September 2014- will there be any babies yet??

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Will we get to meet any of these babies soon?

Boo I've got a Tomy baby monitor, still going strong from when I used it with my 2yr old, would recommend one by them x this is the one i have it acts like a night light too kind of & it's like a walky talky too you can talk to the baby through the handheld bit lol x it tells you the temperature in the room baby's room as well but not sure how accurate that is lol x

Hey all.

Dontevenblink that sounds really hard. Do you have any friends nearby who you could ask to have the other kids for an afternoon or something so you can have a break and get some rest?

Ilove so pleased you have made it to term with all the scares baby has given you the past few weeks (not to mention all the pain)! Hopefully you won't have much longer to put up with it now.

Misog as you say best to get checked out. It's probably just baby trying to prepare you for a life of worry like Holls2000 says.

I think antibiotics for pesky UTI are starting to work now. Certainly didn't have to get up quite so many times to pee last night (but still 6-7 times, but that's been a massive improvement)! Today and tomorrow are days off for me from work so hoping that I can just chill for the next few days and hopefully feel more normal by Sunday.

Got my 34 week midwife appointment in a couple of hours. Am also going to try and write some sort of birth plan later, since midwives seem to be keen on them, but to be honest am only really going to say that I'm open to all forms of pain relief as I may feel I need at the time, and that whilst I would prefer certain things to happen I am willing to accept any intervention if there's a risk otherwise to me or baby. I am wary of over-planning for the birth as I feel there's a risk that as it's my first labour I don't know what to expect in terms of needing pain relief etc, and also I don't want to end up disappointed if I plan for something to happen a certain way and then it all goes to pot, so I'm kind of planning to go with the flow I guess.

Am also thinking about hiring / ordering a TENs machine. Has anyone used one before and found them helpful? Am not sure if they are worth the cost or not.

Finished my NCT antenatal classes this week too. They were okay. I don't think I learnt massive amounts more than what I had already gathered from my pregnancy book and I was hoping they would be a bit more in depth. The last session on breastfeeding was with a different teacher and actually quite disappointing. It was more of a two and a half hour seminar on the advantages of breastfeeding than it was in any way particularly practical. I was hoping she would explain a lot more about how to breastfeed and overcome any problems, and how to express and store milk etc, but she barely covered it at all. Was a bit annoying really since the classes weren't cheap (all 5 sessions in total for me and DH were £140).

This time in 3 weeks will be my last day of work! Am really counting down the days now and have lost all enthusiasm for work now! x

Sorry x-post missbrightside. That sounds really difficult. I think your DH needs to be quite firm about not giving the money to be honest. It's really cheeky of her given that she obviously knows you have a little one due soon and so obviously need all the penny's you can get. Families can be very trying sometimes! x

With regards to growth chart, My problem is I am not sure if measuring the bump quickly and as acron says in rush is a good indicator that all is well inside anyhow! Seems a bit arbitrary to me... How does your chart work?

I'm outside my chart... but measuring right for dates. The midwife is completely happy with it because of that. She said, the prediction was only an estimate and at 11 weeks can be inaccurate.

I've also only had the two scans as well. I have worried about it, but on the other hand knowing how much the scans worried me, I'm not sure I would be any better for having one. Both my midwife and the hospital seem to think I am fine, despite being 36, high risk, put on a lot of weight and having a lot of water retention.

When we were at the hospital earlier this week there was a lady there with a HUGE bump just coming in for her CS. Me and DH just kind of looked at each other because of how much bigger she was than me (fearing I would get that big in a month which is ridiculous, but there was just that moment of terror!!).

As it turned out, she was expecting twins. Both around the 6lb mark. I did make me smile and wonder how any one could mistake 'normal' sized bumps for twins having seen her. No one who has posted bumps on this thread comes anywhere in size.

She's really selfish kitkat, OH works hard for his wage & she assumes that we've got money to just lend out whenever she expects, and that isn't the case at all. Just can't believe she made his brother send that voice clip, she could have at least had the balls to ask him herself :/ x
Really wound up by all the family atm, on my side & OH's side, even my sister is making everything a competition, she's due 4 weeks after me & whatever I do, she has to do one better, even taken to copying the type of bump pics I do lol, she's saying that she's moving over here too, give me strength x

I'd much rather have a pregnancy like I did with my youngest, was left alone and complication free. Sadly that's not happening & we're up at the hospital so much even my 2year old is familiar with the consultants room with 'mummy's bed' in it lol xx

You can't lend her the money missbrightside! Not if last time it came out of the rent. Its that simple. Your OH needs to grow a backbone and tell them no, if he's doing that. It doesn't matter if its his parents. If its threatening the roof over your head with a baby on the way, its insanity to lend the money.

I sympathise with you regarding family though. DH still hasn't told his parents (they aren't speaking)... I am very relieved about this as its taken a lot of pressure off us both. I have a suspicion they may have been told as I got a random text from MIL earlier this week. DH did let me reply though, which I am glad about, as we will need to talk to them soon afterwards.

