Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

18+2

i worked from when dd1 was 1 until almost 2 when we emigrated to Aus but I was then 18 weeks pregnant and no one would want to hire me - also meant I could organise therapy etc for dd1.

Her first year was full of open heart surgery, recovery, hospital visits and so on.

Luckily now we are in Aus - I don't really need to work - we can survive quite well without me working.

WOuld be hard - only end up paying a nanny to take dd1 to swimming, kindy, sn kindy therapy and so on - so why do it?? Dd1 has so many demands on her time with her activities and various outpatient appts that it would have to be a very understanding employer.

I am also a secondary teacher by profession and english and history subject carry a heavy workload here in Aus - whilst I may not have the prep the marking and reporting is horrendous. I don't want to come home to the children and be starting that work at 8pm when they are in bed - want to see my family and husband.

That said - when they are all in school - who knows. Am contemplating a masters to transfer to early childhood special needs education and taking on that role.

15 weeks fri

Good day to all.

I am planning to come back to work, but I'm lucky and work for a family business and can do a lot of my job.. 95.5% of it at home. If it wasn't for DH's nice wage he'd want to stay and be a house husband, but its just more economically viable if he continues on at his job.

Pins and needles feeling in right breast... which is an interesting feeling. Anyone had anything similar?

Thanks for all the well wishes and thoughts.

blimey...i knew i should have come on here this morning instaed of putting the washing on.

leo-hope everything goes ok and u make the decision thats right for you.

i am in the ignorance is bliss camp,after spending every second of my pg with dd2 worrying about what might be wrong and trying to prepare for the worst(ie,has she got anything wrong with her,why hasnt she moved for 2 hours,what if i go into labour in the middle of tesco etc etc)then finally relaxing when she was born,only for her to be rushed to hospital when she was 2 weeks old.
now i know im better of dealing with things if they happen,as i cope better under pressure than if ive had months to worry.

i know that feeling of thinking ur dh/dp has forgotten ur pregnant,but if we manage to forget sometimes then who can blame them?!i got told off the other night for carrying an asleep ds2 upstairs(he weighs about 3 stone)-but i just forgot !

booboo-i havent worked (apart from the odd training course and vouluntary work) since i was pg with ds1.every time i go to do something towards going back to work i end up getting pregnant again..

hope everybody is ok

16+6

Boo, you sound in such a great place. That is great.
Its fascinating to hear how you all are juggling your lives and doing so well at it.

I've done my Masters & PhD and worked my socks off to get where I am, but am not sure how my job will translate into flexible or part time working. I do know my current job wants me to stay, so maybe we can strike a deal ! DH is adamant that I stop work for a while... somehow dont see myself as a very satisfied housewife, but am willing to give it a try.

Thanks Kiwi and Rosy That was nice.

Time to move on from my navel gazing I do tend to over analyse too much....

I don't think you're over-analysing onilly. This is huge, grown-up life-stuff, isn't it?

Odds on, you'll have your LO and turn into a lentil-weaving earth-mother, and I'll freak out, get obsessed with losing-my-life and re-train to become a barrister.

That's good advice diva. At the moment my hormones are keeping me calm, but on Sunday I was all over the place. Shouted at DH for cuddling the dog more than me.

booboo... thanks, you have put it all into perspective for me!! You are the luckiest woman in the world

Next time I'm having concerns / worries / doubts, I'll remember your tune... la, la, la, la, la .

I will go back to work. I have a fantastic job working closely with children which is such a relief and joy after teaching. I also work in a small school with a real family environment - so I want to go back! Whether I go p/t or f/t still remains to be seen.

I'll still be working afterwards - but am lucky in having a job which is more or less homebased (at least 4 days out of 5) and flexible enough to juggle hours a bit around other commitments. As long as I work at least 09:15 to 15:15 each day I can do the remaining hours early in the morning/evenings/at weekends.

Onilly - my DH works long hours and still does. He did break the habit for a short time when DS was small but I think it was brought on by the sleep deprivation.

Booboobedoo - I didn't return to work after having DS and will stay home with no 2. I'm thinking about getting some kind of pt childcare for DS but feeling unsure about nursery

I stopped working when ds1 was born, don't really want to have any paid work at the mo.
16 weeks tomorrow

LOL at mr.booboo cuddling the dog!there have been a few occasions where ive thrown a strop at dp-'you are more affectionate to that bloody cat than ur to me!'

i started a thread about lads' mags the other day when i was in the mood for a debate,but the only replies i got were ppl agreeing with me.now i feel at one with the world again (?) somebody has resurected it and kind of challenged my opinion...typical.

My Dh cuddles the kids more than he cuddles me and I'm as bad. A few weeks ago my parents minded the kids and forced Dh and I out on a date. We both wanted to stay in and play with the kids we are a horrible couple. We both forgot our wedding anniversary! Actually though we had a great time out and need to do it more often!

Booboobedoo your story is really heart warming.

