Leaving the first trimester behind and hopefully all the sickness and worry that has come with it. January 2015 thread #5

[Dec2013mummy]

I love how much we talk!! No one else seems to go through threads this fast. Can someone on a laptop add the threads in to this first page please so people can update. :)

Thanks all x

sunshine I'll let you know about yoga I'm going somewhere new so I hope I like the teacher! She also does mother and baby yoga that I'm so excited about, I want to mould my little yogi from the start! I'm hoping it'll be a good way to meet other mums too. The teacher also does yoga birth workshops and other kinda natural birth stuff that I know I'm going to be into so I'm excited to get started. I just can't wait to exercise again I feel like a blob!

Yay rpopz !

Thanks vivi I get paid tomorrow so I'm going to put the deposit down on mindful mama as a treat haha (how payday treats have changed! Used to be a curry and a nice bottle of Malbec!)

Work night out tomorrow, lots of free booze, need to get my excuses ready! I've decided to tell them after my 16 week appointment so only a couple of weeks left 'in the closet' at work.

Ah keepon, I understand your anger. I keep swaying between resignation / indifference / anger / sadness / despair, not necessarily in that order. It just feels so unfair that some women do everything wrong and don't even want a baby yet go on to have perfectly healthy, perfect babies...and then there are people like us! Dh is pure anger. I'm soothing it with homemade lasagna tonight...

Sorry if I missed this, but are you getting these extra tests because the combined test or NT measurements were off at the 12w scan?

Big hug and handholding x

Sorry xpost keepon. Glad that you can have your cvs quickly although I'm sure these next few days will feel like a lifetime.

To you and mad this is all so unfair and I'm crossing everything that things do not turn out as bad as they seem at the moment

madame so lovely to have someone who understands. I am not implying that older mums deserve this by the way. I just mean it hurts that I tried to everything 'right' and low risk.

I know aswell this baby could be fine! Just as your wee one could. It just feels like bad news after bad news right now :/

Lasagne sounds like a cure all and I may have to try this! :) here for you too! Hope you feeling ok tonight yourself? Xx

Went to gp today as midwife said it would be best incase I had a septic throat, gp said it all seemed fine and my temp was fine in the space of 3 hours I now feel totally crappy and so cold made myself yet another hot lemon and honey just feel so run down and useless that I want to cry :-(

Oh and 10 weeks exactly today

Sorry you're feeling poorly Ikkle

Literally can't stop looking at my scan pic!! Its so cute! Really wasn't expecting that at this stage... Feeling inexplicably anxious about going public now though, not sure why. All the important people already know. Anyone else felt like that?

keepon I agree what you're feeling is normal. And after the tests come back clear you'll probably feel guilty for feeling anger. You can't win. And if the tests do show downs, you'll go through more torment as you process that and grieve for the baby you hoped to have. We all would.

Like you mad I felt like I couldn't have done anything better when I had my mc at the end of march this year. I know it's usually a developemental/genetic issue that causes an embryo to stop developing but it's so hard not to feel angry. Again this is a cycle of grief to go through, I found it very difficult to process.

Just remember, there is more chance they will find a healthy happy baby than not. 96% chance your baby is perfectly healthy and developing normally.

I am very happy for the other nice scans today and my thoughts are also with the ones not having such an easy time. When I was lurking, I was desperate to hear happy ending stories...

...So if anyone is wondering what a 11+2 baby looks like, even if you've been bleeding since 7+5, did about 3500 miles by car in your first trimester, ate cheese, drank wine, and suddenly lost all pg symptomes... well, there you go :)

Thanks a lot mini for the links, I'll keep that in mind if the Seraphine one doesn't work out. And kat yeaaaah, wedding! Congrats! Are you doing a big one?

rpopz I've been so paranoid since we started telling people! like I'll totally jinx myself and have a mc the next day. We've told family and closest friends and not gone fb public, I doubt we will to be honest so I feel like I've got it under control if you see what I mean?! I lurch from wanting to shout it from the roof tops to wanting to hide in bed for the next 6 months, especially since I haven't got my combined results yet.

I think I felt a sort of movement this morning, but I'm not sure. I was lying still in bed and my lower tummy felt like a milder version of when you go over a speed bump in a car, like a sort of turning. I poked my uterus and it did it again, could be bowel though, I think it's pretty early. I'm going to lie very still when I go to bed tonight and see if I can get Jesus to wriggle again!

OMG what a terrible timing with my last post. I hadn't refreshed the page and now I sound awfully insensitive. Just to clarify, the cheese and wine bit is a reference to an earlier post where I was saying how guilty I feel about having 2 glasses or wine in 6 weeks. Really, really, things end nicely most of the time and I you have all my support

Aww hello your baby looks lovely.

