September 2014- will there be any babies yet??

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Will we get to meet any of these babies soon?

Katharine what was your birth plan regarding pph?
I will be on the drip throughout labour plus 4-6hours after delivery, 2 injections and the tablets they give up the bum to help uterus contract and reduce bleeding and these are to be given before bleeding starts rather than after.

I haven't had any sign of any milk or milk type substance yet - but only 32 weeks so time yet.
ordered a breast pump on ebay and they said it had been sent but hasn't arrived - been in post 2 weeks...

my ribs are sorest when have been sitting up no back support or doing lots of walking.

today is my first day of hols at home with nothing much to do. have no motivation at all. need to go into town and defrost freezer and sort mortgage and other bits but to be honest can't be bothered to get out of bed. instead I am watching one born which is possibly not the best idea I have ever had!!

Hello all, oh I am so excited about it all!

Got another day off today, whoop whoop, plan is feet up and lunch with my other pregnant friend.

cookie what a lovely post and I feel the same. Just so so so excited.

Today is payday so am going to get the last of my not so essentials and collecting my changing bag which I am so excited about because then I get to pack baby's hospital things into it. Also persil non-bio small & mighty is only £5 for the 1.4l bottle. Loving doing all the baby laundry =)

.......in Tesco that us. D'oh x

ilove consultant has recommended: IV access available (so IV put into hand ready when I get there), managed 3rd stage, to come in straight away with any concerns (i.e. at first contraction as was fast last time).
Had a lovely mw appt today - I told her about my doula and she was so understanding about DS's birth and what I would like to have happen this time to avoid triggering birth trauma again, I've got a double appt booked for 2 weeks to refine my birth preferences (most importantly I want to be off the bed and not on my back), she said she wished she could deliver my baby but she is doing staged retirement in September. She did my bp which was a bit high while I talked about DS's birth, so she did it again, and it had come down from 137/81 to 111/67 which is normal for me. Feel very reassured by her :)

.......in Tesco that us. D'oh x

Katharine I am so glad you have a great midwife, although a shame she is retiring!

bug aww thanks! Oooh I'll have to pop over to tesco's tomorrow, nothing is getting me out off this chair today!

Hello all.

Wow, so much going on with everyone now. Can't believe how close we are getting to our bumps becoming babies!

Since me and DH had today off work together (which nearly never happens) we decided to get some baby stuff done. We viewed two nurseries this morning, and invariably preferred the slightly more expensive one. Thinking about childcare for us is such a headache as me and DH both work shifts and have bosses who have a habit of changing our work patterns / locations at short notice, and put pressure on us to work late, so how we are supposed to be able to book baby in anywhere for a minimum of 4 weeks ahead is a nightmare. I'd love to be able to go part-time after baby is born but financially I can't see it happening at the mo. Even if I dropped a couple of shifts a week and offset the nursery savings I'd still be about £300-400 a month worse off and we just can't afford that.

Also did our 'dummy run' to the hospital this afternoon so at least we know where we are going. Unfortunately the ward don't do tours so didn't get to see inside. Was slightly freaked though to hear a woman screaming her head off from where we were stood outside the unit.

Finally we've got our first NCT class this evening. I suspect we haven't made the best first impression as the course times were changed by the main course leader and I forwarded the e-mail to DH saying something along the lines of 'oh shit, does this bugger up your plans' along with the rest of a personal conversation and then accidentally replied to NCT class woman by forwarding this part of e-mail on as well. Then the lady who is doing the breastfeeding session next week e-mailed everyone to ask if we could start next weeks session a bit earlier than planned, and I replied saying we would obviously go with the majority opinion but if the decision is to start earlier me and DH may be slightly late as DH has an hour and a half's commute to get from work to the session, and won't be able to get out of work any earlier. Now have just had a group e-mail from the breastfeeding lady to say essentially that as one couple (us) couldn't make the earlier start time, she would have to stick to the original scheduling, with a definite hint involved that this would be inconvenient for her. Oh dear.

kitkat your post really made me laugh! I sent a text intended to be to a friend to my boss explaining why I wouldn't be in work in the afternoon. It basically had the same information but included details about my "sexy cankles". Oh dear. She did reply very politely and obviously got the idea.

kitkat have you looked into childcare vouchers, they may help with some of the costs. Also some nurseries offer discounts to children in full time care. Another way to get cheaper childcare is to look at a nanny share or childminder.

