October 2014 #9 - Into the home straight we go, 3rd trimester here we come!

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Keep up the chitter chatter ladies!

granny for some reason maths also escaped me. I thought you were preg when you daughter was about 2 months not 5 or 6! I think by that point even I had dared have sex again

Anyone else just wake up tired? I go to bed tired, feel tired when I wake up for wees, tired all day long and now tired when I wake up in the morning.

goats I literally cannot survive without a caffeinated coffee. I have one every morning since about 15 weeks when I starter to be able to enjoy coffee again. Plus also had a small glass of wine last night. Was cool, crisp and delicious. And agree how it makes you feel almost normal! Except afterwards I just can't get up from the sofa, DH has to pull me up - my bump is too big!

Hope your little man is feeling better today yellow, i could not imagine dealing with a poorly one in this state!

i am very fortunate to have a brilliant sleeper however i think that will make it more of a shock when baby is here! i was really paranoid about weight when DS was tiny as he lost almost 10 percent of his birth weight due to problems feeding. As a result i was still waking him every 4 hours for months! am hoping to be a little more relaxed this time but will wake for the first few weeks i think.

Right better get off my sweaty pregnant arse, we have guests arriving in 2 hours & only one of us is showered!

I had a wine last night too, a lovely Lidl sauvignon blanc, was amaaazing. Ended up adding soda to it so I could prolong the experience! I have coffee now and again, DH has got into grinding the beans and making up different blends so after spending the first 15ish weeks totally off coffee like you Rainy I just can't resist! A spoonful or 2 of Green & Blacks hot choc to mocha-fy it is flipping amazing too. Waits patiently for DH to get up.
It's raining outside, I ache all over and had a restless night, but it's amazing how the power of online shopping for baby stuff cheers me right up, daydreaming about crisp New Year walks in the Lake District with baby in new baby carrier and feet, hips n back that aren't sore any more!

God Yellow did you rip the alarm off the wall yet?

Normal levels for hb in non pregnant women vary from different labs but are generally from 115 and above which is probably what mw was referring too. Though they should be using the pregnant ranges as hb lowers for a physiological reason in pregnancy to due extra blood volume.
I hope I can get my hb up because as well as feeing totally wiped out and useless, I can't use the mlu if hb under 10. I think it will be a struggle as I've had horrible side affect from ferrous sulphate before and liquid iron.

The massive red swollen lump on my whooping cough injection site has finally gone down a bit, though still red with a hard lump and painful bit not as much as before.

God Yellow I feel your pain. We used to live above a nursery whose alarm went off quite regularly like that. It actually drove me insane then and I think with the trouble I'm having sleeping right now I would go take a baseball bat to it!

Thanks for answering my bf question. Sometimes I feel so clueless!

Also enjoyed a glass of wine on my birthday Tuesday night it was best glass of Marlborough Sauvignon Blanc I have ever had and I had 6 full hours sleep that night!

Another question for all you ladies... How much back pain is normal in pregnancy? I'm getting to the point where it is agony getting out of bed or standing up from the sofa or if I'be been on my feet too long. Yesterday DH had to fetch the car as I was in so much pain I couldn't walk 10 minutes home.

Asked 2 MW who told me it's just part of being pregnant and it will go away after birth but I'm not sure I can cope with another 11+ weeks of being in so much pain

Me23 that sounds awful, my back pain is worst in the morning after being in bed so since mine seems to be down to inactivity I've just been doing stretching and when it's really bad I stand in a hot shower and let the hot water batter off my back (I don't have a bath) and steal what used to be my cat's microwaveable beanbag (from when she was a kitten) and have it against my back. I also find holding in my bum and pulling my abs in when I'm walking helps. Hope you can get some relief, that sounds horrific that you were so sore you couldn't bear to walk home :(

Can you get one of those bump supports binky? It might ease the strain on your back. Mine hurts too but doesn't sound any where near as bad as yours.

Sorry that was meant for binky not Me23!

Thanks guys for the tips kirsti the hot shower thing is lovely. I could actually stand there all day!

After posting on here I noticed there was a post on our Facebook page so have some advice from there too. I am going to look into the support bands fed up and think I might see my gp for another opinion. It's just hard to know what's normal with the first especially when my MW seem so laissez faire about everything!

It stopped at three - after a brief interruption to get J out of his cot and into bed with us - we've all slept til ten. Admittedly pinned by a toddler!

