all down to see it move slowly, but they have given him the all clear.
He was fast asleep today straight as an arrow, legs straight but feel crossed over with his hands over his face (this is how ds and dh sleep!) 21 weeks now.
Dh is unexpectedly coming home tonight......best get cleaning! Ds will be so happy he has really missed him this week

yay- excellent news, memphis :)

Ive just had a rant at a colleague- she was saying about how her DP was going to be rubbish with the baby (she's 30-something weeks) and she didn't know how he was going to cope- cue minor outburst along the lines of 'men are not rubbish- they know just as little/as much as women, its just women are more inclined to let them believe they're rubbish and thus they don't bother trying and the cycle continues

If she's happy that he's said he's not going to be changing any nappies, thats lovely, but god help her if she ever complains about how little he does to help!

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That's great memphis!

Good for you bangles! What was her reaction? You're right all men aren't rubbish....my DP is a little rubbish lol. BUT I have always known that I wouldn't get any help when DD was born or throughout her childhood therefore I don't moan because I went into it knowing I'll be doing it all on my own. Just as I have done. Again, I know when this one comes along I'll be doing all the work, but that's just how we are as much as I hate it sometimes! But I never moan...about this particular subject anyway

She didn't say much! My (female) boss came in half way through my ranting and agreed with me. Then I made everyone a cup of tea and it was all forgotten about

I just think I've got no more idea what I'm doing than my other half and I quite like the idea that him and I will be blagging our way through this together, rather than me pretending I have it all under control and him being blissfully ignorant

That said, if anyone's happy doing all the baby stuff while their OH does something else, then that's cool too- it's just the fact I know this girl is going to moan about how crap her OH is until the baby is 15!

Good on you bangles my dh is bloody brilliant with ds he was the first person to hold, put nappy on him ,dress and feed him when he popped out, he helped with nights, told me to rest etc but he is rubbish in other ways....he cannot cook and refuses to learn, cannot clean a bathroom, is the crappest present buyer EVER, sometimes just feeds ds noodles or chip butty for lunch when I am at work an if I didn't out clothes out for baby/child I dread to think what he would put it in He would be mortified if I told him he was crap without being given a chance...but once he has tried if he is still crap he accepts it!

My lovely sis just came round with a groupon voucher for luxury pedicure and manicure

I agree, I have friends who's husbands have never changed a nappy and that is how their families work and they are happy but then I have friends who moan that their husband 'can't' change a nappy and they feel that they do too much on their own.
We both very much spent first few weeks going 'argh what do we do?' We learnt together and I loved that.

My DH is the one with more experience than me! I'm an only child and don't really have family close to me in age; whereas DH was around to babysit for both his nieces - so he's a lot more fluid and natural around kids than me. When it comes to raising one though, I think we'll be fumbling through it together!

Frentic - I'm same as you, my dh has loads of experience loads of kids in his family growing up - he asked me other day what I thought baby talc was for so just replied to make them into snowmen - he didn't find it overly funny unlike me

This when ours arrives we will be clueless together

Mini - I guffawed at that; I posted a pic from lola.typepad.com/lola/babies/ on my FB the other day and I think some people took it a little too seriously :p

I agree bangles. My dh is great with our ds but didn't really get his confidence until he started looking after him on his own for a few days when I went back to work. Breast feeding and maternity leave tend to mean that women are on their own with a baby and forced to muddle their way through much more than men. Then it can easily look like the mum is feeling comfortable with the baby while the dad is still finding their feet. I think unless they have the space to find their way on their own it can be easy to settle in to the role of mum as main caregiver.

My dh is actually more keen on newborn snuggles than I am. I prefer toddlers and get a little bored stuck under a sleeping baby.

Thanks Bang and Bangles I am seeing her soon!

My DP is amazing around the house cooks cleans and is now building a dining/play room!! I have worked in baby units and with children all my adult life so know a little but I'm sure he will muck in just as much!!
I feel sorry for the men really as they don't go through all the changes and feel the baby they are just suddenly here to them!!

That is so true- never looked at it that way before!- it must be a bit odd a shock to the system- however 'involved' a guy is he can't really be properly involved until the baby's here

We just got internet back after 2 evenings without, seems like there's a bunch of stuff to catch up on! Re: weight, I'm really happy that when we moved things around to decorate our room the scales got put in a cupboard and I don't know which one or how buried so not having spotted them in a while I've no idea how much weight I've gained. Definitely a case of ignorance is bliss

I have lost another pound....hoping stvthis rate I will have no baby weight to lose!

Tonight my mum said about how many baby clothes I have bought so we had a count 7 0-3 baby grows and 26 newborn ones! So I have sorted a load to take back and swap for bigger size

ps - congrats on your scans viper and Memphis. Mine is also tomorrow donkir but 2pm. Luckily I'll be at work all morning so won't really have chance to think about it.

Morning all.

Good luck for scans today donkir and geeky!

Can you believe we're half way through already?! Heads up, I ordered some maternity pjs from verbaudet yesterday, top and bottoms for £23! Plus you get a free changing bag as a free gift with a code...now I think I've thrown the paperwork away but it could be code 2852.

Good luck Geeky for today. Mines at 12.30 just hope they're running on time. Holding my wee at the moment is nonexistent. I actually slightly wet myself last night. Baby moved to the wrong place

Hi girls!
Had my scan yesterday! Baby js measuring spot on, and looks perfectly healthy.

We also found out that we are having another boy!!!!
We are so very happy! DH didn't sleep at all last night, he's very excited to be having another boy! He seems much happier now.
DD was disappointed she's not getting a sister, but she seems ok this morning.

Good luck to the ones having scans today!

I can't wait until my consultants appointment on 2nd of October.

I can barely walk to the school and back without being in severe pain in mypelvis.
The school is five mins walk away so want to avoid driving, but walking is too painful :(

Morning all :)

Bimberly good news :)

Just a quick question as I'm supposed to be working

Anyone still suffering from a lot of tiredness? I'm so tired in the middle of the day I wonder if I'm a bit anaemic?

I have my scan on Tuesday and an clinic appointment so will ask there too but just wondering, it's never been an issue before

Jack im not sleeping great at all so tiredness is creeping up on me about 2.30 in the afternoon.

Bimberley that is great news

Jack yes I am not sleeping well at night due to itchy boobs and riverdancing on my bladder baby so mid afternoon I am shattered and its a struggle to function.

I am in bed after having a soak in the bath and am going out for lunch a true lady of leisure day!