Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

Spongecake, hello! When are you due?
If you are with the wonderful NHS then it is pretty unlikely that the midwife who sees you antenatally will be the one who delivers you, particularly if you are having a hospital birth, unless of course you have a domino scheme where you are.
In a normal system, you will go into labour, phone your hospital, they will tell you when to come in and then you get whoever is on duty at the time. It is a bit of a lottery.
I think your confidence in your midwife does make a difference when you are in labour, yes, but you do have the right to request another midwife if you feel you really can't get on with the one you have..

Sorry, it can't be very good for you reading all our 'stories'. Some of us are old hands at this, so don't take much notice, we like to moan amoungst ourselves!!

There are some other first timers here too, I'm sure they will be along later as everyone here likes to talk. Do feel free to ask as many questions as you want. When I was expecting my first, I really didn't have a clue.
It would have been great to have had MN then. Mind you hardly anyone had a pc either!!

Hi everyone - having a good day today - had some energy and actually managed some cleaning (applause please)

Kittywits - Happy Birhday - you sound a lot more cheery today. Hope DP treats you today.

Aime - glad your Gran seems stable, that seems a positive sign.

Welcome Becks and Spongecake

The Blonde - the hypnotherapy sounds really interesting.

Rosy - I loved my Tens machines - found they really did help in the early stages. Gave me something to focus on and that buzz took the edge off the pain.

Eids - great NT result - well done, its reassuring isn't it?

Piffle - wow you just pop them out!! That you had string braxton hicks is really interesting. I have quite weak conractions I think - I had on/off labour for 5 days with DS and was exhausted. TBH I was releived to be induced with DD as it shortened the process

BooBoo/Onilly - try not to worry - after all its only one day in your life - that's what I always tell myself. However much it hurts, the end result is a lovely baby !

Dolly - LOL at the mooooing

anna - I also get those stich like pains all the time, guess its just streching ligaments.

Leo - glad to hear you're doing well. Are you much more tired this time, with the twins?

Hiya Becks and Spongecake

Eidsvold... congrats on the test results

Kitty... happy birthday!! Hope that you have had a fun day celebrating

I had an appointment with the dr today but they cancelled. I was so disappointed because I was looking forward to being checked and knowing that everything was ok. I haven't felt as much movement for the last couple of days.

Hope everyone has a nice, relaxing weekend planned.

Kiwi - Hi. I had loads of movement at 14 weeks, then it completely stopped. I have the occassional twitch but not much movement. Am still growing though and feel exhausted so there must be a growing baby in there. I guess it just depends on which position they're lying in as to how much we can feel and I wouldn't worry about the movements until after 20 weeks, as technically we shouldn't really feel movement until that stage anyway. I think any movements before 20 weeks are a bonus really. That's so annoying about your DR though . Have you got a new appointment for next week instead?

Ooops, 17+6

at you all having appointments already - I don't get to see a midwife for another 11 weeks yet! (First appt is 26 weeks here!)

morning everyone.
fatfox-ive started feeling movement again since i heard the heartbeat yesterdaybut they are kicks rather than flutters.saying that,its grown overnight and i look rather pregnant today.
lunar-i think its awful that u dont get seen till 26 weeks.as i mentioned yesterday ,my bp was a bit high so i have to go to the hospital monday.i thought those sort of problems were the reason ur supposed to have regular ante-natal checks.
hope everbody is ok.im off to the park now with the nutcases (apart from dp) to make the most of the fact its not raining for once.

16+3

Morning

Hope everyone well.... headache has just gone

DS1 is outside washing the car - (it's the first time he has done it and it is very streaky - but - bless him - he has been out there for an hour and a half so 10/10 for effort)

I think I am feeling the baby move a bit - but as you say fatfox ... its not a worry before 20 weeks.

Off for a walk in the woods and hopfully a nice bowl of soup. You can tell its autumn !

Where are you Lunar Sea ?? If you don't get to see a midwife before 26 weeks - how do you discuss testing etc. is it with a GP ?

yeah, I know that the flutterings I feel are a bonus. There was lots of movement this morning while I lazily lay in bed. Dh still trying to feel too... shouldn't be long since I'm coming up 19 weeks. I have a drs appointment on Tuesday instead. When do you hear the heartbeat??

Lunar... where are you?? I won't complain again since you haven't had a check up yet!

Dd and I have awful colds. She is grumpy with it too Daddy is looking forward to a walk across to Greenwich - I think there will have to be some bribery involved .