DH has just called. He has a new job offer already. More money too. Catch is they want an answer by the end of the day. He has two more potential jobs in the pipeline. Only trouble with this job is its something 'boring' and the others are something he would enjoy more. So I don't know what to say (told him to say he needed to discuss it with me over the weekend, but he's already said this and are putting pressure on him) Its further complicated by the days off he had planned. I think I will be pissed if he says yes without discussing it properly first, but I know he's in a difficult position.

I have been very happy with my trouble free pregnancy but what hasn't been great is the complete lack of guidance, continuity of care or anyone who actually seems to care about anything other than ticking the boxes in my book and getting me out ASAP. If this wasn't my first pregnancy I'm sure I would feel more comfortable with it but I feel like I have no idea what is going on, what I'm supposed to do, when I'm supposed to worry and when I'm being a drama queen!

I feel for those of you that are in and out of appointments and having worries about your babies and appreciate it must be really worrying. I just wish I could feel a bit less worried about if my baby is ok as I genuinely don't feel like I have a clue, despite being 'low risk'

Omg I'm getting more wound up, we've got hardly anywhere for people to sleep & now apparently his sister is coming as we'll! and probably her kid(s), ffs, I can't deal with this my anxiety/stress levels are through the roof today :(

Oh red that's such a tricky job situation to be in! Bet it's because it's a Friday they want to get it all wrapped up for the weekend. My DP works in recruitment and is often making and receiving calls well in to Friday evening trying to get jobs sorted for the weekend.

missb sounds like a nightmare with your in laws! I would certainly have a thing or two to say about the money lending - especially the rent money! For all that family support can offer, sometimes it is better to just be left alone!

Re. growth charts. I reckon they're a load of rubbish - no two midwives ever the same that measure and some you can see they are being really lazy measuring - baby's position can make a big difference too I think. And I agree that I don't think that's a good enough measure of how things are on the inside. Even when they listen to heartbeat they only do so for a minute. But even if you have extra growth scans, they really do just measure they don't really have an extra look (at least in my experience).

I'm surprised that all women aren't given another detailed scan just as a matter of course in the second half of pregnancy now given the technology available.

Mothercare cancelled my order after a week of waiting for it to be dispatched! NOT impressed!

Wow missb There is nothing wrong with saying "Im sorry, we would love to see you but we simply don't have the money to give you" I think guilt tripping your dh is shocking behaviour. It sounds as if your mil is very stressful, if you don't want her there after the birth, I suggest you make that clear now. I'd be clear with MIL that if you lent them any money then you risk the very roof over your heads...Throw that guilt right back at her! I think you have enough worry and stress going on at the moment without them adding to it. I do think your DH has to be firm with them, he dosent have to be horrible they should understand.

Boo which east coast changing table do you have, I have one called Clara and the quality is fab, dh said way better than ikea, took him no time to put together and I bought it at a bargain £50. Im very pleased with it, So I'd be surprised if they were one and the same.

kitkat Im glad symtoms are easing, Ive gone from getting up once a night to twice so I cant imagine getting up 7 or more times!!

Red Id have thought if your dh went back to them to say he wants to make the right decision and needs the weekend to think- if they want him they WILL wait.

Lilone I cant believe they cancelled the order, Id be fuming esp' if it meant you missed out on a good price! Id be on the phone to complain!

Im 36 weeks tomorrow, and I am very ready to have this baby! Im in a slighty better mood today if a little snappy! Planning more batch cooking tomorrow. Beef Bourguignon and corned beef hash. mmm

Oh my word. I swear I am totally put off having anything delivered ever again. Could have sworn i asked for my mamas and papas delivery to be an am one - it's my birthday so meant to be going out. Just rang to check and it's due ANY TIME BEFORE 9PM!! I then said could I leave a note on door asking them to leave by door, with signature, nope. The other day I had to go 40 mins away to collect a parcel that had been delivered late. Have loads to do and now stuck in house - no food as we're going away this weekend, don't dare leave incase it turns up. Rang the company who are delivering it - they will get someone to call me with eta….yes, but when will someone call me? But didn't get to ask that qu as he was off.

I realise that this is not a big thing. It's just highly irritating.

Holls, completely understand where you are coming from will delivery companies, especially since some (DPD) send you an hour slot of when to expect the delivery which is so much better.

From experience, though the delivery company probably won't be able to tell you when they will call you back, as they often struggle to get hold of the driver themselves.

I'm expecting something from Amazon. I've been waiting over a month for it. It got despatched yesterday and it says its due tomorrow... I'm desperately hoping its going to turn up today, as its a present for DH and I don't want him to get wind of it, which he will if it comes tomorrow!

Red Id have thought if your dh went back to them to say he wants to make the right decision and needs the weekend to think- if they want him they WILL wait.

Thats my thought too, but DH is panicking slightly I think. I really don't want him to take a job just for the sake of it, as he will be unhappy. It has to be the right job, and I think he does have the luxury of picking and choosing to a certain extent (he's only been looking for a week, and has three other potentials on the cards - including an interview on Tuesday).

