September 2014- will there be any babies yet??

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Will we get to meet any of these babies soon?

Congratulations top

What a cutie!!

I ended up back in hospital yesterday, with severe abdominal and back pain, baby was and is fine, I was given the wrong antibiotics for a uti, so it has been getting worse and worse, yay! So I have been given codine to help with the pain and put ob different abs!

Thanks dontevenblink, it's really helpful to hear all your stories about them, it's been a genuine fear all the way through. Just hoping I don't need one. I'm not scared of the birth at all, not even nervous, just scared of episiotomy!! It'll be the least of my worries come delivery day I'm sure!!

I think I was also worried about the healing time, but from what others have said too, it's not too bad which is also reassuring

Well, no moon effect action for me! boooooooo.

Im so done with being pg now. Hubby keeps pointing out I could go two weeks over which fills me with dread, panic and makes me want to march into hospital and demand a drip hooking up!!! Less than ideal but I cant explain why Im so done, I feel like Ive got nothing more to give and my body cant cope with any more. I want to get back to being me.

Cookie thats shocking that you got given the wrong meds- poor you, I really hope your feeling better very soon, take care of yourself x

Massive congratulations top! Jessica is a beauty! I would certainly be interested to hear your birth story when you get a chance, and also would be really interested to know how you are getting on with breastfeeding.

I don't know if anyone else who is having their first is also finding it really difficult to actually picture life beyond the birth but i'm certainly struggling to, and when I do I only get as far as whether I will be able to breastfeed!

Episiotomy and tearing also a concern of mine - is good to hear some reassuring things about them.

cookie The wrong antibiotics? That's bad! Sorry to hear you are suffering and I hope you feel better soon!

whiteblossom I know how you feel. DH thinks its amusing that I struggle to get off the sofa but he doesnt appreciate that its actually painful - trying to get up really hurts my bump, dont know if thats normal or due to old scarring I have there. Am exhausted, even doing the shopping sees me needing a nap after and usually gives me a bad back these days. As for the frustration of having to ask him to do things I normally wouldn't think twice about.....

Im huge, Ive gained too much weight and I dont like looking in the mirror!

Iilone me too!! I'm still in denial I think. I got asked to go on a hen party in February for a week in the sun. I instantly said yes, only to be reminded that I will have a 6 month old baby oops, forgot about that!! I'm struggling to get my head around how much life will change, is that what you mean? I'm so focussed on actually having him first that I forget I get to keep him!!

For stitches they do sometimes numb the area.

Cookie glad you go the right abs in the end

im really pissed off now. Contractions are constant at night to the point I'm not sleeping more than an hour or so and during the day its really sharp period pains rather than contractions.

Cant believe I could have had my baby if the 2nd mw listened to the 1st about breaking waters and hooking drip up as thats what consulant wanted. Really fucked off.
To top it off I know my iron is low as this is how I feel (shit, no energy, pains in shoulders, chest pain etc) and I asked thrm to check yesterday and they said oooh when you come back in we will check. Iron was 10 anf at 8-9 the hospital induces.

Morning ladies. I will of course be telling you all about the birth soon when im not using my phone to check MN but just wanted to say bex the episiotomy was really fine. I had a numbing injection first so I barely felt it, I just heard a snip of the scissors. I had to have the cut extended too a bit later. It hasnt even hurt or stung hardly to pee since either, so overall I have been pleasantly surprised as I was scared of the episiotomy too. donteven is right though, you really wont care at that point anyway :).

As you know my mum is a MW and she actually stitched me up again afterwards. It was certainly a unique bonding experience to have with your mummy lol!

Hoping to go home tomorrow, just want to get my bf ing latch checked first as my poor nipples are starting to feel sore!

ilove really hope things get moving for you soon, maybe some time on all fours to help baby into the right position might speed things up a little?

cookie can't believe you were given the wrong meds, that's awful!

I'm struggling too and definitely feel done, not helped by having three prem births, I'll be going mad if next week comes and goes without her arriving. Also what I hate most about the end is the not knowing when labour will start, I think I could easily manage a few more weeks if only someone could tell me when it will happen, it's the uncertainty of knowing it could happen at any moment even if it isn't convenient.

Making fairy cakes with the older two today and maybe getting the paints out this afternoon, I'm trying my best to be fun mummy rather than boring and exhausted as I know there's not long left now.

Glad you're doing well top and hoping to go home tomorrow.

Thats so reassuring to hear about the episiotomy topmammy Hope you get your wish to go home tomorrow.

Ilove I'm sorry you're having a bit of a rough time. I really hope things speed up for you soon you'll be holding baby soon enough and you'll forget all about this waiting around business x

Thanks top, I'm still struggling with the idea of it, but I'm feeling better about it already so thank you for that x Jessica is just beautiful, bet you're so overwhelmed. I hope you get home tomorrow as planned, and you can settle into life as a family!!

Bex Yes that's what I mean. I know that things will change massively but I just can't fathom how much. It's just too big to imagine I think - that one day they're not there and the next day they are and that's your family changed forever! When the Great British Bake Off started last week, my DP looked at how long the series ran for and said that by the time it is finished we will have a baby over a month old! It's crazy!

ilove I really hope you can get things moving a bit more soon!