Ugh worst nights sleep ever! Brixton hicks all bloody night waking me up along with the peeing! So bloody uncomfortable all might too, just can't get comfy in any position.....and now the church over the road have all their windows open and are having a good sing!

Sorry your back is so painful binks I second the idea if a bump support. I think that will take a lot of pressure off.
Oooooh yellow I would have been livid too! I hope you got some sleep in the end?

Xpost yellow, glad you finally got a rest! Lazy day for you bunch then?

binky while some back pain is normal in pregnancy it isn't when it as debilitating as you have described. Ask your mw for a referral to physio.

Just got dressed had to stop a few times due to breathlessness and feeling dizzy. I'm trying to carry on as normal (going out for lunch today) but everything is a massive effort and is taking it out of me

I thought I wasn't really supposed to have caffeine - especially since I'm quite sensitive to it. But sod it, it was amazing... and it allowed me to stay up salsa dancing until 1am last night (had coffee at 7pm - that's how 'good' it is for me), when even the boyf was flagging.

I'm going to have one every morning now - am hoping it will also help with the constipation issue, since that's beginning to blight my life frankly.

Yep, every conversation comes round to pooing. Or lack thereof.

I'm sorry everyone is having back issues, it's debilitating isn't it. I've found that doing a few yoga positions in the morning helps a bit (literally about 5 - 10 minutes of them). Just some stretches and twists really. I've not had backache specific to pregnancy except on a couple of one off evenings, but I have low level back stuff normally. I also do the standard back pain exercises - the cat back one, the superman one on your hands and knees, the one when you curl up your knees to your chest (a challenge at 31 weeks pregnant!).

Has the temperature gone down a notch today? Or is it just me? I actually woke up a little bit under a duvet this morning, first time in about 6 weeks.

I too have had a coffee today. I definitely needed it after last night. I've probably had one or 2 coffees a week so far. Switched to decaf tea as there is no difference taste wise so it allows me to have a proper coffee now and again!

Goats you are allowed some caffeine. There's enough hardships in pregnancy without being a martyr unnecessarily and utterly cutting it out - enjoy one every day hon!

I have to say I found I lost my self more in being a new Mum rather than in pregnancy - because although your body isn't your own in pregnancy - your head and time by and large is. The baby is still quite an abstract concept. Once J arrived I found I really struggled that all of my time and head was utterly taken up by someone else and I was a sleepless brain fugged zombie - I felt really lost - that my old life and personality were gone forever for a good 2-3 months, that all of my old priorities were out the window, - but you get it back. However you aren't the same person as before, and it took me a while to realise that expecting that you will be the same and nothing need change isn't fair on you or the baby - but you are still you nonetheless . To some degree I think pregnancy's physical privations are the body's way of preparing you that life is changing. I used to miss my childless days of fine wines, cigarettes and meals out but now those days feel quite empty in comparison. In the same way you might miss your student days but wouldn't want to go back!

So as a FTM - what should I expect to know or prepare myself for when the baby comes?

Definately a period of 'what have I done?' When you are sleep deprived, can't wee on your own, can't eat with your other half as one is bouncing the kid around as it howls...

I echo what was said before... You don't actually want to go back to your 'old' life as it was. And you can still do all the same stuff, just have to plan more (ie it's hard to be spontaneous with a child!). I was the first out of my best mates to have a child and they were worried I would disappear - but I didn't, just needed to plan my nights out with them instead of a, "see you at the pub in 5" approach.

2ndwife what I found hardest was literally achieving nothing other than keeping the baby alive some days, barely eating, not being able to shower or get dressed. There's a wonderful book called "What Mothers Do" which is a collection of interviews from new Mums and illustrates the reality of the first few months and the differences from what you expect to how it really is. I think the trick is remembering that those first overwhelming days do pass very quickly

Yep we have pox! With the heat he has HUNDREDS poor sod Am glad its here now and not with a newborn but argh I wonder if this Friday's flights are flexible. Otherwise its £400 down the swanney. His spots won't have scabbed over by then will they? Having had a relative just go thru chemo and my niece in the NICU there's no way we'd risk travelling when we could hurt someone else.

Argh why didn't the fecking ILs just come up here!!! The latest I'm willing to travel is the weekend after as I'll be 29 weeks then as I just don't want to be stuck 400 miles from home, toys, clothes etc and J's childminder with a prem in the NICU.

Eep, will you be OK to move the flights? If not I hope you can get a refund. Your poor little guy,hope he's over it soon!

I think the spots might be okay by Fri? But you will need a medical note I think to get him on the plane.

You might be covered on insurance for the pox?