On the visitors front I still feel aggrieved about the inlaws visits after DS was born...FIL came to visit at the hospital as soon as DH had texted him that DS was born. I came back into the room after having had my stitches and wasn't even in pj's, I had on a pj top and a bed sheet wrapped around as a skirt and blood stains down my legs! I think to avoid this I will tell DH I don't want any visitors in the hospital until I have had a shower, any stitches done and have got into my pjs! I did think at the time it was nice FIL was excited, but I could have done with a bit of warning as he didn't say he was coming, just turned up.
The other inlaw visit was on Boxing Day (DS was born on Christmas Eve) and I'd been home for one day. DM was cooking Christmas dinner and FIL started getting in the way in he kitchen cutting up a whole raw chicken and then making soup (bearing in mind we have only 3 cooker rings that work). Then FIL asking me why my tummy was still so big, and saying it wasn't normal as soon as I was on my own in the room with him. FIL didn't want to hand DS over when DS was hungry as well. Then we had SIL with her dreadful BF who also made comments on my tummy "I didn't know you still looked pregnant after you'd had the baby", SIL2 and BIL all at the same time. And the worst thing was that nobody moved seats so there was nowhere for me to sit down. Grr! Whinge over! To avoid this next time I've already told DH I do not want to see SIL1's ugly mug of a BF in my home. I will also not feel embarrassed and plonk myself on the settee and not start getting up trying to get people drinks and be some sort of hostess. I will also suggests to DH that visits are no longer than 1.5 hours at a time for the first couple of weeks.
That was long...sorry! Obviously had that all stored up!
Changing the subject, the bleeding afterwards for me was like a light period after a week and I just used normal sanitary towels. I think this time I'll buy some maternity pads instead if they're thicker, might be more reassurance and comfortable. Plus I think I was lucky with not a lot of bleeding, might be heavier this time!
I have a list of baby things to buy, all of it totally boring e.g. teats for the bottles, cellular blankets, muslin clothes etc., as I have all if the equipment from DS. I think one trip to Mothercare will probably be enough for me! Once the baby is born I will see how I'm feeling and try to make a trip to the shops to buy some pink/blue clothes. The lack of unisex clothes is just depressing when I've looked recently!