Leaving the first trimester behind and hopefully all the sickness and worry that has come with it. January 2015 thread #5

[Dec2013mummy]

I love how much we talk!! No one else seems to go through threads this fast. Can someone on a laptop add the threads in to this first page please so people can update. :)

Oh, doplers, that's a good topic. I've been toying with the idea of buying one. Any idea what I should look for? What are the best features, etc.? linda what brand do you have please?

Buga I know!!! I'm happy my pg brain didn't kick in and I was able to say what I had to. I'm fully prepared for it to happen again though.
... and the worst thing? I actually didn't even have one sip, I had ms and fell asleep!

Did anyone else find their scan really painful? I know they had to press down hard to get through a couple layers of fat but was nearly to the point of tears at one point. Also only got to see the baby for a couple quick flashes but DP got to see the whole thing. They had a student sonographer in and she was really bad and made the baby move to an odd position and used her photo. Would have preferred my photo to be from the qualified woman but I was just happy to know that my little baby was in there! Hope my next scan is a bit better. Going private next time to find out the gender so hopefully should be better!

helloelo it's my friends doppler, it's called Hi bebe I think. It's really good, I got a quick glimpse of babies heart rate just after 9 weeks and yesterday at 11 + 4 I was able to actually hear the heart beat for a good clear 30 seconds, it was amazing

YAY at so much happy scan news! And all the lovely photos, they're totally making me I love it!

Mademoiselle that is so great that you're getting rescanned earlier, and that the midwife was sensitive. That makes such a difference.

All this doppler talk is seriously tempting. I'm amazed you can hear the heartbeat with it so early linda - how fabulous.

helloelo how rude! Good on you for putting him in his place.

For all those interested in yoga through pregnancy, I found this really useful yoga channel today by a yoga instructor who's pregnant and posting a video each week of her pregnancy. It's nice to follow along with someone who's body is at the same stage as you are. And I found this week's one spot on for helping me feel better from the exhaustion/nausea of the last couple days.

Anywho. Almost my bed time. zzzzzzzzz

Thanks for sharing rum that's a great channel.

I have been using youtube to watch lots of bf videos. I had problems with ds1's latch and bleeding etc which was horribly painful, but hoping for a better time with this baby. Unfortunately there is so much conflicting info about bf, especially on labour wards. Would highly recommend first time mums doing lots of research into it, go to bf groups at your local surestart from 36 weeks etc. I wish I had. Will defo do that this time around. Has anyone else had difficult feeding experiences with previous dc's? Or positive experiences to share?

If I had my own doppler I'd never leave the house!!

Hello ladies. Been hugely busy this week so no idea what's been going on. More scans, no doubt!

Will catch up properly at the weekend. Love to you all.

14+0

Fist of all so happy to see all this fab scan news. Especially for those who have been bleeding and had a craps and so on. It gives us all hope. And personally seeing good scans from other plus size mums :) feeling so much more calm about my scan.

I'm having the day from hell.MS has only just hit me and I have been vomiting like a trooper for the last 4 days :( my boos worked out I'm expecting and has been an uber-bitch. Then I talked to my now ex? separated DS? I don't know what to call him so I'll just refer to him as THE TWIT. So he's cutting me off finically has already taken his name of the tenants agreement for our rented house that sort of thing.He was really nasty and rude to me. When we talked about financial support through out the pregnancy and child support once born. THE TWIT said he's calculated it on the CSA website and only has to pay me £6 a week - um - WHAT???? Any how a friend has suggest I stop all texting and FB chat with TT and keep it all to email to have a record of it all and to keep it more formal and less emotional. I think she might have a point. How do I write a non emotional email to the man I love who I'm pregnant with and who has left me and is being nasty? Any advice and support welcome girls.

Can't remember who asked but - although my scan wasn't painful at the time (or it might've been but I was too excited to notice!) I had some pretty strong cramping the evening afterwards. Was a little scary. Google told me a lot of women get it though!

Sorry to hear what you're going through Beths. Has he given any reason for leaving?? Hope you're getting some support irl xx

RPopz he just said he's not ready to have a child and this baby has made him relies he doesn't want me any more. Gota note he isn't ready for baby but is now living with a woman fro work and her 3 year old son . I bet there is no way of making him pay support from now on only after the birth and then it will be a fight. I'm so heart broken.

beths he sounds horrid (sorry) you and your baby will do just fine. Make him pay for that child care!

Well I had a wee shock last night. Went on a parents blog and read about how if you get a really high score it is almost inevitable most of the time your baby will have downs... Mine is 1:27 and anything under 150 is high so I am guessing I falling into the very high!

The more I research downs the more I adamant it will all be ok regardless. Terrifying, but ok. If anything this experiment has really taught me more about DS- and sadly, people's ignorance around it. Now I just need to convince dh of this!

Experience*

12+2

It's not inevitable keepon, I had 1 in 5 risk and DS was fine. Try and keep positive.

About bf, I bf DS for 8 weeks despite health visitors advising me to stop at 6. He latched fine and fed fine (for an hour every two hours day and night!) but he wasn't putting on weight. He lost over a pound in first few days and wasn't putting it back on. I just wasn't producing enough milk for him. It's really hard when it doesn't work properly but there is lots of support out there. I felt awful at the time for swapping to formula, but in the long run it was definitely best for him.

10+2 (I remembered )

Saying that, I will definitely try to bf this little one although if it doesn't work out I'll try not to beat myself up about it as much.

Thanks looby.
I have read a lot though, and it seems that can be the case- not always, but often. Anyway, I shall be positive either way.

Re: bf I had same issues as you, looby. I had a PPH after dd labour so I was severely anaemic (needed transfusion) and becauSe of this my milk supply was non existent! Dd lost too much weight and I was told to put her on the bottle. I would bf this one if I have the milk- which I am sure I will. I can't wait :)

Looby, may I ask- was it your hormones in blood that have you that result?

Re previous experience of bf. I had awful problems with cracked painful bleeding nipples and ds fed constantly. I used to dread seeing that open mouth coming towards me! I had fantastic midwives who got a breastfeeding counsellor to see me at home and she realised he had tongue tie. Got that snipped at 4 weeks. It was a couple of weeks before it improved (had to improve the latch) but I went to an excellent breastfeeding group run by the counsellor who saw me at home. I think I will know what to look for this time and I suspect tongue tie will try and get it sorted quickly.

beths can you get legal advice about ex? Thinking of you, sounds really tough

keepon I have been doing some reading too and have seen plenty of stories about people with high risk finding out that there was no problem. I also saw a piece by the Wolfson Institute that said 1/9 high risk screens end up with a positive result. I assume this is from the full spectrum of 1/100 to 1/2 but it certainly doesn't suggest that the overwhelming likelihood is an ultimate positive. I am glad you have managed to reach a decision either way, will be thinking of you over the next few days

Keepon, to be honest I was a bit useless at the time and didn't really ask all the questions I probably should have. I know the nt measurement was 3.6 which is considered fairly high but I think it must have been bloods aswell as age risk was low.

Thanks looby.

Welsh I shall have a gander at that. I have been reading a few parents blogs and it is there I have seen this info- they haven't explained why though- argh!

That's the problem with most of the stuff online - it's all anecdotal. I think you can probably drive yourself mad reading it!

Welsh- I already have. Judging by the ladies on here, what I have read is wrong anyway! I have posted in Aibu for traffic (naughty) and so many responses are saying many factors indicate a false positive...

I just need to let go. It's so hard though. Sure dd will help with that! She is currently running riot as I research.