March 2015 mummies

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Thread number 3

My dh is coming with me for scan. It's our first and I'd be so upset of he couldn't. I need him to hold my hand and keep me calm.

Great scan zebra

It's all getting quite exciting now as we are all getting closer to hinge actually getting going. Scans and appts and kicking beans. It's brill!!!

Notaqueef, I definitely had movement at 11+2 with my second baby. Maybe it is :-)

Dh has always come to all my scans, we are lucky that in our jobs as it's a 24/7 rota basis we can always work it. That's the only lucky thing about our jobs (the 24/7 and 60 hour weeks are the draw backs!!)

ELA are you both teachers? If you are I think you're entitled to the time off to go (both of you). I haven't actually checked though, would be worth getting advice from your unions. I know 3 male teachers in different schools who have all been given time off for any scans/appointments related to the baby.

How exciting that some are feeling baby move.

I have my booking appointment with the midwife on Monday so I will get my scan date then. DH will definitely be attending as I would hate to go on my own.

pickle I've just spent ages googling various union policies and stuff and I think you're right but I think it's down to the discretion of the school. I would probably have to tell the head though for us to both get the same time off work, wouldn't I? They're not going to be happy with me! I have hospital appointments quite often! Xx

Yes you will and if they're unhappy it's tough. Just keep remembering what is more important. There is a real culture in schools where we are made guilty for having a life and it annoys me so much! Just be upfront and professional but make sure you ask for exactly what you want.

(And whatever you do don't feel bad about it!)

Heads can be insensitive when it comes to hospital appointments. I think the 12 week and 20 week scans are important. Tell your Head you need moral support in case something goes wrong (fingers crossed and more likley not to).
I have a colleague who is going through IVF. So far the Head has been great allowing lots of time off for various appointments but in a conversation they were having, she said that she had a colleague at her last school was going through it but ended up having to dock her pay because of all the appointments she was having. Fair enough, we thought, but very insensitive and not exactly what someone wants to hear when IVF is failing!!! No wonder none of the staff like her - she's an insensitive cow at time, with no idea about human emotion.

A kingdom for a day without nausea, tiredness, sore boobs and dizziness... I've had enough. I'm a nightmare to be around and my utterly bewildered husband is voluntarily folding laundry just to get away from me. Trust me: it's a seriously scary sign if he does housework. He doesn't DO housework.

Rant over.

It won't go against me to tell my head when term starts again in September would it? I'll be around 12 weeks by then. I'm so clueless with all this! I don't even still believe I'm pregnant other than all the nausea and exhaustion! Xx

Today I've had 3 diff family members comment on my body (they all know) and now my brother (doesn't know) who's 10 has just told me that I look diff, not fat just diff! If I wasn't trying to hide the whole pregnancy thing I'd be flattered but since it's still "a secret" I just have the feeling of fatness :( think I'm just a little emotional today

Oh my god I feel sick! Everything I said last week about not having many symptoms I take back with a vengeance. DH is convinced this one's a girl as I didn't suffer anywhere near as much as this with DS.

So sorry to mer and welcome even more newbies.

I give up, I'm going to bed....

I feel completely exhausted today. I've been trying to get things done, but after a few minutes I just have to lie down. It feels like my limbs are just too heavy to keep moving them. Is this what others feel like? I guess I haven't been too bad so far! My head is spinning too. I'm 7+1. I would also quite happily be without my boobs at the moment, they hurt so much!

Sorry to those who are feeling rough. I know I have nothing to complain about really.

coaster yes! That's exactly how I describe it to my dh. My arms and legs are just too heavy for me to move them. It's a horrid feeling. And as soon as I get to from laying down tonight my head is in agony. I have been getting headaches for weeks, but as all other symptoms seem to be slowly (but not consistently) settling, my headaches are getting worse.

Foscar I'm glad it's not just me. The headaches sound nasty though. Hope they get better soon.

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow, and the movement was way down low just above my pubic bone. Very definitely not wind, and not perceptible from the outside. I think the baby was having a really big stretch and kick around for me to feel it, and I was "relaxing" on the bed, so was very still. First babies are usually felt much later, around 16-20 weeks I think, and with subsequent ones I think it's quite normal to feel something between 12 and 14 weeks. I'm early, but it's not that uncommon, so I expect we'll have more of this to come!

coaster that's how I feel too! We walked to the supermarket earlier and I was soooo slow, it was like walking through syrup! Xx

ELA it's not allowed to go against you, that's pregnancy discrimination. If there's anything like that happening you get your union involved straight away.

I have lead limbs too. Have really struggled with it today and I've had a lot of naps. Slept all the way through dinner preparation, ok that might have been a bit on purpose .

tanny I felt movement around 14 weeks with my first so I definitely believe you can feel movement at 10 weeks with a subsequent baby. How lovely. I can't wait to feel mine.

The sickness has greatly reduced since I've been taking medication but I'm so tired all the time and my boobs absolutely kill when DS climbs over me. I really thought pregnancy would be easier this time around seeing as my body supposedly knows what it's doing but I actually feel 100 x worse than with DS. I feel like such a whingebag. coaster yes that's a very apt description.

I read about not being allowed to take children into the scan, I won't be able to have one then as wont have any child care, husband going away soon for three months. I will have to take my dd to my booking appointment and they told me to be prepared for up to 3 hour wait! That will be fun with a 2 yr old, not!

How exciting that ppl are feeling movement I've had a bit of wind I thought was movements but really were definitely wind. The feeling is totally different when I really happens.

Had a massive freak out last night about why we are having another baby, can we afford it? Do we have room? How will we cope with all that tiredness again? Will my relationship with dd suffer? etc. Also about my irrational fear of having a boy! I didn't think I'd care this time as I have a little girl but all of a sudden I panic it will be a boy and I won't love it as much. Ha god I'm a twat, I know that I will love it really what ever gender it is.
Any one else care what they have (I know you're never meant to say what you'd rather have but...)

fishfingersarnies i can't imagine them being that strict about toddlers at scans who can be strapped in buggies. I always thought they didn't allow children in the case there's some bad news at the scan. Good luck with the booking appointment! Hope your wait will be considerably less than 3 hours.

DH had a major freak out last night about how we will cope with three. But he's not allowed to anymore, bad vibes. I just want to get to the 12 week mark.

I'm convinced I'm having another boy (got two already) and really hoping that I do!

Urgh yes to heavy limbs! I don't think DH can quite believe what he is seeing. I am pretty useless at doing anything and basically spent the weekend on the sofa!
Also really bad headaches last few days too. Just trying to rest. Not sure how work will go tomo!

Told our good friends last night, first to know, they were really excited and it was nice to tell some one!

Pinksun12, I've had the odd panic about coping with 3 and wondering whether we're completely mad to have wanted another one. How old are your older two DCs? Mine are 6 and 4, so things are a lot easier as they're pretty self-reliant. And now we'll be going back to nappies and naps and pushchairs... I mainly worry about having enough time for them, to help them with school work etc. Trying to think of the positives though - I think they'll both love having a little brother or sister.

I really don't have a preference gender-wise, but I think both my DCs would prefer a girl.

lifeisabeach mine are 5 and 2.5 so not all that little anymore but life has just begun to be that little easier. But somehow we'll survive. I was unexpectedly pregnant last year and had major panic moments and it ended in a mc. So now I'm all positive!!!

The bleeding nearly stopped yesterday after only one dose of the medication but started last night again so the effects might have worn off after 24 hours but fingers crossed it's easing off.