He loves what he does and its sad that he's even in this position of looking. But the last email he got about work really didn't sound promising, and even if he survived the chop, I'm not sure it would be the same and probably would be a lot more stressful.

The other thing is previous job he walked out of after 9 months because he was so miserable (turning down an incentive of twice his salary to stay in the process). He really needs a 2 or 3 year stint in the same job on his CV at this point in his career.

I just want him to make the right decision for him, rather than rush it because he is going to have a baby in less than a month. We WILL be ok, one way or another I'm sure.

I'm at work now, trace was normal and baby started moving loads protesting against the sensors so it seems all is ok. They have arranged a growth scan for me on Wed as bump is still measuring small.

Red - work worries are horrible, we've just been told we will be going into consultation in September (perfect timing!) but fortunately there aren't going to be redundancies just a shuffle around so I'm not too concerned, it's so important to be happy in your work, we spend so much time there, fingers crossed for your dh that he can make the right choice for him and your family.

Holls - I cheat the delivery men and have everything delivered to my inlaws as they barely ever leave the house, there is never anyone home at mine so nothing would ever get delivered if I couldn't do that. It is very frustrating that they can't give you a more exact slot that 12 odd hours though, don't they think people have anything better to do?

Red I hope that they give your DH the time to think about it.

Delivery turned up...bloke really off with me so then felt guilty for being fussy. Now to try and build the stand for Moses basket.......

Misog glad hospital was ok. Fingers crossed for scan.

Thanks Ella..we have the excitement of ante natal this evening but heading into the lakes for the weekend which should be good. Delivery here now I just have to build it....

EllaBella220 Fri 08-Aug-14 14:07:10
Back to pregnancy related issues.....I keep waking up with a really sore back. Not sure what I can do for it as I already have a pregnancy and wedge for the bump and my back still aches when I get up.

Ella, I have a pillow and have been having similar issues (pain in back and hips.

You know whats helped? Kicking the pillow out of bed half way through the night!!! Its helping for half the night, then it seems to make things worse. Why, I do not know. I am finding I'm not rolling over on my back anyway as I'm so huge, its physically just not happening until I make an enormous effort to turn over.

Mothercare can be truly pants sometimes lilone can certainly empathise there.

holls I found my mama's and papas order left on my doorstep the other day as I was out. Funny how they won't do that for someone who has actually given them permission to do this!

I'm not sure what to make of the growth chart thing tbh. I'm bang on the upper line anyway and following the curve so that'll do for me. I think each chart is individual for each woman though, created using your individual height + weight so it can't be compared with other people's.

Managed to slice my finger while slicing an onion earlier. Doh! Pregnancy butter fingers I think. And I keep dropping things.

Quite paranoid the last couple of days about baby's movements. She does move but haven't had much of the 'woah look at how much she is wiggling! :o' type movement. Had a pretty painful period cramp for about a min or 2 earlier as well just to worry me further. I think I'm going to ring my mum now lol scaring myself silly!

Sorry ladies, typical! I just get back to being able to keep up with posts and mumsnet kicked me out and I couldn't remember my password

All sorted now so for the second time, I'm back

I can see a few of you talking about deliveries, someone just mentioned mamas and papas. Yodel delivered my furniture last Friday from mamas and papas, and left it in my hallway, actually blocking the stairs (to the bathroom), blocking the living room door and actually blocking the front door so I couldn't actually shut it. It was peeing down too so I asked him just to move it a few inches into my living room so I could shut my front door. He just grunted and walked off leaving it there!! I had to lug it to the living room myself because of the front door situation. Got straight on the phone to mamas and papas to make a complaint and got £30 voucher which is better than nothing so just bear that in mind and get on the phone to complain

How are you all feeling? X

Ive just booked my reflexology for next week, Im really looking forward to it!! The therapist is actually a midwife at my hospital too and sounds lovely. That's cheered me up.

white apparently she's going to be here on my due date, then another 9 days, but I know for a fact she won't just go home she'll try sticking around for god knows how long, to be honest I'm dreading it :(
ella your mil sounds like mine, she drinks, smokes, does lotto, online bingo, buys her kids naff all & then expects money lending or in the past expected hand/me/downs that my eldest had grown out of! OH got guilt tripped into giving his brothers his copy of a new ps3 game to keep because they wanted it & she wasn't buying it for them, pees me off how mean she is to them, needs to sort her priorities out. Previous times she's been here with the kids & brought them no clothes with her so obviously I had to lend her pyjamas, trousers etc, because she hadn't bothered to sort her washer out to bring them clean clothes with her :/
She's a nightmare :/

So OHs dad is here, she's on her way with her OH's younger brother, sister & daughter, and apparently 4 of them are going to sleep on the double air bed that my sister bought last time she was here, so it'll no doubt get popped and not replaced. Gonna be a friggin mad house, I've already had a cry & massive scream about it earlier on, I have issues & they really don't help at all :/
Wish me luck ladies, it's gonna be a long few days :/

Sorry for moaning so much today by the way xx

Meant she's on her way with my OHs younger brother etc x