November 2014 - thread 7

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Jump aboard ladies.

Annarose I'd imagine you'd get more raised eyes of judgement if you sat drinking wine while being obviously pregnant. Of course we all know the odd glass does not damage at all but people can be so judgemental! You're judged if you do, judged if you don't. So just do what you wanna do :)
Alcohol makes me feel sick now anyway so the decision has been made for me...

Annarose do what YOU want!

My DH also has stopped drinking in solidarity with me, we are having sometimes non-alcohol wheatbeer, which is the only one that taste just like normal one. And because of his act of solidarity I know that until the baby is here the only time I will have any glass of wine will be with DH. Friends they will have their amount with or without me anyway.

Surely your friend has not been off drinks because of you, so you don't have to feel guilty not drinking for her?

She drank quite a bit towards the end, and was the Queen of "Pump & Dump" whilst bfing. And we were always drinking buddies - like I said, I drank every week of my life! But I love how unshackled I feel from alcohol at the moment.

I have texted her that alcohol makes me feel sick (blatant lie) so it'll have to be plenty of cake instead!

And true I'd feel more judged drinking! Today we were out for lunch and I went up to the bar for drinks for the two of us and even ordering a pint for DH made me blush and I hastily added "....and a Sprite please!"

My DH has also been very impressed with my alcohol restraint (i was rarely out without a large glass of vino in hand!) but truth is I just don't miss it that much which really surprises me! Also,it is amazing how much money I've saved with my social life now compared to pre pregnancy :-) If I was going to drink, I'd be very careful about drinking in public as have heard some horror stories of nasty looks and comments from other people and not sure it'd be worth the bother for me personally.

I have a friend who is the same! In fact doesn't want to go out for a drink with me whilst pregnant because I can't drink, dance, smoke, pull etc. Fact is I rarely drank anyway and usually preferred to drive, I've not been interested in pulling for years as I've totally gone off men and even if I was interested a drunking snog in a club is gettin old now (or maybe I am!), she was always embarassed by my funky moves on the dance floor (think a real life performance of the Evolution Of Dance through the late 20th Century, paying particular attention to favourites like the running man, the face melt air guitar knee slide, and the bad Beyonce wannabe dance routines, oh yes, baby, I rock them all!) and as for smoking, well yes, OK I can't smoke anymore when I was a 20 a day smoker before, but I don't mind her smoking and like the smell and would quite happily sit outside with her while she smokes. People this time and last time keep trying to get me to drink but both times I have stuck to my guns and said no. Also when I drink it's to get drunk or at least have dutch courage, it's rare I drink because I like the taste, the odd cold lager on a summers day in a beer garden maybe, but other than that it's to loosen up and have a boogie, so why would I bother now, I prefer the taste of soft drinks? I have pinched a sip from whoever I'm with's drink, like last night I had a sip of Dad's cider which was surprisingly heavenly, but literally 3 sips so far this pg. I don't see the point, if I have one I'm just going to miss it and want 3 and feel miserable that I can't. Last time my ex kept trying to add alcohol to my food (!!!!) in the hopes I wouldn't notice, have never worked out his motivation there, but luckily I caught it each time and bollocked him over it but I still don't get the motivation on that one. Stick to your guns and do what you feel is best. Don't let her make you feel bad or push you into something you don't want to do, you'll only regret it & worry and blame yourself should anything god forbid go wrong! Stay strong!!

I haven't drunk anything so far in this pregnancy, and haven't really missed it tbh, it's only fairly recently that I've stopped feeling sick at the thought of it!
I did wonder why I was getting some funny looks from a couple of middle aged women at an air show at the weekend, and felt very when I realised it was because I was holding FIL's half drunk pint he'd passed me so he could take DS for an ice cream!

Barmy I like Lilian and Iona, if boy had been a girl then he would be Liliana.

I have only drank a tiny bit, I had a shot glass of butter scotch cream liquor at a party :p

Yesterday at my grandparents I asked my grandad if I could have a drink and he very seriously asked if I wanted alcoholic or not... I looked blankly at him before nervously laughing and saying um of course I don't want alcohol and he just didn't get it bless him!

I've hardly drunk anything this time or with ds but don't care about alcohol in food as by the time it's cooked all ethanol will have burnt off. (Don't get your ex's reasoning though mrsdj, isn't that like trying to 'trick' a veggie into eating a fruit pastille for the gelatine?)

Am not religious about it though and had a weak pimms at the weekend which was a joy. I genuinely like the taste of beer, wine and gin (not vodka - that's filth,) but rarely drank to get pissed before so not drinking doesn't save much on social life as I spend just as much on going out but on wildly over priced soft drinks. Hmm.