Ha I know! We've been invited to a 30th in December, my hubby said we will need a baby sitter...I looked at him confused, he said 'you know, for our 3 and a half month old baby!!' Oh yes...I remember now

It's going to take some getting used to I think, but from those I chat to, within minutes of baby being born, you can't remember life without them

oh god yes Lilone I keep forgetting that we are going to be in charge of a baby once I have had it!! meant to be organising a hen do in feb and had planned something that was totally not going to work for me - such an idiot.
have had really busy and stressful couple of days so haven't felt as much movement so am having a quiet day today and it's wiggle central in my tummy!!!

We've booked the baby sitter for mid November over the weekend... DH has bought tickets for one of our favourite bands. I'm not quite sure how to feel about it at the moment or whether I am being over optimistic. I did say to him, I might find it really hard and be a bit of a nutcase over it. I'm not sure he quite got it, but never mind. I figure I'll have to do it at some point, so just as well be mid November. Its something to aim for I guess, and my Mum will be babysitting. Whether I make it or not, is another matter...

DH, then a few hours later he asked "ooo do you want to go to this gig too?"... I declined, as its not a band I'm particularly bothered about. He clearly hasn't grasped how much of a big deal a night out is likely to be...

Still. Its better than Moscow.

Wow, so much progress on this thread! Most importantly massive congrats totopmummy on the birth of Jessica. She's absolutely stunning. xxx

I was also interested to hear about the episiotomy as it's one of my fears too. Quite reassured that all of you ladies so far are saying it wasn't as horrendous as it sounds. It's all a big fear of the unknown I think!

Ilove sorry to hear things are progressing slowly. You must be so frustrated and fed up now. Fingers crossed you don't have much longer to wait.

And yes, I am also almost forgetting about the fact that there will be a baby in our lives in the next few weeks. It' stupid things like I'll see a theatre show advertised for October or something and think 'oh that looks good, I might go to that' and then remember I'll have a baby by then and going out might be a tricky for a while!

Just got back from consultant appointment and growth scan. Baby is developing as normal and doctor not worried at this time (I'm consultant led due to a history of hormone problems, so they are just checking me and baby get on okay this pregnancy). A relief to know all is well with her though.

Overall though I really 'hit the wall' over the weekend in terms of tiredness. I think having a bad UTI the last couple of weeks, combined with really poor sleep (from constant peeing from UTI), mixed with being on strong antibiotics just really caught up with me. I'm 34+5 today and I guess also just hitting that late pregnancy exhaustion stage. Still got another two and a half weeks of work to get through, and really flagging and counting down the days now....

Ladies what does the mucus plug look like. I just wiped and a big pinky yellow load of crap was on the tissue, and I've just wiped more pink! I am in loads of pain anyway cause of the Uti, but had to take pain killer earlier as it really hurts!

Sounds like your mucus plug cookie. Unfortunately it doesn't mean anything though as it can come away anywhere from hours to weeks before labour starts.

Congratulations on the first born of the thread! Gorgeous!

Hi all,
I've been trying to keep up for a while-edd 28/9/14 team pink but every time I've caught up I've had to do something else so never get around to saying hello.

Wanted to say thank you so much for you all sharing your mil issues-have been having some of my own regarding birth and after and feeling quite alone so it's been really great to know others are having similar issues! Don't mean to sound pleased about others having issues-hope you understand!

Hi snafu - welcome!

Sorry to hear you're having mil issues, what's happening?

Cookie- love your description there of the mucus plug!!

Hope you're feeling ok. Don't panic if it is mucus plug. My friend lost hers 2 weeks ago when she was 34 weeks pregnant and nothing so far so don't think it means imminent labour.

I think nothing will prepare you for how motherhood will change your life. There's a lovely quote, something about how being a mother means your heart is walking around outside your body - this was how I felt when I had DS: when he was inside his every need was catered for by me without effort (only tiredness) and now I had to figure out how to do it all myself! And everything seems so confusing, with so much advice and different options and exhaustion and second guessing - panic!
My best advice is: trust yourself, you know your baby better than anyone else, it's a learning curve but one you will go on together and your baby knows you are the best mother in the world x

PS thanks for the uti advice - I have some antibiotics to start tonight.

Ella, that's what I was thinking in terms of the baby sitting and why I am viewing it as a target to aim for rather than something to just do. I read mumsnet too much got the impression that leaving a new baby makes you loose the plot in ways I can't yet comprehend, so I'm trying to plan with that in mind.

My Mum is already saying she is happy to babysit from day one as she's done it before, and I've tried to point out to her that it might not work quite as straightforwardly as that. And DH has said, "oh yeah, it'll be fine, afterall you turned out ok, so you're Mum can cope". Both completely missing the point that its not necessarily about the baby's needs, its also about mine!

They mean well, but I'm not sure that either of them has quite got their heads round certain things. 'Getting back to normal' isn't going to happen.