Mini and mads- sorry to read about your mcs. That's must have been truly awful. I had a suspected chemical pregnancy and remember feeling this way then. I do feel in limbo, like I can't enjoy this pregnancy right now as I am so fearful it will not end well. It's an odd place to be.
I am being horribly pessimistic and on my pity pot tonight. Sorry. I am sure all will be ok tomorrow. Just angry at the mo. This too shall pass.

Ps off to bed and hope to wake chirpier in the morn. :)

You are perfectly entitled to your pity pot keepon, and for you to put your pg happiness on hold for a few days. There will be lots of time after the results for you to enjoy it again.

mummyk8, sleepisforthetired & Dec2013mumm Good luck tomorrow. Hope you all get at least a little sleep.

helloelo What a cute photo. Love hearing positive news.

To everyone waiting to hear on results and other tests your in my thought.

Did anyone else get cramping after their 12 week scan?? I'm in pain right now, right where the bean was this morning and panicking a little.... (does this ever end??)

RPopz It depends on how much poking and prodding they had to do. I remember with DC1 they had to really press quite hard to see everything and it was uncomfortable and tender for a day or so after. Sure it's nothing to worry about but if your worried maybe call you MW in the morning just to put your mind at rest?

For the fist time in weeks I just can't get to sleep. Pooping myself about my scan tomorrow afternoon. Also stupidly upset about missing DS sports day after school giving us less than 24 hours notice. Working for myself I can be really flexible so would never usually miss these thing no matter how short the notice. It's his last sports day at primary school and with baby hormones up in the air cried for an hour once he wen't to bed.

Thanks for all the well wishes for scan day tomorrow.

12+3

keepon you're perfectly entitled to feel however you feel, and anger sounds a very legit response under the circumstances. I hope you were able to get some sleep last night. Thinking of you & mademoiselle.

ikkle I'm sorry you're poorly & I hope you feel better very soon. I had a tummy upset a couple weeks ago & I swear it feels 10x worse to be unwell when you're also pregnant.

Good luck for all the scans today! Keeping everything crossed for lots of joyous news for you.

mummyk8 one day's notice for sport's day?! That is mental! I'd never be able to make it to that - utterly rubbish on the school's part.

helloelo what a cute scan photo, and lovely happy story for the anxious lurkers out there.

rpopz I feel you on the anxiety about going public. I want to keep it to myself till it's impossible to miss! I can't explain why - it feels very deep-seated & kind of superstitious, like I want to protect it from bad vibes or something. I hope the cramping has settled down.

I am SO TIRED. I thought I was over the worst of the 1st trimester blues, but yesterday & today I feel like I've been hit by a truck. The idea of going to work today makes me want to cry. Ugh. At least I have acupuncture booked for tonight & I always feel lovely after a session. Just need to power through the next few hours somehow...

11+1

Yay! For all the good news and scans.
for those with sadder news.

My scan's today. 4.00. Got work first. Feel like I'mpreparing myself for the worst. Just don't feel preggo and belly hasn't changed in last couple of weeks and have jinxed myself by getting clothes from asos.
Sooo bored of feeling sick all the time. Oh well. Fx I guess.
Good luck all other ladies today.

Does anyone know if u can get flu in summer? I swear that's what's wrong with me

Starbright24Think that makes 4 of us so far today with scans. I'm today at 2.40. I think the other tow are quite lucky in the fact they have scans first thing. I' have the total of 3 hours sleep thanks to worrying for all the same reasons as you. I'm 12 +4 today and I stopped feeling pregnant at around 10 weeks. Short of the crazy tiredness and slightly sore breasts, and crying at everything (that I have convinced myself may be is more down to worry than pregnancy) I really don't feel it 99% of the time.On top of that I have had some pains just over a week ago and bleeding in the first 9 weeks. No one other than my DP and one friend know I'm pregnant. My mind is wondering off to all sorts of terrible and silly things. It's my birthday on Saturday and am terrified of getting bad news and ruining it by being so depressed for my DS who is always excited by birthdays and has been saving for months to get goodness knows what for me. Us sorry to rant on just so nervous. Fx for all of us with scans today x

rumisyum Yep! I suppose I'm not going to be the only parent that can't make it. My mothers going for me thankfully and taking DS home for dinner while I'm at my scan exciting meeting for a new illustration and design contract. Ug hate telling lies to them for so long I have no idea how I'll tell them the truth.

Good luck to those with scans today!

rpopz I was a bit tender after the scan as she kept on poking me to get the baby to move pinto the right position. But if it's really painful I'd check with mw.

ikkleme I think you can get flu anytime but if you've never had proper flu you'll know when you get it. If you're managing to get out of bed then it's not proper flu, probably bad cold or virus, proper flu will literally floor you for about 2 weeks. You sure it's not just preggo exhaustion? Hope you feel better soon.

13+6 second trimester tomorrow