November 2014 - thread 7

[amy83firsttimer]

Jump aboard ladies.

it's a closed secret group so no one can see it exists!

One of us was admin and was adding people to the group but I can't remember who it was.

I would like to join the FB group, how do I do that?

utopian - do you know what you're doing wrong/differently to how you would eat if you were not pregnant?
If you find the things that are different, then cut them out, you're bound to see a difference in no time.
I need to take this advice myself - I had 3 desserts last night.
ALSO: 9lbs isn't that much and may even out over the next trimester.
ALSO ALSO: if you didn't weigh that much before getting pregnant, this could be your body trying to get on the weight it needs.

utopian I've gained 16lbs more than I should have done! I'm watching what I eat, I exercise every day, other than my bump my body looks the same as it did before. It DOES bother me but I just don't know what I can do about it but, talking to my friends who are all around the same size/build as me (medium, size 12, 5'6) and they all gained the same if not more. That makes me feel a bit better. Maybe we won't gain as much over the rest of the pregnancy? Maybe it's what our body needs?

Have you thought about slimming world? You should try and 'lose' weight but another friend was with them during her pregnancy to try and stay on track?

I'm not taking my own advice though, I never ate bread and ate very few carbs before I was pregnant but there's just no way I can live without them at the moment.

Please can I be added to the FB group too?

I refuse to weigh myself. Fuck that.

Put it this way: if you hadn't weighed yourself your mood would be quite different now. You'd be suspicious maybe, but really none the wiser. Now you're all stressed. No good can come of us weighing ourselves. Its either too much, or too little (iin which case we worry that baby isn't developing)

Totally agree with Anna.

I have my eye on a triathlon for just before the baby's second birthday (the Roade sprint tri, I did it in 2008 and loved it) so I'm going to focus on getting fit and healthy (=/= thin) after the birth and for now I'm eating when I need to, which seems to be small meals every few hours!

That's just a share of where my head is on baby weight, not a criticism of those who are doing it differently to me

Hi utopian. Can really hear your panic and sorry you are feeling so stressed :(

I do hear what you're saying. I've been very busy at work too and left to my own devices have been comfort eating to a somewhat ridiculous extent, which would be fine if I were getting in the exercise, but I'm really not. I'm currently beating myself up about the fact that I haven't even started pregnancy yoga yet - I'm 24 weeks and was going religiously by 14 weeks last time I was at the GP yesterday and was frankly gobsmacked to hear that my weight was on track because I don't deserve it to be at all!

I have a one-track mind re. food at the moment and that's not going to change. What I am going to TRY to do is the following:

• Always have a virtuous lunch ready in the fridge (I work from home) - couscous salad, lentil soup or similar.
• Keep the fruitbowl piled high with apples - the Granny Smith/Pink Lady bags from Tesco are really sweet and sharp, I've been mainlining them when I need a sugar fix.

-Leave enough time between each meal to get hungry. -Really limit the amount of snacks I eat before bed. That makes me feel grosser than anything.

Are you planning to breastfeed? TBH that was what made my weight fall straight off last time (I got too skinny in the end really), but I know that it doesn't always work like that for everyone. But whatever happens, there's not all that long to go now (in the grand scheme of things), and it really will sort itself out.

Thanks for all the comments - the trouble is anna I only weighed myself because I looked at myself properly in the mirror and even my arms are fatter (my barometer from last time.) Plus I'm in all my maternity stuff from ds so I can feel the fit is worse.

miskate you're right I know exactly what I'm doing wrong really - way too many empty carbs - sugar/carb combos like biscuits due to stress. Have had no snacks today just normal breakfast and lunch, and feel less sick, ironically, probably due to the lower sugar intake.
I just seem to be struggling much more with this one to be sensible and I'm a control freak so it bothers me.

greenstone definitely planning to bf! It was what nailed the weight loss last time (obviously my motivation for bf isn't the vanity issue but it's a good side effect.) I suspect that's what didn't help with my snacking this time as I could eat all I wanted and still lose weight and then this one was conceived as soon as I stopped bf.

I can't remember the mn name of who can add others to the Facebook group but when I get home I'll look it up!

Blimey! Anyone else's feet and ankles literally blown up in this heat???!!! - well, I'm assuming it's the heat that's doing it (combined with being preggo of course). Just got home and taken off my shoes and they're MASSIVE! Yuck...

PS Just looked at one of those weight gain calculator things that some of you've mentioned above...hadn't heard about them before and haven't been weighed at any of my MW appointments so didn't know if my weight gain was "standard"...according to the website I'm looking at, my weight gain means I'm at week 30....in reality I'm 23+2 ...ho,hum....

I think anybody who is in the FB group can add anybody else who is their FB friend - my FB is unsearchable but if someone wants to be added and PMs me their real life name or even better a link to their FB, I will add them as a friend in order to add them to the group.

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Hiya can I be added to Facebook group please? Can't work out how to message you though, baby brain is obviously in full force today lol!!

oh ok I'm happy to add anyone who pms me their name too :)

I also have swollen feet and I hate the heat!

Picklebum - look at a message I've written (or Alita) and in the blue line which has the poster's username, on the right is a bar that says "Add message | Report | Message poster."

Click on "Message poster" and you can send a message to that person.

If you join fb group - you have to become a "friend" of a person already in group for them to invite / accept you into group? That means that person then sees everything else about you on yr fb timeline / newsfeed? Does everyone else in the closed group then also have access to your fb page / feed??

Sorry to ask so many questions but do keep MN and FB seperate as 2 very different parts of my life!

I think you have to wee onion but I wouldn't be offended if you deleted me as soon as I'd added you if you did want to join :)

Oh and I can't see anything that people who are in the group have on fb who I'm not friends with in accordance with their normal privacy settings.

Can't seem to do it on my tablet or phone so I'll be brave and throw my name out there...Lisa Buckler, can someone add me pretty please.

weeonion its only the person who adds you as a friend initially that can see your info, so for me twiglet who was the original admin person added me as a friend and then added me to the group, so she was the only person who could see my information :-)
You should all join we're all right chatter boxes on there! x

picklebum What is your profile picture on fb? Is it of 2 young girls? There are a few lisa Bucklers!

Also once someone's added you pickle then you can ask mn to delete posts with your name on so you can't be identified in future!

Ta amira. Think I'll pass on fb group. Like my MN groups and keeping 2 worlds separate.
Also aware that not everyone on this thread is on FB so feel a bit bad about heading off and posting there, leaving some folks here out. This happened on last antenatal / postnatal group with DD.

More power to those who are on FB group tho'.