Haha, there is nothing worse than sending texts/emails to the wrong person. I have done it a couple of times recently, but nothing too embarrasing - I just blame baby brain!

Cookie your post was lovely, it is a really exciting time for us all isnt it

Hehe I think we've all sent a text or email accidentally to the wrong person before kitkat. But serves them right anyway, it's a bit unprofessional to be changing times last minute anyway imo.

kitkat my hubby works shifts too so we have been looking for a nursery that can work around this as we won't always want the same days each week. Luckily though the nursery that we liked more and is cheaper can be flexible with shift work but the more expensive one can't!

Had 36w check today and all is well. Measuring bang on for dates again. Baby is head down (MW gave me a proper good prodding low down and it was soo tender!) and 4/5 engaged if that's the correct terminology. My MW said usually baby won't become fully engaged until you're actually in labour which is different from what others have been told on here so who knows lol.

Welcome back Bex Glad you're doing well and finally have some time for yourself! :)

Ohhh ella blame those stupid hormones! I was in a similar situation as you. Waa still living at parents house when I had ds1, had to grow up very quickly (was18) had PND and was on anti ddepressants for a few weeks until I decided enough was enough and I knew I had ti pull myself together for the sake of my ill child.
Im sure we've all had the oh shit how are ww going to cope with x amount of kids etc but once that baby is here theres no way you wont cope. As mothers we find ways and means of coping in the early days and once they get a little older it gets a little easier

Is it too late to say hello? Have been reading through this thread through last night as I was awake for hours! I'm 34+4 with dc3 and am suddenly so uncomfortable and generally fed up so it was great to find some people sharing in this!

I have a really high bump which is causing nausea, sore stomach and no appetite, and having almost constant braxton hicks at times. And the heat!

Apart from that I'm lucky in that everything seems fine and an expecting elcs in first week of september.

Sorry for those of you having difficult or complicated pregnancies. ilove - the thought of carrying a seven pound baby at 35 weeks..... poor you. Hope everything goes well.

Sorry to jump right in ladies.

Im in such a low mood, Im gutted. My DH rang me yesterday to tell me that his right hand woman handed in her months notice yesterday- meaning he cant take two weeks off when the baby is born.

To add insult to injury we didn't get a holiday this year as she took the two weeks that we always use (fits with school hols and not baking summer heat). So I feel she has 'stolen' 4 weeks of very important family time. Im really concerned how dh is going to cope with the stress, workload, trying to recruit, sleepless nights/newborn etc. This means DH wont be here to help/do school run etc which is what we planned. Im soooo angry- this has led to me filling my face with cake and more cake. I want to slap her after everything my dh has done for her! aarrgghhhhhhhhh

white I'm sorry to hear that, but he does have at least a month to try to make some alternative arrangements. I might sound harsh, sorry if I do, but he should be looking at priorities, he won't ever get those 2 weeks back again, could he get some temporary cover and then be available from home, equally is he self employed/own business? If not it really isn't just his problem, and someone above him should be able to step in and help or sort it out.
I've seen far too many people work too much, and miss out on the important stuff in life. I'm well aware that this is easier said than done, but work should be to live, not live to work!

ella I've been very much like this too, wondering how I will manage an active 14month, non walking, non talking old plus the needs of a new baby- particularly the potential endless breastfeeding, along with not neglecting my pre-schooler, whilst managing the house etc, I know they say to let standards drop with the housework, but I've been so tired recently if standards dropped much further here, it would look like a landfill tip!

Blossom I agree with boo. Sorry if that's not much help

DH found out last night his company are making heavy redundancies in the next 6 weeks. Half his office are likely to go.

Only consolation is he is highly valued and should be able to find something quickly, but you just don't know.

Cracking timing. It may effect his plans for how much time he can take off.

So I feel your pain blossom.

