Leaving the first trimester behind and hopefully all the sickness and worry that has come with it. January 2015 thread #5

[Dec2013mummy]

I love how much we talk!! No one else seems to go through threads this fast. Can someone on a laptop add the threads in to this first page please so people can update. :)

One and a half hours until our scan this morning...

Thinking of you keep and mademoiselle. fx.

12+4

Good luck keepon and made today.

And sunshine :) and anyone else having a scan today

keepon and made thinking of you today. x

Also sunshine and all who have scans today.

Good luck for today keep, madem and sunshine

fancy I know what you mean about bf. With my ds1 I only read the handout you get from the mw, didn't do any extra reading or research as I thought that way i'd not feel too bad if I ended up ff (which I did by day 4) but I think I got myself into a worse state because of that approach. You're at your most vulnerable and exhausted when you have just given birth, so you can't think or see straight if you hit a wall of problems. I found in the hospital every mw and nursing assistant had a different piece of advice for me, often contradictory (pain is normal/ pain is not normal, your latch is fine/ that latch is not fine, top up with formula/ don't give him formula or your bf journey will be OVER etc.) It's enough to drive anyone mad. I couldn't call anyone without sobbing, so that wasn't an option for me. I still feel guilty now, which is stupid because he is FINE and I did the best I could with the limited resources I had at the time and the appalling way there is no continuity of bf care in my hospital.

As an aside, ff has lots of advantages both for you and dc which nobody ever tells you about. I would definitely go with reading and watching everything about bf approach for this pg. Give yourself the best start but know that formula is a suitable alternative if it doesnt work out. My ds1 has never had any intestinal/digestive problems, no allergies, none of the negative stuff they say happens with ff babies. A lot of it is about how you prepare it anyway, with clean safe water anyway.

Sorry for the essay!

Thinking of all those with scans today. Good luck :)

Good Luck to everyone with scans today xx

Keep and madem thinking of you both today.

I think I'll read that book too, I plan on bf too.
That's me down to working very part time as our schools are now on summer holiday, most of my mindees are term time only so only working thurs/Friday. I am so glad of a break. I'm out shopping for holiday clothes today, dreading it!

Good luck to you too sunshine

Keep us posted with your new purchases blizy!

good luck ladies for your big days today! thinking of you!

You will all be pleased to know my DH survived last night after being a complete pain in the arse! He came in when I was sulking on the bed and gave me a cuddle - cuddled mini bump and apologised so we are friends again!

Mini- here here. Ff your baby is not the end of the world. I was kinda lucky in that I physically couldn't as had zero milk after a haemorrhage in labour (needed transfusion etc) so it alleviated a lot of guilt. I still felt bad though. I remember being man handled by anyone and everyone trying to get the feeding established. Even family members popped in and tried to help me. It wasn't until the 2nd day the midwife realised I has barely any milk and dd was hungry. God did I feel awful. I had persevered so much with what I had thought was the 'right thing' not realising my poor baby was so hungry :( I remember being traumatised and not being able to luck at pics of those first 2 days as I could t bare to see my baby and know she must have been hungry. Awful.

This time I wish to though. Bf is so lovely and also much easier once you get the back of it I hear! I am done preparing bottles... :/ so time consuming.

To all the lovely ladies worrying about breastfeeding, please try not to think too much about it or it will effect you when the time comes, take a relaxed approach, read what you can to help and give it a go, if you can't manage or find its not working out do not beat yourself up about it, bottle feeding does not make you any less of a mother or make you a failure, which is what I thought about myself at the time, both my kids are perfectly healthy and when I look back I can't believe what a state I got myself in because of it, I ruined my first couple of weeks being a new mum because all I did was cry Sorry to go on a bit but I know how hard it is. I will try to bf again this time or may even try bf and bottle but if it doesn't work out I know it's not the end of the world this time

Just had our scan and thankfully everything was absolutely fine. One wriggling hiccuping baby . The sonographer said that everything looked perfect as far as you can tell at this point so we are very, very relieved! We obviously still have to wait for the blood test results for the combined test so we are still keeping our fx but the nuchal measurement was 15mm which seemed good.

The sonographer measured the baby at 13+1 which is a bit of a joke since we are a same sex couple who had IUI, so by their measurements it must have been immaculate conception! We have moved our dates forward by one day to 12+5 which it could have been but any earlier than that would have been totally impossible. It should only be an issue if the baby is two weeks late and they start talking induction.

We really don't mind whether it's a boy or girl but we're enjoying playing around with the nub theory. We got a good shot of the nub and according to the theory it is definitely a girl as the nub is almost totally parallel to the lower spine. Well, we will find out at our next scan which is booked in for 18 August so watch this space! It will be fun to see whether the nub theory worked for us. Is anyone else doing this?

I hope everyone else has good news as well today

12+5

Yay sunshine that is so lovely to hear.

The date thing is crazy, isn't it. I often think its just that your baby grew a bit more than the charts estimate in a given few days. You should trust your own dates.

We will definitely be doing the nub theory if we can but like you, we'll ask at the next scan.

Congrats sunshine - great news for a Monday morning!

Linda that is very sound advice about bf. I will try and remember it! I really want to bf but at the same time have seen friends have all sorts of different experiences with bf, some found it just worked easily whereas others couldn't bf at all. To a degree you have to work with what you get and not worry I suppose.

rum 11+5 is pretty much exactly when I started to get my energy back. Still not 100% but definitely enjoying it!

Yay sunshine :) I loved the nub theory and was correct for our dd. x

Fantastic news sunshine

congratulations sunshine hope you and your DW have a lovely day basking in the post scan happiness!

The date thing is crazy, I know mine were right, although i can't be as certain as you, and we were moved forward 4 days. I was just happy that despite near constant vomiting it hadn't hampered the baby's growth at all.

Thanks for all the bf advice ladies, I'll get the book you recommended. My friend felt awful about not being able to breastfeed and now has PND, so I'm going to try and relax about it and not stress if it doesn't work out. This is also partly why i'm avoiding NCT, she said they didn't even mention bottle feeding and she was totally unprepared and felt awful so I'm going to make sure I read up on all eventualities. I wasn't breast fed and I have a masters, my brother was and lets just say has never been academic, its all silliness really. Babies need to eat no matter where the milk comes from!

rum can you send me some of that energy? 14 weeks and still feel shattered and threw up some lovely biscuits yesterday :(

lots of love to mad and Keepon

Morning all. Congrats sunshine :) happy to hear you had a good scan.
In regards to bf and ff, I am someone who didn't want to bf. some may see it as selfish but I stuck to my guns and have not regretted my decision. Ds has intolerances and allergies along with severe reflux. He would scream and fight through every bottle and was loosing weight fast. U blamed myself for not bf, but now I realise that he would have been just as bad if I had bf as he would have been getting it all through my milk anyway. He is now on meds and special milk, along with some solids and is thriving (some may say a little podgster) as he really does have cute baby fat :) he is happy and healthy, what more could I ask for and I do not regret ff for one minute (he would have needed it anyway)! I plan to ff next time too as it meant Dh could help and also bond with the baby. When the midwife came she asked if there was anything she could say that may change my decision, I took one look at my smiling, thriving little boy and replied with no, absolutely nothing. Do not feel guilted in to doing anything you don't want to it don't feel comfortable with -and as long as you give your child live kisses and milk of some sort then don't feel guilty :)

Sorry for the typos and lack of commas! On my phone and it has a mind of it's own!