Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

Everyone thinks that if you get over 12 weeks then you are ok, but I guess you don't know for sure until they are in your arms. poor poor lady.
Haven't been on here for ages and tbh can't face reading all the posts.....so hope all is ok with you all. I am fine but very tired!
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(should be on Apr thread!)

It happened to my friend too - its horrible, poor woman

Thanks everyone, am popping on to "see you" before I go lie down again.

Stay with us Caz. I'm always about 3 weeks late, so I'll popping sometime in April

or I could be a week early and just squeeze into march! here's hoping!

dolly-ur poor friend

Thanks!! Just knowing that isn't how it should have been makes me feel so much better. Trouble is, I have taken the system for granted and presumed that I am getting the right treatment. I'm going to look into it more closely.

Dolly... that's such sad news. The next few days will be rough for your friend.

Fatfox... another prayer heading your way Hope everything is ok.

Night to everyone... I'm off for a hot bath and heading to bed. As much as I want to, I can't bunk off again tomorrow

Hey ladies, remember Trace2 who sadly had a mc whilst on this thread? I've just noticed she's got a bfp on the June thread!! That's fab, so hope it works out for her this time. Sending her lots of sticky stuff!!!

Yeah, I'm so glad for Trace . I was on the conception threads with her for a few months: she's a very supportive lady.

Kiwi: sorry about your crap GP. . They should have tested your urine, taken your blood-pressure and felt the fundus at the very least. (Always think that sounds rude, but I am quite juvenile). Glad my Lalala technique is helping!

Fatfox - I'm sure the first diagnosis was correct: particularly as you suffered from that in your last pregnancy. What was the 12 year old basing her opinion on?

Off to watch Supernanny now for training purposes.

Booboo, on the basis she wanted an easy day, I think .

Am going to GP tomorrow to see if he can refer me to a "proper" doctor.

Any ideas, girls, on what I can say to GP to kick arse?

Kittywits? You're good at stuff like this.

Usually am quite good at complaining but this is making me feel very fragile and mushy and not in good fighting mood. The best I can do is turn on the tears - always helps, but not always enough.

DH just walked past and said "why don't you get off that computer and give yourself a chance to rest?"

Sorry I'm ignoring everyone elses woe and worries today.

Well Fatfox, I would just be very clear about what you want the Dr to do. Phrases like "I need you to... it's very important to me that.... I'm sure you understand that......
Tears do help so does insistence. Tell the doc about how you are feeling, your emotional health and how this affects the baby and the rest of your family. Tell him/her what you now want to happen .It is slightly more forceful than being upset and hoping they will feel sorry for you.
If the doc says they are going to make appointments, referals etc. then ask when you can expect to hear something, who to speak to if you have not heard anything. Pin them down, it makes them weary and they don't want the hassle of having you on their back so they're much more likely to get on the case. If you aren't satisfied keep on phoning and hassling. I always say please and thankyou and am so grateful for the time they are putting in to helping me . I have found being obsequious always pays huge divis ( awful aren't I).
Hope none of this is patronising, it's not meant to be.
Do you get the feeling that I have been down this road before?
Saying that you will most prob have it all sorted in a thrice, let's hope so.

Oh yes, very important this one; don't take 'no' for an answer and don't leave until you feel you have got somewhere.

Can't sleep, in case you are wondering. I've been awake for over an hour now. I've always been a bit of an insommniac, waking up at some point almost every night of my life. But it is worse now i am pregnant. I can't seem to get back to sleep very easily.

Anyway... I'm enjoying the la la technique and am sure I will use it extensively.

Fatfox, sorry to hear about the bleeding. I hope it turns out to be nothing. I think its really a good sign that the baby is moving loads. I know it would worry my a lot too though. Take it easy and use it as an excuse to stay in bed as much as possible.

I work from home. DP and i run a company together, so we are both on flexi-time! We actually get on really well with it and work as a great team. My DS1 started school last month so we are getting loads of work done between us, but there wont be any problem with me going on maternity leave... I expect my leave will be about 3 or 4 days, maybe 10 if I have a c/section - thats just how it goes when you work for yourself isn't it?

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Thanks Kittywits, that's really useful actually had has helped me to focus.

I want him to refer me to someone at Queen Charlotte's who will check me and the baby over properly and try and identify where the bleed is coming from and why. Even if they can't identify the cause of the bleed inconclusively, at least they can check the placenta etc and that its not torn. I don't think its satisfactory that each time I go there I get told contradictory advise by people in the same department. Plus I'm a high risk case because of my age and I MC'd last year.

• Also advise if there's anything I can do to manage the bleed situation i.e. - what should I do when it starts? Should I rest or what?

Thanks for that. My appointment is at 3.20 if anyone else has any additional brainwaves

Dixia, I know exactly what you mean, my whole family suffers from insomnia (luckily not DS and DD though ). What do you do to help you get back to sleep?