Well I haven't worked for a few years, a days work kills me I don't know how you guys do it!
I am an artist really though I feel guilty calling myself that I've done so little for ages. So in the past I've taught art and done the odd workshop and I've worked as a classroom assistant. I have a small kiln and I am in the process of getting it back into action.
So my plan is to do my own art fitted around the kids for the next while. And as I get more freedom I'll get more and more arty farty

alright... I am ready to cry! I went for my long-awaited appointment with the doctor and he said that he didn't know why I was there . This should have been my 16 week visit but I'm a bit out since the scan dates came back differently - actually 19 weeks. I was looking forward to my belly being felt and told that everything is ok with the baby. I had also hoped to hear the heartbeat. What should he have done? My next appointment is with the midwife at the end of October .

Does this sound right?? I need to do some research in to ante-natal care!!

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you'd think... if thye missed your 16 week one they'd do as described below anyhoo.. just incase, even if its just to put you at ease.

but welcome to the 19 week club!

Hi kiddos

Am feeling a bit wiped out today. Spent all morning at A&E, waiting to go on Hammersmith Hospital's ancient scanner again

Had some more blood last night, and could hardly sleep I was so stressed.

The gynea today (in complete opposition to the other gynea I saw three weeks ago), said I don't have cervical erosion.

WTF is the bleeding then?? She said it may be the placenta moving?!?
TBH I don't think she knew what she as talking about. She was about 12.

Am visiting GP tomorrow and have just started a thread for some advice from other Mum's who've "been there".

Sorry to moan but feeling very negative.

Evenshope - you rest up, you should be lying down for a couple of days. Fingers crossed for a quick and good amnio result.

Leo - good luck with your decision, Kitty is right, do what your instincts tell you.

Onilly, am in same position as you re. work - really enjoy my job and have worked hard to get where I am, and wouldn't neccessarily want to be a full-time sahm.

But I do find it very hard that I have to work full time (have mega-west-London mortgage). I think 2/3 days per. week would be ideal and sometimes contemplate giving up west London pad and moving somewhere cheaper. DH will give up work next year when I go back after maternity leave. Feel slightly jealous of him (I earn more so he has the "choice", not me) and worried he'll give the kids crisps behind my back

Seriously though, once you get to baby No 3, its hardly worth working financially, as child care costs are so high in this country. But, hey, that's a whole other thread...

Sorry to everyone I aven't responded to

18+2 and praying again. Baby is moving loads, specially after hot chocolate

kiwibella - so annoying when drs are so flippant, don't think they realise how important visits are (yr just another person in a q) I hated it when things like that happen. am sure baby ok. Love this site !

oh c#*p - havnt put dinner on yet !!!! bye

kiwi - your doc sounds crap - can you see a different one?

fatfox - try to take it easy, hopefully your GP will be able to rapidly refer you to a ob/gynae

Kiwi, that's so crap, so sorry for you. Some medics can be such a**se wipes. Can you afford to go private?

Fatfox, I bet is IS cervical erosion. It's astounding how much these professionals just DON'T know. I hope the other thread throws up something useful. You need to start throwing a hissy fit now. if I lived near you I'd do it for you. I'm good at those. Hope your doc is sympathetic. Keep us posted.

kiwi-thats a bit out of order.i only see my midwife for appts apart from when i go to the hospital and see the consultant,which is meant to be at 28 weeks and 34 weeks but is usually more often if my blood pressure is naughty.
i would have thought the doc would at least listen to the heartbeat.
fatfox-hope ur ok ,its horrible not knowing wtf is going on.the nurse i saw when i was bleeding at 6/8 weeks was useless,she didnt even know what a cervical cyst was!i think she got her nursing qualifications free with just17 magazine.

there seem to be more and more southern ppl moving up here due to the cheap housing.trouble is,theres no work up here,thats why its so cheap,but ppl dont seem to realise that till its too late!
if u start a thread about it not being worth working if u have 3 or more children then be sure to let me know
hope everything goes ok with the gp

Kiwi- Some dr's are probably very good technically but they have no 'people skills'!
You are right- just keep singing! And you'll probably be sick of them hoking and poking you by the end of the pregnancy!

Fatfox- My sil was bleeding for weeks and weeks with her last pregnancy. She couldn't find a reason and her hubby is a gynacologist! Anyway she had a huge healthy bouncing baby boy!

Hello everyone

Just a quick one from me tonight.... had a call from a friend at work to let me know another friend had her 20 week scan yesterday but there was no heartbeat . She is going into hospital later this week to deliver her poor baby .

Sorry I can't post more tonight. I have only skimmed the latest bits. Fatfox, I really hope that everything is OK tomorrow. I'll be at work but I am checking in regularly and will keep my fingers crossed. Amie, I am so sorry about your gran. Take care now. Eidsvold, thinking of you and your family - not long til Friday now.

Sorry to everyone I've missed. Will post properly tomorrow. In the meantime big hugs to you all XXXXX

Dolly, that's horrible, poor woman. It happened to a friend of mine once. Saying that it's very, very unusual.