March 2015 mummies

[M27J5M]

Thread number 3

Ouch! That's a bloody long day. Have a nap at lunchtime if you get the chance. I'll wake up the dog if I go down for some food, and he'll then whine, so I'm hiding up in bed, and hoping to get back to sleep before ds wakes up. Hope you are already asleep...

Insomnia here too! Been awake since 3. But just ordered a 5ft bolster pillow as I remember this bring a saviour in my last 2 pregnancies. Sooooo tired and two toddlers who will be up any min (and have both been up in the night already!)

Glad I'm not the only one a bit faint around the edges and also a bit deflated abut few whole thing... Had assumed this was just me trying to get my head round a rather unplanned pregnancy!

Good luck today M27. Excited for you! I still have 2 weeks til my booking in...! Luckily on holiday next week so that will help.

Morning all. Insomnia sucks doesn't it. I slept ok last night, but the last 3-4 nights have been awful, not fully waking up (except the occasional wee) but really fitful, going round and round the same (boring, random) dreams and tossing and turning like a good'un.

We're off to visit my sister for a few days today, I'm not planning on telling her but will do if I have to. I've been ok one day, then totally wiped out the next, yesterday I could feel the energy drain out every time I stood up, ugh.

Finally sorted an early scan, booked for next week. Finally got through to a lovely midwife who knew the mad 'system' who took told me that I wouldn't meet the hospital criteria for an early scan, even though she strongly disagrees with that. So I've booked a private scan for next Wednesday after I'm back from my sisters.

I can't believe people (can't remember who) were suggesting lying to get a scan. I was genuinely in the position of spotting at 13+5 and spent 3.5 hours waiting in the epu to be seen and was lucky to be called to a room with a scanner. I then waited another hour in the waiting room after being told I'd probably had a mmc waiting for a second scan to be booked in to confirm, which I had to wait 2 days for in the end. The thought that anyone before me in the queue was putting it on for an early peak makes me . Yes, it's not fair that nhs resources in this area are so limited, but they are, so if you think you deserve better, campaign for it or pay for it!.. Just my take on it

Persepolis, what a weight off your shoulders, and DH's.

coaster sorry you're having a rough time. One foot in front of the other eh. Keep chatting, getting it down must help?

Pint that was advice to me from staff at the hospital. I've had five MCs, so cut me some slack. You know yourself that some women know something is wrong, and yet can't get a scan because they're not bleeding. They don't meet hospital guidelines and so are forced to wait until their dating scan. Sensible, caring advice is to squeeze past these guidelines and get a good look and support if needed.

Tanny, 5 mc's and they still wouldn't scan you? That's disgraceful. It really shouldn't come down to lying, particularly in that situation. If you know something is 'wrong' as many do then surely that's enough to warrant medical attention? The whole thing sounds like such a postcode lottery too, there's a variety of stories even on this thread I can't believe hospital staff advised you to lie to a doctor as the only option.

Slack cut for doing as advised when worried but I'm still that 5 mcs doesn't meet guidelines. It sucks.

There's always tricky cases, but I stick to my main point though.

Pint sorry I disagree too. I have also had mcs and don't qualify for an early scan and yes I paid for a private one. But I don't have an issue with people telling a white lie to get scanned if they have a genuine belief that something is wrong.

It's ridiculous that in some areas you can't get a scan when you have had more than one miscarriage and know something isn't right. Just because there is no bleeding doesn't mean everything is ok as we should all know. I know resources are tight but I don't think it's the best system.

Just been to the toilet and in my underwear is brown blood, not loads and when I wipe it's browny like at the end of a period. I still haven't had a call back from a midwife so I don't know whether I should be worried or not? Or what to do, I'm 7+3 xx

ela brown is usually ok I think but if it gets heavier or changes to red you could go to A&E or see if you can self refer to your local EPU? Fingers crossed your midwife will call back soon though.

It is ridiculous. The more I hear about it, the more I think the system is ridiculous, inconsistent and unfair. The nhs is forced to prioritise, and the criteria for this is stupidly strict and worse, inconsistent across areas. I was just shocked to realise that those nearing but not at the top of the 'priorities' list may not get what they need due to others potentially further down this imperfect list being less honest than them. I guess that's life though.

We agree on most things but disagree on the detail, that's cool

When's your scan perse? How many weeks will you be?

Cross post ELA, Brown is usually just old blood, but ifyou'reworried, go to the epu. All the best x

I am 9 weeks today which is exciting! I have had some really bad nausea this past few days.couldn't even watch dh eat his full English yesterday morning. Hopefully this week will be better. We are off on holiday tomorrow to Mexico! Very excited :-)

On the subject if scans. I think if I was bleeding and in pain and sat in a Que waiting to be seen at the epu I would be pissed if there were people in front who didn't have any symptoms but I have never been in either position so hard to say for sure. I paid for an early scan as off to Mexico for 3 weeks and just wanted to know everything was progressing as it should. Can't even imagine what itnwould be like to mc whilst away from home.

Anyway, hope people are feeling good and looking forward to the weekend.

ela88 that sounds exactly what I had last week (and this week). It was like the end of a period. Mine stopped after a few trips to the toilet both times and my scan showed nothing at all so probably my cervix rather than my uterus. Don't panic and I'm sure you'll get referred to the EPU.