Had a full.on rant at my poor mother about how much I hate being pregnant. It's worth it for the outcome, but honestly anything that actively (and noticeably,) makes you more clumsy, fat and stupid (it's been proved, and I just proved it to myself agai twice this week,) for 9 months is just a bloody pain.


Fume fume.
Oh yes - and the lovely hormones!

Having said that, dh is v sympathetic throughout (mmm massages) and ds was offering his milk to the bump today, which was super cute!

Loving the name chat! Mine is baby #3 and first girl, so no idea. I like Daphne but everyone else seems really negative about it

Greenstone the fitbit I got is fitbit1 from amazon. Wear it all day tucked into bra and it tells you how many steps you've done, floors you've climbed etc. Can get quite addictive. It's helping me stay active and walk lots.

Annarose - totally with you on the "feeling unshackled from alcohol" front. It was quite staggering how much I used to drink with friends and husband on a weeknight - it was literally unthinkable to me to not have a bottle of wine on a friday/saturday night. Or to watch certain TV programmes without a glass of wine. Wine is my downfall.

But, I've completely gone off it (that was my first symptom, virtually from the day after conception, that and smoking made me instantly sick) and can't see my going back to drinking so much ever again. It might just be the pregnancy hormones but my acne has completely cleared up and I have super white teeth.

I only drank once or twice a month, never at home. But I really miss it! At the festival last night I had a half and I'll have another today but before that I've had maybe 1/2 a lager once a month. I'm happy with that amount, but I am annoyed by how much I miss it!

Pump and dump? I had to google that one. Apparently it doesn't work when you've been drinking. I wouldn't want to feed my baby alcoholic milk!

I've been off alcohol ever since I got hypothyroidism a few ears ago. Alcohol just made me more tired than I already was. Even after that was sorted, I just wasn't bothered anymore. I haven't had any alcohol for ages, since before the pregnancy. I do prefer it this way and think its healthier too. My boyfriend doesn't drink either. We still got loads of leftover beer and wine from Christmas. Seems the standard gift if you don't know what to get! We'll probably end up recycling it this year

Apparently there's usually no need to pump and dump in terms of alcohol content - if you drink enough to get your blood alcohol to 0.05, then your milk has the same % alcohol as orange juice. (The legal limit for driving is 0.08 I believe). On the other hand apparently it affects the letdown, and can change the taste, and you shouldn't co sleep after drinking so there may be other reasons not to even if you do dump the milk...

I found out about pregnancy on the night we came home from a week's holiday in Provance. So it was me having a a last glass of wine on Eurostar on a way back and nothing since then until my birthday when I had a glass of red.
Have to admit that week in France we were on smelly cheese, cured meat and red wine pretty much every day.
I don't really miss alcohol too much, it's more the socialising bit, when I realise I am not allowed it, that makes me crossed. So I have been avoiding any gatherings where I knew would be lots of drinking. It's also not that interesting to have conversation with somebody quite "warmed up" when u are completely sobber.

I'm having really strong Braxton hicks, been having them weeks, now as

Sorry!
They tail off I'm gettin

Darnflabbit!
The pain is in my lower back. Anyone else? X

Not sure what they would feel like if I had them! How do they feel for you vicky?

Vicky- I had contractions with back pain this week (think due to many ongoing medical issues I've been having so have been in and out of hospital) and they gave me injections to stop contractions so that I wouldn't go into preterm labour. You should get checked out the injections worked so well and cervix isn't opening anymore.

I have back pain but thought this was related to sitting down for ages?

The tightenings just feel like my uterus is really tight and it's harder to breath, very normal for braxton hicks. But now as they start to ease off my lower back hurts briefly, then stops again. I'm wondering if it's a sign of a uti, or something like that?

I think I've mild braxon hicks a few times over the last couple of weeks. They're not exactly painful just uncomfortable.

Re: Pump n Dump. I was on hols with this friend & she was half pissed and was expressing like mad (glass of red in one hand, pump going like mad in the other! )

And she said "smell this" and OMG! Her milk smelt like wine! She poured it down the sink - her theory was that it took 3 hrs to revert back to non-boozy milk, & baby wasn't going to wake up till 5am so it would be fine.

But can't say I'd be all that happy doing it. But then maybe at that stage I'll be past caring!

I never bothered with pump and dump - like moggle said if you stop at a sensible limit the % in milk is negligible, and I never want to drink enough to be unable to care for ds so wouldn't really go over a glass or two (normal size not mega 250ml glasses..)