Kiwi - my midwife used a doppler to feel hear the heartbeat at 14 weeks - although new guidance indicates waiting until 18 I think. You should be able to hear it now

16 + 5

DollyP - i started reading your birth story in horror, but have ended up sitting here giggling! You are so lucky to have been up and walking so quickly after the cs, maybe your pain drugs were just stronger than mine!

Annaspanna - also read your birth story to the end. It also sounds like not the best one. The stitch like pains is probably ligaments stretching and straining.

Welcome spongecake! sorry also can't give you advice as I don't know the system, but i would say if you don't feel comfortable with someone who is caring for you then change them! Are you sure she would be the one at the birth anyway? This thread moves pretty quickly so if you don't get the answers you need ask the question again.

Fatfox - thanks for asking! I'm doing well. i was suffering with bad pains around my belly for a few days, but I'm sure it was just to do with the fast pace that my belly is growing. Can't believe that I am only 16+4 and the skin on my belly is already completely tight and stretched out ! yes I'm definitely more tired, although the last couple of days I've felt better - feels more like 3rd trimester tiredness! I'm already feeling that big belly pregnancy discomfort. dh is being great, after breakfast i went back to bed until 11 today while he was out in the garden with ds !

Lunarsea, where are you? do you not get a scan until 26 weeks? that would totally freak me out!

we have wonderful weather here today, its like summer again !

sorry,i forgot to say ehllo and welcome spongecake!im starting to forger what planet im on at the moment
leo-i am that ur skin feels tight.mine is stretched so much it just hangs till about week 28 when the bump starts to fill it!

Hi girls

Welcome Spongecake and Becks. Good to have you on board. Spongecake, if you don't like your MW you can ask to be changed but as someone said unless you are booked for the domino scheme you won't get her in labour. The ones who do clinics tend to do so for a reason - I got very friendly with the crew at St thomas's last time, and 3 of the MWs did clinics because they had young kids and so didn't want to do shifts for a while and one more had high BP and so was not allowed to look after labouring women. If yours is scatty but you trust her advice and otherwise like her, I'd stick with her for a while longer unless you really have no confidence. I have an absolute boot of a MW at Kings this time who was positively rude to me last time but I can't be arsed to change. She seems competent enough and as I doubt I'll see her when it matters I think it is easier for me to stick.

Any more news on your gran Amie? Hope you are doing OK.

I am not stretched out yet, but have a definite pot. Went to a nearly new sale this morning and got a pair of mat trousers for £2 which definitely make me look more pregnant than my normal jeans. Last time I was so huge by the end I looked as though I had swallowed a birthing ball . Only got one stretchmark though, which was a miracle as I got shedloads in puberty.

I thought I could feel movement at about 13 1/2 weeks but can't feel anything now. The MW tried to hear the HB at 14 weeks with a sonicaid but couldn't as the baby was too small. Hope by the time I next see someone (which I think is about 20 weeks - the GP) it'll be chugging away.

Hope everyone is well today. We are packing up the house and as a result of lifting boxes etc I am walking like john wayne and feel completely knackered! I seem to have pulled a muscle in my bottom as walking is quite painful - ouch! I look quite funny hobbling around though.

Take care everyone and hope you are having a good day XXX

Dolly, rofl @ pullimg a muscle in your bottom
I too had been feelimg the occasional flutterings, but nothing for while. it worries me a bit , but I feel alot better knowing that so many of you are experiencing the same thing.

Leo, I always remember a friend of mine when she was about 7 months preg with twins turning round sideways so that she could fit through a narrow gap ( as you do normally) and getting stuck. We all wanted to know why she had done that and she didn't know either It was a very funny site. When she was washing up about a week before she was due to give birth her bump was so big that her arms didn't really reach the sink!! She's a really tiny, tiny woman and everything went fine for her.
I always wanted twins and think it's such an amazingly special thing to have happen to someone.

Hello all, am continuing to not feel sick, which is a first for me. Can another non first timer reassure me because I now feel like something has gone wrong as I don't feel or look pregnant at all (for me, pg=sick for 9 months). I can sort of feel my uterus (eek, hate that word!) if I lay on my back and press hard like the MW does. The only indication is I still have my nice itchy irritating rash, which I know is hormonal so hoping all is okay.

Glad to hear from everyone, and welcome to newbies, will be here all night if I namecheck you all!

By the way LunarSea is it you who won't see MW until 26 weeks? I'm not seeing mine until end of October, and had no scans or blood tests yet, but that is through my own aversion to going too early!