Pint Mine was last saturday. I was measuring 6+5 and had a mc 8 weeks previously so it seems about right. We got to see the heartbeat and listen to it so it doesn't bother me that I had to pay for it but I do think it's a little bit wrong. My mum said I should have pushed for one on the NHS due to my history but I didn't want to have to fight for it.

MGFM have fun. I know several people who have been to Mexico and they all loved it. Have you been before?

I didn't mean somebody with no symptoms should lie to get a scan but there are lots of symptoms of mc other than bleeding.

perse I have been before. I lived there for a year as part of my degree 10 years ago. It was the best year of my life (apart from all the years have spent with dh of course ) it has been 6 years since I have been back at dh has never Been. We are travelling for the first week and a half cstching up with old friends. then to the beach and then a cheeky stop in new York on the way home. It ws cheaper to go to N.Y. at the same time than book a separate trip for later on. You probably didn't need that much information! Lol

ELA88 My GP told me yesterday that bown blood is really old and probably down to implantation days and dys earlier. i had slight brown mucus last week when in Turkey and it naturally concerned me as I hadn't had it with DS three years ago.
Relax and put your feet up. I'm 7+3 too!

I have managed to clean and tidy the kitchen post-holiday mess (it really was a bomb site) but I've had to sit down as the constant movement was making me dizzy and nauseous.

Supposed to be going out today birthday present shopping - with a 2 year old in tow.

At least I have 3 weeks left of no work (teacher). it is a blessing that my first trimester is during the six-week break otherwise I would have forseen plenty 'sick' days.

Thanks ladies, feel a bit better now, will just keep an eye on it. Am currently wrapped in a duvet on the sofa with my kitten who's licking my legs...lovely!
Junk DH and I are both teachers too, so it's nice to have him at home while I'm feeling so rubbish, he's been great too doing everything round the house (also unusual too!) not sure how I'm going to manage the nausea with 5 year olds! Xx

When I had my early scan she pressed so hard on my abdomen that some brown mucus was squeezed out! Sorry tmi. It concerned me at the time but have had nothing since.

My mum said the same, and the nice mw said I could try and push my gp for a referral but it would likely be turned down even if the hospital received it and I'd have to wait longer than I'd like anyway. I felt the same as you about energy for a fight! I had the lightest possible brown spotting last time, my friend bleed heavily all pg and was fine, so def agree about the variety of symptoms. Glad you had a good scan, I'm so so nervous about mine! x

Anyway, off on a long drive now, wish me luck!

It does seem like a bit of a lottery. I've had spotting on and off since getting my bfp. I called the EPU and they asked me a few questions. My symptoms were pretty mild but they immediately offered to scan me at 8 weeks. When it happened again and seemed a bit worse I called again and they moved the scan forward by a week. I never felt I had to fight for it, and it was so reassuring to see that tiny heartbeat. They booked me in for another too 3 weeks later. I'm so sorry that those with previous mc don't meet the criteria. That must be awful. Personally I couldn't afford a private scan at the moment so would have just had to keep on worrying.

Ela88 your kitten sounds sweet! How old? Mine is currently lying under my chin trying to pick a fight with my hair.

I have to agree that the summer holidays (I get 5 weeks) coinciding with this stage of pregnancy is a blessing.

At my EPU their criteria for scanning is bleeding or severe cramps. If you suffer from a MMC, you might not get either (I certainly didn't) and just have a tail off of symptoms. If you call and ask, MW will say if there's no bleeding you're fine. Which is bollocks.

So I do think there's a place for lying if you think this has happened to you. I haven't lied, but I would if I thought it would get me a scan to see what's going on.

However you find out you've experienced a MC is awful, but by far my worst was going for a dating scan and having a deafening silence instead of smiles.

My kitten is 5months now but still tiny! She's mental! DH just made me pancakes as I'm starving and feeling unusually not queasy at this current time, she's spent the time meowing at me as she wants it! I also have 2 male cats too that are nearly 3! I'm a bit cat mad!
I'm not sure if the spotting is because this is when my period would normally be due, I just googled it and it says that's quite normal too. I had my period as normal last month, that's why finding out I was pregnant was such a shock! Xx

Well I'm in for a hungry, sickly morning! Came to work with soup for my lunch and money in my purse for the vending machine for the mid-morning munchies. Except I get to work to find that my colleague has rung in sick so I have to cover reception, 4 floors down from the kitchen. This means no access to the microwave for the soup and no access to the vending machine. Means no food for me until I finish at 1 o'clock! Grrrr! I'm starving already and know I will be feeling sick very soon. I can't leave reception unmanned and the only person who could cover me is the boss, but obviously I can't tell him why I need to eat so will just have to grin and bear it.

Was it persepolis who said about DH having work troubles? I'm with you on that one and the stress it causes. I had to watch my DH (a 33yr old grown man) in tears last night because of how his boss treats him and knowing what he was going in to today. He felt physically sick this morning at the thought of going to work and I hate seeing him like that. He is on the hunt for another job but I wouldn't be surprised if his boss just sacks him on the spot cos he feels like it and leaves us in a right mess until something else comes along. I know that legally he can't do that but believe me, this isn't the kind of man who would bother about such details...

On a better note though I finally got my car back this morning after it went away to be repaired from when the dozy woman drove into the back of me the other week.