Thanks boo and ilove. Dh is self employeed and out of everyone she is the only one that can take over his bit- he heads up different area of business. The cow knows he was taking sep off and why. Dh wont find anyone quickly, theres no chance of a replacement. Most people have at least one month notice and if their any good three months notice. A had a bit of a cry in the shower but ive more brewing.
Red thats what I thought perfect timing. Fx yr dh is safe.

Amyway heres the cake bump 34+6 o think!

What a pain white and red! I hope it works out for both of you. It's a shame she didn't have a longer notice period white if it's only the two of them that could do the role. I have an 8 week notice period and am by no means irreplaceable!

It's so stressful though, I understand that. Especially where for you both it's due to people out of your control!

My DP was out of work from last December til May this year. We had just got our mortgage in November, got engaged in December and found out I was pregnant in January! He had planned to quit his job (which means I couldn't be angry at anyone but him) and did have savings which didn't run out until the month before he finally started a new job but it was a stressful time and now means that he is very limited in annual leave for the rest of the year and doesn't qualify for paternity leave.

Now he's moving jobs again! His start date for new job is 1st Sept and my due date is the 9th! He says he'll take some unpaid time off if needs be but it's not like the 9 month pregnancy isn't enough notice for what's going to happen! It's only a six month fixed term contract too, which concerns me. But his drive to and from work is 1.5 hrs each way at the mo and makes him very grumpy so hopefully will all work out!

Morning all.

Really sorry to hear about your respective DH's job issues whiteblossom and redtoothbrush. It must be very stressful for both of you and the last thing you all need right now. I really hope you both manage to find some sort of solution soon.

Welcome to haveyoutriedarewardchart! Never too late to join!

Well last night's NCT class went fairly well despite the e-mail mix-up and me nearly falling off a chair during the class. To be fair the course leader was fairly good and there was a lot of a focus on the role of partner's which was good as I think DH was worried he would just be sat on the sidelines for most of the classes.

Will definitely look into the childcare vouchers as me and DH both work in the NHS who definitely provide them. I've been a bit wary of them though as a few colleagues who use them tell me it changes your tax status slightly and that they can cause as many problems as they help solve. Still, may be worth it if it saves us a little bit of cash each month. We also need to pin our managers down at some point to agree some sort of plan for 'parent-friendly' working hours between us. The nursery we like says we have to complete our application at least 6 months prior to when we would like baby to start attending, so if we want baby to start some taster sessions in August (to get her used to nursery a bit before I'm back at work in September) the absolute latest we can apply is February, so we need to have some idea what days / hours etc to be booking by this. It's all a bit complicated by a lot of changes going on in both our jobs. And I say, the lack of flexibility with the nursery hours is going to be tricky though, (for example if say DH is told he has to work for the day at his work site an hour and a half from the nursery, then even if he firmly tells boss he needs to leave at x time, there's still potential for traffic issues delaying him; or if a patient collapses on me 2 minutes before my shift ends, etc, etc), and if we're as much as 5 mins late picking baby up there's a £25 surcharge to pay, which could get very expensive, if it ends up happening on a regular basis. :( We're going to have to be quite firm I think with our employers about needing set working days and about needing to leave at set times when I'm back from maternity leave, which something I don't think either of our bosses are going to be very keen on (despite all the NHS parent-friendly work policies).

Wishing everyone a good day. xxx

Lilone He tried from the start to get her to sign a longer contract, I only found out yesterday that she refused- that would have set alarm bells ringing to me, which is why I think DH didn't tell me because I'd have been on his back to sort out why and get it sorted or ship out...we have been here before- dh being left in the lurch. (Something I did point out to him yesterday!)

Wow Lilone did your dh not discuss quitting with you- no wonder you were fuming, I would be too. Glad he back in work now though- in the nick of time.

I don't know why I did this but I kinda had to know how my pre-pg everyday skinny jeans fitted...I can just get them on and over my hips but they are tight! Im not sure if that's good going or not but this last month will ensure a good weight gain! I told my mum yesterday that Ill be sending her out for big hold it all in knickers, once Ive had the baby .

For anyone looking for something to wear in the birth pool, Ive discovered M&S have bra crop tops in two packs for £14 black/white and nude available, very comfy. (they come in a box if you go in store)