BTW kittywits, no movement felt here either, thinking it's because I must have huge cavernous innards from previous large babies lolling about in there!

I occasionally feel something that could be the baby but its not really obvious. Oh well before long we will all be complaining cuz there's a foot digging in our ribs and what about when you can feel the baby having hiccups! weird feeling. I can feel a braxton hicks every now and then!

I am in bliss today, I had family coming visiting so my sister came and helped me clean. So my house is tidy (mostly) its very exciting, I feel almost human! ( rather than 'pig' like)
16wks 6

Glad to hear most of you are well!

Gran is still stable so that's good.

I've felt tired today and seemed to have come down with a cold but managed to go out and get some new pants and maternity Bras, oh and some comfy socks!

I'm still not looking any different! but the stomach feels different, My Mum didn't start showing till about 6 months in so... who knows? Maybe I follow her!

Got my next scan date through, at 22 weeks on the 27th of October. Looking forward to that. Better try and book my 24 week appointment with the midwife as it took 6 weeks to see her for my booking appointment!

anniediv-i stopped feeling sick at 10 weeks with dd2 and i was convinced something had gone wrong,then i saw all was well at my 12 week scan which stopped me worrying for about 2 days..then i thought all was not well again till 16 weeks when i felt movement...but didnt feel any again till nearly 18 weeks!!i didnt look pg till i was about 24 weeks,i honestly thought that if there was still a baby in there it must be growing in my arsecos thats all that got bigger.
is it you who has 3 girls?

oh aye-just seen u on the '4 children' thread!maybe this pg seems different cos its a boy?!ru going to find out?

Hi divastrop, yes it's me and the 3 girlies! Have thought this might be a boy, don't really know what I'd do with one, but I think I'll wait and see, I like surprises!

Glad to hear you have experienced similar re, sickness, movement etc, thanks for responding.

Annie, I have a fanatasy (amoungst many others, ooo er) that I don't feel much movement because this child is lazy and likes to sleep all the time, a
When |I had the 12 week scan it barely moved, twitched a leg or arm occasionally, but apart from that nothing. Of all the scans I've seen I've seen seen one as inert as that!!!
It'll be interesting to see what it's like at the next scan, probably sleep the entire way through .
Has anyone else had a still baby on a scan before?

AnnieD - hmm, wonder if your next one is a boy then? I was not sick with DS at all, but very nauseous with DD. For a quickie preview into life with small boys, why don't you have a quick look on "behaviour/development: do all 5 year old boys play with guns?" - it just about sums up life with little boys in the house

The really great thing about boys is they are straightforward and uncomplicated - no mind games or spitefulness (massive generalisaton I know , they can't be bothered with all that - too busy tearing around!

That's true fatfox, they are simple creatures. They fight, get red in the face then it's over. Girls.... horrid. When I was teaching it always shocked me how nasty and underhand girls could be.
BTW there's an interesting thread here . it's interesting mainly to see how it's become so warped. I'm not in any fights though

DollyP - oooh your poor bum

Rosylily - Its really reassuring to read about how other people's babies have moved, then kind of stopped. I felt today as though mine was doing a huge about turn as I walked along the street. That was the first tangible movements I've had for about 2.5 weeks, apart from the odd twitch which may or may not have been the baby. I just love that feeling later on, when you feel you have a whole sack of potatoes inside you kind of moving around slowly. with the odd sharp kick - its incredible.

AimeR - that sounds like good news about your gran, is she on anti-biotics now?

Diva - LOL at the baby in your arse! Did it revert to normal shape afterwards?

Leo - agree with Kitty that Twins are really magical - there's something very special and rare about them

Kittywits - I've had still scans, but invariably the sonographer insists on poking me painfully until the poor baby gets roused. I had a still scan about 36 weeks with DD, where they just left her to sleep though.

Have just re-read my maternity books to re-assure myself I shouldn't be feeling much movement until 20 weeks.
TBH I think we're all geting a bit impatient now aren't we - we're all so close to that next stage where we can feel the baby move?

My next scan is 30 Oct, at 22 weeks, as I'll be away the week before. Will deffo ask the gender, as I'm much too impatient to wait another 4 months to find out.

Did I metion that one of my best friends, who has been TTC for 6 years and had a late miscarriage, is PG and her baby is due the same day as me? Am so pleased for her. She went for a scan last week (they let her have an extra scan, due to MC) and found out she's having a girl Great news for her, as she has a DS