My strategies are:

reading
trying to relax/deep breathing etc
hot chocolate
If I'm stressed about something, a glass of wine, then reading something inane until I drift off

Do you get a chance to catch up on lost sleep?

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That's it fafox, know what you want and stand you ground until you get it!!!

Fatfox, I hope you see someone who has enought nouse to explain the situation sympathetically and honestly and does the right tests. Scans can detect placental flow quite easily at 15-16 weeks.
My friend bled masively in her last pregnancy, some type of clots that were growing and dropping. She had almosty daily care.
I had a bit of spotting after lifting a bookcase (I know I know) at 22 weeks and masive cramps, I was in hospital for 3 days as they thought I might have had placental abruption.
So you are entitled to lots of investiagtions and some decent answers, you should not have to haul someone over coals to get them - it makes me so

Anyway I'm off to get my hair cut today.
WhenI'm pregnant my hair grows fast, thick and goes ringletty - I normally wear it short but it is LUSH atm, so am keeping it.
I am off to my brothers 30th in Londinium Sat night for a cocktail party..
Hmmm there is one of his friends wives who is preg with her first 2 weeks ahead of me- eeeks bet she is flat tummied first pregnancy nymphette..
I'll look like a colussus next to her I bet..

With any luck fatfox you'll get someone who is on the ball today. There's lots of people who get great satisfaction from doing their job well and thoroughly. You are just giving them that opportunity! I hope you are suitably reassured by the end of the day!

Dixia I have been on mn in the middle of the night too on occasion! I get a bit obsessed with the whole sleep thing! I really am useless when I don't sleep and I've had such probs with sleep depravation over the past couple of years. Today I'm a wreck cuz my guys are sick and they were up loads in the night.
Its actually the only thing I am dreading about having another bambino. If I get my sleep I can cope with anything!

Piffle you may look like a colossus but your hair sounds GORGEOUS!

Piffle, you will look majestic and dignified with your large bump. Hurrah for big bumps (even though I'm still waiting for the tiniest sign that one is appearing...)

anniediv in a few months time when you feel like a huge bump with legs you will think wistfully back to this 'neat' time

I'd quite like a little bit of a bump just to know that something is going on in there, esp as I've not "felt" pregnant for a few days.. and have been MS free for a week now. still stupidly tired but I'm taking that as second nature ATM.

Kiwi - that's really bad! when did you last have a check up?

Fatfox - did they actually give you a scan when you went to the hospital? Please, please take lots of rest, if you start bleeding then definitely lie down. Goodluck at the drs this afternoon.

I had the amnio yesterday, it is really not pleasant (but mentally and emotionally; physically I hardly felt it), i'm actually not worried about the results, more worried about all the other things that oculd go wrong in this pregnancy ! I think I said yesterday that there is a far higher risk of something else going wrong than anything the amnio would show up. Well i'm off work for the rest of the week but will probably do some stuff from home.

Evenhope - its good to hear from you again, how long do you have to wait for your results? I'm here holding your hand!

As for going back to work - ds was 8 months when i went back 60%. He absolutels loves his nursery and really needs the noise and company of the other children. It has been agreed that I can take a year off with the twins (the whole of 2007)! only 6 months + holiday will be paid. Thing is I'm a business analyst/small project manager and I'm really not enjoying my job anymore , the discontinuity of being there only 3 days makes it really tough and I know i'm not doing a particularly good job. So if I do go back I want my role to change or will look for another job. Costs of childcare I won't even think about, for me if I want to work its important that I do even if the childcare takes all the money. Also if i do give up working now I would find it near impossible to go back to work again in the future in my profession and have no idea what else I could or want to do! So for the time being I think its worth keeping a foot in the door. If I was working fulltime i would actually be earning considerably more than dh, he would also like to reduce but has left the decision to me. Maybe in the future we will both work 80%, but i have to feel happier with my job first and really feel that i don't mind leaving the children for 4 days.

Amie - pregnancy symptoms probably feel less now because you are in the second trimester!

Twins 17 weeks today !

ahhh at 19 weeks I may have reached that blissful phase I've been reading about?... fantastic. Have 22 week scan at the end of this month, I can't wait for it!

Actually last day or so I've started feeling really good too.
Sleeping well, skin great, nails and hair (great on head everywhere else though)growing thick and strong
I'm 15 weeks and something days

Hi,

I had a GP ante natal appointment on Monday and everything was good.
Im so glad I got my own heartbeat monitor as otherwise I wouldnt be so reassured,the GP hasnt listened once yet.
Question-do you have to have a amnio? I got my 20 week scan next week and on the letter it says about an amnio but I dont feel I need one.I was wondering if it would just be a standard letter sent out to everyone.

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